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05-26-2009, 04:35 PM | #1 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: May 2009 Location: Pasadena, MD
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| My angel baby, Benji I'm new to this forum. My sister recommended the site in hopes that inspiration from other yorkie owners could help me get through this difficult and sad time. I lost my Benji on Friday, 5-22-09. He was only 10 years old but during those short 10 years, he had many medical issues. He was diagnosed with insulin dependent diabetes at age 6. Shortly after that he developed pancreatitis. He barely survived the illness, but recovered after 8 days in the hospital. One morning when we woke up (3 yrs.ago), I noticed that he was blind in one eye. Several months later, he was blind in both eyes. He lived a normal life in spite of it until I noticed that he just didn't seem like himself the past month. The last week he stopped eating & drinking, even his favorite treats. The day before he died, he had either convulsions or seizures and it was then that I knew he was really sick. He could hardly breathe so I took him to the Vet the next day. He was so sick, there was nothing that could be done to save him. We had to let him go so he wouldn't suffer. I never expected him to not come home. I stayed and held him when the Vet administered the medications, so he wouldn't die alone. We had him cremated and will receive his ashes this week. The pain and loss is agony for me. I'm depressed and lonely and cry all the time. Everything in this house was touched by him. He's not there at the door to meet me when I come home. So many things that make his absence so painful. I feel very guilty for yelling at him or making him lay down when he would whine to me. I asked him to show me what he wanted, but I just couldn't figure out what it was. I know he crossed over rainbow bridge and is now with my cocker spaniel who died 3 yrs. ago. There they will wait until they see me and we will all be reunited once again. Any advice????? |
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05-26-2009, 05:02 PM | #2 |
Living My Yorkie Dream Donating Member | Oh my.............I am so very sorry for your loss of Benji and the pain you are going through. The grieving process is different for different people. My advice to you would be to take it one day at a time. Time is what you will need to slowly come to terms and accept that Benji is gone. Let yourself cry and miss him, but also remember the joy he brought into your life and all of the fun times you've had, and allow yourself also to smile through your tears at these happy memories. Big hugs to you............
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05-26-2009, 05:03 PM | #3 |
YT Addict | I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like poor Benji had a lot of problems, but also a lot of love. He was lucky to have an owner that loved him so much and took such great care of him. It is hard to lose a baby. Those who have never had a pet can't really understand the pain. I lost my first yorkie about four years ago. He was poisoned by the flea shampoo we used. He died in my arms. At first I felt really guilty like you do now. I was mad at myself for every time I yelled at him or wouldn't let him in my bed. One day I realized that I had to stop beating myself up. Instead of thinking about his last moments or the bad times I always think about the good times me and my Yorkie had together. Talking about those good times with others also helps ease the pain and starts the healing process. I am glad you came here. Everyone is very caring and understanding, you will soon feel at home. Always remember that Benji loved you, and one day you will get to see him again. And if you feel you need to have another little friend someday, maybe a new fur baby will come into your life. Of course Benji will never be replaced, but I'm sure he wouldn't want you to be lonely. Do you have any pictures or stories about Benji that you'd like to share? I'm sure we'd all love to hear about him. My thoughts are with you.
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05-26-2009, 05:05 PM | #4 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Midwest
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| So Sorry! I can really sympathize with you, having lost my nine year old yorkie this past winter. The pain from the loss was almost unbearable. Did your vet give you any literature about grieving for a lost pet? I felt the pain as much as if it was the loss of a human, the love is just as real. Bless you for staying with your best dog for those last moments. My dog died unexpectedly at the vets office while undergoing anesthesia for dental cleaning; I wasn't even there. Feel free to cry and grieve; you are normal to feel the loss. I keep a picture of my Buddy in my office and next to my bed and look at it often. It does get a little easier to deal with as time passes. I must say though that the man I was dating at the time decided my grief for losing my dog was too much for him to put up with/understand and we broke up(!) after that... |
05-26-2009, 05:50 PM | #5 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Central Pennsylvania
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| I am sorry for your loss! This is a perfect place to come and share your story with others who know your pain! Big hugs to you!
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05-27-2009, 09:41 AM | #7 |
Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY
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| im so so sorry for your loss as i am in tears right now at work. its hurts me so much to see or hear someone in pain from the loss of a loved one.. my heart goes out to you at this time.. again im so sorry. i could only imagine your pain and im so upset. these animals take my breath away.
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05-27-2009, 11:54 AM | #8 | |
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05-27-2009, 12:16 PM | #9 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member | I am so very sorry for your loss of Benji. I've been where you are and it is devastating. Eventually it does get easier and the memories won't bring tears. RIP Benji. I hope you're running and playing with your cocker buddy.
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05-27-2009, 02:12 PM | #10 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Benji. It is so difficult to say goodbye. Try and remember the good times and we ar all here to support you. I lost my almost 12 year old pom a few months ago and miss her so much.
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05-27-2009, 05:22 PM | #11 |
YT Addict Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Arkansas
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| It is so difficult to lose them. Our thoughts are with you.
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05-27-2009, 06:17 PM | #12 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Connecticut
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| I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby Benji. I know how much your heart is hurting right now. Last winter I also had to let my 13 year old baby go. I too held him as the vet administered the drug. Chipper was so sick with bladder cancer and I knew it was the right decision but it just hurt so bad to let him go. I cried and cried and when I thought there were no more tears I cried some more. It wasn't until Piper came into my life that my heart began to heal. Try to think of all the good times you had with Benji and remember how much he loved you, as time goes by the pain will be a little easier to bare.
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05-28-2009, 02:11 PM | #13 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: May 2009 Location: Ripley, TN
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| My heart goes out to you For 10 years you gave him so much love and you never gave up on him through all his illnesses. I'm very sure that he knew how much you loved him. He was placed in your life for a very special reason and you were placed in his for a reason as well. I'm sure your baby is watching over you. They protect and watch over us while they are here and I know they watch over us even after they are gone
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05-28-2009, 02:57 PM | #14 |
My Three Hearts Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Wrapped around their paws :-)
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| My heart goes out to you. So very sorry for your loss. I know that pain and sorrow and grief you feel right now. We can offer hugs and the assurance, that as time passes, you will find joy in your memories of Benji. Rest in Peace Benji
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05-28-2009, 03:41 PM | #15 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: USA
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| I am sorry for your loss of Benji. |
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