How to tell my friend I don't want to breed my dog

[Nicky08]

I totally agree with your husband... Eva is YOUR dog not hers and once the dog left her care it is NO LONGER her decission to make what happens to the puppies... If the lady that I bought Nicky from called me tomorrow and said that I had to breed Nicky I would just hang up on her, but if she kept at it, I would say... ( you can use this if you wanna )

I am sorry ( fill in name here ) the pup that you ( sold/ gave to me) is now in my care he/she is loved and that is all that matters in a dogs life, I am sorry that you don't agree but I wanted the dog for the enjoyment, not to see how much money I could make off her, and as far as her breed dieing out that will never happen, there are millions of yorkies out there that do not have homes and need love, till they are all adopted out and have a loving home, then we can worry about the breed dying out.

If she wants the dog back, just tell her that you are very sorry but you can't do that, that you are in love with the dog and ask her to leave...

Your friend doesn't really sound like a friend she sounds more like an enemy someone demanding that you do something with your dog needs to have something done to them, UGH... but when it comes to my fur babies I have become VERY outspoken I can't stand it when someone talks down to me about my children my children with fur that is lol

I hope that your "friend" minds her own business!!

[xBUTTERCUPx]

Originally Posted by capt_noonie

This type of breeder can. If it can make her money, she will. Perhaps it was the only female in the litter?

Yes it was the only female in the litter.

[xBUTTERCUPx]

I have not noticed how greedy she is until she told me I had to breed Eva. Bella (her female, Eva's mom) is less than 3.5 lb when she was pregnant. I asked her then if it was intentional and she told me it wasn't. Now I don't think she was telling me the truth. She told me that she is going to use Bella again to make some money to recover what she lost from this first litter. She did NOT lose anything because I was the one who took the pups to the vet the first day after they were born. I was the one who paid for their deworming and their shots.one who paid to have their tails docked and dew claws removed. I was the I was the one who paid for dog food. I was the one who cleaned Bella and her poop 5+ times a day. I was never reimbursed like I was promised. I just don't understand her. I thought I did but now I'm not so sure.

I really do think that she used me. My husband told me I didn't need a friend like her. Part of me wants to give up this friendship but I was friends with her since elementary and her daughter is my goddaughter.

Is there any way that I can report her to SPCA anonymously? I really hate confrontations and I don't want her showing up at my house accusing me. I just have the dogs and the puppies best interest at heart and I hate to see them living in such conditions and being caged more than 23 hours a day.

[Taryn0405]

I've never heard of the SPCA saying who this source is. To me that would be very dumb, but who knows. It could be the first question you ask if you call them...

I agree with yuor husband. And I've had friends for a long time as well, and it wasn't until I was an adult that I saw their true colors. Hugs to you, hope things go better.

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by xBUTTERCUPx

I have not noticed how greedy she is until she told me I had to breed Eva. Bella (her female, Eva's mom) is less than 3.5 lb when she was pregnant. I asked her then if it was intentional and she told me it wasn't. Now I don't think she was telling me the truth. She told me that she is going to use Bella again to make some money to recover what she lost from this first litter. She did NOT lose anything because I was the one who took the pups to the vet the first day after they were born. I was the one who paid for their deworming and their shots.one who paid to have their tails docked and dew claws removed. I was the I was the one who paid for dog food. I was the one who cleaned Bella and her poop 5+ times a day. I was never reimbursed like I was promised. I just don't understand her. I thought I did but now I'm not so sure.

I really do think that she used me. My husband told me I didn't need a friend like her. Part of me wants to give up this friendship but I was friends with her since elementary and her daughter is my goddaughter.

Is there any way that I can report her to SPCA anonymously? I really hate confrontations and I don't want her showing up at my house accusing me. I just have the dogs and the puppies best interest at heart and I hate to see them living in such conditions and being caged more than 23 hours a day.

I would offer to baby sit her dog again and take her to get spayed asap. Some thing terrible could happen to her because she is so small and the poor thing has no voice to say anything not to mention I think your friend is going to use her and use her until her body just gives up and probably will get rid of her when she is unable to make your friend money anymore.

[KazzyK810]

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

I would offer to baby sit her dog again and take her to get spayed asap. Some thing terrible could happen to her because she is so small and the poor thing has no voice to say anything not to mention I think your friend is going to use her and use her until her body just gives up and probably will get rid of her when she is unable to make your friend money anymore.

I would highly advise against such behavior. Taking a person's dog for a non-emergency surgical procedure such without their consent is illegal.

And speaking of legalities...do you have a purchase agreement or contract for ownership of Eva? If not and I were you.... I would make sure to have plenty of vet visits/receipts in my name, that Eva was licensed to you through your local county dog licensing agency and was microchipped and registered to you.

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by KazzyK810

I would highly advise against such behavior. Taking a person's dog for a non-emergency surgical procedure such without their consent is illegal.

And speaking of legalities...do you have a purchase agreement or contract for ownership of Eva? If not and I were you.... I would make sure to have plenty of vet visits/receipts in my name, that Eva was licensed to you through your local county dog licensing agency and was microchipped and registered to you.

It maybe illegal but I am the type of person who would go to jail to save an animal. More then likely it would be a fine more then anything and if it wasn't I sure you could make a judge or jury feel bad for this poor dog and they should. Animals do not have a voice and someone has to be there voice. I think reporting her would be the best thing and letting spca take care of it but if they don't I would try to do anything I could to save the poor dog.

[My lil friend]

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

I would offer to baby sit her dog again and take her to get spayed asap. Some thing terrible could happen to her because she is so small and the poor thing has no voice to say anything not to mention I think your friend is going to use her and use her until her body just gives up and probably will get rid of her when she is unable to make your friend money anymore.

Im reasonable sure that altering someone elses dog is no legal. Be careful what type of advice you give.

To the OP you can be godmother to her daughter and still keep you and yours at a distance. Gifts to her child is always a good thing and you promised to be in this childs life. This does not make you responsible for her bills where her dog is conserned. She is responsible,she will pay either financially or her child will see how heartless she is. You can choose to cut off most of your time with her or you can continue to tell her that she is wrong and she may cut you out of her life. There is no good answer to this type of situation. I am sorry that you are finding that a life long friend has little consern for life.
I will keep you in my prays and hope that your friends heart will be touched.

[KazzyK810]

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

It maybe illegal but I am the type of person who would go to jail to save an animal.

That may be your choice, but advising others to do so, is wreckless, IMO.

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

More then likely it would be a fine more then anything and if it wasn't I sure you could make a judge or jury feel bad for this poor dog and they should.

Such assumptions land many a criminal in jail.

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by KazzyK810

That may be your choice, but advising others to do so, is wreckless, IMO.



Such assumptions land many a criminal in jail.

I noticed how you didn't respond to my part of the post where I said the spca should be contacted first before anything should be taken into another persons hands. That is simply all I am going to say............

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by My lil friend

Im reasonable sure that altering someone elses dog is no legal. Be careful what type of advice you give.

To the OP you can be godmother to her daughter and still keep you and yours at a distance. Gifts to her child is always a good thing and you promised to be in this childs life. This does not make you responsible for her bills where her dog is conserned. She is responsible,she will pay either financially or her child will see how heartless she is. You can choose to cut off most of your time with her or you can continue to tell her that she is wrong and she may cut you out of her life. There is no good answer to this type of situation. I am sorry that you are finding that a life long friend has little consern for life.
I will keep you in my prays and hope that your friends heart will be touched.

Its probably not legal but if someone left a dog with me for 9 weeks never caring about it and letting me take care of the puppies and mom financially and other wise I would think it had become my dog therefore mine to make the choice of whether to have her spayed or not.

[Lovetodream88]

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

I would offer to baby sit her dog again and take her to get spayed asap. Some thing terrible could happen to her because she is so small and the poor thing has no voice to say anything not to mention I think your friend is going to use her and use her until her body just gives up and probably will get rid of her when she is unable to make your friend money anymore.

I would not suggest doing this I would suggest trying to report her first. I am just so sick of people using dogs to make a buck and even using other people to make that buck too so I spoke out of frustration I suppose.

[KazzyK810]

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88

I would not suggest doing this I would suggest trying to report her first. I am just so sick of people using dogs to make a buck and even using other people to make that buck too so I spoke out of frustration I suppose.

I understand where you're coming from . It's easy to get a lil carried away when you just want to protect those that can't protect themselves, have no voice in expressing how they are treated and are at the whim of whatever human happens to have them.

[lillymae]

Just tell her NO and tell her that you don't want to have this conversation again because it's NOT going to happen. When you call to report her , you do Need to tell whoever you talk to that you absolutely do not want this person to know who you are. Not all animal control officers use the brains God gave them & will spill the beans such as the one in the small town that I live in. Good luck & Stand your ground, for your babies sake .

[concretegurl]

1. Take you pup to the nearest vet if you don't already have one. Schedule a full exam and do fecal! if you haven't already. GET YOUR PUP MICROCHIPPED!!!

2. Take your camera take pics of your pup with your vet. Even if this is a second vet visist it's worth the cost because you need to get your pup microchipped to you immediately!

3. Schedule the time for the pre spay blood work visit etc now even if it's not until your dog is 6 months old the vet will still schedule that far out...