Any Other Stay-At-Home Mommies Here??

[AngelWorks]

My son is now 18---------- but one of the things I did was to find a couple other moms to switch child care with once a week.

That way you get some time away or in your tub during the day once a week to yourself------- an hour or two can work wonders.

If that's not an option, do you have a local YMCA? They usually have very resonable family memberships and on site child care.

Good luck and if I were close enough I would cuff your hubby in the back of the head for you.

[TammyJM]

Originally Posted by AngelWorks

My son is now 18---------- but one of the things I did was to find a couple other moms to switch child care with once a week.

That way you get some time away or in your tub during the day once a week to yourself------- an hour or two can work wonders.

If that's not an option, do you have a local YMCA? They usually have very resonable family memberships and on site child care.

Good luck and if I were close enough I would cuff your hubby in the back of the head for you.

We do have a workout center that is close to our new home so maybe I will check into their childcare program. That would be a good idea for me and my son to go to on the two days that my daughter is in preschool!

My husband might need for someone to cuff the back of his head. I woke up with ANOTHER headache this morning and I didn't sleep well last night because of it (never sleep when my head is hurting). I saw my husband stop and stare at me and he normally doesn't even notice because I always seem to have a headache or migraine. This morning, my eyes were extremely puffy and I could barely walk because I was just dragging from the pain and just exhaustion, I guess. He came to make and hugged and kissed me and told me that he loved me. I started bawling and saying that as much as a mommy loves their children, it's hard as a stay-at-home mommy because it can get to the point that it feels like it has eaten you alive. I know that sounds drastic but that's how the stress, tiredness, the headaches...all of it combined...this is how feels. I don't know which way is which anymore and something has got to give. He just held me and told me that he was sorry and that he should tell me that I am amazing with the kids, that I do an amazing job and that he knows how hard it is. He said that he is only with them a short time and I am with them all of the time and he knows how stressful it can be in the short time that he is here so he understands my stress. I am glad that he gets that I am needing these words from him.

Tammy

[AngelWorks]

Originally Posted by TammyJM

We do have a workout center that is close to our new home so maybe I will check into their childcare program. That would be a good idea for me and my son to go to on the two days that my daughter is in preschool!

My husband might need for someone to cuff the back of his head. I woke up with ANOTHER headache this morning and I didn't sleep well last night because of it (never sleep when my head is hurting). I saw my husband stop and stare at me and he normally doesn't even notice because I always seem to have a headache or migraine. This morning, my eyes were extremely puffy and I could barely walk because I was just dragging from the pain and just exhaustion, I guess. He came to make and hugged and kissed me and told me that he loved me. I started bawling and saying that as much as a mommy loves their children, it's hard as a stay-at-home mommy because it can get to the point that it feels like it has eaten you alive. I know that sounds drastic but that's how the stress, tiredness, the headaches...all of it combined...this is how feels. I don't know which way is which anymore and something has got to give. He just held me and told me that he was sorry and that he should tell me that I am amazing with the kids, that I do an amazing job and that he knows how hard it is. He said that he is only with them a short time and I am with them all of the time and he knows how stressful it can be in the short time that he is here so he understands my stress. I am glad that he gets that I am needing these words from him.

Tammy

Now's the time! He is sensitive to your situation----- ask him for one night a week where you can go out while he does the kids bedtime routine.

Go out for coffee with a friend, a movie---to the library and read-------

Come home after the kiddos are in bed and the next day you will feel like you've had a vacation!

It will be hard at first---- but the kids will get use to some daddy time rather quickly and hubby will have a once weekly reminder of what your days are like 24/7.

[makemepretty]

I'm a SAHM and it's the most thankless job out there but I think it's worth it. NO ONE appreciates what you do, there's no pay or vacations and you get a lot of "what do you do all day?". ARGH. Plus, my kids are now preteen and I hear from people that I should get a job because they're older. Oh yes, at almost 12 and 10 my sons are all done growing and I'm sure they're able to take care of themselves Plus, if I worked outside of the home I'd have to do everything I do now(my house is very clean, I cook every day, etc.) PLUS try to fit in an extra 30 hours to work and take care of the kids...I don't think so!

I feel for you honey, it's hard. I've been to the store with my shirt unbuttoned and slippers on my feet instead of shoes. It gets a little easier but different. You'll eventually get more sleep but the messes never stop and the work to be done never stops(I try to explain to my husband what if you had to do the EXACT same thing every day, how would you feel?). He acknowledges that my job is much harder than his.

The best part? Someday you'll be the mom that can do on field trips and go to the school day functions. Your kids will LOVE it and so will the other kids in their class. I also volunteer as a reading mentor at my sons school. I don't think working(outside of the home) moms realize how much SAHM's help out with their kids. Anyway, any amount of time you can find for yourself...take it! Even if you're too tired, have you husband watch the kids while you go and get a book or a treat by yourself. Pace yourself....there's lots of years ahead.

[cheryl000]

Originally Posted by TammyJM

You guys are the sweetest group of ladies ever! It makes me feel better to read that I am not alone....which I knew, but it's hard to picture without actually hearing/reading it. Sometimes, the stress makes me so alone.

I am 34 years old and would love to go back to college....do you guys think that I am too old? I won't even graduate until I am close to 40....

Tammy

Tammy, you're not too old to go to college! One of my classmates was much older than you and even had a daughter in the same college. Everyone needs to feel accomplishment somehow or have their own activities. Just figure out what you would like to learn more about.

There are some great community colleges that offer two year degrees. After that you could work two more years toward a four year degree if you wish. By the time you've graduated the kids will be in school and if you want to get a part time job or something you will have a skill!
Whatever you decide, try to do something that you'll look forward to!

[WV~Yorkies]

Stay at home mom here. I have a 13,12 and 8 year olds. Not sure if or when I will got to work. Right now I don't need it so I will wait until my son is a little older.

[Too Cute Teddy]

Beign a mom is definately the hardest job in the world! At 24 I can now appreciate all that my mom has done over the years and I am amazed!! Give yourself a lot of credit; moms definately deserve it!