Venting again Chubby Prejudice Ya know i am tired of the chubby prejudice that goes on in this world. We wonder why our young children are developing eating disorders but hello the media shoves down our throat that we must be thin to be "beautiful". Then there is the clothing industries oh yeah they make plus size clothes but most of them ARENT VERY CUTE i am 26 and i usually have a choice between something that looks like an 80 yr old would wear it or something a 16yr old would wear. I know 200 lbs is bigger than average and I DONT CARE i deserve to be treated like anyone else no matter how much i weigh. |
I agree with you. A person shouldn't be treated because of the way they look on the outside. Its what is inside that counts. I am sorry that you were treated like this. Just remember....Recon Preslee Memphis and I still luv ya cause you are part of our YT family. :) :) Did you smile at least, cause that was what i was going for?? If not, SMILE DAMN IT!!!! |
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Oh i know, I get on my soap box more than I should I think. So have at it. I just wanted to make ya smile. Thats all..... Carry on...........LOL |
Angie, I understand how you feel more than you may think. Im also over weigh. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome. If I happen to say that Im not feeling well, everyone tells me the same think, Loose weight and you will feel better. I wish it was that simple. Im even considering to have a gastric bypass surgery done. Dont pay attention. You are so rite we all deserve to be treated like anybody else. What it counts is the inside not the outside. Anytime you need to vent, im here. |
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I know! When I go into some stores and look at the clothes, all I can think is that I will look like my grandma's couch if I were to wear some of the things! Big girls are beautiful too! I'm just glad that there are some companies that have wised up and are offering trendy clothes in sizes that will fit people like me. I look cute again! I know it's not healthy, but I will always be big. And I think that some people don't understand that it's not as easy for us to do things like exercise because of our weight. It is a double bind. We want to be thin, but it's hard to do the things we need to in order to be thin. That makes people depressed. When a lot of womyn are depressed, they eat. That makes us bigger, and thus more depressed. And then your told you are too fat, which makes you depressed. UGH! And I hate getting looks at the lake because I am a bigger girl in a swimsuit! It's not like I'm in a string bikini! I'm wearing more than most people there, and refuse to wear a t-shirt. It's just a little chub people! Wow, I didn't realize this was going to be that long. Sorry but I got on a roll ;) |
I am in total agreement on this one. There are high metabolisms that some are blessed with and not so high metabolisms and it is alot in what cards you were dealt. Your genes. It is so unfair to assume that someone who is overweight is "bad" or overeats or what ever. That is such a prejudiced way to think. There is weight prejudice in business, in schools and everywhere in society and it isn't fair. I have three girls and I was always paranoid that they would develop an eating disorder. I have been lucky so far. They are beautiful girls and I am so proud of them. I want them to be fit and healthy but not obsessed with body image and weight. The current celebrity trend of "you can't be toooo thin" is disgusting to me. Those women do not look healthy. It's so scary! :thumbdown |
I agreed. Is like if your not spagetti thin you are not consider pretty. I have heard many times, "you have such a pretty face if you loose weight you will be so beautiful". I hate that so much. Just beacuse im not thin im not pretty. Oh well, this is me. I hate to go shopping cause of it. Everyone looks at you up and down. Cause of it I do most of my clothing shopping online. Finally there are more trendy clothes in plus sizes. Well im also dx with chronic depression. And you are so rite when Im very depress I tend to eat. I had control myself a lot cause one time i ate 5 kit kats in one seating and i didnt even notice until I was done. |
I completely agree! The media has a big impact on life and little kids can be very cruel and larger kids are subjected to this which only makes them more of what they are. When I was in middle school, I weighed 130 at 5'4. It was pretty large for me. My whole entire family is thin. I had zero friends and people who I would befriend were not really my "friends". I was concentrated more on school than anything else because that's all I had to count on. When I got into high school, I was sick of having a double chin and a huge belly so I stopped eating. I would only eat once a day and it was rat-portions. I would pretty much starve myself The media and all the thin celebrities, thin cheerleaders, and thin people in general made me want to be them. By the time I was 17, I was 5'6 and weighed in at mid 90lbs. I still thought I was fat. So, I cut back even more. I stopped drinking Coke, I stopped eating. The only thing I would eat was rice and soysauce. Or, a roll of French Bread. I developed anemia, hypo-thyroidism and I am borderline diabetic. I think I went through that stage where I wanted to fit in. And, it was the media's fault for me. Flipping through those magazines seeing all those girls wearing nice fitted outfits. I pretty much wanted to be them. Now I'm almost 21 and realize that it's not about image at all. I am 5'7 and weigh in at 110. I finally come to realize that I should love me for me. As my boyfriend puts it.. "you're just happy and well-fed". |
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But i have to agree with everyone here.. The Media has so much influence... i used to be toothpick skinny as well.. when i was a freshman in highschool i was 5'0 (still am haha).. and almost 90 pounds wearing a double zero..(talk about ewww skinny).. and when I met my boyfriend (that i'm still currently with today).. and gained a LOT of weight.. my own family kind of disowned me.. my mother would call my a fat pig.. blah blah blah.. i had no friends.. .. these so called friends in high school would only use me for my kindness.. so i too only concentrated on my studies.. now i'm 19 still short at 5'0... but lost weight (from 150 to 115).. and sometimes.. people still never think it's enough.. i know i have some extra skin and pudge.. but i'm happy and that's all that ever matters all though sometimes it does hurt when i can't wear the sexy clothes my peers wear without getting the .. look :eek: |
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My dad has always hounded me about my weight. He says my doctor's nuts and that maybe I'd have a boyfriend if I weren't fat. My dad has always been overweight, and he obsesses about it. I know he doesn't mean to hurt me, but the comments are pretty hard to swallow. I probably wouldn't hardly think about my weight it if it weren't for him. It has taught me one thing though....if I ever have kids, I will love them for who they are, not what they look like. And I will tell them that a person's value comes from the kind of person they are, not their body type. It is the media's fault for our perceptions of what a woman should look like. It's okay for a guy to have a little tummy, but God forbid if a woman isn't rail thin (nothing against thin people--they've been blessed with a great metabolism). And it isn't always the case that an "overweight" person has no self control and can't stop eating. I have relatives that eat several times as much as I do, and they are thin. Genetics certainly play a significant role. There is so much more to life than what we look like--the world would be a happier the sooner more people realized that and left us "chubby" people alone. :) |
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I'm sorry that happened. no one should be treated unfairly or different because of how they look. i haven't really met you yet, but you seem like a great person. so i have no reason to judge you any differently, and its the same with everyone else. ingallsra-there are also the people who can be heavier from genetics. you could eat right, excercise daily, and do all that stuff, and still be heavy. this world today has the wrong idea of a lot of stuff! |
I wanted to add something to mine. I happen to be a chubby person. Will i ever have an eating disorder? no probably not. why not?-because i love myself for who i am not what i look like. those people in magazines aren't real. would i love to be thin? absoulty but i wouldn't kill myself to do it. i have a lot of friends only a few of them pushed the "issue" on me. guess what? they're not my friends any more. so over all i'm happy with myself. :) |
Deyna & Natalie - I've seen you and your both very pretty ! I can't imagine you having image problems over weight - Lycansmom....One of my good friends is like you - she goes through the same problems shopping and weight is something always on her mind - I've watched her treated differently by total strangers and it makes me so mad ! It seems women are targeted more than men are and it's VERY unfair..... I can relate to shopping as I wear a larger size top than average and the "Bigger than a D cup" bras are the UGLIEST things ! You would think the clothing Mfg's would CATER to larger women because skinny really isn't the normal weight in our country - the average woman IS good sized - look around you - you are NOT alone.... We see images on tv of skinny women for clothes but I think THAT trend is changing slowely - there is currently an ad for Hains with normal sized women - made a big debut a few weeks ago - so that's something to be happy about ! It's the same as seeing women in their 20's selling wrinkle cream - what's up with that ? It's crazy ! I think the media is to blame for the obsession in our country to be thin... it's NOT a life or death situation and we really need to remember to make the most of what we DO have and not compare ourselves to what we see on tv - Go to the store and look around - you'll see MANY women out there who are big AND beautiful ....what counts is inside - not the outside... Good luck to you - |
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