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Old 01-01-2007, 11:25 AM   #1
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Ok .you know i have to pay him back or breed Gracie, now he sayed if i lose 30lbs I dont have to pay him back, Ok dieting is very hard for me because i once had a eating disorder so i try not to diet to hard. So im just wondering what some think about this? I know im chunky but do I need someone telling me.... . I thought when you get married you dont have to pay your hubby back like a bank .Now I need to to diet to , omg what does this man want ..
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Maybe your husband isn't trying to be mean or insensitive, but that's how it's coming across. You should remind him of your past eatting disorder and he should be way more sympathetic. Plus, you shouldn't have to pay him back anything in any situation.........your married. I hope everything works out and if YOU want to lose weight, do it for yourself and not for someone else or because someone else say's you need to.
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Maybe your husband isn't trying to be mean or insensitive, but that's how it's coming across. You should remind him of your past eatting disorder and he should be way more sympathetic. Plus, you shouldn't have to pay him back anything in any situation.........your married. I hope everything works out and if YOU want to lose weight, do it for yourself and not for someone else or because someone else say's you need to.
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OMG, I would kick him to the curb!

if he really loves you!, he would not even tell you ...you need to lose anything. he should love you for who you are...not by what you look like. THATS BULL!!! He dose not love you if he says sh*# like that! If I where you, He would come home to his Sh!* on the curb and all the door locks change. Let him Try TO GET IN. 911 is a phone call away!
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You shoudn't have to pay him back anything. He's your husband. And you don't have to lose the weight unless you want to. It's not anyone's decision but your own.
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Would my husband MAKE me lose weight or make me pay money back to him?
NO WAY!!! He values his life - and our marriage -too much for that nonsense.

Kim, I am very clear on the fact that I can live quite happily on my own and I have made sure that my husband is very clear on this fact, too. We both know that I will be treated with respect or I'm outta there. It's mutual. I don't expect my husband to put up with bad treatment from me either.

It's not a matter of what "this man" wants, Kim. It's a matter of what you want!
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Would my husband MAKE me lose weight or make me pay money back to him?
NO WAY!!! He values his life - and our marriage -too much for that nonsense.

Kim, I am very clear on the fact that I can live quite happily on my own and I have made sure that my husband is very clear on this fact, too. We both know that I will be treated with respect or I'm outta there. It's mutual. I don't expect my husband to put up with bad treatment from me either.

It's not a matter of what "this man" wants, Kim. It's a matter of what you want!

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i agree with all the replys
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Im thinking someone is pulling our leg now--is anyone else suspicious??
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why is it everytime i post on this site someone thinks im pulling a joke . i cant believe the way some think on hear.
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Geez girl...I'm sorry but - it surely doesn't sound like your husband has his priorities straight! Your husband reminds me ALOT of my best friends husband. Once she was sick and needed to go to the emergency room at about 1 a.m. - well she was so sick that she COULDN'T drive herself (they live kinda far out - about 30 minutes from town) so she BEGGED him to drive her there - well he used HIS truck to drive there and he MADE her pay him back in gas!!!!! Un-be-freakin-lieveable!!!! Now THAT...made me sick. What kind of "HUSBAND" makes his SICK WIFE pay him back in gas for driving her to the ER!!! OMG - when she told me that, I was FUMING - P!$$ED!

NONE of this type of sh!t would fly with me, I'll tell ya that right now. You don't MARRY someone because of what they look like - you marry them because of WHAT'S INSIDE - and if that isn't GOOD ENOUGH - then you have no business getting married in the first place. It's as simple as that. You need to give your husband a reality check and explain to him that you don't look like you did 15 years ago, and you won't look the same in ANOTHER 15 years as you do right now - and NEITHER WILL HE. Geez, what is he going to do when you get OLDER?? Make you pay him back because your skin isn't as taught as it used to be years earlier? Give me a break. I could go on and on and on about something like this - but I won't. However I will simply say this: YOU don't need to lose weight, your husband just needs a reality check.

P.S.- Sorry to be so blunt - but I cannot STAND to hear about husbands acting this way toward their wives. I hear it enough from my best friend and it makes me want to THROW UP. I am just taking up for YOU girl...what your husband is doing to you is NOT RIGHT.

Maybe you should let your husband come to YT and read all of these replies

Good luck and don't put up with his BS!!!!!!!!
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Ok .you know i have to pay him back or breed Gracie, now he sayed if i lose 30lbs I dont have to pay him back, Ok dieting is very hard for me because i once had a eating disorder so i try not to diet to hard. So im just wondering what some think about this? I know im chunky but do I need someone telling me.... . I thought when you get married you dont have to pay your hubby back like a bank .Now I need to to diet to , omg what does this man want ..

I am very worried about you! Do you have any family or friends to go stay with? Is he abusive other then mentally? There is a hotline you can call if you feel you are in danger. Do you need the number?
I don't know how long you have been married or how old you are. Do you have a job? Any income of your own?
I used to volunteer at a women's shelter and these are all HUGE warning signs of abuse or escalating abuse.
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This man has put you into servitude not a marriage! Tell him no problem, you will pay him back for Gracie after he pays his bill. Then give him a list of all the things you have done for him since you were married, including any cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Sounds like with him, you might come up with a hefty bill to present! Then before he blows a gasket -- tell him, "now don't you think all this 'who owes who' is ridiculous? "

As to the weight ..... I can't even imagine putting it to you like that. If he was seriously concerned about a health issue, that would be one thing but he is putting that on the table with money, breeding a dog that is too young, and that is not right. He needs to grown up!
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Tell him fine you'll pay him back if he starts leaving money on the nightstand! I've been married 25 years now and I can tell you it's suppose to be a partnership. I'd have it no other way! I don't look like I did 25 years ago and neither does Terry. We'll change even more as time goes by, that's not what's important! I support him and he supports me in our lives together. We're a team and we work together on mutual goals and individual ones as well. Being a breeder was my dream, not Terry's but he supports me in it. We purchased the dogs together and though they are mostly my responcibility he helps out as much as I need him to. Even comes to shows with me when he can. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally by their mate, that means you too! If your weight affects how you feel about you than work on it, I will too. I'm sure you can get alot of support here. If you're happy with your weight or feel that it's what is best for you right now, tell him no deal. Don't endanger yourself or your pup because he's being ignorant!
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She has to be very careful!
If what she is saying about him is the honest truth, he could really hurt her if she "talks back" to him or stands up for herself.
These type of men view their women as property and they are not allowed to have anything of their own.
By her husband,(the jerk) wanting her to pay him back for the puppies or telling her to lose weight, he is trying to control her and keep her self esteem down. So she feels she has no other choice but to stay with him, because 1) nobody else wants her or 2)she could never make it on her own without him telling her what to do. If she does work outside of the home, this so called man will take her money and dole it out to her as he sees fit. Very Controlling, Very insecure man!
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