|
Welcome to the YorkieTalk.com Forums Community - the community for Yorkshire Terriers. You are currently viewing our boards as a guest which gives you limited access to view most discussions and access our other features. By joining our free community you will have access to post topics, communicate privately with other members (PM), respond to polls, upload content and access many other special features. You will be able to chat with over 35,000 YorkieTalk members, read over 2,000,000 posted discussions, and view more than 15,000 Yorkie photos in the YorkieTalk Photo Gallery after you register. We would love to have you as a member! Registration is fast, simple and absolutely free so please, join our community today! If you have any problems with the registration process or your account login, please click here to contact us. |
|
| LinkBack | Thread Tools |
03-28-2014, 08:08 AM | #1 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Chicago
Posts: 58
| I feel so bad and I can't get over it This past Tuesday (the day before I had to put Jake to sleep), I was taking him to the vet and was getting ready to go. My enclosed porch has a tile floor, and I was holding him in a towel. Kiri (my little York girl) got underfoot, and as I was getting her out of the way, Jake slipped out of my arms and landed on the floor. When we got to the vet, they checked him over and said that, other than the fact that his health had deteriorated so much from the CRF, he didn't seem hurt. And when the vet put him to sleep yesterday, they did find a vein, so I guess there probably wasn't internal bleeding. But I feel so horribly awful, guilty. I can't forgive myself for this. I would never, ever hurt him. And here on the next to last day of his life, I dropped him. I keep looking at the spot on the porch and hating myself. Please, if anyone can help me, I need help because I feel so bad that I just wish I could die and be with him.
__________________ Sandy Kiri (b. 2010) , Buster (b. 2011) and Jake (1997-2014) |
Welcome Guest! | |
03-28-2014, 08:19 AM | #2 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Van Alstyne, TX
Posts: 842
| Stuff happens. Accidents happen. Thankfully, Jake wasn't hurt. He knew you loved him. That's all that matters. Don't beat yourself up about it (although I know you still will, and I'm sure I would too). You did your best. Kiri still needs you and you need her.
__________________ Maggie (RIP), Ginger (RIP), Lilly, Bella, Saleen, Bailey, Bridget |
03-28-2014, 08:29 AM | #3 |
♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas
Posts: 22,140
| Oh, Sandy, life happens and bad things are part of it, even with those we love the most. You never meant this awful thing to happen and it wasn't even your fault - just the way things go at times. Jake was a very old boy and what happened likely made very little difference in his end of life issues. Stop going out there where it happened, avoid the area for a while until your grief is less raw, put a rug over the area and make your mind stop obsessing over what can only hurt you. Grieve for the loss of your little friend but accidents happen every day and people make themselves ill finding guilt in something they did or failed to do. It won't change a thing. The best thing you can do is cut yourself some slack and take a small drink of wine or a mild tranquilizer, lie down, watch a movie and rest your mind and body of this useless guilt and stress. Your old friend is at peace and done with his earthly sufferings and no doubt he had a wonderful, well-cared for and long, happy life - all provided by you and your love! Dogs rarely live that long unless they are lovingly nurtured, responsibly cared for and contented. If he were there and could talk, he would forgive you that fall in a heartbeat and have you laughing in no time. Now, forgive yourself for something you couldn't help at all.
__________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis |
03-28-2014, 08:37 AM | #4 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Where the deer and the antelope play
Posts: 7,069
| Awww Sandy. It's never easy to lose a pet. Never! These emotions and grieving you are feeling are so fresh. You have to give it some time. I know that's easy for me to say. Jake had a wonderful, long, happy, loving life with you. He was truly a lucky boy and that's what every pet deserves. You shouldn't dwell on this accident as it doesn't define the entire life long relationship you had which was beautiful happy times.
__________________ Shelly and the girls Moka Mylee |
03-28-2014, 08:54 AM | #5 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Alaska
Posts: 3,299
| So sorry for your loss. All that matters is he knew you loved him soooo much and didn't do it on purpose, he knows |
03-28-2014, 08:59 AM | #6 |
Cedric♥Lola♥Keylo Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Gilford, NH, USA
Posts: 9,209
| you have to stop beating yourself up because Jake would not want that. You brought him to the vet and it confirmed he was ok. Jake would want you to remember him and the good times and have a lil chuckle. I so believe he would not want you to join him yet.......you will one day hug and kiss him again but for now you have to stop hating yourself. It was not your fault. it is not easy to heal but I am sending you so many wishes to give yourself a bit of a break and let your heat feel just a lil better. im so sorry if only there were the perfect words to make it all better for you.
__________________ Cedric N Lola N Keylo RIP Punkee Princess |
03-28-2014, 09:35 AM | #7 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: Orange County, CA
Posts: 379
| I totally understand how you feel. I was holding Gizmo in my hands when I went to get the mail and he slipped out and hit the pavement head first. He was so scared he didn't even yelp. I picked him up and he seemed fine andwhen I got back to my place I started bawling while I was trying to tell my boyfriend what happened. To this day, I still hate myself for almost killing my baby. From now on whenever I take him out I ALWAYS have him on his leash so he can walk just in case I need to carry anything. Just writing this makes me tear up again! |
03-28-2014, 11:11 AM | #8 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member | Oh honey. . . Accidents happen. You took him to the vet. He was checked out. You did good by him. He knows it. He sends you lots of love. He will see you again. Hugs
__________________ Teri . . . Galen Jameson Frazier Seraphina Luna Rosencrantz, Saber Tooth Tiger, Pussy Willow Pandora Guildenstern |
03-28-2014, 12:51 PM | #9 |
I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland
Posts: 18,865
| The important thing is that Jake forgives you, and in my heart I know he does. He wouldn't want you feeling bad for this, or for him 'going Home'. He's your Angel now and is watching over you, Bless his heart.
__________________ Kat Chloe Lizzy PeekABooTinkerbell SapphireInfinity |
03-28-2014, 01:04 PM | #10 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Chicago
Posts: 58
| I can't find the words to thank everyone who posted here and made me feel better. This has been so distressing, on top of having to put "Jakey" to sleep. Hearing from all of you has made me feel so much better. May everyone who took the time to write be rewarded a thousand times over for your kindness. Sandy
__________________ Sandy Kiri (b. 2010) , Buster (b. 2011) and Jake (1997-2014) |
Bookmarks |
|
|
Thread Tools | |
| |
|
|
SHOP NOW: Amazon :: eBay :: Buy.com :: Newegg :: PetStore :: Petco :: PetSmart