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FreyasDaddy · 09-26-2018, 01:06 PM

I get kinda sad or even slightly depressed when I see a story of a lost baby, either here or on my FB group. Sometimes I avoid reading them. But I also suffer from anxiety and Avoidant Personality Disorder, which means you tend to avoid emotional stuff. It's just so SAD when I someone says "my baby has gone over the Rainbow Bridge."

And I start thinking about the day I will eventually lose wee Freya. But I'm trying to focus on the now, the good times I'm having with her, and that badness is a long way off.

matese · 09-26-2018, 03:11 PM

I know how you feel, every time I read a baby has crossed over I cry because I know the pain that person is feeling, and I remember the day I was told I had to let my girl go, 5 years and the tears still flow.

yavenay · 09-27-2018, 05:47 AM

same here too. I remember seeing this one video and it tore me up. OMG, I cried as if it I was actually going through it myself. Here is the link. It's a video of a women who had to put her dog down and it tore her up. I am the same way every time I have to put one of my babies to sleep.
https://www.facebook.com/javierolive...2MjUwNjg4MzY4/

The other thing I found interesting is that a vet said that at least 90% of people leave the room. The vet said it is the worst thing you can do because your pet is looking for you to be there. How can anyone leave their pets at the one time they need them the most. I stay with my babies until the end.

matese · 09-27-2018, 06:23 AM

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Originally Posted by yavenay

same here too. I remember seeing this one video and it tore me up. OMG, I cried as if it I was actually going through it myself. Here is the link. It's a video of a women who had to put her dog down and it tore her up. I am the same way every time I have to put one of my babies to sleep.
https://www.facebook.com/javierolive...2MjUwNjg4MzY4/

The other thing I found interesting is that a vet said that at least 90% of people leave the room. The vet said it is the worst thing you can do because your pet is looking for you to be there. How can anyone leave their pets at the one time they need them the most. I stay with my babies until the end.

As much as I feel I cannot see my baby leave me I absolutely must be there to hold them tight against my heart so they feel safe in my arms, and I always whisper in their ear they are a good girl and kiss them so they feel my love. It is the hardest thing to do, some ppl cannot do it, I cannot, but for the sake of my sweet babies I have had to make myself do it, then I fall apart. No matter how prepared we think we are, we never are.

Bseagle4 · 09-27-2018, 10:55 AM

Lost our first Yorkie 3 yrs ago. Now we have a 2 yr old Yorkie that stopped jumping on furniture, going up and down stairs, hardly eats. She was a big eater. Took her to vet and vet could not find anything physically wrong with her. Thinking of trying another vet

nanajoy · 09-27-2018, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by matese

As much as I feel I cannot see my baby leave me I absolutely must be there to hold them tight against my heart so they feel safe in my arms, and I always whisper in their ear they are a good girl and kiss them so they feel my love. It is the hardest thing to do, some ppl cannot do it, I cannot, but for the sake of my sweet babies I have had to make myself do it, then I fall apart. No matter how prepared we think we are, we never are.

It is the hardest thing that I have ever had to do every time I have had to help one of my beloved pets end their suffering; but I could never make that decision, then abandon them during their final moments. Unfortunately, I have had to be there for several pets during my lifetime...you can never be "ready" to have them leave, but it is the last loving thing you can do if there is no quality of life left for that little one who gave a lifetime of love and loyalty. Hold them, stroke them and speak lovingly to them as they pass to a peaceful place...they deserve no less.

maxdog · 09-27-2018, 12:08 PM

I watched the 1st 5 seconds of the video and then I had to close it. I know I would be crying like a baby if i watched it. I am the same way you are Joan. I unfortunately have had to be in that room a couple of times in my life and it is absolutely heart breaking. I cry uncontrollably but I have to be there for my baby. No way I could ever look myself in the mirror if I let them leave alone. With the amount of yorkie lovers on this site it is inevitable that we are going to read about losing them. But that is why we all come together here. There is no other place that we will find people who understand how we all feel toward our babies.

nanajoy · 09-27-2018, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by maxdog

I watched the 1st 5 seconds of the video and then I had to close it. I know I would be crying like a baby if i watched it. I am the same way you are Joan. I unfortunately have had to be in that room a couple of times in my life and it is absolutely heart breaking. I cry uncontrollably but I have to be there for my baby. No way I could ever look myself in the mirror if I let them leave alone. With the amount of yorkie lovers on this site it is inevitable that we are going to read about losing them. But that is why we all come together here. There is no other place that we will find people who understand how we all feel toward our babies.

yorkietalkjilly · 09-27-2018, 05:13 PM

I'm into avoiding all the agony I can as the loss is always so great, so sad and so overwhelming that their pain always breaks my heart. No way to read those threads or posts without agonizing right along with them. That's why the concept of Rainbow Bridge is so necessary.

FreyasDaddy · 09-28-2018, 12:33 AM

I can tell I don't want to watch this video at all lol. It's just the way I am. It's why I made this thread lol. When I hear of people losing their babies I get emotional.

yavenay · 09-28-2018, 04:07 AM

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Originally Posted by FreyasDaddy

I can tell I don't want to watch this video at all lol. It's just the way I am. It's why I made this thread lol. When I hear of people losing their babies I get emotional.

I know what you mean. This videos was hard to watch. The owner really loved her pet and it was extremely difficult for her to put him to sleep. I've had pets my entire life and have had to put to sleep several of them. It never gets easier.

yavenay · 09-28-2018, 04:09 AM

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Originally Posted by yorkietalkjilly

I'm into avoiding all the agony I can as the loss is always so great, so sad and so overwhelming that their pain always breaks my heart. No way to read those threads or posts without agonizing right along with them. That's why the concept of Rainbow Bridge is so necessary.

So true, we need to believe they have moved on to a better place. I know all of my pets are waiting for me. I take great comfort in knowing they are in a safe place free from any pain.

Lovetodream88 · 09-28-2018, 07:24 AM

I have anxiety, panic attacks as well as functioning Autism and depression so I get where your coming from. Sometimes I go to that place of one day I’m not going to have them anymore but I try to stay away from it but with Callie who is 11 it’s hard.

nanajoy · 09-28-2018, 07:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

I have anxiety, panic attacks as well as functioning Autism and depression so I get where your coming from. Sometimes I go to that place of one day I’m not going to have them anymore but I try to stay away from it but with Callie who is 11 it’s hard.

You are such a help to so many on this site, I am sorry to hear that you have these challenges. My husband and I took our little Beau to the emergency vet this Saturday night because he had coughing fits. He is almost 12, and we were concerned that his cough was "wetter" than his dry coughs to clear his throat after sleeping. We didn't want to take a chance of waiting until Monday morning, even though he showed no signs of being ill. He has occasional, mild CT, and we did not want to risk any chance of pneumonia. With older pets every "hiccup" seems to spur worry!

The vet gave him a solid exam, and everything (heart, breathing, etc.) was solid. He has bad LP problems, and is barely 5 pounds, but he came through with flying colors. The vet did give him an antibiotic since his trachea was irritated, and she did state that because of his age and CT she thought it was safest. Fast forward two days, and he was running around playing fetch!

I am older and retired, and have faced end-of-life issues with many of our pets. I know that it is easier said than done, but I make a conscious effort to recognize that my time with this wonderful little guy is growing less, and I make every possible effort to enjoy him while he is with us. He sleeps for much of the day, but he often sleeps curled up against me on the couch. When he does want to play, we focus on him (knowing that he will tire within a small time and that we can go back to whatever...)

May you find love and happiness each day with your beloved Callie! Take the time to build the memories which will last for a lifetime, and give her a kiss from Beau!

mrssabes · 09-28-2018, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by yavenay

The other thing I found interesting is that a vet said that at least 90% of people leave the room. The vet said it is the worst thing you can do because your pet is looking for you to be there. How can anyone leave their pets at the one time they need them the most. I stay with my babies until the end.

Saw this from a vet on Facebook the other day and it made me cry. (see attachment)

09-26-2018, 01:06 PM	#1
FreyasDaddy Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2018 Location: Durham, NC Posts: 233	All The Lost Babies I get kinda sad or even slightly depressed when I see a story of a lost baby, either here or on my FB group. Sometimes I avoid reading them. But I also suffer from anxiety and Avoidant Personality Disorder, which means you tend to avoid emotional stuff. It's just so SAD when I someone says "my baby has gone over the Rainbow Bridge." And I start thinking about the day I will eventually lose wee Freya. But I'm trying to focus on the now, the good times I'm having with her, and that badness is a long way off.

09-26-2018, 03:11 PM	#2
matese Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: E.Stroudsburg, Pa. Posts: 67,956	I know how you feel, every time I read a baby has crossed over I cry because I know the pain that person is feeling, and I remember the day I was told I had to let my girl go, 5 years and the tears still flow. __________________ Joan, mom to Cody RIP Matese Schnae Kajon Kia forever in my A House Is Not A Home Without A Dog

09-27-2018, 05:47 AM	#3
yavenay Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Delaware Posts: 2,663	same here too. I remember seeing this one video and it tore me up. OMG, I cried as if it I was actually going through it myself. Here is the link. It's a video of a women who had to put her dog down and it tore her up. I am the same way every time I have to put one of my babies to sleep. https://www.facebook.com/javierolive...2MjUwNjg4MzY4/ The other thing I found interesting is that a vet said that at least 90% of people leave the room. The vet said it is the worst thing you can do because your pet is looking for you to be there. How can anyone leave their pets at the one time they need them the most. I stay with my babies until the end. Last edited by yavenay; 09-27-2018 at 05:50 AM.

09-27-2018, 12:08 PM	#7
maxdog Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Brownstown MI USA Posts: 18,650	I watched the 1st 5 seconds of the video and then I had to close it. I know I would be crying like a baby if i watched it. I am the same way you are Joan. I unfortunately have had to be in that room a couple of times in my life and it is absolutely heart breaking. I cry uncontrollably but I have to be there for my baby. No way I could ever look myself in the mirror if I let them leave alone. With the amount of yorkie lovers on this site it is inevitable that we are going to read about losing them. But that is why we all come together here. There is no other place that we will find people who understand how we all feel toward our babies. __________________ Max & Sasha's daddy

09-27-2018, 05:13 PM	#9
yorkietalkjilly ♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas Posts: 22,140	I'm into avoiding all the agony I can as the loss is always so great, so sad and so overwhelming that their pain always breaks my heart. No way to read those threads or posts without agonizing right along with them. That's why the concept of Rainbow Bridge is so necessary. __________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis

09-27-2018, 10:55 AM	#5
Bseagle4 YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jul 2016 Location: Fountain Hills, Az. USA Posts: 1	Lost our first Yorkie 3 yrs ago. Now we have a 2 yr old Yorkie that stopped jumping on furniture, going up and down stairs, hardly eats. She was a big eater. Took her to vet and vet could not find anything physically wrong with her. Thinking of trying another vet

09-28-2018, 12:33 AM	#10
FreyasDaddy Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2018 Location: Durham, NC Posts: 233	I can tell I don't want to watch this video at all lol. It's just the way I am. It's why I made this thread lol. When I hear of people losing their babies I get emotional.

09-28-2018, 07:24 AM	#13
Lovetodream88 Yorkie mom of 4 Donating YT Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LaPlata, Md Posts: 23,247	I have anxiety, panic attacks as well as functioning Autism and depression so I get where your coming from. Sometimes I go to that place of one day I’m not going to have them anymore but I try to stay away from it but with Callie who is 11 it’s hard. __________________ Taylor My babies Joey, Penny ,Ollie & Dixie Callie Mae, you will forever be in my heart!