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Kodak · 01-02-2007, 11:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Ayorkielover

why is it everytime i post on this site someone thinks im pulling a joke . i cant believe the way some think on hear.

I've read some of your posts & replies and can see where they may cause doubt in one's mind. For one when you type you never make mention of what family members think. Who knows, this may be your way of venting w/o involving family. Then it sounds more make believe, because some of us feel there's no way in hell anyone would tolerate this. You appear to come off knowing better, but you type showing self esteem issues. It's as if this man heads your life & tells you when to eat, sleep, sh@$ and drink. In today's society, I know myself as a woman would not believe this would be happening. Not with all these talk shows and self empowerment books out here. We don't know you or each other from Adam, we are going by what you type. It seems you are married to a dictator, and yes his azz would be kicked to the curb if it were me. You know the expression "we can do bad by ourselves", it's actually "we can do better by ourselves." I think you need to put your foot down and demand somethings yourself. Not trying to put you down, JMO. If I ask my SO for something & he says I'll give you half, then he helped. If he says, I'm saving some money up for blahblah, I'll give you that but I need it back in savings, then I'm putting it back. But I don't OWE him shyt, and I'm not dieting to compensate for a peanut of a brain for a person to ask that of me.

Kodak · 01-02-2007, 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by blondflava

I'm sorry to say this but I don't think those issues should be discussed on the forum (at least this one). It's very easy to start jumping into conclusions and give opinions not knowing the situation (eg saying the Ayorkielover should get a divorce). It's my opinion but it's very easy to type something hotheaded and click Submit before rethinking it, and it can easily hurt feelings and create a bad atmosphere... IMO.

I sorta agree with your reply about certain issues being discussed here, but the question involved a yorkie so she opened herself up to these replies. If she like it, I love it, and I reread my reply before clicking because it's JMO. Not trying to hurt feelings, but people will type their minds in an open forum.

Ayorkielover · 01-03-2007, 08:30 AM

well i guess i was wrong to come to this site to get advice about my personal life I see that this site dont wont to hear about it, so im sorry if I affended anyone I will not post again about it.

JCarlson2004 · 01-03-2007, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by JeanieK

I think your husband is a JERK.

I'm sorry honey but I don't see much future in a relationship with this man. He is obviously controlling and psychologically abusive.

I'm not sure what you see in him, but I can tell you that he does not see much in you.

I'd take my dogs and leave.

I agree.

I'm so sorry to hear of your situation. I wish you all the best of luck and I really hope everything works out for you.

Kodak · 01-03-2007, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Ayorkielover

well i guess i was wrong to come to this site to get advice about my personal life I see that this site dont wont to hear about it, so im sorry if I affended anyone I will not post again about it.

What you must remember is that this is a open forum & everyone is intitialed to their opinion. When you put your business on here you have to be prepared for the outcome. There is no need to leave this forum, it's all about YORKIES! You have a yorkie and we love yorkies, you tell us happy things about your yorkie and we reply happy responses.

JeanieK · 01-03-2007, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Ayorkielover

well i guess i was wrong to come to this site to get advice about my personal life I see that this site dont wont to hear about it, so im sorry if I affended anyone I will not post again about it.

You were given advice. I'm not sure what you were expecting. Did you think we were going to tell you that our husbands are the same way, and oh my aren't men terrible.

Most of us are shocked that your husband would say those things, and then you turn around and defend him saying he is really a nice guy. No he really isn't he is an Ass that has nice moments.

IMO this looks like a classic abuse case. Where the woman defends the guy one day and is seeking help the next.

daisysis · 01-03-2007, 09:15 AM

If my hubby would say that to me there would be ((((WAR)))
How old is your husband he sound like he is a teen to 30???
he sound very childish..not muture at all..
most older men would not even care..
Be tough lose the wieght than
STRUT YOURSELF
HE WON'T LIKE THAT
BUT YOU WILL BE A BETTER BABE with a beautiful YORKIE

sashajade · 01-03-2007, 09:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Ayorkielover

well i guess i was wrong to come to this site to get advice about my personal life I see that this site dont wont to hear about it, so im sorry if I affended anyone I will not post again about it.

you have every right to put what you like about your personal life on here, ITS YOUR LIFE no one elses.
there are a lot of strong minded ladies on here including me who just wouldnt put up with a man treating us like this so to us it might seem strange for another women to put up with it, but that doesnt mean we think you are lieing, people sometimes finder it easyer to ask a strangers advice than someone they know and i guess thats all you are doing.
so please if you do have bad problems at home dont be to shy to ask for advice on here cos there are a lot of nice people on here who will try to help without judging you.

sashajade · 01-03-2007, 09:23 AM

whats the womens site that some yorkie ladies go on?
ive book marked it but cant remember address.
as that would prob be the best place to ask for advice.

Akina · 01-03-2007, 09:37 AM

My ex-husband was controlling as well. The key word is "Ex."
He used to tell me not to eat too much so I won't gain weight. Let's just say I was size 0 that time. He used to compare me with sister-in-law who was skinny and pretty and younger.
So I left him and I am much happier.
I am still single after 8 years and I probably won't find another person to marry. It makes me sad but I rather be alone than being with someone who tells me to lose weight or not pretty enough or so on.
I may not be a size 0 any more but I am a good person inside and if no man find me as a suitable wife, then it is their loss and not mine!!!
I'm sure your husband has a good side and horrible side.
You and only you can make a decision that your marriage is worth keeping or kick him to the curb.
Listen to your heart and mind; don't rush into conclusion because YT tells you that your husband is horrible. (I do think he is...)
It is your life and your marriage; you need make whatever the decision that will make YOU happy.
Good luck!!!!

Bnot · 01-03-2007, 11:02 AM

I think with a husband like that, I'd charge him $100 bucks for sex. See how he likes that!

Nancy1999 · 01-03-2007, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Bnot

I think with a husband like that, I'd charge him $100 bucks for sex. See how he likes that!

Wouldn't that make you a . . . . . . . . . . professional?
Nancy

daisysis · 01-03-2007, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Bnot

I think with a husband like that, I'd charge him $100 bucks for sex. See how he likes that!

Sugar's Mom · 01-03-2007, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Bnot

I think with a husband like that, I'd charge him $100 bucks for sex. See how he likes that!

one hundred bucks wouldn't touch this. LOL. i would be a high class uhhhhhhhhh professional.

Chrissy0277 · 01-03-2007, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Sugar's Mom

one hundred bucks wouldn't touch this. LOL. i would be a high class uhhhhhhhhh professional.

Yeah I think our "services" lol are worth more then 100 bucks. Heck I got 50 bucks to taste a dog cookie out of bet (yes I tried a dog biscut, Im going back to when i was like 12 and 50 dollars sounded like alot at the time lol) and that was just to eat a small dog biscut. I think sex should be worth more then 100 bucks.
My fiance would never make me pay him back for a dog, and if he did try hes got another thing coming. But then again all the dog bills are mine. I have always supported my dog habit and not asked for help from him lol
Dog habit... LOL what am I a dog addict or something

Whatever your situation is I hope you can get yourself up and stick up for yourself, this has to be killing your self esteem. Lose weight or pay for the dog, its just not right to ask for either

01-03-2007, 08:30 AM	#48
Ayorkielover Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Ca Posts: 65	well i guess i was wrong to come to this site to get advice about my personal life I see that this site dont wont to hear about it, so im sorry if I affended anyone I will not post again about it. __________________ kim and gracie:

01-03-2007, 09:15 AM	#52
daisysis YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: michigan Posts: 1,074	If my hubby would say that to me there would be ((((WAR))) How old is your husband he sound like he is a teen to 30??? he sound very childish..not muture at all.. most older men would not even care.. Be tough lose the wieght than STRUT YOURSELF HE WON'T LIKE THAT BUT YOU WILL BE A BETTER BABE with a beautiful YORKIE __________________ Sissy..Lilly..Maggie..Lucy

01-03-2007, 09:23 AM	#54
sashajade YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: kent england Posts: 1,646	whats the womens site that some yorkie ladies go on? ive book marked it but cant remember address. as that would prob be the best place to ask for advice. __________________ Facebook group yorkies & small terriers worlwide needing fur-ever homes & deathrow Zac Brandi Suki

01-03-2007, 09:37 AM	#55
Akina YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: San Mateo Posts: 887	My ex-husband was controlling as well. The key word is "Ex." He used to tell me not to eat too much so I won't gain weight. Let's just say I was size 0 that time. He used to compare me with sister-in-law who was skinny and pretty and younger. So I left him and I am much happier. I am still single after 8 years and I probably won't find another person to marry. It makes me sad but I rather be alone than being with someone who tells me to lose weight or not pretty enough or so on. I may not be a size 0 any more but I am a good person inside and if no man find me as a suitable wife, then it is their loss and not mine!!! I'm sure your husband has a good side and horrible side. You and only you can make a decision that your marriage is worth keeping or kick him to the curb. Listen to your heart and mind; don't rush into conclusion because YT tells you that your husband is horrible. (I do think he is...) It is your life and your marriage; you need make whatever the decision that will make YOU happy. Good luck!!!!

01-03-2007, 11:02 AM	#56
Bnot YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Mobile AL Posts: 1,399	I think with a husband like that, I'd charge him $100 bucks for sex. See how he likes that!