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02-22-2013, 04:04 PM | #1 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Virginia
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| Why the Phone!? Okay just need to vent for a minute. So I'm looking for a Yorkie breeder to find a furbaby but after e-mailing just about every breeder in my area from the YTCA.com site I only got a couple of e-mails back and they ALL wanted me to call to discuss puppies further. Normally for someone this wouldn't be a problem but... I'm extremely telephonophobic. Just thinking about having to call someone nearly gives me a panic attack. Why does everyone always have to insist on using the phone for everything!? I keep waiting for doctors and dentists and whoever else I may have to call for things to go to an on-line system or use e-mail but no! I guess I should e-mail back the breeders who responded but I feel weird saying I can't call them... they're going to think I'm someone trying to scam them or something! It isn't like anyone has ever heard of something being afraid of a telephone. |
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02-22-2013, 04:15 PM | #2 |
Cedric♥Lola♥Keylo Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Gilford, NH, USA
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| Well some don't like email or textn plus it is easier to communicate and discuss details.....do u have someone who can call for you while u take notes?
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02-22-2013, 04:18 PM | #3 |
And Rylee Finnegan Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Metro Detroit, MI
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| I'm sorry. I used to be kinda like that, but still could get through. It has gotten better over the years. I just never liked randomly talking to strangers over a phone. My heart would even race, My cardio meds may be the only thing stopping that from happening now. Who knows. Don't feel like you have to answer this, but do you take something tor axiety... That might help you. Still to this day I put business calls off as long as possible. I agree though. They may get suspicious and are just trying to protect their pups. Wouldan inperson meeting be easier? Could you take a pill and then do it?
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02-22-2013, 04:18 PM | #4 |
Donating YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Las Vegas, NV
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| I'm always surprised to hear that people would rather "pick up the phone and call" rather than email too, HA HA! But, in this case, it may be because breeders can get a "feel" for you over the phone. They can kind of get a sense of your personality and see if you will be a good fit for one of their pups. It's easier to gage things like this when you can hear the voice rather than over the internet where it's only words written down.
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02-22-2013, 05:55 PM | #5 |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Idaho
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| You can email them back & ask if you could meet in person rather then a phone interview. A good breeder is Always going to want to talk to you by phone or in person before they sell a pup to someone they don't know. |
02-22-2013, 05:58 PM | #6 | |
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I am one that actually likes to talk with people.
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02-22-2013, 06:46 PM | #7 | ||||
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An in-person meeting would definitely be easier. Do you think a breeder would agree to that without talking to me on the phone? I guess its worth a try. Quote:
Yeah, I know it is certainly easier to get a feel for what someone is like if you have more than text to go off. Text can be really hard to interpret sometimes and I'm already kind of socially awkward. I feel like my e-mails (and posts?? lol) are always way too short and seem almost rude or waaay too long and rambling. Quote:
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02-23-2013, 06:10 AM | #8 |
Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator | Omg, I'm another phone-hater. Cannot stand the phone. I too would rather email for pretty much everything...which I know drives some people nuts, but I can't help it - it's the way I'm built. Like EllieMay, I'll put off making phone calls for as long as possible. All my non-personal calls go to voicemail, almost without exception. Even my family's phone calls (except for my hubby) all go to voice mail, so that I can call them back when I'm in a frame of mind for being on the phone with them. I actually startle when my phone rings, bc I dislike it that much . I think the root of this is two-fold...one, bc I never really loved the phone in the first place. And two, I had a job in my 20s/30s (medical field) where I had 2 pagers and 3 cell phones (AND an answering service, who would call and CONFIRM my pages were rcvd, omg!) - and I was on-call SO much of the time, and could be tracked down at almost all times....that I just grew to detest the phone...and it began to stand for something that I couldn't have any control over. Who wants to live like that? Ugh, not me. So to this day, I still cringe when that thing rings. So anyway! A good breeder will want to get a 'feel' for you, and it's so hard to do that via email. What do you do when you absolutely *must* make a phone call? As in, does it help to schedule it at a certain time of day, that you choose? Or anything? Try to think of 2 or 3 things you could do to make it more plausible for you to make that phone call. Btw, google "phone phobia" or "I hate the phone" sometime...you'll be utterly amazed at how common this feeling really is.
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02-23-2013, 07:03 AM | #9 |
♥ Maximo and Teddy Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Northern Virginia
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| I'm in the phone haters club. I still feel a lot of peer pressure from people who love the phone. Luckily, our breeder preferred email and meeting in person. I filled out an online application first. Too bad she isn't breeding at this time. I wouldn't email the breeders and say off the top, "I can't use the telephone." Instead, write a little bio and email it to the breeders with a request to meet in person (you want to inspect their home, where they breed anyway). Breeders may be reluctant to put anything in writing about their breeding program -- and those are the ones you want to steer clear of anyway. Some of the info our breeder asked in the application that you should include in your little bio: 1. Your age range and basic living arrangements: do live in a house or apt? do you share it with other people and what is their relationship to you? Do you have children? 2. Have you had a pet before? What kind? What happened to the pet? 3. Do you have any experience with Yorkies? 4. What size Yorkie are you hoping for? Those are the questions I remember.
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02-23-2013, 07:31 AM | #10 |
Hook Em! Bevo & Mack Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Texas
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| I hope they will let you meet in person!! Too bad I don't live closer to you, as I'm A social butterfly.... I would gladly talk for you! Heck, I would Stand and talk to a pile of rocks! Lol! Good luck!
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02-23-2013, 08:13 AM | #11 |
♡Huey's Human♡ Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: Ringgold, Ga
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| I have to use the phone a lot for work, but I do not use the phone socially. About the only person I will talk to on the phone is my mother. I even text my husband. My phone almost never rings, and that is fine with me. I hate when I answer the phone and the caller starts out the conversation with "how are you doing?" I know they are just being polite, but they dont care how I am doing and I am annoyed that social etiquette demands that I have to even answer that question. Say what you have to say and hang up.
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02-25-2013, 08:09 AM | #12 | ||
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I also love what you say about etiquette, bc etiquette can drive me nuts too...I don't like things that are dogmatic in nature, ie I don't like doing things simply bc it's 'traditional' or bc 'that's the way it's done'. When I hear words like that, you may as well shoot me out of a Rebel Canon. Bc I'll then do the opposite or as close to it as possible.
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