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myteddybear · 11-04-2011, 04:30 AM

Hmmm, I say have her fixed, don't say a word. She says "you have to breed her". "Oh ok" you say..."hmmm, wonder why she won't get pregnant!" LOL

southernbelle04 · 11-04-2011, 05:09 AM

I agree...have her spayed and just tell your friend straight out you do not wish to breed. It is your dog, not hers. I would tell her in a nice, but firm manner. Surely she will get the point. If not, you may just have to get really firm. It is your baby, not hers, and you decide what is best!! Good luck!

xBUTTERCUPx · 11-04-2011, 06:30 AM

Thank you everyone. This helped me a lot. I called her talked to her about and she wasn't happy with me. She said Eva could throw small puppies (under 3 pounds) and "we" could make a fortune. I was so shocked at what she said. Eva is now 10 weeks old and she is only 13.9 oz. I'm thinking she is going to be extremely tiny, the more reason NOT to breed her. I was very firm with her on my decision not to breed because I know nothing about it. As someone stated, babysitting her dog and the puppies was way too much for. I can't handle it. She ended our conversation with "you'll change your mind. Just watch."

I highly doubt that I will change my mind because she WILL get spayed when she is old enough, which is in a few weeks.

Again, thank you everyone for your suggestions and help. I now realize that some people are not deserving of my kind gestures.

xBUTTERCUPx · 11-04-2011, 06:32 AM

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Originally Posted by DvlshAngel985

Wasn't there a picture in your avatar?

I did have a picture in my avatar but that is one of my previous babies that was stolen from me in 2008.

DvlshAngel985 · 11-04-2011, 06:55 AM

I'm so sorry! She was a gorgeous yorkie!

Good for you for standing your ground. Wow! You can make a fortune huh? That is amazing to see what her true motives were. Your baby is still a puppy, and already she sees dollar signs!

danniko · 11-04-2011, 07:52 AM

If she is truly a typical yorkie (whatever that means lol) and tiny then like someone else said, be prepared for random people to ask you if you want to breed her.

Sophie isn't even a typical yorkie - she is mix of a Biewer and a 'typical yorkie' (there is a teeny bit of poodle in her from many generations ago as well...but she looks and acts all yorkie lol) and since she is small and unique looking we get asked all of the time if we are interested in breeding her. Some guy even tried to tell us that we were horrible for not breeding her and letting her natural instincts kick in and imagine how much money we could make off of her. Yeah, no thanks...I didn't buy her to be a money maker, I bought her as my companion and I would never want to risk her life for a litter of puppies just for money. We even got told we were horrible for having her fixed and not letting any one else have a dog like her...people these days..

Your best bet is to just do what you are planning - have her fixed as soon as she is able to be fixed and it isn't something that can be undone...so it's not like your friend would want her back if she could produce litters for her. Besides, like you said, dogs as tiny as she may end up shouldn't be bred anyway as there are too many risks for her life.

Congrats on staying firm though, we all know what is best for our babies =)

capt_noonie · 11-04-2011, 08:07 AM

Wait, why were you watching her dogs for over 9 weeks??

xBUTTERCUPx · 11-04-2011, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by capt_noonie

Wait, why were you watching her dogs for over 9 weeks??

She has a full time job and goes to school full time. Both her yorkies (used for the puppies) and a pomeranian are "jailed" all day. They pee and poop on themselves all day, everyday. I felt bad for her, the dogs and the puppies so I offered to watch the dogs (just the mom and puppies) for a few weeks. A few weeks led to 9 weeks.

I attempted to potty train her dog but no matter how often I walk her or let her out, she comes right back in and poops all over inside. I got fed up with it. When she came to get her dogs back I refused to let Eva go with her because I know what environment she will be living in. I feel really bad for the dogs but there isn't much that I can do.

LunasMomma · 11-04-2011, 11:41 AM

You can report her to the SPCA. Keeping the dogs in cages for extended periods of time, so long that they are covered in urine and feces, is against the LAW. She sounds like a user, both of her dogs, and YOU. She took complete advantage of your kindness and let her new Momma and puppies stay at your house for 9 weeks?!! That's insane, and how callous of her to not even miss them. Sad

capt_noonie · 11-04-2011, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by LunasMomma

You can report her to the SPCA. Keeping the dogs in cages for extended periods of time, so long that they are covered in urine and feces, is against the LAW. She sounds like a user, both of her dogs, and YOU. She took complete advantage of your kindness and let her new Momma and puppies stay at your house for 9 weeks?!! That's insane, and how callous of her to not even miss them. Sad

that's exactly what I was thinking too! This is so sad! These are the exact reasons that there are far too many dogs, and millions are getting euthanized every year. People like the OP's friend who breed indiscriminantly and sell to whomever. Greeder in every sense of the word!

Lovetodream88 · 11-04-2011, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by xBUTTERCUPx

Thank you everyone. This helped me a lot. I called her talked to her about and she wasn't happy with me. She said Eva could throw small puppies (under 3 pounds) and "we" could make a fortune. I was so shocked at what she said. Eva is now 10 weeks old and she is only 13.9 oz. I'm thinking she is going to be extremely tiny, the more reason NOT to breed her. I was very firm with her on my decision not to breed because I know nothing about it. As someone stated, babysitting her dog and the puppies was way too much for. I can't handle it. She ended our conversation with "you'll change your mind. Just watch."

I highly doubt that I will change my mind because she WILL get spayed when she is old enough, which is in a few weeks.

Again, thank you everyone for your suggestions and help. I now realize that some people are not deserving of my kind gestures.

Be careful getting her spayed to early. Its great of you to stand up for your puppy because she is not a money maker she is a living breathing thing.

Taryn0405 · 11-04-2011, 12:22 PM

I'm glad she was offended by you saying no. You do not want that type of greedy friend anyway. She's a typical greeder that gives bad reputations to breeders that try their best to protect their name and lines. This woman needs a reality check. You were too kind to watch over newborns and new doggy parents for 9 weeks. Granted, if I was put in that sitatuation, I'd probably do the same simply because the dogs would mean more to me then the petty friendship.

I think you need to contact authorities (SPCA) on this one. What happens next time she breeds and you say no? The newborn pups would be left for hours on end, I'd hate to think of the outcome. I'm happy you stood your ground, I'm a firm believer in if the Momma Yorkie is too small, then she shouldn't be bred. And your baby sounds like she's going to be on the smaller side. Enjoy your baby, do what's best for her and you, and that would be getting spayed, enjoying life, and kicking that money hungry, selfish, dog abusing, piecen of trash to the curb!

P.S. Please post some pictures of your baby, we'd love to see her!

My lil friend · 11-04-2011, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by tjdmom

Why don't you tell her that helping her care for her dogs has made you realize that breeding is not for you. And if she doesn't want the bloodlines to "die out" then she can breed one of the other puppies but it's just too much work for you? I can't imagine how anyone could be upset with that....

This sounds very reasonable.
She cannt take the puppy back, it was payment for all of the work that you did for her. You earned the pup, but I would keep her away from my home for as long as possible until you can get your baby spayed.
If she has a "you owe me" attitude,she is incorrect. Add the boarding hours up that you put into her dogs. That is so much per day,per dog + anything that you purchased for her dogs. You will find that she probably owes you some $$$ and the cost of the pup is getting off litely. If it included cleaning carpets or replacing rugs that counts too.

KazzyK810 · 11-04-2011, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by xBUTTERCUPx

Thank you everyone. This helped me a lot. I called her talked to her about and she wasn't happy with me. She said Eva could throw small puppies (under 3 pounds) and "we" could make a fortune. I was so shocked at what she said. Eva is now 10 weeks old and she is only 13.9 oz. I'm thinking she is going to be extremely tiny, the more reason NOT to breed her. I was very firm with her on my decision not to breed because I know nothing about it. As someone stated, babysitting her dog and the puppies was way too much for. I can't handle it. She ended our conversation with "you'll change your mind. Just watch."

I highly doubt that I will change my mind because she WILL get spayed when she is old enough, which is in a few weeks.

Again, thank you everyone for your suggestions and help. I now realize that some people are not deserving of my kind gestures.

I'm confused. I don't understand how a breeder could tell with a 10 week old puppy, if it is breeding worthy or not.

capt_noonie · 11-04-2011, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by KazzyK810

I'm confused. I don't understand how a breeder could tell with a 10 week old puppy, if it is breeding worthy or not.

This type of breeder can. If it can make her money, she will.

Perhaps it was the only female in the litter?

11-04-2011, 04:30 AM	#16
myteddybear Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Cambridgeshire, England Posts: 1,208	Hmmm, I say have her fixed, don't say a word. She says "you have to breed her". "Oh ok" you say..."hmmm, wonder why she won't get pregnant!" LOL __________________ Please help save Lennox! http://www.savelennox.co.uk/ Let your voice be heard so Lennox can go home

11-04-2011, 05:09 AM	#17
southernbelle04 Katie Scarlett's Mommy Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Sweet Home Alabama Posts: 7,554 Blog Entries: 1	I agree...have her spayed and just tell your friend straight out you do not wish to breed. It is your dog, not hers. I would tell her in a nice, but firm manner. Surely she will get the point. If not, you may just have to get really firm. It is your baby, not hers, and you decide what is best!! Good luck! __________________ Aymee & Katie Scarlett

11-04-2011, 06:55 AM	#20
DvlshAngel985 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Los Angeles, California, USA Posts: 12,693	I'm so sorry! She was a gorgeous yorkie! Good for you for standing your ground. Wow! You can make a fortune huh? That is amazing to see what her true motives were. Your baby is still a puppy, and already she sees dollar signs! __________________ Littlest JakJak We miss you Kaji

11-04-2011, 11:41 AM	#24
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	You can report her to the SPCA. Keeping the dogs in cages for extended periods of time, so long that they are covered in urine and feces, is against the LAW. She sounds like a user, both of her dogs, and YOU. She took complete advantage of your kindness and let her new Momma and puppies stay at your house for 9 weeks?!! That's insane, and how callous of her to not even miss them. Sad __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

11-04-2011, 12:22 PM	#27
Taryn0405 Owned by a Gremlin Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: The Mitten State! Posts: 3,706	I'm glad she was offended by you saying no. You do not want that type of greedy friend anyway. She's a typical greeder that gives bad reputations to breeders that try their best to protect their name and lines. This woman needs a reality check. You were too kind to watch over newborns and new doggy parents for 9 weeks. Granted, if I was put in that sitatuation, I'd probably do the same simply because the dogs would mean more to me then the petty friendship. I think you need to contact authorities (SPCA) on this one. What happens next time she breeds and you say no? The newborn pups would be left for hours on end, I'd hate to think of the outcome. I'm happy you stood your ground, I'm a firm believer in if the Momma Yorkie is too small, then she shouldn't be bred. And your baby sounds like she's going to be on the smaller side. Enjoy your baby, do what's best for her and you, and that would be getting spayed, enjoying life, and kicking that money hungry, selfish, dog abusing, piecen of trash to the curb! P.S. Please post some pictures of your baby, we'd love to see her! __________________ Taryn Momma to Gizmo AKA Monkeyman My husband, daughter, son, and dog make me who I am "My goal in life is to be as good of a person my dog already thinks I am."

11-04-2011, 06:30 AM	#18
xBUTTERCUPx YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 905	Thank you everyone. This helped me a lot. I called her talked to her about and she wasn't happy with me. She said Eva could throw small puppies (under 3 pounds) and "we" could make a fortune. I was so shocked at what she said. Eva is now 10 weeks old and she is only 13.9 oz. I'm thinking she is going to be extremely tiny, the more reason NOT to breed her. I was very firm with her on my decision not to breed because I know nothing about it. As someone stated, babysitting her dog and the puppies was way too much for. I can't handle it. She ended our conversation with "you'll change your mind. Just watch." I highly doubt that I will change my mind because she WILL get spayed when she is old enough, which is in a few weeks. Again, thank you everyone for your suggestions and help. I now realize that some people are not deserving of my kind gestures.

11-04-2011, 07:52 AM	#21
danniko YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 342	If she is truly a typical yorkie (whatever that means lol) and tiny then like someone else said, be prepared for random people to ask you if you want to breed her. Sophie isn't even a typical yorkie - she is mix of a Biewer and a 'typical yorkie' (there is a teeny bit of poodle in her from many generations ago as well...but she looks and acts all yorkie lol) and since she is small and unique looking we get asked all of the time if we are interested in breeding her. Some guy even tried to tell us that we were horrible for not breeding her and letting her natural instincts kick in and imagine how much money we could make off of her. Yeah, no thanks...I didn't buy her to be a money maker, I bought her as my companion and I would never want to risk her life for a litter of puppies just for money. We even got told we were horrible for having her fixed and not letting any one else have a dog like her...people these days.. Your best bet is to just do what you are planning - have her fixed as soon as she is able to be fixed and it isn't something that can be undone...so it's not like your friend would want her back if she could produce litters for her. Besides, like you said, dogs as tiny as she may end up shouldn't be bred anyway as there are too many risks for her life. Congrats on staying firm though, we all know what is best for our babies =)

11-04-2011, 08:07 AM	#22
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	Wait, why were you watching her dogs for over 9 weeks??