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Laura · 07-20-2005, 04:46 AM

There are several nice stores that cater to the 'upper class'. That is where you can find a nicer fashion. It is a little more pricey, but with discriminating taste and big clearances, a nice wardrobe can be acquired.

http://lanebryant.charmingshoppes.com/homelb.asp

We have a lot of these stores around us (I think Dallas is one of the fattest cities in the nation). Catherine's is another - they sell the same clothes as Dillards, just in human sizes.

suzysmitt · 07-20-2005, 05:04 AM

I'm with you all. I use to be super skinny, and then I got sick and had to go on meds. Well the pounds just kept adding on, and I really don't eat that much. Maybe a salad for lunch and a small dinner. People just don't see you the same. I'm the same fun loving person I was at 100lbs. My ex-husband even sent my 19 year old son an email saying I heard your mom is fat. What happened to her. She must look like a cow. My son told him off and hasn't heard from him since. I haven't been near this man in over 18 years and he's going to judge me. Atleast I wasn't a child molester like him. That's the reason I left him.

MeganS · 07-20-2005, 05:17 AM

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Originally Posted by suzysmitt

I'm with you all. I use to be super skinny, and then I got sick and had to go on meds. Well the pounds just kept adding on, and I really don't eat that much. Maybe a salad for lunch and a small dinner. People just don't see you the same. I'm the same fun loving person I was at 100lbs. My ex-husband even sent my 19 year old son an email saying I heard your mom is fat. What happened to her. She must look like a cow. My son told him off and hasn't heard from him since. I haven't been near this man in over 18 years and he's going to judge me. Atleast I wasn't a child molester like him. That's the reason I left him.

wow! what a jerk. your ex not you. its a good think you left him. how could he say that?? your son must be pretty awsome!

sophiedog · 07-20-2005, 05:29 AM

Been on both sides of that fence! When I was young I was 5 feet and weighed 175 pounds, but I was active and limber. Wouldn't take me on the dance team or cheerleading team even though I could do everything the thin girls could do. I was told I just wouldn't look good in the outfits they wore!
I lost the weight, re-tried out for both and then when I made the teams- I QUIT!
Now though, I am too skinny! At 5' 1 I only weight about 90 pounds or so!
Same thing though! All I hear is 'you're too thin', ' do you have an eating disorder', 'you need to put some weight on those bones, you'd look better and feel better' (remember I live in the south, they like meaty women!)
Now, I just tell people that I love them even though they aren't perfect either! And I don't spend my precious time worrying about what weight I should be, I find better things to worry about than my appearance - because guess what? In the end we ALL end up looking exactly the same!
My prayers go out to all of you.

pixiepooh · 07-20-2005, 10:08 AM

I read in a glamour article about a graduate student of Rice University and her colleague going to a clothing store and wearing "fat suits". They compared who gets better service and latter experience was very disappointing. A sales associate even wondered aloud why the overweight would bother going to a store where their sized aren't carried.

This hits home because my mom is a lil bit on the chubby side and I have seen sales lady glaring at her for asking assistance to get a bigger size. My ugly side would always show because nobody deserves to be treated that way!!! I know how much my mom has kept trying to loose the extra weight because she's also diabetic. People are just rude and it makes you question how they were brought up. I'm sorry but good manners and respect starts at home.

sillyjacki · 07-20-2005, 11:38 AM

YEAH RICE UNIVERSITY!

I can definitely relate to you guys by being on the other end of the spectrum. I am really thin but I get judged for it and have a terrible time finding clothes. I used to cry every time I had to buy bras or bikinis or anything. My mom made my clothes for the longest time because I am abnormally proportioned.

I don't think this will apply to many people, but there is a store in Houston (and online) that is a spinoff of Hot Topic called Torrid. They have some really cute things, some t-shirts and pants and things that fit larger sizes and don't look like moomoos.

I always thought it was BS to ignore the larger size market. Big women are some of the most beautiful women out there! One of my big friends calls herself an "Earth mother"... I love that!

vainchick5 · 07-20-2005, 11:39 AM

I have been in ballet for I dunno how long but I started having distorted body image as well. I was bulemic and anhorexic. I wouldn't eat much and whatever I would eat, I would throw it up. I wasn't even over weight. I was 5'4 at 125 which is like average for my age. I am very muscular, but pretty lean, so my muscle weighs more. But all I saw was the skinny 15 year olds in my company that were like 80 lbs and all I wanted was to be like them. It hadn't occured to me that I was like 4 years older, and had breasts and hormones, ect. I was like that for over 6 months before my best friend caught on and made me stop. I was good at conceiling it. I think while media has a big part in this mess, WE make the choices we make. We have to own up to our choices. Eating too much or not eating enough is a choice. We all have to make responsible choices for ourselves. It's definetely easier said than done but 4 years later, I've owned up to my own choice. Yes I wanted to be like the girls on tv and magazines, but no one put a gun to my head. I think it's easy to use a scapegoat, at least for me it was. Now I realize that if I'm not eating enough during the day (which is always the case) I need to eat more. On the days that I feel very much like eating everything in site, I make a conscious decision not to overeat because I'm depressed or stressed out. Now at 24, I'm finally happy at 5'4'' and 118 lbs. But I think people are beautiful the way they are, just as long as they are healthy.

ReconsMomma · 07-20-2005, 11:57 AM

It amazes me going through and reading all the posts here about eating disorders.. And knowing that I am not alone in this. I too have been through the whole rollercoaster of body image issues. I went through it big time in high school. I looked at all the girls that were tall and stick thin and wanted to be like them because they had all the football players hanging on them and caught the eye of every cute guy. I starved myself for awhile and then I went through the stage of binge eating and throwing up. I was in all the sports in school. I was very into competition sports. Ran cross country and track. Made it to state my junior year, I blew out my knee 3 feet from the finish line and I was in the lead. Doctors told me the reason that I had suffered like that was because my body wasn't getting all the nutrition that it needed.
My dad put me in therapy to get over my body issues and it did work to a certain point. I started eating right. I found out some things about myself in therapy that I never would have known otherwise. My mom had just left my dad and us kids (myself and 3 brothers) and wanted nothing to do with us. She was heavy and I wanted to be nothing like her so what my therapist thought is that that is where all my issues began. I was mad at the world at that time and took it out on myself just because I didn't want to be anything like my mom.
To this day I am very very picky about my body. I still dont like to look at my body in the mirror for too long because I find way to many flaws. It took until about 2 years ago for me to even buy a full length mirror for in my house, and I am almost 30.
I work out like crazy now. But I eat right and I am very very careful about taking care of myself. I am 5'2" and 107 lbs. I think whatever issues you have with your body you may always have. But you have to take care of yourself at the same time you are trying to make yourself happy.
I am sorry for all of those who have had to battle with being rideculed (SP) for thier wieght. Media does play a big part in it. We are all beautiful people and that is what we have to remember.

pixiepooh · 07-20-2005, 12:26 PM

I was stick thin growing up. My dad would always make me take vitamins to at least help me gain a lil weight or not look so under-nourished (

). Things started looking up when I hit my teenage years but my weight did fluctuate like crazy. I also went through days not eating anything. I was just water dependent. When I did eat, it was like 4 spoonfuls. When I got married I'd torture him with "Honey, am I fat?" questions. Now that I think about it, I use to ask that every 5 mins.!!!

Now I try to keep a healthy weight because diabetes and high blood pressure runs in the family. My mom went through a week of Coma because her sugar count went up to 500!!! Normal sugar count is 120, I believe. It was scary and the family since then worked with a nutritionist. We were taught about eating small meals every 3 hours. I took care of my mom and prepared the food that she should eat. It was a wake up call. Since then, she's been trying to loose weight and keeping her sugar level in a steady and healthy level.

I applaud everyone who shared. It takes alot to share these things.

vainchick5 · 07-20-2005, 12:31 PM

I agree pixiepoo. I does take a lot of courage to share. I kept deleting my text because only 2 people know about my eating problems in the past. Now it's 2 and some YT members..It felt good to relate though.

ReconsMomma · 07-20-2005, 12:35 PM

I dont ever share things like that with people. My ex boyfriend who I was with for 2 years didnt even know the whole history of me working out. He just thought that I was a fitness freak.

It does feel really good to be able to relate to people like this though. That is why I shared.

i_love_my_yorki · 07-20-2005, 03:40 PM

Its not what you see on the outside,but what is in,

in the inside

Some people judge too much,,,WHy i have no idea,except say they really are not happy with themselves,so they put others down too make them themselves feel good

if you get my drift

sillyjacki · 07-21-2005, 05:40 AM

It makes me so happy to see such a strong support group for YT members. This place can be very safe and comforting!

No matter what, we are all beautiful in the eyes of our furbabies

07-20-2005, 04:46 AM	#16
Laura Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Wylie TX Posts: 1,577	There are several nice stores that cater to the 'upper class'. That is where you can find a nicer fashion. It is a little more pricey, but with discriminating taste and big clearances, a nice wardrobe can be acquired. http://lanebryant.charmingshoppes.com/homelb.asp We have a lot of these stores around us (I think Dallas is one of the fattest cities in the nation). Catherine's is another - they sell the same clothes as Dillards, just in human sizes. __________________ Laura--loving mom of Robyn, Dexter, Sandy, Mattie, Sammy, Jake & Mollie http://www.yorkietalk.com/gallery/sh...00&ppuser=1851

07-20-2005, 05:29 AM	#19
sophiedog YT Addict Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kentucky Posts: 496	Been on both sides of that fence! When I was young I was 5 feet and weighed 175 pounds, but I was active and limber. Wouldn't take me on the dance team or cheerleading team even though I could do everything the thin girls could do. I was told I just wouldn't look good in the outfits they wore! I lost the weight, re-tried out for both and then when I made the teams- I QUIT! Now though, I am too skinny! At 5' 1 I only weight about 90 pounds or so! Same thing though! All I hear is 'you're too thin', ' do you have an eating disorder', 'you need to put some weight on those bones, you'd look better and feel better' (remember I live in the south, they like meaty women!) Now, I just tell people that I love them even though they aren't perfect either! And I don't spend my precious time worrying about what weight I should be, I find better things to worry about than my appearance - because guess what? In the end we ALL end up looking exactly the same! My prayers go out to all of you. __________________ Windy and Lida Rose "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Dr. Seuss

07-20-2005, 11:38 AM	#21
sillyjacki Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 544	YEAH RICE UNIVERSITY! I can definitely relate to you guys by being on the other end of the spectrum. I am really thin but I get judged for it and have a terrible time finding clothes. I used to cry every time I had to buy bras or bikinis or anything. My mom made my clothes for the longest time because I am abnormally proportioned. I don't think this will apply to many people, but there is a store in Houston (and online) that is a spinoff of Hot Topic called Torrid. They have some really cute things, some t-shirts and pants and things that fit larger sizes and don't look like moomoos. I always thought it was BS to ignore the larger size market. Big women are some of the most beautiful women out there! One of my big friends calls herself an "Earth mother"... I love that! __________________ Jacki & Roxy Dogster My mom's company makes dog products!

07-20-2005, 11:39 AM	#22
vainchick5 YT 6000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: CA Posts: 6,588	I have been in ballet for I dunno how long but I started having distorted body image as well. I was bulemic and anhorexic. I wouldn't eat much and whatever I would eat, I would throw it up. I wasn't even over weight. I was 5'4 at 125 which is like average for my age. I am very muscular, but pretty lean, so my muscle weighs more. But all I saw was the skinny 15 year olds in my company that were like 80 lbs and all I wanted was to be like them. It hadn't occured to me that I was like 4 years older, and had breasts and hormones, ect. I was like that for over 6 months before my best friend caught on and made me stop. I was good at conceiling it. I think while media has a big part in this mess, WE make the choices we make. We have to own up to our choices. Eating too much or not eating enough is a choice. We all have to make responsible choices for ourselves. It's definetely easier said than done but 4 years later, I've owned up to my own choice. Yes I wanted to be like the girls on tv and magazines, but no one put a gun to my head. I think it's easy to use a scapegoat, at least for me it was. Now I realize that if I'm not eating enough during the day (which is always the case) I need to eat more. On the days that I feel very much like eating everything in site, I make a conscious decision not to overeat because I'm depressed or stressed out. Now at 24, I'm finally happy at 5'4'' and 118 lbs. But I think people are beautiful the way they are, just as long as they are healthy. __________________ Mommy to Coco and Rocco

07-20-2005, 12:26 PM	#24
pixiepooh Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005 Location: Austin, Texas Posts: 231	I was stick thin growing up. My dad would always make me take vitamins to at least help me gain a lil weight or not look so under-nourished (). Things started looking up when I hit my teenage years but my weight did fluctuate like crazy. I also went through days not eating anything. I was just water dependent. When I did eat, it was like 4 spoonfuls. When I got married I'd torture him with "Honey, am I fat?" questions. Now that I think about it, I use to ask that every 5 mins.!!! Now I try to keep a healthy weight because diabetes and high blood pressure runs in the family. My mom went through a week of Coma because her sugar count went up to 500!!! Normal sugar count is 120, I believe. It was scary and the family since then worked with a nutritionist. We were taught about eating small meals every 3 hours. I took care of my mom and prepared the food that she should eat. It was a wake up call. Since then, she's been trying to loose weight and keeping her sugar level in a steady and healthy level. I applaud everyone who shared. It takes alot to share these things. Last edited by pixiepooh; 07-20-2005 at 12:28 PM.

07-20-2005, 05:04 AM	#17
suzysmitt Currently Suspended! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 2,150	I'm with you all. I use to be super skinny, and then I got sick and had to go on meds. Well the pounds just kept adding on, and I really don't eat that much. Maybe a salad for lunch and a small dinner. People just don't see you the same. I'm the same fun loving person I was at 100lbs. My ex-husband even sent my 19 year old son an email saying I heard your mom is fat. What happened to her. She must look like a cow. My son told him off and hasn't heard from him since. I haven't been near this man in over 18 years and he's going to judge me. Atleast I wasn't a child molester like him. That's the reason I left him.

07-20-2005, 10:08 AM	#20
pixiepooh Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005 Location: Austin, Texas Posts: 231	I read in a glamour article about a graduate student of Rice University and her colleague going to a clothing store and wearing "fat suits". They compared who gets better service and latter experience was very disappointing. A sales associate even wondered aloud why the overweight would bother going to a store where their sized aren't carried. This hits home because my mom is a lil bit on the chubby side and I have seen sales lady glaring at her for asking assistance to get a bigger size. My ugly side would always show because nobody deserves to be treated that way!!! I know how much my mom has kept trying to loose the extra weight because she's also diabetic. People are just rude and it makes you question how they were brought up. I'm sorry but good manners and respect starts at home.

07-20-2005, 11:57 AM	#23
ReconsMomma BANNED! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Janesville WI Posts: 2,483	It amazes me going through and reading all the posts here about eating disorders.. And knowing that I am not alone in this. I too have been through the whole rollercoaster of body image issues. I went through it big time in high school. I looked at all the girls that were tall and stick thin and wanted to be like them because they had all the football players hanging on them and caught the eye of every cute guy. I starved myself for awhile and then I went through the stage of binge eating and throwing up. I was in all the sports in school. I was very into competition sports. Ran cross country and track. Made it to state my junior year, I blew out my knee 3 feet from the finish line and I was in the lead. Doctors told me the reason that I had suffered like that was because my body wasn't getting all the nutrition that it needed. My dad put me in therapy to get over my body issues and it did work to a certain point. I started eating right. I found out some things about myself in therapy that I never would have known otherwise. My mom had just left my dad and us kids (myself and 3 brothers) and wanted nothing to do with us. She was heavy and I wanted to be nothing like her so what my therapist thought is that that is where all my issues began. I was mad at the world at that time and took it out on myself just because I didn't want to be anything like my mom. To this day I am very very picky about my body. I still dont like to look at my body in the mirror for too long because I find way to many flaws. It took until about 2 years ago for me to even buy a full length mirror for in my house, and I am almost 30. I work out like crazy now. But I eat right and I am very very careful about taking care of myself. I am 5'2" and 107 lbs. I think whatever issues you have with your body you may always have. But you have to take care of yourself at the same time you are trying to make yourself happy. I am sorry for all of those who have had to battle with being rideculed (SP) for thier wieght. Media does play a big part in it. We are all beautiful people and that is what we have to remember.

07-20-2005, 12:31 PM	#25
vainchick5 YT 6000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: CA Posts: 6,588	I agree pixiepoo. I does take a lot of courage to share. I kept deleting my text because only 2 people know about my eating problems in the past. Now it's 2 and some YT members..It felt good to relate though. __________________ Mommy to Coco and Rocco

07-20-2005, 12:35 PM	#26
ReconsMomma BANNED! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Janesville WI Posts: 2,483	I dont ever share things like that with people. My ex boyfriend who I was with for 2 years didnt even know the whole history of me working out. He just thought that I was a fitness freak. It does feel really good to be able to relate to people like this though. That is why I shared.

07-20-2005, 03:40 PM	#27
i_love_my_yorki YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 705	Its not what you see on the outside,but what is in, in the inside Some people judge too much,,,WHy i have no idea,except say they really are not happy with themselves,so they put others down too make them themselves feel good if you get my drift

07-21-2005, 05:40 AM	#28
sillyjacki Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 544	It makes me so happy to see such a strong support group for YT members. This place can be very safe and comforting! No matter what, we are all beautiful in the eyes of our furbabies __________________ Jacki & Roxy Dogster My mom's company makes dog products!