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11-09-2015, 12:11 AM | #1 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Mesa, Arizona
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| Please Help, Bella has a Brain Lesion! Need Euthanasia Support! Bella has been diagnosed with a brain lesion. She is take Zonisamide and Rimidil daily to keep her comfortable. She sleeps alot and has about 5 hours 11:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m. or so that she seems almost like herself. My heart is breaking. I can't imagine life without her. We are enjoying every moment we have with her. Can't say anymore. Vet said we have to decide when we think her "quality of life" is not good. I can't imagine euthanizing her! But, I don't want her to "crash" and be in a BAD way, that's not how I want to remember her. If you have euthanized a pet, stayed with them through it, etc. could you tell me about your experience. Also aftercare decisios you made, burial, cremation, etc. I can't sleep through the night right now, I wake up and think about life without her and just cry. I love her so much my heart actually aches. 7 years has not been enough time. I've lost pets, cats, before but have never had the depth of feeling I do now. Any words of wisdom, suggestions for coping, etc. would be a blessing to me. I love my little Bella and don't want to say good-bye! |
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11-09-2015, 02:32 AM | #2 |
YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Fountain Hills, AZ USA
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| Smallmans, I am so sorry to read this news about Bella. Of course your heart is breaking. It is very hard knowing you will be saying good bye to your sweet Bella soon. These precious memories you are making with Bella will be priceless and I am so glad you have this time to enjoy her, show her how much she is loved, and tell her everything you want her to know to take to the bridge with her. I have had to make the decision to euthanize a few pets. Both were elderly with terminal health conditions and were in pain, so I felt it was a blessing to be able to choose to end their suffering. Not that it hurt any less for me, but I knew that I was giving them a great gift of kindness. I have stayed with both through the procedure, held them in my arms, and my love was the last thing they felt and my voice the last thing they heard. My vet gives a small sedative first to relax them, and then we have had time to say our good byes. Both went peacefully, with no struggles. When your pet is in pain and their quality of life is gone, it really is a blessing to be able to choose to end their suffering. I've had both of mine cremated, and the vet has given us a small plaster paw print and a lock of their hair. We have their ashes in small wooden boxes with their collars and tags and their names carved on top. I'm choosing to have their ashes mixed and spread with mine with my time comes. I miss them but have no regrets for choosing to help them over the bridge. Hugs, Diana |
11-09-2015, 03:31 AM | #3 |
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| I am so sorry you have to go through this, this is a choice you have to make for your Bella. If she is in pain and suffering you have to let her go, that is showing true love for her. I have had to go through this twice, both were unexpected, both were devastating. I held my precious girl against my heart whispered in her ear momma loves her and she's a good girl, I held her tight so she would feel my love, they gave her a sedative to relax her, I kept repeating in her ear she was a good girl, then she was given the injection that ended her life. She passed quickly and peacefully and the last thing she heard and felt was my voice and my love for her. No it was not easy for me to do, but my girls were in pain and was suffering, there was no choice but to set them free. I had all my girls cremated, each one is in a little box, on my desk at home, I waited until it was time for my 4th one to leave me. Now I will bury their ashes in a special place I selected in my yard. This is one of the hardest decisions we all have to make and a very painful one for us all. Keeping you in my prayers to keep you strong to get you through this painful time.(((HUGS)))
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11-09-2015, 06:57 AM | #4 |
YT Addict Join Date: May 2014 Location: Fishkill, ny, USA
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| So sorry! There's nothing really that can prepare you to make such a difficult decision, but you have to do what feels right in your heart. I know some vets offer at home euthenasia. My sister in law used their services when her little dog was terminally ill at only 7years old. I was there with her for support and it was good bc he wasn't scared at all. He was at home in her arms and it was quite peaceful. Best wishes to you and your precious pup. |
11-09-2015, 09:40 AM | #5 |
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| Go through losses is never an easy process. But it helps to change the way you think about about it, if instead of concentrating on the loss and the experiences you will not have, to concentrate on all the good moments and the best companionship you had with her. If you think back and could go back in time, would you consider not having her? We all know the answer, you would not have passed the opportunity to share all the great experiences you have had with her. The first time I personally experienced the loss of a dear dog family member I was a child. My Grandma had the Shephards and one was my "babysitter", Layla. Because of the reality of life at that time we only have one black and white picture of her. I carry the results of that relationship with me to this day, and yes ( secretly ) I still cry after these many years, sweet tears of someone who remembers the loyalty and beauty of a relationship between 2 very different species, a human and a dog. We can not stretch their time with us, some will give us longer years and others for reasons beyond our control will be abruptly taken away from us, that is the truth for our humans as well. We honor the bond and the growing we experienced together by cherishing those precious moments and keeping them in our hearts. You are enjoying every moment with your little friend. She is enjoying your care and love and feeling safe and well cared by the human she trusts. When the right time comes, your heart will remain strong and you will be at peace, just like her will be at peace as well. If I could say one thing, try not to think on the loss that will come until it is time, and just live the moments you have now. Life is so uncertain, but so beautiful at the same time, it is worthy living every minute ... And so many times these minutes are stretched out beyond prediction. When you know who you are and what you do, the future brings sweet tears of a dear "missed friend" , precious cherished moments, longing for the moments of companionship. At the right time these tears and memories will get you ready to continue this 'honoring', either by having the courage to give yourself to another relationship with another dog, or advocating or another very particular way, very yours, that will carry on the amazing experience that that friendship caused in you making you a better human. Well, that is how I feel , I guess this thread made me think and rethink a lot of why my relationship with dogs is so strong and so important and have helped me go through so much hardship in life. At the end, I am forever thankful God gave us the opportunity to experience this bond with animals. My love and my heart to you and cheering the good and precious moments you both still are gonna have. Xoxo
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11-09-2015, 11:00 AM | #6 | |
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I am so very sorry about your Bella. That is the hardest part of sharing our love with these babies..... that we will outlive them and feel so much pain. Of course none of us who are so in love with our furbabies would want it to be the other way. I will keep you and your Bella in my thoughts and prayers.
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11-09-2015, 12:12 PM | #7 |
YT 2000 Club Member | dog I believe when dogs leave our arms they go to their creator.. He has a beautiful life for them. That helps me give my sweet friends back. God is in control of all. You will know in your heart when the time comes. I had my friend go with me to take Tuffy. So sad I could not go in the room. I brought him home in his blanket and buried him in the yard. Cried a lot but peace in my heart that I did the right thing. Prayers for you during this time. Life is tough but heaven is so unbelievably beautiful. You will see your sweet fur friend one day. |
11-09-2015, 02:44 PM | #8 |
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| I am very sorry for sweet Bella and you. Keeping both of you in my prayers.
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11-09-2015, 05:07 PM | #9 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: USA
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| Golly cant read this with tearing up! We never have them long enough it seems. My previous Yorkie who was 11, and in renal failure, faithfully laid beside my father as he was dieing - she stayed right beside him where he could just put his hand down and feel her was there. They dies on the same day, 12 hours apart. They were both cremated and buried together. The service was beautiful and their pictures were together on the ceremony handouts. I will be forever grateful that I had the love of both of them, that they had each other, and moved on together! I revel in the memories that I will never lose. Hopefully, you will be able to do that with your baby, as well! Blessings.
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11-09-2015, 07:00 PM | #10 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | Am so very sorry that you have to make this decision. This is the one of the hardest things about being a pet owner. I held and talked to Dixie and she left. We had another one Damit that his seizues were so bad and constant and he was at a speciality clinic about 5 hours away and we weren't with him, he was in good hands. The rest of ours have been taken by God. We have them all in an urn on a shelf and when we die, they will be with us. Our last one, the vet did a paw print on clay which we were able to bake and it is by her urn. We had their tags around each urn. Sometimes I go where they are and just talk to them and tell them how much they mean to us in our lives. You are in our prayers as you go thru this and hope you have a days that she is able to interact with your family and feels good. Your YT friends are here for support.
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11-09-2015, 07:22 PM | #11 | |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2015 Location: Outside of the USA
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11-09-2015, 07:24 PM | #12 |
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| I really hope that her quality of life doesn't suffer and you still have her for a good long time. You're right, seven years isn't long enough. Most people say they know it's time when the bad days outnumber the good ones. If you think she's doing ok, I don't think it's selfish to keep her on needed meds to let her stay with you. That being said, I had to only do it once so far. The vet thinks that Scrappy got in some type of poison bc he went from perfectly fine to having seizures and going unconscious in less than 3 days. One of my biggest regrets was not being with him when they let him go. I just couldn't do it, but when I think about it now, I really should have been strong for him and held him in my arms. I also had him cremated. The vet had one price for a group cremation where you don't get back ashes, and another higher price for single cremation and you get back ashes. Personally I highly doubt the ashes I have are actually Scrappy, but how can you really know? I felt pressure from one of the vet staff to pick a pricey urn/box for him, like if I didn't pick a pricey one I didn't care about him. But I didn't like any of them. Another much more compassionate staff member told me to just get the cheapest box (white plastic) and get or make a better box for him myself.
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11-09-2015, 09:54 PM | #13 |
YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Cherryville, North Carolina, US
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| Please get a second opium and you might try a veterinary school. Praying for the both of you....Lynn |
11-10-2015, 12:51 AM | #14 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Mesa, Arizona
Posts: 313
| Bella Crossed the Rainbow Bridge Bella was helped across the Rainbow Bridge yesterday by a wonderful vet, Dr. Steven Schultz. He made an 1 hour 10 minute drive to our home so Bella would have no anxiety. It was a beautiful experience! Truly, brought me peace with my decision to say good-bye before she reached a severe crisis. She greeted Dr. Steve happily with her tail wagging and even give him a few nose kisses. We both held her as she fell asleep. She passed in about 10 calm, peaceful, panfry minutes. She left snuggled in Mike's arms with me petting and rubbing her ears telling her how much she meant to us. It wasn't as hard as I had prepared myself for because she was so relaxed. She even fell asleep in my lap as Dr. Steve explained the process and answered our questions. I know we did the right thing. I didn't want to see her continue to go downhill until we had to make the long trip into the emergency vet. I felt so much love in my heart as we said goodbye. She will be privately cremated and we will sprinkle her ashes in some of her favorite sniffing spots on the mile loop around our cottage community. Good friends invited us to their home before Dr. Steven came, Bella loves their kitty so she had a well loved walk before we took her on her final beloved walk through the woods and along the lakeshore. She was exhausted when we got back home, the good kind. Our dear friends then called and said to come down when they needed us so we went down later and out to dinner. They loved Bella and understood our pain. Thanks to them, we had a quietly tearful afternoon and early evening. We were not prepared for entering our home for the firs time without Bella greeting us. It hit me like a freight train. For the last 7 years she had ALWAYS been there, each and every day to greet us whenever we returned. When we are "at the lake" she goes with us everywhere and has never spent a night away from the cottage without us. So we immediately felt the horrible emptiness and stark reality. We both cried and realized it will hurt, and hurt painfully for awhile. We laid on our bed in the darkness and comforted one another. No sound of Bella's footsteps as she climbed up to join us and no soft, warm nose kisses to share her love. How tightly she had wrapped her paws around your hearts. She was our first and ONLY dog and we loved her with all of our hearts. I know we made the right decision and I know she knew how much we loved her until her loving heart became still. Oh the pain I feel now. I appreciate all of your messages of support. I know my husband and I will get through this and slowly find comfort in our memories. Thank you dear Yorkie lovers and friends. You are a wonderful support. |
11-10-2015, 01:00 AM | #15 |
YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: scotland
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| I'm so sorry for your loss , but you did the kindest thing for her she will always be in your heart.
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