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tw4sw · 08-11-2005, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by babyparis

my husband and i got in a huge fight cause he says im wayyyyy to overprotective of my 4 year old daughter. he scheduled her a dentist appt. and called me and told me about it after he scheduled, well i got mad and made him cancel cause the dentist doesnt allow parents in the room while he is working on them. when i took my daughter to the dentist before i had to sign a paper saying that if need be the dentist can use a firm tone with the children if they get out of hand, well thats understandable i wouldnt mind, but for them to say they dont allow parents in the same room with a 4 year old is kind of strange to me. the way the world is today i dont trust strange men in a room by himself with my 4 year old who doesnt know what to do or say if she gets mistreated of molested. well i guess what im trying to say is am i out of hand, am i making a big deal out of nothing? i just dont think it's ok for my daughter to be there alone with him even if his assistant is there. i just feel it is wrong and what is the big deal anyway why cant i be in there with her?

I agree with you. What's the big deal with letting the parent stay with the child? It is comforting to the child and seems to me they will behave better that way. Duhhhh!!

schatzie · 08-11-2005, 08:50 AM

She's your daughter and of course you have such warranted concerns about being alone with the dentist.

I am sure when the "heat of the fight" simmers down you and your hubby can discuss your concerns and it will all work out fine.

The visit to the dentist for your daughter should be a pleasant one so she doesn't harbor worries and bad memories, so finding a great dentist is so very important for her.

lynette · 08-11-2005, 08:55 AM

I don't think your in the wrong at all! Now a days, you can never be too careful. My dentist allows parents in the room with the child, I never heard of that before. I would be looking for a new dentist.

babyparis · 08-11-2005, 12:53 PM

well i already found another dentist. but like i said before it sounded so wierd that he didnt even allow parents in at all thats even for a 1 year old. thats a bunch of bull and for the mothers and fathers out there who do let a 1 year old in there bythemselves i feel sorry for their children. i have always been afraid of leaving my daughter with daycare or even friends just because i dont trust men. i was always taught to keep my guard up when it comes to my children. my mother was molested when she was a young girl and always made sure the same wouldnt happen to me. it's so dumb because when i wheni went to the dentist they asked if i wanted my husband in the room with me. i know in my heart that i am right and noone is going to change my mind no matter how many fights i get into with my husband.

PinkMartini · 08-11-2005, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by ReconsMomma

Hate to say it but I would be telling that dentist to go to hell. I am in the room for everything for my boys except for the boy part stuff and then I make my dad go with them. But either way they are never without a parent or grandparent. Your little girl is only 4. If she doesn't have mommy or daddy in there she is going to be scared. And how do you know that they aren't going to threaten her or something if she gets out of line??

Im sorry, I am overprotective too and I trust NO ONE with my kids.

Stick to your guns.

I don't have kids (yet) but I totally agree.

sophiedog · 08-11-2005, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by babyparis

well i already found another dentist. but like i said before it sounded so wierd that he didnt even allow parents in at all thats even for a 1 year old. thats a bunch of bull and for the mothers and fathers out there who do let a 1 year old in there bythemselves i feel sorry for their children. i have always been afraid of leaving my daughter with daycare or even friends just because i dont trust men. i was always taught to keep my guard up when it comes to my children. my mother was molested when she was a young girl and always made sure the same wouldnt happen to me. it's so dumb because when i wheni went to the dentist they asked if i wanted my husband in the room with me. i know in my heart that i am right and noone is going to change my mind no matter how many fights i get into with my husband.

Yeah for you! NO ONE is like a mommy, that maternal instict takes over and it's usually right. You will fight for your child like no one else and you have every right to do so to protect your baby. Dentists are a dime a dozen, children aren't!

chachi · 08-11-2005, 01:25 PM

I agree with you and would find another dentist that lets you stay in the room.

Latuya · 08-11-2005, 02:08 PM

Ok I have mixed feelings about this. For those parents who have kids like my Val, who is very much a mommy's girl. The kind of kid that knows mommy will make the dentest stop working if it looks like she is uncomfortable in anyway.

The last denest visit she really carried on. So the dentest told me that if she didn't stop he was going to have to ask me to leave so he can finish working on her. I made him stop and called one of the nurses and asked her to call my husband who was waiting in the lobby. With everyone standing there I told the dr. if I can't be there with her then my husband will. And if he had a problem with that, then we will have to take her else where.

With my husband there she was a perfact little angel. And didn't fuss at all. And would you know, when she came out of the back she came running to me crying. So sometimes these dentest have to deal with kids like my Val and it's hard to work when the are fussing and crying because their perents are there.

On the other hand, I do understand you getting up set with your husband I would be upset if mine just went and picked a dentest and made an appointment without telling me about it. And to have that dentest say no parents allowed. I would wouldn't be too happy especially if the kid was only 4. I would stay clear of dentest told me that!

Kelz · 08-11-2005, 02:53 PM

I think that if you want to go back there you should be able to! I've been to quite a few dentist and i've never heard of anything like that !

lily · 08-11-2005, 03:10 PM

Well tell your hubby there is alot of over proteicive (sp) moms here! Find another! lily

babyparis · 08-11-2005, 10:46 PM

thanks everyone im going to print this out and show it to him lets see how he feels after he reads it. lol i bet he's not going to think im the only overprotective mother.

08-11-2005, 08:50 AM	#17
schatzie *Moderator Emeritus* Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Tontitown Arkansas Posts: 4,909	She's your daughter and of course you have such warranted concerns about being alone with the dentist. I am sure when the "heat of the fight" simmers down you and your hubby can discuss your concerns and it will all work out fine. The visit to the dentist for your daughter should be a pleasant one so she doesn't harbor worries and bad memories, so finding a great dentist is so very important for her. __________________ ~~~~ Schatzie and Ransom ~~~~

08-11-2005, 12:53 PM	#19
babyparis Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005 Location: palestine, tx Posts: 145	well i already found another dentist. but like i said before it sounded so wierd that he didnt even allow parents in at all thats even for a 1 year old. thats a bunch of bull and for the mothers and fathers out there who do let a 1 year old in there bythemselves i feel sorry for their children. i have always been afraid of leaving my daughter with daycare or even friends just because i dont trust men. i was always taught to keep my guard up when it comes to my children. my mother was molested when she was a young girl and always made sure the same wouldnt happen to me. it's so dumb because when i wheni went to the dentist they asked if i wanted my husband in the room with me. i know in my heart that i am right and noone is going to change my mind no matter how many fights i get into with my husband. __________________ *Momma to Angel Bella*

08-11-2005, 01:25 PM	#22
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	I agree with you and would find another dentist that lets you stay in the room. __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

08-11-2005, 02:08 PM	#23
Latuya YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Rialto CA Posts: 3,243	Ok I have mixed feelings about this. For those parents who have kids like my Val, who is very much a mommy's girl. The kind of kid that knows mommy will make the dentest stop working if it looks like she is uncomfortable in anyway. The last denest visit she really carried on. So the dentest told me that if she didn't stop he was going to have to ask me to leave so he can finish working on her. I made him stop and called one of the nurses and asked her to call my husband who was waiting in the lobby. With everyone standing there I told the dr. if I can't be there with her then my husband will. And if he had a problem with that, then we will have to take her else where. With my husband there she was a perfact little angel. And didn't fuss at all. And would you know, when she came out of the back she came running to me crying. So sometimes these dentest have to deal with kids like my Val and it's hard to work when the are fussing and crying because their perents are there. On the other hand, I do understand you getting up set with your husband I would be upset if mine just went and picked a dentest and made an appointment without telling me about it. And to have that dentest say no parents allowed. I would wouldn't be too happy especially if the kid was only 4. I would stay clear of dentest told me that! __________________ Monica, Proud mom of Gus who is forever missed! And new mom to Leiloni Gus's Dogster page

08-11-2005, 02:53 PM	#24
Kelz YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Yukon, ok Posts: 2,885	I think that if you want to go back there you should be able to! I've been to quite a few dentist and i've never heard of anything like that ! __________________ Kelly- momma to Parker, Star,Zoe, & Kegan.. RIP Silly Lily OK Yorkie Rescue - http://okyorkierescue.org

08-11-2005, 08:55 AM	#18
lynette Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 104	I don't think your in the wrong at all! Now a days, you can never be too careful. My dentist allows parents in the room with the child, I never heard of that before. I would be looking for a new dentist.

08-11-2005, 03:10 PM	#25
lily YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: paris crossing,indiana Posts: 377	Well tell your hubby there is alot of over proteicive (sp) moms here! Find another! lily

08-11-2005, 10:46 PM	#26
babyparis Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005 Location: palestine, tx Posts: 145	thanks everyone im going to print this out and show it to him lets see how he feels after he reads it. lol i bet he's not going to think im the only overprotective mother. __________________ *Momma to Angel Bella*