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lovespandp · 09-07-2011, 06:02 PM

My friend from work got a call from her Mom, Her Mom said that she needed to come home and take care of Rosco ( Her 3 year old Pit bull)

Her Mom said when she got hom Rosco was on the ground shaking and not really moving, he was breathing and panting. Sarah rushed home.

She said she would call me. I texted her to check in about 5 she texted me back with "its not good, Ill call you when I can"

Well I just got a text from her, "hes gone" she then texted me that the Vet said he had a seizure and probably couldnt get to his water, his temp was 107 and it caused brain damage.

I am not sure what happened. I know that she leaves him outside when she is at work, I know it was about 100 today. I know she gives him shade, food and water..

I am so sad for her, I dont even know what to tell her or how I support her. I want to get her some flowers and a card... Is that too much? Ive never really had to deal with a friend loosing a pet so I am not sure what I should do?

Thoughts?

BabyGirl Rosie · 09-07-2011, 06:18 PM

Oh my gosh how sad. I am so sorry this has happened to your friend. Poor baby. RIP Rosco. I have sent cards to friends that have lost pets. They are part of my family and I know others feel the same way. I think a card is just fine to do in this situation. As far as what to tell her, really all I can think of is telling her how sorry you are and that you are there for her if she needs you. When I lost my Beagles I just had to work it out. I had to cry and cry to make it better for me. I still cry thinking about them. I really don't think you ever forget about a pet that you love. But time does heal wounds and it will get better for her. Just be there for her. I think that is the best thing you can do.

jadabug · 09-07-2011, 06:22 PM

Oh no, I am so sorry for your friend. RIP Rosco

One of my co-workers lost her 14 year old lab last year to old age. I gave her a card and she later told me that it really helped her to know that I knew how much Bobo meant to her, that he wasn't just a dog.

Princess10 · 09-07-2011, 06:27 PM

I am so sorry for your friend. That has to be unimaginable pain.

I agree with others, the cards they make for pet loss are very touching or you can even write something in a blank card. I've bought a couple for friends & my parents even before I owned a dog and it meant a lot that I seemed to know what their pet meant to them. I think the biggest thing is people need to feel validated for grieving the loss of a beloved pet and feel supported in doing so.

Nancy1999 · 09-07-2011, 06:30 PM

It's kind of you to want to help your friend, but when she's doing better I hope you tell her that dogs don't take the heat as well as humans. Dogs don't perspire like humans do, sweating is a very efficient way for humans to cool off, but dogs can't do this and only cool off by panting, which makes them lose lots of water, for with each breath you lose a little moisture. My guess is this dog suffered terribly before it died, and I hope you can be a good enough friend to prevent this from happening again. Very sad situation, and you will have to handle it with kid gloves.

RachelandSadie · 09-07-2011, 06:42 PM

I'm really sorry this happened. I hope you can teach her about heat stroke in dogs for next time. Especially with bully breeds who have a hard time getting good air with their bracheslaphalic faces. I'm so sorry for the loss and send my condolences and hugs to you and your friend. I think a card and flowers is defin a good gesture of love and sympathy.

Sandysbabies · 09-07-2011, 07:45 PM

I am so sorry about Roscoe. I know your friend must be devastated. I know she would appreciate the flowers and a card very much. It just helps to have someone who cares and that you can talk too. So many people just don't understand and think well it was just a dog. No, he wasn't just a dog, he was family. Glad she has you to talk too.

lovespandp · 09-07-2011, 08:29 PM

Thank you guys, I just got home. I went and got her a card with an amazing boquet of red roses in a glass vase. I know Roscoe was very much loved by her. At work we would tell our doggy stories to eachother. Right now I could never talk to her about the safety cautions with dogs and heat, like Nancy says I need to put some gloves on and take it easy with her. I know she is in deep greif and she is very much hurting. I know she ran him to the vet and tried everything she could to save him! Right now I need just to be there for her and let her know it is ok to be upset.

roseylovestosho · 09-07-2011, 08:30 PM

I agree with everything said above. People who do not have pets do not realize the love we have for these little ones...chances are that not a lot of people will understand her pain like you do so a card is nice. If you have any way of getting a picture of her dog and perhaps framing it for her would be a nice gesture too.

lovespandp · 09-07-2011, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Nancy1999

It's kind of you to want to help your friend, but when she's doing better I hope you tell her that dogs don't take the heat as well as humans. Dogs don't perspire like humans do, sweating is a very efficient way for humans to cool off, but dogs can't do this and only cool off by panting, which makes them lose lots of water, for with each breath you lose a little moisture. My guess is this dog suffered terribly before it died, and I hope you can be a good enough friend to prevent this from happening again. Very sad situation, and you will have to handle it with kid gloves.

In time I will talk to her. Right now I am her support. This happened so sudden for her, I think it has taught her the hard way. I believe he suffered horrible as well it is very sad. I think if she knew about the risks of leaving him outside she would have maybe kept him inside... I'm honestly not sure. Now I feel its my fault, if I knew he was outside in this heat and was not able to get in the house I would have talked to her.

Sigh...

lovespandp · 09-07-2011, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by roseylovestosho

I agree with everything said above. People who do not have pets do not realize the love we have for these little ones...chances are that not a lot of people will understand her pain like you do so a card is nice. If you have any way of getting a picture of her dog and perhaps framing it for her would be a nice gesture too.

I made a little letter type thing, I put in memory of roscoe and I found this pic of a painting that looks 100% like him ( kinda crazy how it worked out) then I found a loss of a dog poem and put that under in blue cursive print. I think she will like it.

roseylovestosho · 09-07-2011, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by lovespandp

I made a little letter type thing, I put in memory of roscoe and I found this pic of a painting that looks 100% like him ( kinda crazy how it worked out) then I found a loss of a dog poem and put that under in blue cursive print. I think she will like it.

Thank you for being there for a friend in a time of need. Not a lot of people would do that for someone. Your friend is lucky to have you.

107barney · 09-07-2011, 09:35 PM

No one knows if the heat caused this. Perhaps the dog had a seizure disorder that owner was not aware of which broke into cluster seizures which could cause the temperature to be that high and result in death. I am a pretty direct person so I'm sure I'd tell her what I thought of keeping the dog outside in general, and especially in the heat, but I'd be careful not to place blame on her for what may have been entirely due to fate and not neglect. It is a sad situation for her and for the dog and for you as her friend. I think your gestures to express your friendship and sympathy were very thoughtful and I'm sure she will greatly appreciate them.

lovespandp · 09-07-2011, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by 107barney

No one knows if the heat caused this. Perhaps the dog had a seizure disorder that owner was not aware of which broke into cluster seizures which could cause the temperature to be that high and result in death. I am a pretty direct person so I'm sure I'd tell her what I thought of keeping the dog outside in general, and especially in the heat, but I'd be careful not to place blame on her for what may have been entirely due to fate and not neglect. It is a sad situation for her and for the dog and for you as her friend. I think your gestures to express your friendship and sympathy were very thoughtful and I'm sure she will greatly appreciate them.

No matter the cause, she lost a dear friend. That's all that matters is I'm there for her.
I agree with you.

AbbysMom08 · 09-07-2011, 10:10 PM

I am so sorry for your friends loss. It's always so hard to lose one of our furbabies. Right now, just be the good friend that you are. Be there if she wants to talk, sit with her if she wants and just support her. This is so heart breaking. God bless you for being such a good friend.

09-07-2011, 06:02 PM	#1
lovespandp ♥Momma's Bambino♥ Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Ca Posts: 10,026	My heart is broken for my friend. My friend from work got a call from her Mom, Her Mom said that she needed to come home and take care of Rosco ( Her 3 year old Pit bull) Her Mom said when she got hom Rosco was on the ground shaking and not really moving, he was breathing and panting. Sarah rushed home. She said she would call me. I texted her to check in about 5 she texted me back with "its not good, Ill call you when I can" Well I just got a text from her, "hes gone" she then texted me that the Vet said he had a seizure and probably couldnt get to his water, his temp was 107 and it caused brain damage. I am not sure what happened. I know that she leaves him outside when she is at work, I know it was about 100 today. I know she gives him shade, food and water.. I am so sad for her, I dont even know what to tell her or how I support her. I want to get her some flowers and a card... Is that too much? Ive never really had to deal with a friend loosing a pet so I am not sure what I should do? Thoughts? __________________ "People with nothing to hide don't usually feel the need to say so."

09-07-2011, 06:18 PM	#2
BabyGirl Rosie I ♥ my girls! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: With My Yorkies Posts: 18,980	Oh my gosh how sad. I am so sorry this has happened to your friend. Poor baby. RIP Rosco. I have sent cards to friends that have lost pets. They are part of my family and I know others feel the same way. I think a card is just fine to do in this situation. As far as what to tell her, really all I can think of is telling her how sorry you are and that you are there for her if she needs you. When I lost my Beagles I just had to work it out. I had to cry and cry to make it better for me. I still cry thinking about them. I really don't think you ever forget about a pet that you love. But time does heal wounds and it will get better for her. Just be there for her. I think that is the best thing you can do. __________________ Momma to three sweet Yorkie girls Rosie Marie, Mikki Leigh , and Lily Mae Grace!

09-07-2011, 06:22 PM	#3
jadabug Jada + Bogie = ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Mayberry AKA smalltown usa Posts: 24,078	Oh no, I am so sorry for your friend. RIP Rosco One of my co-workers lost her 14 year old lab last year to old age. I gave her a card and she later told me that it really helped her to know that I knew how much Bobo meant to her, that he wasn't just a dog. __________________ Michelle, Jada and Bogie

09-07-2011, 06:27 PM	#4
Princess10 Banning Queen Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Home of the Kalamazoo Wings, MI. Posts: 3,122	I am so sorry for your friend. That has to be unimaginable pain. I agree with others, the cards they make for pet loss are very touching or you can even write something in a blank card. I've bought a couple for friends & my parents even before I owned a dog and it meant a lot that I seemed to know what their pet meant to them. I think the biggest thing is people need to feel validated for grieving the loss of a beloved pet and feel supported in doing so. __________________ For The Night Is Dark & Full Of Terriers

09-07-2011, 06:30 PM	#5
Nancy1999 I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 25,396 Blog Entries: 2	It's kind of you to want to help your friend, but when she's doing better I hope you tell her that dogs don't take the heat as well as humans. Dogs don't perspire like humans do, sweating is a very efficient way for humans to cool off, but dogs can't do this and only cool off by panting, which makes them lose lots of water, for with each breath you lose a little moisture. My guess is this dog suffered terribly before it died, and I hope you can be a good enough friend to prevent this from happening again. Very sad situation, and you will have to handle it with kid gloves. __________________ NancyJoey Proud members of the CrAzYcLuB and YAP! ** Just Say No to Puppymills – Join YAP! Yorkshire Terrier Club of America – Breeder Referrals

09-07-2011, 06:42 PM	#6
RachelandSadie No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 5,748	I'm really sorry this happened. I hope you can teach her about heat stroke in dogs for next time. Especially with bully breeds who have a hard time getting good air with their bracheslaphalic faces. I'm so sorry for the loss and send my condolences and hugs to you and your friend. I think a card and flowers is defin a good gesture of love and sympathy.

09-07-2011, 07:45 PM	#7
Sandysbabies YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 2,234	I am so sorry about Roscoe. I know your friend must be devastated. I know she would appreciate the flowers and a card very much. It just helps to have someone who cares and that you can talk too. So many people just don't understand and think well it was just a dog. No, he wasn't just a dog, he was family. Glad she has you to talk too.

09-07-2011, 08:29 PM	#8
lovespandp ♥Momma's Bambino♥ Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Ca Posts: 10,026	Thank you guys, I just got home. I went and got her a card with an amazing boquet of red roses in a glass vase. I know Roscoe was very much loved by her. At work we would tell our doggy stories to eachother. Right now I could never talk to her about the safety cautions with dogs and heat, like Nancy says I need to put some gloves on and take it easy with her. I know she is in deep greif and she is very much hurting. I know she ran him to the vet and tried everything she could to save him! Right now I need just to be there for her and let her know it is ok to be upset. __________________ "People with nothing to hide don't usually feel the need to say so."

09-07-2011, 08:30 PM	#9
roseylovestosho Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: #4 PRIVET DRIVE Posts: 1,685	I agree with everything said above. People who do not have pets do not realize the love we have for these little ones...chances are that not a lot of people will understand her pain like you do so a card is nice. If you have any way of getting a picture of her dog and perhaps framing it for her would be a nice gesture too. __________________

09-07-2011, 09:35 PM	#13
107barney T. Bumpkins & Co. Donating YT Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: New England Posts: 9,816	No one knows if the heat caused this. Perhaps the dog had a seizure disorder that owner was not aware of which broke into cluster seizures which could cause the temperature to be that high and result in death. I am a pretty direct person so I'm sure I'd tell her what I thought of keeping the dog outside in general, and especially in the heat, but I'd be careful not to place blame on her for what may have been entirely due to fate and not neglect. It is a sad situation for her and for the dog and for you as her friend. I think your gestures to express your friendship and sympathy were very thoughtful and I'm sure she will greatly appreciate them. __________________ T. Bumpkins & Co. Washable Doggie Pee Pads (Save 10% Enter YTSAVE10 at checkout) Cathy, Teddy, Winston and Baby Clyde...RIP angels Barney and Daisy

09-07-2011, 10:10 PM	#15
AbbysMom08 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Illinois Posts: 2,268	I am so sorry for your friends loss. It's always so hard to lose one of our furbabies. Right now, just be the good friend that you are. Be there if she wants to talk, sit with her if she wants and just support her. This is so heart breaking. God bless you for being such a good friend. __________________ Jan, Mommy to Abby