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08-10-2005, 11:30 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005 Location: palestine, tx
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| what would you do? my husband and i got in a huge fight cause he says im wayyyyy to overprotective of my 4 year old daughter. he scheduled her a dentist appt. and called me and told me about it after he scheduled, well i got mad and made him cancel cause the dentist doesnt allow parents in the room while he is working on them. when i took my daughter to the dentist before i had to sign a paper saying that if need be the dentist can use a firm tone with the children if they get out of hand, well thats understandable i wouldnt mind, but for them to say they dont allow parents in the same room with a 4 year old is kind of strange to me. the way the world is today i dont trust strange men in a room by himself with my 4 year old who doesnt know what to do or say if she gets mistreated of molested. well i guess what im trying to say is am i out of hand, am i making a big deal out of nothing? i just dont think it's ok for my daughter to be there alone with him even if his assistant is there. i just feel it is wrong and what is the big deal anyway why cant i be in there with her?
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08-10-2005, 11:42 PM | #2 |
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| Hate to say it but I would be telling that dentist to go to hell. I am in the room for everything for my boys except for the boy part stuff and then I make my dad go with them. But either way they are never without a parent or grandparent. Your little girl is only 4. If she doesn't have mommy or daddy in there she is going to be scared. And how do you know that they aren't going to threaten her or something if she gets out of line?? Im sorry, I am overprotective too and I trust NO ONE with my kids. Stick to your guns. |
08-10-2005, 11:47 PM | #3 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005 Location: palestine, tx
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| thanks well that makes me feel better that im not the only one who feels this way. i just feel bad cause it was a really huge fight it jus escalated really quick and we hardly ever fight. i dont like fighting wiht my husband but dammit when he's wrong he's wrong, and i am already looking for anohter dentist.
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08-10-2005, 11:50 PM | #4 |
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| Sometimes men just dont understand stuff like that. Seriously though, there is no reason why you shouldnt be in the room with her. |
08-11-2005, 12:04 AM | #5 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Grants Pass, Oregon
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| I remember that my mom was never in the room with me and my childhood dentist (I don't know if it was her choice or his), and he was supposedly so "kid friendly" that he didn't give novocaine shots beacuse it might hurt. Well, his alternative was to make us drink some nasty syrup that was supposed to put us out (didn't work) and then strap us down to the chair so we couldn't move. I didn't tell my mom about it for years, and thank god this man has retired now, but I was left with some pretty major "dentist issues" after that. My point is: it is up to you to make sure your daughter is taken care of, and if this jerk dentist doesn't understand that, then find one who does! Any good children's dentists would agree with you. ~H |
08-11-2005, 03:22 AM | #6 |
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| No way I would let my daughter go in alone. Not only from the point something bad might happen to her, but from the point that at 4 years old you need your mom. I'd change dentists. |
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08-11-2005, 05:18 AM | #8 |
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| First off what's up with that dentist?! I have a 4 year old daughter and there's no way in He&% I'd leave her side. Not so much because I didn't trust the dentist but she would be hysterical if I wasn't with her! Sorry about the fight but you are right!
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08-11-2005, 05:31 AM | #9 |
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| I don't have kids but i still understand how you're feeling, but i remember as a kid my mom was always in the room with for dentist, doctor, eye doctor anything. And I was allowed in the room with her for all of the above too expect for annuals. I think it's weird they would make you sign some kind of form and not let you in the room that would really creep me out. As far as you and your husband try and let things settle. Say you're sorry and try to calmly explain why it made you so upset. Sometimes men just don't get it. I freak out all the time and my husband things I'm nuts, but after I explain myself calmly he still thinks I'm nuts, but he adheres to my wishes because it important to me even if he thinks it's weird or crazy.
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08-11-2005, 05:39 AM | #10 |
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| I agree with you 100%. Never trust any professional that refuses to allow you to be with your child, when children are ready, they will ask you not to go in with them. Until that time comes you need to be there. If the dentist refused to work with you and compromise then you need to find another. I realize that sometimes parents can get pushy and overprotective, but it's the professionals JOB to deal with that not refuse admittance! You did the right thing and you know it in your heart!
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08-11-2005, 05:47 AM | #11 |
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| I would not allow my 10 year old alone w/ the dentist .... let alone a damn 4 year old! You are 100000000% correct and I completely agree with you.
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08-11-2005, 06:50 AM | #12 |
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| I don't have children yet, but when I do, I would NEVER allow them to be with ANY stranger. You don't know this man! You are definetly not being silly. There is absolutely no reason you shouldn't be able to go into the dentists office with your child. I would be really suspicious about it actually, I mean, what is he doing in there that he doesn't want parents to see?
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08-11-2005, 06:59 AM | #13 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Central NY state
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| Absolutely not- your daugter is nearly a baby! Change that appointment! Ask your husband what he would do if some thing happened to her with no one in the room. You can't trust anyone these day. What if the dentist left the room for a second and someone ran in there and abducted her?! What if the dentist touched her inappropriately? Not to mention that she could just be scared and want a parent in there with her to comfort her. That's the stupidest rule I've ever heard. |
08-11-2005, 08:19 AM | #14 |
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| You are 100% in the right. I would NEVER let my son in a situation like that alone. What kind of dentist does not allow parents in anyway? I hate to have to say this, but we live in an imperfect world with a lot of sick people. Why take any chances with the safety and well-being of your children? |
08-11-2005, 08:26 AM | #15 |
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| I was told this by my son's dentist as well. They feel the child would be more likely to be upset and act up if the mother is there. I told the dentist that I WILL be in the room or I will find another dentist. And that was that! My son is way too scared to go through that alone and I am his parent. I will not let a dentist tell me I can't be with him. |
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