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Mybabyboymax · 09-21-2007, 09:48 AM

Im fairly new here but I just wanted to say that you are not being looked at in a bad way, but quite the opposite. you put macy and your family first and thats what counts. Maddie will never be replaced but one day you will feel ready and add that new baby to your family and a lucky baby she will be!

Erin · 09-21-2007, 09:53 AM

Denise, I think all of us understand what is it like to love a little furball more than anything in the world. I'm really sorry you have to go through this.

yorkiegirl83 · 09-21-2007, 09:55 AM

I have never lost a pet, but just reading of all that you went through has brought tears to my eyes many times.

I don't think anyone could look on you as a bad person for what you are doing. You're being so UN selfish, and only looking out for Macy, and that is true love right there.

You will know when you are ready to bring another baby into your life <3

sims822257 · 09-21-2007, 09:57 AM

OH Denise what kills me more than anything is your heart that is hurting so bad. I wish I could help - I am so sorry to hear you are so sad.

I know you and only you know what is best for you and your family. Sending hugs and love to you and your family.

You know I am here for you if you need to talk!! HUGS!!!

peanut · 09-21-2007, 09:59 AM

Denise are you crazy, no one on this forum thinks bad of you...It is so hard, Maddie was your baby and the shock and pain that your family suffered when she was gone takes time to get over, sometimes getting another one helps, but I truly believe that with Maddie was your heart & will take alot longer to heal, and also Macy looked so much like her that its hard not to think about Maddie all the time..My heart just breaks for your family and you...it took me 2 years to get another yorkie after Tucker passed, and God help me if anything happen to mine now, so anyone with a heart understands, you have to do what is best for you and your family and Macy...your a great person Denise, it takes a big person to do what you are doing, its hard, but you have the biggest heart and know its all about Macy and your family...God bless you and when the time is right you will know...

chachi · 09-21-2007, 10:03 AM

Denise you are doing the right thing. The day will come when you are ready. Hugs

Wylie's Mom · 09-21-2007, 10:13 AM

Denise, my heart breaks in a million pieces when I think of what happened to little Maddie and your family following all of it. So, I can't even imagine what it does to you. I could barely even TELL my husband Maddie's story.

It takes tremendous courage and soul-searching and honesty and integrity to come to the place you've arrived at - it's a very loving place too! Please don't beat yourself up about this, you are truly doing what is best for you, your family, AND for Macy. Bless your heart!

My heart goes out to you, I can feel what a struggle this has been. Hugs.

stedmansmommy · 09-21-2007, 10:14 AM

Oh Denise, I am so so sorry you all are going through this

First of all, let me just say - please do not ever feel like you have to "explain" yourself to anyone here. I mean I know you wanted to be honest and let everyone know what was going on....but please do not feel ashamed for feeling the way you feel, and don't ever feel like you have to "explain your feelings". You cannot help those feelings....they are what they are, and you can't "turn them off" so to speak.

It obviously really was just TOO SOON for you guys. And by getting a new baby, this is the only way that you were going to find out. You tried...I know you did. You all were so thrilled about bringing baby Macy home, it showed in every e-mail and PM I received from you, and every post you made.

And honestly Denise, I cannot imagine ANYONE here hating you for this. And if they do - you know what? It doesn't matter. You don't need ANYONE'S approval here to make decisions. You are a grown adult and you have to do what YOU know is best for you and your family.

So big hugs to you and the kiddos, and big hugs to Macy. You are only thinking of whats best for everyone, and that is exactly what you should be doing. You are a very brave and strong person for doing this girl, and we love ya.

Big hugs sweetie

MyFairLacy · 09-21-2007, 10:25 AM

I'm so sorry for the all the pain you're going through. My heart still breaks for you and Maddie everytime I see her picture and see your posts. She was so precious, and I know you loved her so much just as I love Lacy so much. And the thought of losing Lacy the way you lost Maddie breaks my heart and I just can't imagine how hard this has been on you. Everyone heals differently - some need a new pet right away to help them heal, some need to wait months to years before being ready for a new one, and some are never able to bring another pet into their home. If it's too early for you, it's too early. Macy is adorable and I'm sure she'll find a wonderful home. And if and when you are ready, you'll be able to bring another baby into your home. I'm just so sorry for all the sadness you and your family are feeling right now

Tammyh · 09-21-2007, 10:29 AM

I completely understand what you're going through. We had a yellow lab and she was the best dog in the world and of course a family member. She had cancer and died at the age of 7 (my husband still has her ashes and hasn't been able to do anything with them yet and it's been about 4 years since she's been gone). Anyway, we got another yellow lab just a couple months after she passed and boy what a mistake. We felt the exact same way, she wasn't Cheyenne, she looked like Cheyenne but didn't act like Cheyenne and I think our expectations were too high. We went through the same thing as you and realized it really wasn't fair to her to keep her, we didn't have the patience and love to give her that she deserved. We found her a good home with a nice family with kids and lots of property. It was one of the hardest decisions we've ever made and we felt horrible about it. But we knew it was for the best. Don't feel bad out what you're going through, you made the right decision. And don't worry, no one thinks poorly of you. The good news is about 2 years later we got Lucee (a black lab) and it was completely different this time. She is wonderful and we love her so much and this time we had all the love and patience that she needed and deserved. Just give your hearts time to heal and you'll know when you're ready. I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care.
Tammy

celstu1 · 09-21-2007, 10:54 AM

Thats a tough decision to make and Im sure that you thought this through very well before coming to that decision. You need to do whats best for you and for Macy.
What happened to Maddie was tragic and I can totally understand you needing more time to heal from that, we all know how loving a person you are. (((HUGS))) to you and take care of yourself!

ellie81 · 09-21-2007, 10:59 AM

oh Denise, I'm so sorry that you have to go through all this. We all know you got Macy with all the best intentions, but sometimes things do not go the way we wanted, specially when they are matters of the heart. I'm sure you'll be doing what's best for you, your family, and Macy.

Monday · 09-21-2007, 11:32 AM

Denise,
you have to do what's best for you and Macy ...
she deserves a lot and so do you. The right time will come ...

It took me almost 18 years to remarry after my I laid my first husband to rest ...
and now I cannot even think of remarrying after Bill passed away 5 years ago ... it all has to do with the heart and how you feel ...
You suffered a traumatic loss when Maddie left this Earth ...

the time will come when you least expect it.
Right now, you have to do what is best for all concerned ...

We all love you ....
hugs to the girls (the skin kids) ....

Chelsey · 09-21-2007, 12:07 PM

My heart goes out to you girl. Nope, you are not crazy, and you dont have to explain yourself to anyone. You can not help feeling this way, people all deal with a loss in a different way. You did all you could, and i dont doubt she had all the love you could give. You doing whats best for you, and Macy.
One day when you are ready, you will have another baby.

Best wishes to you!

LoveMyJake · 09-21-2007, 01:33 PM

You have to do what is best for you, and no one can fault you for that. Don't feel guilty, it's just not the right time. You need some time to let your heart heal.....and it will.

09-21-2007, 09:48 AM	#31
Mybabyboymax Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 1,859	Im fairly new here but I just wanted to say that you are not being looked at in a bad way, but quite the opposite. you put macy and your family first and thats what counts. Maddie will never be replaced but one day you will feel ready and add that new baby to your family and a lucky baby she will be! __________________ Its SummerTime!

09-21-2007, 09:53 AM	#32
Erin Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Chicago Suburbs Posts: 3,306	Denise, I think all of us understand what is it like to love a little furball more than anything in the world. I'm really sorry you have to go through this. __________________ Erin, Sammy & Loki Sewing patterns and tutorials @ www.dogundermydesk.com

09-21-2007, 09:57 AM	#34
sims822257 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 3,436	OH Denise what kills me more than anything is your heart that is hurting so bad. I wish I could help - I am so sorry to hear you are so sad. I know you and only you know what is best for you and your family. Sending hugs and love to you and your family. You know I am here for you if you need to talk!! HUGS!!! __________________ Caren, mommy to Murphy and Mia Murphy WUVS his girlfriend Trixie

09-21-2007, 09:59 AM	#35
peanut Dogs Rule Cats Drool! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Tennessee Posts: 7,895	Denise are you crazy, no one on this forum thinks bad of you...It is so hard, Maddie was your baby and the shock and pain that your family suffered when she was gone takes time to get over, sometimes getting another one helps, but I truly believe that with Maddie was your heart & will take alot longer to heal, and also Macy looked so much like her that its hard not to think about Maddie all the time..My heart just breaks for your family and you...it took me 2 years to get another yorkie after Tucker passed, and God help me if anything happen to mine now, so anyone with a heart understands, you have to do what is best for you and your family and Macy...your a great person Denise, it takes a big person to do what you are doing, its hard, but you have the biggest heart and know its all about Macy and your family...God bless you and when the time is right you will know... __________________ KIM

09-21-2007, 10:03 AM	#36
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	Denise you are doing the right thing. The day will come when you are ready. Hugs __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

09-21-2007, 09:55 AM	#33
yorkiegirl83 Love My Furbabies! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: somewhere Posts: 4,427	I have never lost a pet, but just reading of all that you went through has brought tears to my eyes many times. I don't think anyone could look on you as a bad person for what you are doing. You're being so UN selfish, and only looking out for Macy, and that is true love right there. You will know when you are ready to bring another baby into your life <3

09-21-2007, 10:13 AM	#37
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	Denise, my heart breaks in a million pieces when I think of what happened to little Maddie and your family following all of it. So, I can't even imagine what it does to you. I could barely even TELL my husband Maddie's story. It takes tremendous courage and soul-searching and honesty and integrity to come to the place you've arrived at - it's a very loving place too! Please don't beat yourself up about this, you are truly doing what is best for you, your family, AND for Macy. Bless your heart! My heart goes out to you, I can feel what a struggle this has been. Hugs. __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

09-21-2007, 10:14 AM	#38
stedmansmommy I Love My Lil' Punkin's Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Stedman and Tatum's World :) Posts: 15,331 Blog Entries: 5	Oh Denise, I am so so sorry you all are going through this First of all, let me just say - please do not ever feel like you have to "explain" yourself to anyone here. I mean I know you wanted to be honest and let everyone know what was going on....but please do not feel ashamed for feeling the way you feel, and don't ever feel like you have to "explain your feelings". You cannot help those feelings....they are what they are, and you can't "turn them off" so to speak. It obviously really was just TOO SOON for you guys. And by getting a new baby, this is the only way that you were going to find out. You tried...I know you did. You all were so thrilled about bringing baby Macy home, it showed in every e-mail and PM I received from you, and every post you made. And honestly Denise, I cannot imagine ANYONE here hating you for this. And if they do - you know what? It doesn't matter. You don't need ANYONE'S approval here to make decisions. You are a grown adult and you have to do what YOU know is best for you and your family. So big hugs to you and the kiddos, and big hugs to Macy. You are only thinking of whats best for everyone, and that is exactly what you should be doing. You are a very brave and strong person for doing this girl, and we love ya. Big hugs sweetie __________________ Mommy Loves Stedman and Tatum! They have us wrapped around their little paws!

09-21-2007, 10:25 AM	#39
MyFairLacy Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: DFW, Texas Posts: 11,003	I'm so sorry for the all the pain you're going through. My heart still breaks for you and Maddie everytime I see her picture and see your posts. She was so precious, and I know you loved her so much just as I love Lacy so much. And the thought of losing Lacy the way you lost Maddie breaks my heart and I just can't imagine how hard this has been on you. Everyone heals differently - some need a new pet right away to help them heal, some need to wait months to years before being ready for a new one, and some are never able to bring another pet into their home. If it's too early for you, it's too early. Macy is adorable and I'm sure she'll find a wonderful home. And if and when you are ready, you'll be able to bring another baby into your home. I'm just so sorry for all the sadness you and your family are feeling right now __________________ ~Magnifique Yorkies~ Purchasing from backyard breeders, pet shops, and puppymills perpetuates the suffering of other dogs. Educate yourself and buy from reputable breeders or rescue.

09-21-2007, 10:29 AM	#40
Tammyh YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Washington Posts: 399	I completely understand what you're going through. We had a yellow lab and she was the best dog in the world and of course a family member. She had cancer and died at the age of 7 (my husband still has her ashes and hasn't been able to do anything with them yet and it's been about 4 years since she's been gone). Anyway, we got another yellow lab just a couple months after she passed and boy what a mistake. We felt the exact same way, she wasn't Cheyenne, she looked like Cheyenne but didn't act like Cheyenne and I think our expectations were too high. We went through the same thing as you and realized it really wasn't fair to her to keep her, we didn't have the patience and love to give her that she deserved. We found her a good home with a nice family with kids and lots of property. It was one of the hardest decisions we've ever made and we felt horrible about it. But we knew it was for the best. Don't feel bad out what you're going through, you made the right decision. And don't worry, no one thinks poorly of you. The good news is about 2 years later we got Lucee (a black lab) and it was completely different this time. She is wonderful and we love her so much and this time we had all the love and patience that she needed and deserved. Just give your hearts time to heal and you'll know when you're ready. I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care. Tammy __________________ Bella & Lucee's Momma

09-21-2007, 10:54 AM	#41
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	Thats a tough decision to make and Im sure that you thought this through very well before coming to that decision. You need to do whats best for you and for Macy. What happened to Maddie was tragic and I can totally understand you needing more time to heal from that, we all know how loving a person you are. (((HUGS))) to you and take care of yourself! __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

09-21-2007, 10:59 AM	#42
ellie81 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Florida Posts: 5,314 Blog Entries: 1	oh Denise, I'm so sorry that you have to go through all this. We all know you got Macy with all the best intentions, but sometimes things do not go the way we wanted, specially when they are matters of the heart. I'm sure you'll be doing what's best for you, your family, and Macy. __________________ Ellie and Bengi Bengi Is Home!!! - http://youtu.be/8OKv35pk5Pk

09-21-2007, 11:32 AM	#43
Monday AND Friday also! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Long Island Posts: 3,371	we love you .... Denise, you have to do what's best for you and Macy ... she deserves a lot and so do you. The right time will come ... It took me almost 18 years to remarry after my I laid my first husband to rest ... and now I cannot even think of remarrying after Bill passed away 5 years ago ... it all has to do with the heart and how you feel ... You suffered a traumatic loss when Maddie left this Earth ... the time will come when you least expect it. Right now, you have to do what is best for all concerned ... We all love you .... hugs to the girls (the skin kids) .... __________________ Like dogs, we should sniff butts, not kiss them. Dogs have more friends because they wag their tails, not their tongues. http://music.clevver.com/video/25815...ersion-300.php

09-21-2007, 12:07 PM	#44
Chelsey My2Pearls Chelsey & Chanel YT Donator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: N Posts: 4,097	My heart goes out to you girl. Nope, you are not crazy, and you dont have to explain yourself to anyone. You can not help feeling this way, people all deal with a loss in a different way. You did all you could, and i dont doubt she had all the love you could give. You doing whats best for you, and Macy. One day when you are ready, you will have another baby. Best wishes to you!

09-21-2007, 01:33 PM	#45
LoveMyJake I love Jackson too! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,905	You have to do what is best for you, and no one can fault you for that. Don't feel guilty, it's just not the right time. You need some time to let your heart heal.....and it will. __________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie