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01-06-2008, 08:26 AM | #1 |
Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa
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| So Sad - does it get any easier? I just dropped my daughter off at the airport to return to college for her 2nd semester of her freshman year. I'm heartbroken, almost as bad as when I left her at college at the end of August. For those of you who have been thru this, does it get any easier? We spent every day together since Dec. 21 and had the best time. I'm not even sure when I will see her next. We are trying to figure out spring break - but she has talked about going on a volunteer service type trip. Then 4 days after the semester ends, she will leave for Australia & a special service learning program in Melbourne & classes at the Univ. of Melbourne. It's just back to me & the yorkies & the Siamese, who is sleeping in her bed right now. Bubba & Roxy made the trip to the airport with me, they too seemed confused and Bubba wanted to go in my daughter's room, as soon as we got home.
__________________ yorkiesmiles Loved by Bubba & Roxy Holy, holy, is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come |
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01-06-2008, 08:30 AM | #2 |
Kyle Plus 3 Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Washington, DC
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| I'm not a mom but on the other end of the spectrum.. No.. I moved away for college 3 years ago and my mom gets upset and cries EVERY TIME (and me- I cry a good 90% of the time ).
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01-06-2008, 08:41 AM | #3 |
I love yorkie kisses Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Oklahoma
Posts: 1,751
| I wish I could say it gets better, but I feel that way now every it happens with the grand kids too. Even Katy gets depressed when they leave. |
01-06-2008, 09:20 AM | #4 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Bay Area, California
Posts: 1,877
| I've been on the other side as well. My first semester away from home I was able to come home pretty often - we had many family events that semester. My mom loved that and I loved it too. It was hard for her everytime I went back to school. But, I had instant messenger on my computer and school and she had it on her computer, so we were able to talk all the time. I think that helped her. Now my brother has just gone off to school and he is home for his vacation. I think my mom will have a harder time when he leaves since there are no other kids at home for her to look after. Stay strong!
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01-06-2008, 09:54 AM | #5 |
Mommy's Baby Doo Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: DesMoines ,Ia
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| it is hard when your skin kids move out or goes off to college ,I"ve had 2 kids move out and my youngest is going to be going to college she wanted to take some time off after graduating from high school so she will be leaving soon .
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01-06-2008, 10:15 AM | #6 |
Spoilin' Tilly & Jack Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana
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| I live probably 10 minutes from my mom and I see her if not daily every other day and there are many times she cries. For about a month after I moved out I cried every night. I'm a total mommy & daddy's girl.
__________________ Momma Tilly Money will buy you a pretty good dog, but it won't buy the wag of his tail. |
01-06-2008, 10:35 AM | #7 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: In my house :)
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| A friend told me about this several years ago and it might help on both sides of this. Make a 'home sick' bag for your daughter when she leaves and she can make one for you too. You take a big, pretty bag (or box) and fill it with gift wrapped trinkets, photos, favorite snacks, miss you and thinking of you cards, phone cards etc... and give it to her when she leaves. The idea is that everytime she gets homesick she can get in the bag and open a gift and think of you and the love it was sent with and maybe it will help ease the pain of being homesick. Last edited by my2boyz; 01-06-2008 at 10:36 AM. |
01-06-2008, 10:42 AM | #8 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Yorkshire, England
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| Try not to get too upset by thinking you'll never be as close again. It's amazing sometimes how things can turn out. I was just like you when my son went away to university, he's my only one & we'd always been really close. Managed to say goodbye with a smile, but cried all the way home! After he completed his degree, he came home for a year, I felt highly honoured! Then he spent another year working in the Middle East, came home after that for a couple of years, then bought a house just a half hour drive away. He's married now, with a brand new baby, & I see them lots. His wife spends more time here than he does! She's become the daughter I never had. It sounds like you & your daughter are really close, you should be proud of the good job you've done raising her to become a friend. Whatever the future holds you'll always have that. |
01-06-2008, 11:45 AM | #9 | |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana
Posts: 89
| please know im praying for u Im reading your post as i do im sitting here crying for the pain i know u are going through...it hurts sooo bad! i wanna say it will get easier but u know i can only say try to talk daily it does help some not the same i do know this as well. ny dd Kristi(Tillys_Mom) on here is my dd when she left home 2 years ago and got married i thought my whole world was fallin apart, i kid u not i cried so much..and still to this day catch myself cryin when i find something she left behind. kristi is not only my dd but moms best friend(i know alot of people say not to try to be best friends with your kids but u would have to know my dd to see why she has a heart of gold and has always been mature for her age could tell her something and she would make the best of it(and is still this way today) we are addin on to our home and we have to move our bedroom into her old room hubby has been moving things in there and im draggin my feet because i know i wont be able to sleep in there there are days i swear i hear her in there playin and such(some will prob think im nuts) but i guess its i miss those days, the dr told me once this was normal for a mom to do this. this past week her bro moved out so im at the end side again man it hurts! he is so differnt then her tho..i love the boy to death and wish he would give me the time of day his sister does. so i have empty nest as well..and im so in the down mood these past few days, i just wish we could keep them lil forever (like the song let them be lil) kk had that very song played for ME at her wedding...sorry this is so long i just wanted to share the pain does hurt as i know this as well, i will pray for u that days to come will get better and time goes by fast so u can be with your dd again real soon, hugs and prayers to u.. ps..i wanted to add i did get something good out of all this...his name is "Chase Noah" he is the highlight of my life! Hugs, Lisa ~Baby-Genes mom and kristi's too:0) Quote:
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01-06-2008, 12:58 PM | #10 |
Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa
Posts: 9,493
| Thank you all for such wonderful feedback and support! I can feel your warm thoughts & concern. My daughter & I do talk everyday - but she hates to talk on the phone to anyone - so our conversations are usually not lengthy. But longer often than I would have thought. I had never heard of the idea of a home sick bag -that's a cute idea. Problem is I'm the one sick - not her. She likes her university. It's my fault, I took her all over to look at out of state schools. She's about 11 1/2 hrs away. I do a lot to send her care packages, I even started a group of moms who have daughters who went out of state to college & we get together about every other month & send a group care pkg. The bad thing is I took her - she got off from here fine, but then her flight out of Chicago was delayed several hrs - hmm that's time she could have been with me.
__________________ yorkiesmiles Loved by Bubba & Roxy Holy, holy, is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come |
01-06-2008, 01:21 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois
Posts: 4,139
| Ah yes, I hear ya sistah!! I have one that will graduate college next year and one that is in her second semester now. They each go to college 2 1/2 hours from home IN OPPOSITE DIRECTIONS! My hubby and I always talk about that - how it's hard all over again each time they leave. And my oldest daughter and I have talked about how it's even worse now, because we've moved past that "mother-daughter" relationship into the "I-would-pick-you-as-my-friend-even-if-we-weren't-related" relationship!! But they both love their schools and their college lives, so I hang on to that. My husband and I talk about how worse it must be for parents that either don't get along with their kids or know that their kids are miserable away from home. So I thank God for my pain every day - because this pain is just the pain of missing the most beautiful women He gave me the HONOR of knowing!!! And then I get all teary-eyed again.
__________________ Diane, and my boys ..... Coby and Reggie !! Striving to be a YTPP - a YT Positive Poster! In Memory of My Beautiful Mother 7/22/28-8/27/08 |
01-06-2008, 01:34 PM | #12 |
Mom to Marty & Maddie Donating Member | I'm so sorry that you are feeling sad. I am not a mother, so I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel, but I do hope you get to see her again very soon. It's awesome that you have such a good relationship. My mother is my best friend as well. *Hugs* You are in my thoughts and prayers. |
01-06-2008, 01:52 PM | #13 |
And Mimi's too! Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: North Coast of CA
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| Boy, do I know what you are going through. We have 3 that went off to college. My boys are 18 months apart/2 years in grade. It was soooo very hard when our oldest son went off to college (8 hrs away) but at least we had the other two. When our second one went off....it was very strange, with only our youngest (and only daughter) at home with us . When she went off to college (which was the same one as our 2nd child and 11 hrs away.) it was devesting......for me! Her and I were very close and still are very close to this day, talking almost everyday. The only comfort I had with her at college was her big brother was at the same college and just a few blocks away from her. I cried every time when it was time for ALL three of them to go back to college after being home for a break. I would walk past their rooms and cry, I would smell things that would remind them of me (fabric softener ) and cry. All three have since graduated from college and are living away from our hometown. They all say they would love to move back home someday, but right now jobs are keeping them where they are. To this day I still cry when they leave after being here for a visit. My husband and I have filled the void with being with just us two again and of course with Moose. My husband says I am more neurotic over Moose than I was with the kids But hang it there.........it does get easier, especially knowing they are healthily, happy and successful in their lives. And by the way....It does it fun again: doing what you want, when you, where you want not worrying about the kids being home. Hugs to you!
__________________ Hugs and Yorkie Kisses from Linda, Moose and Mimi : The Moose is Loose: Moose wubs AprilLove |
01-06-2008, 04:23 PM | #14 |
Donating YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Charlotte,nc
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| My son is only 11 and I am already dreading him leaving for college one day!!! Last night he was at a sleep over and I missed him so bad!!! I miss him while he is away at school during the day!!!! I cannot not imagine what I will be like when he goes away to college!!! I guess they all have to grow up and move away sometime but I sure am dreading it!!!!
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01-06-2008, 04:39 PM | #15 |
Donating YT 11K Club Member | I'm sorry It is hard i guess. When i dormed in freshman yr i was only like an hr away but still felt homesick, now im commuting again cause i just hated dorming in that school. I'm sure when i move it will be tough
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