YorkieTalk.com Forums - Yorkshire Terrier Community


Welcome to the YorkieTalk.com Forums Community - the community for Yorkshire Terriers.

You are currently viewing our boards as a guest which gives you limited access to view most discussions and access our other features. By joining our free community you will have access to post topics, communicate privately with other members (PM), respond to polls, upload content and access many other special features. You will be able to chat with over 35,000 YorkieTalk members, read over 2,000,000 posted discussions, and view more than 15,000 Yorkie photos in the YorkieTalk Photo Gallery after you register. We would love to have you as a member!

Registration is fast, simple and absolutely free so please, join our community today!

If you have any problems with the registration process or your account login, please click here to contact us.

Go Back   YorkieTalk.com Forums - Yorkshire Terrier Community > All Else > Off Topic Discussions
Register Blogs FAQ Calendar JavaChat Mark Forums Read

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 07-19-2005, 06:28 PM   #1
Luna_Bug's Chew Toy
Donating YT Addict
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Tulsa
Posts: 1,199
Angry Venting again Chubby Prejudice

Ya know i am tired of the chubby prejudice that goes on in this world. We wonder why our young children are developing eating disorders but hello the media shoves down our throat that we must be thin to be "beautiful". Then there is the clothing industries oh yeah they make plus size clothes but most of them ARENT VERY CUTE i am 26 and i usually have a choice between something that looks like an 80 yr old would wear it or something a 16yr old would wear. I know 200 lbs is bigger than average and I DONT CARE i deserve to be treated like anyone else no matter how much i weigh.
__________________

"some people without brains do an awful lot of talking dont they?"
lycansmom is offline   Reply With Quote
Welcome Guest!
Not Registered?

Join today and remove this ad!

Old 07-19-2005, 06:36 PM   #2
BANNED!
 
ReconsMomma's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Janesville WI
Posts: 2,483
Default

I agree with you. A person shouldn't be treated because of the way they look on the outside. Its what is inside that counts. I am sorry that you were treated like this.

Just remember....Recon Preslee Memphis and I still luv ya cause you are part of our YT family.


Did you smile at least, cause that was what i was going for?? If not, SMILE DAMN IT!!!!
ReconsMomma is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 06:37 PM   #3
Luna_Bug's Chew Toy
Donating YT Addict
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Tulsa
Posts: 1,199
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by ReconsMomma
I agree with you. A person shouldn't be treated because of the way they look on the outside. Its what is inside that counts. I am sorry that you were treated like this.

Just remember....Recon Preslee Memphis and I still luv ya cause you are part of our YT family.


Did you smile at least, cause that was what i was going for?? If not, SMILE DAMN IT!!!!
Yeah i smiled...doesnt get to me like it used to just get on a soap box occasionally.
__________________

"some people without brains do an awful lot of talking dont they?"
lycansmom is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 06:39 PM   #4
BANNED!
 
ReconsMomma's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Janesville WI
Posts: 2,483
Default

Oh i know, I get on my soap box more than I should I think. So have at it. I just wanted to make ya smile. Thats all.....


Carry on...........LOL
ReconsMomma is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 06:47 PM   #5
Mom loves Gucci
Donating Member
 
Marie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: New York City
Posts: 6,427
Default

Angie, I understand how you feel more than you may think. Im also over weigh. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome. If I happen to say that Im not feeling well, everyone tells me the same think, Loose weight and you will feel better. I wish it was that simple. Im even considering to have a gastric bypass surgery done. Dont pay attention. You are so rite we all deserve to be treated like anybody else. What it counts is the inside not the outside. Anytime you need to vent, im here.
__________________
Huggies, Gucci and Marie
http://www.dogster.com/?132187
"I have been egged"
Marie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 06:55 PM   #6
Luna_Bug's Chew Toy
Donating YT Addict
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Tulsa
Posts: 1,199
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Marie
Angie, I understand how you feel more than you may think. Im also over weigh. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome. If I happen to say that Im not feeling well, everyone tells me the same think, Loose weight and you will feel better. I wish it was that simple. Im even considering to have a gastric bypass surgery done. Dont pay attention. You are so rite we all deserve to be treated like anybody else. What it counts is the inside not the outside. Anytime you need to vent, im here.
Thanks Marie its good to vent. I had the vertical banded gastroplasty done 2yrs ago in june and have lost 75lbs it helps but now i have been diagnosed with bursitis in both of my hips. guess i was heavy for too long we are going to try physical therapy but if that doesnt work i have to get steroid shots.
__________________

"some people without brains do an awful lot of talking dont they?"
lycansmom is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 07:09 PM   #7
Linus - Master & Commander
Donating Member
 
brosie1823's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: Norman, OK
Posts: 917
Default

I know! When I go into some stores and look at the clothes, all I can think is that I will look like my grandma's couch if I were to wear some of the things! Big girls are beautiful too! I'm just glad that there are some companies that have wised up and are offering trendy clothes in sizes that will fit people like me. I look cute again! I know it's not healthy, but I will always be big.

And I think that some people don't understand that it's not as easy for us to do things like exercise because of our weight. It is a double bind. We want to be thin, but it's hard to do the things we need to in order to be thin. That makes people depressed. When a lot of womyn are depressed, they eat. That makes us bigger, and thus more depressed. And then your told you are too fat, which makes you depressed. UGH!

And I hate getting looks at the lake because I am a bigger girl in a swimsuit! It's not like I'm in a string bikini! I'm wearing more than most people there, and refuse to wear a t-shirt. It's just a little chub people!

Wow, I didn't realize this was going to be that long. Sorry but I got on a roll
__________________
Linus on Dogsterhttp://www.dogster.com/?150058
Lucy on Dogster http://www.dogster.com/?150061
Check out our bows! www.littledogbows.com
brosie1823 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 07:15 PM   #8
BANNED!
 
SoCalyorkiLvr's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Posts: 8,246
Default

I am in total agreement on this one. There are high metabolisms that some are blessed with and not so high metabolisms and it is alot in what cards you were dealt. Your genes. It is so unfair to assume that someone who is overweight is "bad" or overeats or what ever. That is such a prejudiced way to think.

There is weight prejudice in business, in schools and everywhere in society and it isn't fair. I have three girls and I was always paranoid that they would develop an eating disorder. I have been lucky so far. They are beautiful girls and I am so proud of them. I want them to be fit and healthy but not obsessed with body image and weight.

The current celebrity trend of "you can't be toooo thin" is disgusting to me. Those women do not look healthy. It's so scary!
SoCalyorkiLvr is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 07:32 PM   #9
Mom loves Gucci
Donating Member
 
Marie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: New York City
Posts: 6,427
Default

I agreed. Is like if your not spagetti thin you are not consider pretty. I have heard many times, "you have such a pretty face if you loose weight you will be so beautiful". I hate that so much. Just beacuse im not thin im not pretty. Oh well, this is me.
I hate to go shopping cause of it. Everyone looks at you up and down. Cause of it I do most of my clothing shopping online.
Finally there are more trendy clothes in plus sizes.
Well im also dx with chronic depression. And you are so rite when Im very depress I tend to eat. I had control myself a lot cause one time i ate 5 kit kats in one seating and i didnt even notice until I was done.
__________________
Huggies, Gucci and Marie
http://www.dogster.com/?132187
"I have been egged"
Marie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 07:32 PM   #10
Owned by Fred
 
natalie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Dallas, TX
Posts: 1,352
Default

I completely agree!
The media has a big impact on life and little kids can be very cruel and larger kids are subjected to this which only makes them more of what they are.

When I was in middle school, I weighed 130 at 5'4. It was pretty large for me. My whole entire family is thin. I had zero friends and people who I would befriend were not really my "friends". I was concentrated more on school than anything else because that's all I had to count on. When I got into high school, I was sick of having a double chin and a huge belly so I stopped eating. I would only eat once a day and it was rat-portions. I would pretty much starve myself The media and all the thin celebrities, thin cheerleaders, and thin people in general made me want to be them.

By the time I was 17, I was 5'6 and weighed in at mid 90lbs. I still thought I was fat. So, I cut back even more. I stopped drinking Coke, I stopped eating. The only thing I would eat was rice and soysauce. Or, a roll of French Bread.

I developed anemia, hypo-thyroidism and I am borderline diabetic.

I think I went through that stage where I wanted to fit in. And, it was the media's fault for me. Flipping through those magazines seeing all those girls wearing nice fitted outfits. I pretty much wanted to be them.

Now I'm almost 21 and realize that it's not about image at all. I am 5'7 and weigh in at 110. I finally come to realize that I should love me for me. As my boyfriend puts it.. "you're just happy and well-fed".
natalie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 09:36 PM   #11
Oreo,Ginger&Cloey Owned
Donating Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: none of your business
Posts: 1,270
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by natalie
I completely agree!
The media has a big impact on life and little kids can be very cruel and larger kids are subjected to this which only makes them more of what they are.

When I was in middle school, I weighed 130 at 5'4. It was pretty large for me. My whole entire family is thin. I had zero friends and people who I would befriend were not really my "friends". I was concentrated more on school than anything else because that's all I had to count on. When I got into high school, I was sick of having a double chin and a huge belly so I stopped eating. I would only eat once a day and it was rat-portions. I would pretty much starve myself The media and all the thin celebrities, thin cheerleaders, and thin people in general made me want to be them.

By the time I was 17, I was 5'6 and weighed in at mid 90lbs. I still thought I was fat. So, I cut back even more. I stopped drinking Coke, I stopped eating. The only thing I would eat was rice and soysauce. Or, a roll of French Bread.

I developed anemia, hypo-thyroidism and I am borderline diabetic.

I think I went through that stage where I wanted to fit in. And, it was the media's fault for me. Flipping through those magazines seeing all those girls wearing nice fitted outfits. I pretty much wanted to be them.

Now I'm almost 21 and realize that it's not about image at all. I am 5'7 and weigh in at 110. I finally come to realize that I should love me for me. As my boyfriend puts it.. "you're just happy and well-fed".
that was very well said.. i never knew that Natalie!!

But i have to agree with everyone here.. The Media has so much influence... i used to be toothpick skinny as well.. when i was a freshman in highschool i was 5'0 (still am haha).. and almost 90 pounds wearing a double zero..(talk about ewww skinny).. and when I met my boyfriend (that i'm still currently with today).. and gained a LOT of weight.. my own family kind of disowned me.. my mother would call my a fat pig.. blah blah blah.. i had no friends.. .. these so called friends in high school would only use me for my kindness.. so i too only concentrated on my studies..

now i'm 19 still short at 5'0... but lost weight (from 150 to 115).. and sometimes.. people still never think it's enough.. i know i have some extra skin and pudge.. but i'm happy and that's all that ever matters

all though sometimes it does hurt when i can't wear the sexy clothes my peers wear without getting the .. look
Yorkie_GirL is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-20-2005, 02:00 AM   #12
YT Addict
 
Join Date: May 2005
Posts: 367
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by lycansmom
Ya know i am tired of the chubby prejudice that goes on in this world. We wonder why our young children are developing eating disorders but hello the media shoves down our throat that we must be thin to be "beautiful". Then there is the clothing industries oh yeah they make plus size clothes but most of them ARENT VERY CUTE i am 26 and i usually have a choice between something that looks like an 80 yr old would wear it or something a 16yr old would wear. I know 200 lbs is bigger than average and I DONT CARE i deserve to be treated like anyone else no matter how much i weigh.
I completely sympathize. I'm 27 and have battled my weight for years. I go anywhere from a size 10 to a 14/16. I weigh 185 lbs right now and am a size 14. My doctor said that they are now using a BMI chart because the standard government height to weight chart is very inaccurate. According to the gov't chart I should be 110-120 lbs. My doctor said I would be emaciated at that weight due to my build and frame. According to the BMI chart, I should be 140 to 160 lbs.
My dad has always hounded me about my weight. He says my doctor's nuts and that maybe I'd have a boyfriend if I weren't fat. My dad has always been overweight, and he obsesses about it. I know he doesn't mean to hurt me, but the comments are pretty hard to swallow. I probably wouldn't hardly think about my weight it if it weren't for him. It has taught me one thing though....if I ever have kids, I will love them for who they are, not what they look like. And I will tell them that a person's value comes from the kind of person they are, not their body type.
It is the media's fault for our perceptions of what a woman should look like. It's okay for a guy to have a little tummy, but God forbid if a woman isn't rail thin (nothing against thin people--they've been blessed with a great metabolism). And it isn't always the case that an "overweight" person has no self control and can't stop eating. I have relatives that eat several times as much as I do, and they are thin. Genetics certainly play a significant role.
There is so much more to life than what we look like--the world would be a happier the sooner more people realized that and left us "chubby" people alone.
ingallsra is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-20-2005, 02:37 AM   #13
Donating YT 7000 Club Member
 
MeganS's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 12,016
Blog Entries: 1
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by ReconsMomma
If not, SMILE DAMN IT!!!!
LOL!!!! that had me cracking up!!! thanks for the 1st laugh of the day!

I'm sorry that happened. no one should be treated unfairly or different because of how they look. i haven't really met you yet, but you seem like a great person. so i have no reason to judge you any differently, and its the same with everyone else.

ingallsra-there are also the people who can be heavier from genetics. you could eat right, excercise daily, and do all that stuff, and still be heavy. this world today has the wrong idea of a lot of stuff!
__________________
Megan
"I have my dreams, I have made plans." - The Pirate Queen

All Gave Some; Some Gave All

Last edited by MeganS; 07-20-2005 at 02:40 AM.
MeganS is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-20-2005, 02:47 AM   #14
Donating YT 7000 Club Member
 
MeganS's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 12,016
Blog Entries: 1
Default

I wanted to add something to mine. I happen to be a chubby person. Will i ever have an eating disorder? no probably not. why not?-because i love myself for who i am not what i look like. those people in magazines aren't real. would i love to be thin? absoulty but i wouldn't kill myself to do it. i have a lot of friends only a few of them pushed the "issue" on me. guess what? they're not my friends any more. so over all i'm happy with myself.
__________________
Megan
"I have my dreams, I have made plans." - The Pirate Queen

All Gave Some; Some Gave All
MeganS is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-20-2005, 02:57 AM   #15
Yorkie Kisses are the Best!
Donating Member
 
red98vett's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Houston TX
Posts: 33,590
Blog Entries: 1
Default

Deyna & Natalie - I've seen you and your both very pretty ! I can't imagine you having image problems over weight -

Lycansmom....One of my good friends is like you - she goes through the same problems shopping and weight is something always on her mind - I've watched her treated differently by total strangers and it makes me so mad ! It seems women are targeted more than men are and it's VERY unfair.....

I can relate to shopping as I wear a larger size top than average and the "Bigger than a D cup" bras are the UGLIEST things ! You would think the clothing Mfg's would CATER to larger women because skinny really isn't the normal weight in our country - the average woman IS good sized - look around you - you are NOT alone....

We see images on tv of skinny women for clothes but I think THAT trend is changing slowely - there is currently an ad for Hains with normal sized women - made a big debut a few weeks ago - so that's something to be happy about ! It's the same as seeing women in their 20's selling wrinkle cream - what's up with that ? It's crazy !

I think the media is to blame for the obsession in our country to be thin... it's NOT a life or death situation and we really need to remember to make the most of what we DO have and not compare ourselves to what we see on tv - Go to the store and look around - you'll see MANY women out there who are big AND beautiful ....what counts is inside - not the outside...

Good luck to you -
red98vett is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks



Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




Google
 

SHOP NOW: Amazon :: eBay :: Buy.com :: Newegg :: PetStore :: Petco :: PetSmart


All times are GMT -8. The time now is 03:53 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.9
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Copyright ©2003 - 2018 YorkieTalk.com
Privacy Policy - Terms of Use

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 193 194 195 196 197 198 199 200 201 202 203 204 205 206 207 208 209 210 211 212 213 214 215 216 217 218 219 220 221 222 223 224 225 226 227 228 229 230 231 232 233 234 235 236 237 238 239 240 241 242 243 244 245 246 247 248 249 250 251 252 253 254 255 256 257 258 259 260 261 262 263 264 265 266 267 268 269 270 271 272 273 274 275 276 277 278 279 280 281 282 283 284 285 286 287 288 289 290 291 292 293 294 295 296 297 298 299 300 301 302 303 304 305 306 307 308 309 310 311 312 313 314 315 316 317 318 319 320 321 322 323 324 325 326 327 328 329 330 331 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 344 345 346 347 348 349 350 351 352 353 354 355 356 357 358 359 360 361 362 363 364 365 366 367 368 369 370 371 372 373 374 375 376 377 378 379 380 381 382 383 384 385 386 387 388 389 390 391 392 393 394 395 396 397 398 399 400 401 402 403 404 405 406 407 408 409 410 411 412 413 414 415 416 417 418 419 420 421 422 423 424 425 426 427 428 429 430 431 432 433 434 435 436 437 438 439 440 441 442 443 444 445 446 447 448 449 450 451 452 453 454 455 456 457 458 459 460 461 462 463 464 465 466 467 468 469 470 471 472 473 474 475 476 477 478 479 480 481 482 483 484 485 486 487 488 489 490 491 492 493 494 495 496 497 498 499 500 501 502 503 504 505 506 507 508 509 510 511 512 513 514 515 516 517 518 519 520 521 522 523 524 525 526 527 528 529 530 531 532 533 534 535 536 537 538 539 540 541 542 543 544 545 546 547 548 549 550 551 552 553 554 555 556 557 558 559 560 561 562 563 564 565 566 567 568 569 570 571 572 573 574 575 576 577 578 579 580 581 582 583 584 585 586 587 588 589 590 591 592 593 594 595 596 597 598 599 600 601 602 603 604 605 606 607 608 609 610 611 612 613 614 615 616 617 618 619 620 621 622 623 624 625 626 627 628 629 630 631 632 633 634 635 636 637 638 639 640 641 642 643 644 645 646 647 648 649 650 651 652 653 654 655 656 657 658 659 660 661 662 663 664 665 666 667 668 669 670 671 672 673 674 675 676 677 678 679 680 681 682 683 684 685 686 687 688 689 690 691 692 693 694 695 696 697 698 699 700 701 702 703 704 705 706 707 708 709 710 711 712 713 714 715 716 717 718 719 720 721 722 723 724 725 726 727 728 729 730 731 732 733 734 735 736 737 738 739 740 741 742 743 744 745 746 747 748 749 750 751 752 753 754 755 756 757 758 759 760 761 762 763 764 765 766 767 768 769 770 771 772 773 774 775 776 777 778 779 780 781 782 783 784 785 786 787 788 789 790 791 792 793 794 795 796 797 798 799 800 801 802 803 804 805 806 807 808 809 810 811 812 813 814 815 816 817 818 819 820 821 822 823 824 825 826 827 828 829 830 831 832 833 834 835 836 837 838 839 840 841 842 843 844 845 846 847 848 849 850 851 852 853 854 855 856 857 858 859 860 861 862 863 864 865 866 867 868 869 870 871 872 873 874 875 876 877 878 879 880 881 882 883 884 885 886 887 888 889 890 891 892 893 894 895 896 897 898 899 900 901 902 903 904 905 906 907 908 909 910 911 912 913 914 915 916 917 918 919 920 921 922 923 924 925 926 927 928 929 930 931 932 933 934 935 936 937 938 939 940 941 942 943 944 945 946 947 948 949 950 951 952 953 954 955 956 957 958 959 960 961 962 963 964 965 966 967 968 969 970 971 972 973 974 975 976 977 978 979 980 981 982 983 984 985 986 987 988 989 990 991 992 993 994 995 996 997 998 999 1000 1001 1002 1003 1004 1005 1006 1007 1008 1009 1010 1011 1012 1013 1014 1015 1016 1017 1018 1019 1020 1021 1022 1023 1024 1025 1026 1027 1028 1029 1030 1031 1032 1033 1034 1035 1036 1037 1038 1039 1040 1041 1042 1043 1044 1045 1046 1047 1048 1049 1050 1051 1052 1053 1054 1055 1056 1057 1058 1059 1060 1061 1062 1063 1064 1065 1066 1067 1068 1069 1070 1071 1072 1073 1074 1075 1076 1077 1078 1079 1080 1081 1082 1083 1084 1085 1086 1087 1088 1089 1090 1091 1092 1093 1094 1095 1096 1097 1098 1099 1100 1101 1102 1103 1104 1105 1106 1107 1108 1109 1110 1111 1112 1113 1114 1115 1116 1117 1118 1119 1120 1121 1122 1123 1124 1125 1126 1127 1128 1129 1130 1131 1132 1133 1134 1135 1136 1137 1138 1139 1140 1141 1142 1143 1144 1145 1146 1147 1148 1149 1150 1151 1152 1153 1154 1155 1156 1157 1158 1159 1160 1161 1162 1163 1164 1165 1166 1167