Everyone Please Read: Going Forward, We Must Post With More Respect Toward Others

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by yorkietalkjilly

What makes you think my words to stay positive, just as many have posted here, including Ann, asking posters to remain kinder and gentler going forward, are uttered from some pedestal or holier than thou or preachy, while none of the others on this thread are? Good thing you aren't doing any of the things you accused me of, Linda, pointing fingers, judging and coming off holier than thou in how you are now preaching to me about how I should not post! This is what drives people away - trying to stop someone from asking for politeness by making accusations.

Still, I think you should have that right if you don't want to go along with Ann's and others' requests - so who is preaching to whom about posting styles? All I asked for was in line with Ann's original thought - to be kinder and gentler in posting - and for some reason you got it in your head I was aiming at you and began to publicly object to my personal posting style! I don't get your palpable anger directed toward me. What's really behind it?

LOL...there you go. Finally saying what you really think. That *I* am chasing people away. You people need to get past all that nonsense...no one person is chasing people away. They leave because they choose to.
You can say it was not directed at me all day long....you kind of cancelled that one out now.

As for anger...sounds to me like you are the angry one. You are certainly pushing this. I tried to avoid it but you kept at it.

How about this Jeanie? I am not going to respond to you again on this thread. Through. Finished. Done. And not angry at. all. SMH

[yorkietalkjilly]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

LOL...there you go. Finally saying what you really think. That *I* am chasing people away. You people need to get past all that nonsense...no one person is chasing people away. They leave because they choose to.
You can say it was not directed at me all day long....you kind of cancelled that one out now.

As for anger...sounds to me like you are the angry one. You are certainly pushing this. I tried to avoid it but you kept at it.

How about this Jeanie? I am not going to respond to you again on this thread. Through. Finished. Done. And not angry at. all. SMH

Don't be paranoid, Linda. Still not directed solely at you - merely showing an example of what kind of thing drives people away and inhibits free posting by more than just a few - fear of shaming, being called out publicly or ganged up on. You don't think trying to single one person out and shame them alone publicly into changing their style of posting or wording used in asking for more respect will keep some from ever wanting to post here - those less outspoken than you or I? I do.

[smelcerk]

Well that is an hour of my life I can't get back but it was like a soap opera and I just couldn't quit reading. Think I will throw my two cents in. "Mean People Suck". Now, I wonder how many of you thought I was aiming that comment directly at them? In reality, I was not. My point is when someone makes a comment, it is not possible to know everything that is in their hearts or brains so I read every comment with the understanding that I am getting just a little piece of the overall puzzle. I will say this. When I joined this forum six months ago, there were several people whose style of commenting absolutely made me cringe. I did not run. I sat back and listened and tried to get a feel for who they were and what they were really trying to say. Some of them are now my very favorites and I have come to really listen to them when they "talk". However, not everyone will be that open-minded and I hate for us to lose the opportunity to make a positive difference in the life of a precious yorkie. I like to subscribe to the catch more flies with honey than vinegar theory. Yes, I know that does sound holier than thou and believe me I am not. I can also be a real b word when I want to be, lol. Anyway, love this forum and I agree 100% that it is not that bad or negative in the overall scheme of things.

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

Ok folks....how about I let you in on this one. This thread has been bumped again because someone is after me (well partially...I cannot prove he had a play in the one person posting, but I am highly suspicious and I believe rightly so). Plain and simple and it is not the first time it has happened. We have someone on YT with a grudge towards me...not my imagination. I am sure you have all seen it. He did post here, but his post has been removed so maybe you all missed it. I don't care what he thinks of me or that he is still obsessing, but I DO care that he is not doing YT any favors at all with his games.

Anyway........here is the thread that led to this recent "discussion" that we have all hashed out previously.....but it seems when someone complains it all starts up again. I don't see how this person was bashed not. at. all. She is welcome to voice her complaints, but you all are feeding into it without realizing it.
So, you see, when you are posting, it appears to me that you are directing your comments towards me.

http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/yor...-bump-hip.html

I think it all goes back to that old people are just jealous thing. They hate us cause they ain't us

[lynzy420]

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

I think it all goes back to that old people are just jealous thing. They hate us cause they ain't us

[sampsongc]

Originally Posted by smelcerk

Well that is an hour of my life I can't get back but it was like a soap opera and I just couldn't quit reading. Think I will throw my two cents in. "Mean People Suck". Now, I wonder how many of you thought I was aiming that comment directly at them? In reality, I was not. My point is when someone makes a comment, it is not possible to know everything that is in their hearts or brains so I read every comment with the understanding that I am getting just a little piece of the overall puzzle. I will say this. When I joined this forum six months ago, there were several people whose style of commenting absolutely made me cringe. I did not run. I sat back and listened and tried to get a feel for who they were and what they were really trying to say. Some of them are now my very favorites and I have come to really listen to them when they "talk". However, not everyone will be that open-minded and I hate for us to lose the opportunity to make a positive difference in the life of a precious yorkie. I like to subscribe to the catch more flies with honey than vinegar theory. Yes, I know that does sound holier than thou and believe me I am not. I can also be a real b word when I want to be, lol. Anyway, love this forum and I agree 100% that it is not that bad or negative in the overall scheme of things.

You took the words exactly out of my mouth.
I had just told my husband "this reminds me of a soap opera.
I have never been on facebook or any other social media site so I have nothing to compare this to. I usually scan the new posts looking for new info. most are great! When I read this one a month or so ago my reaction was Ouch. Glad to see it go. A few days ago it reappeared and I thought "Oh no, who picked that scab?" Really many of you are quite amusing. I love your smart as_ sense of humor. At least I hope that's what it is. Really though, the best thing to do is let a dead horse lie.
Lets move on, chuckle at the whit, and stop the "right" fight.

[sampsongc]

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

I think it all goes back to that old people are just jealous thing. They hate us cause they ain't us

I Love old people. My favorite movie to watch when my girls were growing up was Anne of Green Gable's and my favorite character was Rachel lynn the old lady who lived next door, she was hilarious.

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by sampsongc

I Love old people. My favorite movie to watch when my girls were growing up was Anne of Green Gable's and my favorite character was Rachel lynn the old lady who lived next door, she was hilarious.

Sorry should have been a comma between old and people lol

[sampsongc]

oh, I see. Still have a soft spot for the older, set in their ways, elderly folks.
The grumpy ones are even cute in my book.
I saw a post that said bumped. What does that mean?

[DBlain]

Originally Posted by sampsongc

oh, I see. Still have a soft spot for the older, set in their ways, elderly folks.
The grumpy ones are even cute in my book.
I saw a post that said bumped. What does that mean?

it means moving a post to the top of the page so it does not go unnoticed. Also when some people log on they scan for new posts, so when you "bump" a post or a thread it would bring it up as a new post.

[Buster Brown]

When I was young I thought I knew all the answers. We all have to accept responsibility for our posting styles. I reacted to a post yesterday and posted back and got a heated response. I had to own up to myself that my post contributed to the reply. We all are accountable for a actions and the resulting reactions.

[maxdog]

Originally Posted by Buster Brown

When I was young I thought I knew all the answers.

I usually don't even remember the question anymore!

[Buster Brown]

Originally Posted by Buster Brown

When I was young I thought I knew all the answers. We all have to accept responsibility for our posting styles. I reacted to a post yesterday and posted back and got a heated response. I had to own up to myself that my post contributed to the reply. We all are accountable for a actions and the resulting reactions.

Sorry typo We all are accountable for our actions and the resulting reactions.

[Buster Brown]

Originally Posted by maxdog

I usually don't even remember the question anymore!

LOL It make life simpler doesn't it!

[sampsongc]

Originally Posted by DBlain

it means moving a post to the top of the page so it does not go unnoticed. Also when some people log on they scan for new posts, so when you "bump" a post or a thread it would bring it up as a new post.

Thank You fellow Michigander!