How to tell my friend I don't want to breed my dog
 

My friend let me have one of her puppies. I babysat her dog and the puppies for over 9 weeks. I had to clean more poop than I ever had to. My house smelled like crap. I was fed up and told her to come get her dogs and she didn't show up until today. That's besides my point. I need to get it out because I'm frustrated with her.

When she came today to pick up her dogs she said that the one she let me have (named Eva) is a "typical" yorkie. WTH does that suppose to mean? :confused: she then tells me that Eva is adorable and I HAVE to breed her. I asked why and she said "you can't let her bloodlines die out". I ignored what she said and told her I had somewhere I needed to be.

I told my husband about it and he said that it was now our dog and she can't decide what we should or shouldn't do with our dog. I agree with him but I don't know how to tell her. I don't like confrontations. How can I tell her without offending her? I've thought of many things to tell her. One that crossed my mind many times was "I shouldn't be obligated to agree with breeding Eva because I'm getting her spayed soon." I don't want her to get upset and take Eva back.

Unfortunately, people like to meddle. I know your pup came from your friend's dog's litter, but that doesn't give her the right to anything. If you don't want to breed, just tell her that. You can say, "I've researched it, and discussed it with my vet. I don't feel breeding Eva is something I have to, or want to do. She's my little princess and I want to keep her that way." If she insists, "I have already made my decision, please respect it," and just leave it at that. :)

If Eva is that cutie in the picture, get ready for more requests! :D Kaji isn't standard, but I've gotten requests from friends, and random strangers we meet on the street. All I say is, "sorry, he's already neutered." No one can argue with that! ;)

Wasn't there a picture in your avatar?

Blame your husband. That is the easy way out. :D Lol. She is your dog and it is your decision. Your friend has no say in the matter. When she ask just say, I am sorry but my husband said no. And that is his final decision. No really, just explain to her that you do not want to breed your dog. The key word is YOUR dog. Good luck!

When she is old enough have her spayed. End of conversation ;)

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Agreed!!! Also take your friend and show her some of our horrible threads about poor abandoned pups "Summers story" is perfect thank god it is having a happy ending so far, or ones with lost of health issues. Maybe it will help convince her.

Why don't you tell her that helping her care for her dogs has made you realize that breeding is not for you. And if she doesn't want the bloodlines to "die out" then she can breed one of the other puppies but it's just too much work for you? I can't imagine how anyone could be upset with that....

Between the health benefits of having a pup spayed and the health risks associated with breeding, I think you know what is best for your new baby and you.

I have had Yorkies my entire life (except for a brief deviation with a English Sheepdog we rescued). We bred one of our Yorkies when I was in high school and it was the most wonderfully scary experience you could imagine. She had four puppies - unfortunately one was stillborn. We were not breeders (as you guessed). My parents let me keep one of the puppies - she lived to the ripe old age of 17.

It was a great experience, but not one I could repeat. I am so grateful for the wonderful breeder I got Max and Abby from this year. All of Max's litter mates were fine, but two of Abby's litter mates did not survive. It can just be too hard when there are issues.

I have sent her several photos of my babies since they came home. (They were her first two litters so she is happy to see they are doing well and thriving.) She told me if I was interested in breeding Max to let her know as she knew several friends who would love to breed their dogs with him. I told her I had no desire to breed either one of them and she was good with that. Sorry this took so long to get to the point - Max was the last of his line as his sire died after being bitten by a snake. He was owned by the breeders friend.

Last time I sent a few pics, she asked if I had reconsidered breeding Max. I told her no and that they had both been fixed. She was good with my decision and was happy to know they had a good home.

I hope your friend understands and respects your decision. Best wishes

Do your best to avoid the breeding conversation and when Eva is old enough have her spayed. End of discussion, but maybe end of friendship as well. Sometimes avoiding confrontation causes more problems than just being honest and upfront.

That is how I feel. She is your puppy and she cant take her back so you have to decided what is best for your puppy and her health. Not really sure how she can tell its the "typical" yorkie if its still a puppy and not a full grown adult but honestly your friend doesn't sound like a great breeder.

It is ok to say no. You say No, they say Oh but you have to, she is so cute. You say No, they say, But it would be great to have puppies by her, You say No. Just keep saying NO. LOL I guess it is also ok, to blame hubby, your vet said, and so on. But simply the truth NO, I am having her spayed, is quick and gets it over right now. I don't like to draw things out, so don't make excuses or defend why, don't argue, just say No. It is your baby and there is no reason you should not have her spayed if that is what you want to do.

I think everyone said what I was thinking. Spay her and then tell your friend.

I was told by the breeder that I could use Copper as a stud, but I didn't want to do that. I wanted him to be a pet and live a spoiled no stress life.:) I had him neutered. He is a happy, spoiled little boy. I feel blessed to have him.

Stick to your guns and just love your little girl!

my puppies (as with Many others) leave on a 'No Breeding' contract, so quite the opposite- and the endorsments are one of the 1st things i tell them. if this is the 1st time she has told you you 'have' to breed her, just point blank say no. but if she had already told you beforehand (as much as i 100% agree with You) it could get a little messy; she hasn't asked for one of Evas pups or anything has she?!
tell your friend that your vet checked her pelvis, and it's already proven to narrow for whelping, and on top of that the care of her pups was enough litters for one lifetime!

I agree just tell her no keep telling her no and dont give her any excuses your no is enough

Just say no.....sometimes you cannot avoid confrontation especially if it involves your children....fur or skin ;)