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Old 03-31-2006, 06:35 AM   #1
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No, not anyone from YT! I am feeling totally stressed out right now and I just want to kill my boyfriend. I hate him. I am so sick of fighting! I am so sick of listening to him whine and complain. I am so sick of having to deal with him and his problems. I am so sick of trying to pretend I care so much. The last straw, I let him borrow money a few weeks ago, and asked for it back a couple weeks afterwards and he said he he didn't have enough money. SO last night he said that he had 2 thousand dollars and I asked for my money and he said that I said that he could have it to pay him back for money he spent on "us". Now I am out that money that I was saving for my Europe trip, I worked so hard to save it. I never said that and I never asked him to spend money on me!!! My school load has me on the verdge of going insane, and I just feel like a goin crazy!!! I shouldn't complain about my life bt I am so sick and tired of dealing with all this crap! Sorry to go on, you guys are like my therapy session...Thanks
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Old 03-31-2006, 06:40 AM   #2
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Hannah, I'm so sorry that this is happening to you... Have you tried telling him.. "Look __________, I have never asked you to spend money on us and I have been working so hard for my trip. I lent you that money because you really needed it at the time and I don't feel that it's fair for you not to pay me back. When did I ever say that you could keep the money?" I feel like a therapist now... LOL Oh, well, that's just my .02... Hope you work everything out and I can't wait to meet you next weekend!!
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I agree with DaisyMaesmom ask him for your money back and if he doesn't give it back you need to rethink your relationship.
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You sound really upset and I can completely understand! I would just tell him to give you your money back or else....
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Hannah, I'm so sorry that this is happening to you... Have you tried telling him.. "Look __________, I have never asked you to spend money on us and I have been working so hard for my trip. I lent you that money because you really needed it at the time and I don't feel that it's fair for you not to pay me back. When did I ever say that you could keep the money?" I feel like a therapist now... LOL Oh, well, that's just my .02... Hope you work everything out and I can't wait to meet you next weekend!!
Yes I said almost thsoe same words and he said said Oh yea you did say I could keep the money. You are just money hungry cause I told you that I have 2,000 dollars. He also told me that I told him to keep it. He swears to God that I saiad that, but I don't believe any of his 'swears'. I am just so sick of this guys. Four years and I took so much crap and I was SO SO SO SO stupid. And now I feel bad to leave him cause I hate to see him unhappy. And this money thing is pissing me off so bad. And he is accusing me of being money hungry. I told him not to spend money on me if he doesn't want to, and now he is saying I should pay him back for all this money he spent on me. I want to move to England
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Ok Dr. Phil here~ LOL

It sounds like it is much more than the money, the money is just the last straw, I would GET the money, Today, while he has it, then kick him to the curb with what he has left. Any man that needs you to pay for the date things,that is what he's doing your paying for your couple things, including him.. is TROUBLE,and I would not deal with it, I've had my share of losers that I had to pay for,, then I matured and realized its time for someone to take care of ME! And I now I have that. Which is how it should be. JMHO
Good luck in whatever you decide.. but remember,,, YOU teac people how to treat you.. and if he gets away with this,,it WILL continue and get worse.
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Yes I said almost thsoe same words and he said said Oh yea you did say I could keep the money. You are just money hungry cause I told you that I have 2,000 dollars. He also told me that I told him to keep it. He swears to God that I saiad that, but I don't believe any of his 'swears'. I am just so sick of this guys. Four years and I took so much crap and I was SO SO SO SO stupid. And now I feel bad to leave him cause I hate to see him unhappy. And this money thing is pissing me off so bad. And he is accusing me of being money hungry. I told him not to spend money on me if he doesn't want to, and now he is saying I should pay him back for all this money he spent on me. I want to move to England
Think about it this way.. It's either you or him unhappy... Which would you rather see??? It might make him unhappy if you leave him, but then maybe he'll think twice and realize that he's in the wrong...
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Ok Dr. Phil here~ LOL

It sounds like it is much more than the money, the money is just the last straw, I would GET the money, Today, while he has it, then kick him to the curb with what he has left. Any man that needs you to pay for the date things,that is what he's doing your paying for your couple things, including him.. is TROUBLE,and I would not deal with it, I've had my share of losers that I had to pay for,, then I matured and realized its time for someone to take care of ME! And I now I have that. Which is how it should be. JMHO
Good luck in whatever you decide.. but remember,,, YOU teac people how to treat you.. and if he gets away with this,,it WILL continue and get worse.
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Thanks! You are so right. And I know, I have let him treat me far worse than this. He has major baggage, and I have been so stupid with this relationship. I would never ever let any man ever treat me like what he has gotten away with. I feel so stupid but at least I now know what I want. He was my first relationship...Lord I think I have seen it all! I should have done the curb thing a long time ago but I just can't do it. Goodness I feel so stupid about him. I have been a HUGE b***h to him for a while cause its so hard to pretent that I care about our relationship when I don't. Anyways, I just want my money that took me about 2-3 weeks to save, when he earns that in a day!!!!!!!! I'm in school and I work and he only works...
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if i could tell you how much money i lent to other boyfriends and never got
it back, your head would spin... i will tell you.. my first boyfriend owes me
to this day, around 10.000 dollars... bailed him out of jail. he skipped..lent him
money for a motorcycle, sold it for drugs.. and stole my jewerly...
you know what, that sucker does not have me anymore... im alway lending
money an never getting it back...your a really good person, but keep your
hands out of your pocket for now on.... find someone who will take care of
you...cause you are worth it.... i found out the hard way. good luck
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Yes I said almost thsoe same words and he said said Oh yea you did say I could keep the money. You are just money hungry cause I told you that I have 2,000 dollars. He also told me that I told him to keep it. He swears to God that I saiad that, but I don't believe any of his 'swears'. I am just so sick of this guys. Four years and I took so much crap and I was SO SO SO SO stupid. And now I feel bad to leave him cause I hate to see him unhappy. And this money thing is pissing me off so bad. And he is accusing me of being money hungry. I told him not to spend money on me if he doesn't want to, and now he is saying I should pay him back for all this money he spent on me. I want to move to England
Hey Chicklet, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all this. I'm so sick and tired of abusive (wether it's physically or emotionally) men taking advantage of good women. I would kick him to the curb so fast he wouldn't have seen it comming. I was in an abusive relationship before and I know how you feel. This jerk I was with cheated on me, lied to me, made me give up all my friends; and yes, I admit it at first breaking up with him was hard b/c I didn't want HIM unhappy. But Girl, it's alot easier than you think. You have to look out for the Numero Uno - That is YOU. It's unhealthy for you to take this abuse. I sympathsize with you. But if he can't respect you enough to do something as simple as repay a debt, then this is leading nowhere. If he's saying that he's using the money that YOU supposedly gave him to pay for the money he spent on "us" then where the heck is his contribution?!

I'd prolly say, "Listen @%#wipe, I'm sick & tired of your crap. I never said you could have that money. And if anyone's a money hungry $%#@ that would be you dip$%#@!!~ I'm taking my money back & my life. Go to Hell." Then punch him in the stomach, knee him & the groin & tell Thor to sik 'em and bite his toe off. Take your money and leave.

Ok ok, maybe that's a bit harsh. But that would be along the lines of what I'd do. LOL. That also could be the NewYorker in me. Take care of yourself Hun. And there's nothing that puppy kisses, snuggles, & time won't heal.

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If he loved you..whether he owes you money or not he should want to help you to come up with the money to visit england. I know if jay really wanted to do something that was important to him..i'd do whatever it took to help him as he would me.
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I'd prolly say, "Listen @%#wipe, I'm sick & tired of your crap. I never said you could have that money. And if anyone's a money hungry $%#@ that would be you dip$%#@!!~ I'm taking my money back & my life. Go to Hell." Then punch him in the stomach, knee him & the groin & tell Thor to sik 'em and bite his toe off. Take your money and leave.

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Thanks! You really made me laugh!! It is so true what everyone is saying, kick him to the curb. I should. I just keep thinking, I should wait until I go to Europe this summer so I don't have to worry about him showing up at my house (my parents house) and beggin to be back together or something like that. I will be gone for 2.5 months. Look at me...I am making excuses. Grrrr, I suck! Again everyone Thanks for responding, I just really need to vent I feel like I am going crazy!
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Thanks! You really made me laugh!! It is so true what everyone is saying, kick him to the curb. I should. I just keep thinking, I should wait until I go to Europe this summer so I don't have to worry about him showing up at my house (my parents house) and beggin to be back together or something like that. I will be gone for 2.5 months. Look at me...I am making excuses. Grrrr, I suck! Again everyone Thanks for responding, I just really need to vent I feel like I am going crazy!
I'm glad I was able to get a smile outta ya! Life is too short to be taking crap from people. I say you should do it ASAP. Don't put off 'till tomorrow the garbage you can take out today. It'll only stink up your life. Let your parents know he's a jerk and if he comes by to ask him to leave (with a shotgun pointed at his head of course). Change your voicemail message so it'll play "Cry Me a River" (Justin ). He'll get the hint. And that way you can start planning for your fabulous Europe vacation. And concentrate on more impt things while you're there like checking out all the hot european guys, and wether you want just a tan on the beach with or without bikini tanlines. Heard you can go topless there! (I personally am too shy & wouldn't go topless LOL)

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No, not anyone from YT! I am feeling totally stressed out right now and I just want to kill my boyfriend. I hate him. I am so sick of fighting! I am so sick of listening to him whine and complain. I am so sick of having to deal with him and his problems. I am so sick of trying to pretend I care so much. The last straw, I let him borrow money a few weeks ago, and asked for it back a couple weeks afterwards and he said he he didn't have enough money. SO last night he said that he had 2 thousand dollars and I asked for my money and he said that I said that he could have it to pay him back for money he spent on "us". Now I am out that money that I was saving for my Europe trip, I worked so hard to save it. I never said that and I never asked him to spend money on me!!! My school load has me on the verdge of going insane, and I just feel like a goin crazy!!! I shouldn't complain about my life bt I am so sick and tired of dealing with all this crap! Sorry to go on, you guys are like my therapy session...Thanks
This sound like a typical Judge Judy case. Threaten to take it to Judge Judy, she'll clean his clock and set him straight.

I don't know you at all, but I can tell you, you don't have to put up with that from ANY man. There are plenty of good men out there.

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Thanks! You are so right. And I know, I have let him treat me far worse than this. He has major baggage, and I have been so stupid with this relationship. I would never ever let any man ever treat me like what he has gotten away with. I feel so stupid but at least I now know what I want. He was my first relationship...Lord I think I have seen it all! I should have done the curb thing a long time ago but I just can't do it. Goodness I feel so stupid about him. I have been a HUGE b***h to him for a while cause its so hard to pretent that I care about our relationship when I don't. Anyways, I just want my money that took me about 2-3 weeks to save, when he earns that in a day!!!!!!!! I'm in school and I work and he only works...

No need to feel stupid, as you can see a lot of us have been there and learned too. A man with pride and self respect will not ask a woman for money. He is the loser hone, not you.
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