Maybe if you take the pee pad out of the crate and put towels/blankie in it he will see his crate as a bed and not a bathroom. If he uses pee pads out of the crate then he knows they are for bathrooming. If he doesn't pee in your bed, maybe seeing his crate as his bed will deter him from peeing in the crate and only using the pee pads out of it or going outside to bathroom. you may need to thoroughly clean the crate of even try buying a new one to teach him the difference. Good Luck!
My Kammie sleeps in her crate and stays in there when we can't keep our eyes on her all times. She very rarely has accidents in her crate as she knows it is her bed. She also sleeps in our bed in the morning. She does still have accidents from time to time in the house but I have found it is normally our fault.
Ultimately it is your decision to make. I hope you exhaust all possibilities before giving him up. I do believe some dogs are extremely hard to train and have emotional issues beyond the owners ability to cope. Your marriage is your #1 priority and nothing should get in the way of your families happiness. Yes, our furbabies are our family too but giving them up to a home that can better deal with their problems and is the utmost display of our love for them. It may be very hard to do but your eternal human family has to come first. Maybe you and your hubby will work this out for all of you. |