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02-10-2016, 04:04 PM | #1 |
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| Really frustrated with training and not listening to me I tried to find other helpful information on here and on other sites about training my 6 year old female yorkie. I have had her since a puppy so over 6 years and I have finally come to my wits end with this dog. At first she was super hyper so to remedy that I sent her to doggy day care where she ran around with other dogs for the day. I did that until she was about 2 years old and started to calm down. I then brought another yorkie a male to join us which they played together and it was great. I have had him for almost 3 years and he is PERFECT! He listens to me, comes when commanded, doesn't whine or cry or bark at all! I walk them twice a day (at night a mile walk when it's cool out) and spend play time with them in the evenings 30 mins to an hour. With these two I have spent thousands of dollars and time training them with in the last 9 months. I am at wits end with the girl and for about 4 months now I have been contemplating giving her up. What is making feel this way is my new work schedule. I work from home now so I think she thinks since mommy is home, it's to play/hang with her. I have them with me at all times at home so I have them in beds in my home office where I work from. I can't put them in another room because they will bark non stop until they are with me. I had her at a board and train for about 2 weeks and it was the best two weeks I have had since starting to work from home. She whines and wimpers which totally breaks my deep concentration which is needed for my line of work. I am using a static collar which I used to be totally against (still kinda am) and it's does not always do the trick with out hurting her. It makes me so sad to see her when I have to use the static :'( The ugly and angry is coming out of me because I am so frustrated. The poor male thinks I am mad or shouting at him.. I just don't know what to do. I have had her her entire life and I would hate to break her heart to give her up to a nearby family member of mine... Any helpful or encouraging, or any other moms/dads that had the same situation as me that might have some kind of advice please. |
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02-11-2016, 10:44 PM | #2 |
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| I am no behavior expert, but do know she is picking up on your frustration. Shouting at her is not going to fix anything but agitate the situation more. Yorkies want to be with and around their people, it is their nature. If she is whining and crying have you taken her to a vet to make sure nothing is going on medically?? I do not know what a static collar is (don't think I want to know) I hope it is not a shock collar! If it hurts her I am assuming it is along the lines of one...if she is making you that angry maybe the best thing you can do is contact a Yorkie rescue so they can find her a happy life, she doesn't deserve any less...
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02-12-2016, 12:57 PM | #3 | |
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02-12-2016, 01:54 PM | #4 |
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| How about trying doggy day care again once or ideally twice a week? You would have a couple of days of quiet during the week, plus most likely she would be tired the day after day care. |
02-12-2016, 04:08 PM | #5 | |
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There is a resentment thing that is building up, and I think the very best thing for both of you at this stage of the relationship, is to rehome this baby....all she wants is to love and devote 110% of her time, effort, and love and attention, to her momma, and being a Yorkie, she expects you to feel the same about her. If you do not or can not, you need to rehome her. You MUST NOT punish her with shock therapy, for just trying to love and adore you....that is NOT bad behavior, that is this baby girls nature, and she will be a fabulous companion, adoring and attentive, for someone that can benefit and appreciate this behavior from her.....she is not doing anything wrong, for which she should be punished....she should be in a situation where this behavior is appreciated and desired. There is someone, HUNDREDS of someones out there, that would give her a wonderful, totally loving, understanding, compassionate home, that builds on her love and devotion to her mistress....please, allow this baby to develop and grow and mature into the very best baby girl she can possibly be, with someone that can best appreciate this actually endearing personality trait .... Lordy, I wish I had room for another baby here........ Last edited by Yorkiemom1; 02-12-2016 at 04:11 PM. | |
02-12-2016, 06:56 PM | #6 |
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| Attention I wish I had that attention. I had to put my girl to sleep due to vet negligence. I wish I had a little girl to be a pain in the butt. I am on here looking for one. |
02-12-2016, 08:31 PM | #7 |
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| I am so sorry for your loss! It's a tough pill to swallow reading post like the OP's, I hope you find your new baby very soon, be sure to tell us all about your new baby when you find him/her
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02-12-2016, 08:35 PM | #8 | |
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Spot on!!! The little baby is looking for nothing but love...I'm still reeling on a shock collar...I just can't take the thoughts of it, but that's me, others are entitled to their opinions on training, yorkies are just so little and tender hearted
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02-12-2016, 10:27 PM | #9 | |
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Just be sure you get another vet!!! Last edited by Yorkiemom1; 02-12-2016 at 10:28 PM. | |
02-13-2016, 01:17 AM | #10 |
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| Iam in agreement with Yorkiemom1 , this baby loves you to bits and needs your attention. She would learn to love whoever she was with and if it means parting with her it would be the best thing but it needs to be someone who can give her 100% attention. I don't like the idea of the collar thing as if it hurts her it can't be right. If you are not going to give her up is there no way she can sit in your knee or be very close to you whilst your working? Whatever happens you need to find a better solution for both of you as you will both suffer in the long run.
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02-13-2016, 04:27 PM | #11 | |
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Anyone breaking into my home, would never be able to get within arm's length to me, NOT because of vicious guardian yorkies at my feet, but simply out of sheer number of dogs curled up and stretched out all around my chair and feet, obstructing any approaching intruder .....if I am in my recliner, I have at least 12 dogs snuggled and sleeping all over my lap and legs and chair.....and they all have their own spot....God forbid anyone gets into someone elses spot.... That is the Truth of Yorkies.....they just live to be directly intact with their mistress/master....this baby adores you, and to be fair to her, you need to make sure her faithful allegiance is returned to her by an equally adoring owner. | |
02-13-2016, 10:01 PM | #12 | |
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02-14-2016, 01:38 PM | #13 |
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| Thank you, I really appreciate the responses and opinions of everyone. She does lay at my feet under my desk while I work. Both of my yorkies have beds in my office with me. I want them here with me, but they have to be quiet if they want to be here. I follow and often donate to two yorkie rescue groups in my area, this type of dog always winds up back with the rescue because of the stubborn personality. I have someone in mind to give her to and they would be happy to have her. The static collar can be confused as a shock collar. It's not harmful and it's very mild and startling which get's their attention. I've felt it for myself. I use the type that are remote controlled, I can control when and how much stimulation is needed to correct. It was what I needed. I would have never attempted it alone which is why I worked with a professional trainer to do it correctly. Positive reinforcement only works to a degree, and I've been trying for years. I have a new fear of doggy day care's. Unsanitary, injuries and dog fight's always happen. I was naive when I took her there as a puppy. Even though it's divided from the bigger dogs, they are still put with dogs up to 30 lbs. Plus any owner can request their dog that is over 30 lbs can be put in with the smaller dogs because there are dogs well over 100lbs for the bigger size group. My male does not get along with other animals. I've tried, we've tried with the professional trainer and he is uncomfortable and that's his personality. He walks away from the other dogs and stays as far as possible. I can't bring one and not the other to doggy day care, it would set off the balance in the home. I can't even walk one with out having problems when I get back with them getting along. I'm unsure if she is hurting or ill. She's been to the vet recently and certainly not acting lethargic or ill. I have a dental scheduled to be done next week which requires a full physical and bloodwork. I will let the vet know my concerns and to check if anything is not normal which could cause this. I could be over analyzing the situation and I did write out of frustration and tears which made me feel better afterwards. She does feed off my frustration, but my male is so much more understanding and stops immediately as soon as I say to. I'm tough on myself. If I give up this dog, I will probably never get another again because I would feel awful and mad at myself for giving her up. It angers me when I see someone give up a pet because of a new baby or can't take care of it. (I won't even mention that I've seen some of the same people get new ones months later because that really makes me angry) I was brought up to care for a pet it's entire life because they are a member of the family. |
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02-18-2016, 12:56 PM | #15 | |
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Don't feel too bad about the post, I can understand how it feels to be frustrated and lost and just wanting to vent Hopefully it's not your new work arrangement that's causing you too much stress. Just don't forget to take a breather and relax! My Scottie's presence only makes me the happiest girl ever, be it good days or bad, he always cheers me up. I hope you're able to sort things out. It's really true that our dogs feed off our frustration and negativity. Maybe try to look on the bright side of things? And if it really isn't working, your baby girl really does deserve to be cared and loved by someone who really really wants her around.
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