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concretegurl · 11-04-2011, 11:17 PM

Also FYI you NEVER breed a small female...

unless you are absolutely trying to kill her...

everyone knows that when unscrupulous 'people' are trying to create small undersized pups they use a standard size female and an undersized male...

then you get undersized sickly pups..

yay just what the world needs more of sick pups by BYBs.

dinkyweil · 11-05-2011, 05:59 AM

Say: " We are so sure that we are not breeding her that she will be getting spayed when she is old enough for that."
If she wants to discuss it, just keep making clear that you are not going to breed her, not maybe, not I don't know. We aren't going to breed her. Yes, it's shame to let the cute genes go by, but we are not going to breed her.
This is your dog now, if she is such a bad friend that she would try to take the dog back, drop the friendship, keep the dog and let her pursue the arguement on her own.
I think it's important to be pleasant but firm and assertive.

Potter · 11-05-2011, 11:51 AM

I will spay her first then tell your friend No. Not like she can do anything after.

It is your dog. You don't have to do it if you don't want to.

xBUTTERCUPx · 11-05-2011, 05:59 PM

For the poster that suggested spaying her dog-I understand your good intentions towards this poor dog but I don't think it's something that I can do and hide it from her. The moment she looks into my eyes I will just blurt out the truth.

One of my neighbors are going to report her to SPCA for me. I just can't see myself doing it whether it is anonymous or not. I can't tell a lie.

concretegurl · 11-06-2011, 12:12 PM

Report her for what exactly?
Being immoral?
A breeder?

As long as her dogs are licensed, UPD and in clean well fed conditions she isn't doing anything wrong besides being immoral & repugnant.

...Unless your city requires license to breed or she has too many dogs, she'll get fined...

myteddybear · 11-06-2011, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by xBUTTERCUPx

For the poster that suggested spaying her dog-I understand your good intentions towards this poor dog but I don't think it's something that I can do and hide it from her. The moment she looks into my eyes I will just blurt out the truth.

One of my neighbors are going to report her to SPCA for me. I just can't see myself doing it whether it is anonymous or not. I can't tell a lie.

Oops, must have been me! LOL Sorry, I wouldn't normally suggest anyone lie BUT in a case where someone who isn't acting like a very good friend would/could/might go out of their way to do something to one of my animals that I wasn't on board with... well, guess I wouldn't hesitate.

miabellaamoure · 11-06-2011, 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by concretegurl

Report her for what exactly?
Being immoral?
A breeder?

As long as her dogs are licensed, UPD and in clean well fed conditions she isn't doing anything wrong besides being immoral & repugnant.

...Unless your city requires license to breed or she has too many dogs, she'll get fined...

I think you missed a good chunk of this thread...the dogs are in deplorable condition walking in their own feces and urine caged all day while this GREEDER spends her day at work & school! These Yorkies are her source of a part-time job/income...she needs to have been reported to the SPCA yesterday!

As for the OP, it doesn't matter who reports this GREEDER, it is anonymous as for the SPCA divulging this information to the one reported.

In the matter of Eva, I think megansmomma said it perfectly!

yorkietalkjilly · 11-06-2011, 01:08 PM

Unless you agreed to the stipulation that you would breed her prior to taking the pup, you have no oral contract so you are free to treat your dog how you choose. No court is going to force you to breed your dog that you did not agree to breed. And sometimes life is such that as much as we would like to, we cannot avoid a confrontation - and they are far easier in the long run than fretting, worrying and avoiding them can be. A confrontation does not have to be awful - just effective. If she becomes loud or abusive, you can walk away. But settle this once and for all. Explain to her this little female dog is your baby, you have no desire to ever breed her or any dog - that breeding is best left to the true experts, and would not have taken her if you had understood before the transaction that you were expected to do that. Explain to her that conditions placed upon a gift, especially after the fact, are not appreciated or fair in any way and that you won't be a party to them now or ever. Thank her again for the lovely gift and be done with it. If she wants to take you to small claims court, go and be done with this. It will be far easier on you and your dog than breeding her.

concretegurl · 11-06-2011, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by miabellaamoure

I think you missed a good chunk of this thread...the dogs are in deplorable condition walking in their own feces and urine caged all day while this GREEDER spends her day at work & school! These Yorkies are her source of a part-time job/income...she needs to have been reported to the SPCA yesterday!

As for the OP, it doesn't matter who reports this GREEDER, it is anonymous as for the SPCA divulging this information to the one reported.

In the matter of Eva, I think megansmomma said it perfectly!

No I saw that and she said that's why she took the dog and the pups for 9 weeks, I just assumed it was for the Greeder to get herself cleaned up...go figure I thought the logical makes sense of madness conclusion and was way wrong of course!

miabellaamoure · 11-06-2011, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by concretegurl

No I saw that and she said that's why she took the dog and the pups for 9 weeks, I just assumed it was for the Greeder to get herself cleaned up...go figure I thought the logical makes sense of madness conclusion and was way wrong of course!

That's cuz you don't have a mind of a GREEDER...lol

11-04-2011, 11:17 PM	#46
concretegurl Between♥Suspensions Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Vaissades Posts: 7,979	Also FYI you NEVER breed a small female... unless you are absolutely trying to kill her... everyone knows that when unscrupulous 'people' are trying to create small undersized pups they use a standard size female and an undersized male... then you get undersized sickly pups.. yay just what the world needs more of sick pups by BYBs. __________________ Shan & 8 kids now!

11-05-2011, 11:51 AM	#48
Potter YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 2,583	I will spay her first then tell your friend No. Not like she can do anything after. It is your dog. You don't have to do it if you don't want to. __________________ http://www.dogster.com/pet_page.php?j=t&i=410379 "No matter how little money and how few possesions you own, having a dog makes you rich."

11-06-2011, 12:12 PM	#50
concretegurl Between♥Suspensions Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Vaissades Posts: 7,979	Report her for what exactly? Being immoral? A breeder? As long as her dogs are licensed, UPD and in clean well fed conditions she isn't doing anything wrong besides being immoral & repugnant. ...Unless your city requires license to breed or she has too many dogs, she'll get fined... __________________ Shan & 8 kids now!

11-06-2011, 01:08 PM	#53
yorkietalkjilly ♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas Posts: 22,140	Unless you agreed to the stipulation that you would breed her prior to taking the pup, you have no oral contract so you are free to treat your dog how you choose. No court is going to force you to breed your dog that you did not agree to breed. And sometimes life is such that as much as we would like to, we cannot avoid a confrontation - and they are far easier in the long run than fretting, worrying and avoiding them can be. A confrontation does not have to be awful - just effective. If she becomes loud or abusive, you can walk away. But settle this once and for all. Explain to her this little female dog is your baby, you have no desire to ever breed her or any dog - that breeding is best left to the true experts, and would not have taken her if you had understood before the transaction that you were expected to do that. Explain to her that conditions placed upon a gift, especially after the fact, are not appreciated or fair in any way and that you won't be a party to them now or ever. Thank her again for the lovely gift and be done with it. If she wants to take you to small claims court, go and be done with this. It will be far easier on you and your dog than breeding her. __________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis

11-05-2011, 05:59 AM	#47
dinkyweil YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Nebo, NC Posts: 479	Say: " We are so sure that we are not breeding her that she will be getting spayed when she is old enough for that." If she wants to discuss it, just keep making clear that you are not going to breed her, not maybe, not I don't know. We aren't going to breed her. Yes, it's shame to let the cute genes go by, but we are not going to breed her. This is your dog now, if she is such a bad friend that she would try to take the dog back, drop the friendship, keep the dog and let her pursue the arguement on her own. I think it's important to be pleasant but firm and assertive.

11-05-2011, 05:59 PM	#49
xBUTTERCUPx YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 905	For the poster that suggested spaying her dog-I understand your good intentions towards this poor dog but I don't think it's something that I can do and hide it from her. The moment she looks into my eyes I will just blurt out the truth. One of my neighbors are going to report her to SPCA for me. I just can't see myself doing it whether it is anonymous or not. I can't tell a lie.