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taxlady · 12-27-2010, 10:51 PM

It's so true, and I tell everyone I spoil my husband, spoil my son, spoil my dog. It's who I am. Love or leave it! I might as well not breathe as not spoil and love those I love and our babies give back so very much and ask so very little.
I know I have become the crazy dog lady, so be it, I don't care and DH is just about as bad

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YorkieChick1 · 12-27-2010, 11:08 PM

If you are nuts then I need to be committed!! I have 6 Yorkies and 2 Chihuahuas!! And of course they sleep with me!! And of course they have a stroller!! And of course they have more clothes than most kids!! Isn't that normal???

concretegurl · 12-27-2010, 11:41 PM

I know everyone wants to make you feel better unconditionally, and I so don't mean to negate that or cause you worry...just a moments pause in reflection that might cause resolution to the entire situation
I want to jump to your defense but let's be honest, fair and open minded and do a little double check first
1. Are you an animal hoarder-sorry I had to mention that!
2. Do you push people away because of your dog?
3. Do you miss out on events because of your dog?
4. Are you constantly referring to and negating anything or anyone because of your dog?
5. Is your dog out of control in anyway? Behavioral, territorial, bites, potties in house barks incessantly?

If no, to all that, huh I'm missing the major issue...
Can you email, text or write him in some way, as writing and receiving an answer in writing (be sure to say why in writing that) it is best to get clear and unemotionally interrupted responses on things like this so you can get him to detail (ask him maybe to number the issues and or the incidents 1, 2, so forth) what issues he sees as obsessive and then furthermore why that's an issue for him?

Please share with us-if that's okay-maybe we can all learn something here...

On another note a friend said the same thing about me to her sister -in -law whom is one of my best friends...needless to say the reason ended up being because I had pulled her aside and talked to her about her child's uncontrollable behavior toward my dogs and how it was unacceptable either she correct her child or I would-my dogs were not toys to be played rough with or mistreated. needless to say a week later the child hurt Grandma's little dog and suddenly the issue was addressed..it wasn't me or my dogs that were a problem it was her lack of parenting and teaching her child. I hope this wasn't the situation for you...

My grandma had four cats, the hair was covering the house, she put up cat posts all on windows, cat posts, beds toys in every room, refused to keep them out of the den so there was one cat free room for the family members with allergies to them to come over, had food placed all over in strange places because that's where they wanted to eat at (really on top the china cabinet in the family room?) they scratched the walls and window ceils right after my cousin put new vinyl windows in and update the ceils for her...I could go on for days but I'll close with two of the four cats were unsocial and aggressive ( I mean they ambushed and attached people) I'm an animal lover many other family members were too...this situation changed some of us toward these cats...it was a constant issue and she refused to do anything about it-her cats came first after her husband died she could finally get a cat and that was that we had to tolerate it or not come over...it was harsh and strained for a long time.

ladyjane · 12-28-2010, 01:25 AM

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Originally Posted by concretegurl

I know everyone wants to make you feel better unconditionally, and I so don't mean to negate that or cause you worry...just a moments pause in reflection that might cause resolution to the entire situation
I want to jump to your defense but let's be honest, fair and open minded and do a little double check first
1. Are you an animal hoarder-sorry I had to mention that!
2. Do you push people away because of your dog?
3. Do you miss out on events because of your dog?
4. Are you constantly referring to and negating anything or anyone because of your dog?
5. Is your dog out of control in anyway? Behavioral, territorial, bites, potties in house barks incessantly?

If no, to all that, huh I'm missing the major issue...
Can you email, text or write him in some way, as writing and receiving an answer in writing (be sure to say why in writing that) it is best to get clear and unemotionally interrupted responses on things like this so you can get him to detail (ask him maybe to number the issues and or the incidents 1, 2, so forth) what issues he sees as obsessive and then furthermore why that's an issue for him?

Please share with us-if that's okay-maybe we can all learn something here...

On another note a friend said the same thing about me to her sister -in -law whom is one of my best friends...needless to say the reason ended up being because I had pulled her aside and talked to her about her child's uncontrollable behavior toward my dogs and how it was unacceptable either she correct her child or I would-my dogs were not toys to be played rough with or mistreated. needless to say a week later the child hurt Grandma's little dog and suddenly the issue was addressed..it wasn't me or my dogs that were a problem it was her lack of parenting and teaching her child. I hope this wasn't the situation for you...

My grandma had four cats, the hair was covering the house, she put up cat posts all on windows, cat posts, beds toys in every room, refused to keep them out of the den so there was one cat free room for the family members with allergies to them to come over, had food placed all over in strange places because that's where they wanted to eat at (really on top the china cabinet in the family room?) they scratched the walls and window ceils right after my cousin put new vinyl windows in and update the ceils for her...I could go on for days but I'll close with two of the four cats were unsocial and aggressive ( I mean they ambushed and attached people) I'm an animal lover many other family members were too...this situation changed some of us toward these cats...it was a constant issue and she refused to do anything about it-her cats came first after her husband died she could finally get a cat and that was that we had to tolerate it or not come over...it was harsh and strained for a long time.

Huh?

Sweet Apple · 12-28-2010, 01:42 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

Huh?

ditto...

Lisa and Pic · 12-28-2010, 01:46 AM

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Originally Posted by FlDebra

I could not have said it any better! I didn't have a clue until I had my first yorkie! I just do not know of any other pet that is quite so loving and lovable! But you never fully realize how much personality they have and how much interaction they are capable of UNTIL you are with them most of the time. A visit here or there does not give you enough of a glimpse into what they really offer in companionship, intelligence, personality, and love. We must look just a little crazy to the un-initiated, the Yorkie-less lives, those who have as yet been left unenlightened. But as Rhetts mama said so well -- they just don't "get it!" They don't realize what they are missing.

If it ever comes up again, tell your son that it is sweet of him to be so concerned but it is him that is missing out and you will hope that he someday understands your obsession. But until then, he should not spend any more time worrying -- you are fine and full of yorkie love! You might also let him know you know of a place where some 69,000 other people are pretty obsessed with the loving little monkeys too!

Pls do not be hurt, it really is not their fault. It is just beyond the comprehension of those without a yorkie to love of their own.

That is such wonderful advice.

I guess most of us here at YT are also somewhat obsessed. For my situation...guess my family has just learned how to get used to it. They are probably more amused than anything else.

I do think it is sweet that your son loves you enough to express his concerns. Sounds like you have a really good relationship.

concretegurl · 12-28-2010, 01:57 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

Huh?

1. I don't understand the huh? Did you have a specific question about what I said or just didn't like that I suggested she self check the situation, and if that doesn't work get clarification from her son for the sake of their relationship?I don't want to get OT either but just in case the OP sees this and has a huh too I'll try and clarify as best I can a huh?

2.Were you confused about my personal accounts? I just wanted to share how there are two ways situations like this come about in my experience...and the details of them...either because there is an issue or because someone else has an issue that truly is theirs.

3. Did what I say seem offensive-I hope not! Was trying to give honest and realistic advice to the situation instead of just assuring her it was nothing-that seems false and silly considering no one really knows what happened that warranted the event and comments from her son. She shouldn't worry or feel bad either way...I would hope that an actual resolution would be the best outcome here...

4. Anyone can pm me at any time I'm fine with it-I don't want to be the topic that gets a thread off topic...

5. Really hope the OP keeps everyone updated and it all works out for better to communication and conflict resolution!

Lisa and Pic · 12-28-2010, 02:23 AM

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Originally Posted by concretegurl

1. I don't understand the huh? Did you have a specific question about what I said or just didn't like that I suggested she self check the situation, and if that doesn't work get clarification from her son for the sake of their relationship?I don't want to get OT either but just in case the OP sees this and has a huh too I'll try and clarify as best I can a huh?

2.Were you confused about my personal accounts? I just wanted to share how there are two ways situations like this come about in my experience...and the details of them...either because there is an issue or because someone else has an issue that truly is theirs.

3. Did what I say seem offensive-I hope not! Was trying to give honest and realistic advice to the situation instead of just assuring her it was nothing-that seems false and silly considering no one really knows what happened that warranted the event and comments from her son. She shouldn't worry or feel bad either way...I would hope that an actual resolution would be the best outcome here...

4. Anyone can pm me at any time I'm fine with it-I don't want to be the topic that gets a thread off topic...

5. Really hope the OP keeps everyone updated and it all works out for better to communication and conflict resolution!

I think it was your last paragraph that made your post seem confusing. (Went from dogs to cats and kind of changed topics.) I do not think you said anything offensive.

concretegurl · 12-28-2010, 02:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Lisa and Pic

I think it was your last paragraph that made your post seem confusing. (Went from dogs to cats and kind of changed topics.) I do not think you said anything offensive.

Oh good-ye I was more so giving an example of obsession with pets that can cause problems/concerns with visitors and family...
I also forgot to add (hahaha I'm joking no one freak out-well not really joking but hey) IF ALL ELSE FAILS...suggest to your son he spends some time on YT and sees all the people on here with 4 plus Yorkies and how obsessed some people can really be with just one! He'll change his definition of obsessed real fast!

ladyjane · 12-28-2010, 05:36 AM

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Originally Posted by concretegurl

1. I don't understand the huh? Did you have a specific question about what I said or just didn't like that I suggested she self check the situation, and if that doesn't work get clarification from her son for the sake of their relationship?I don't want to get OT either but just in case the OP sees this and has a huh too I'll try and clarify as best I can a huh?

2.Were you confused about my personal accounts? I just wanted to share how there are two ways situations like this come about in my experience...and the details of them...either because there is an issue or because someone else has an issue that truly is theirs.

3. Did what I say seem offensive-I hope not! Was trying to give honest and realistic advice to the situation instead of just assuring her it was nothing-that seems false and silly considering no one really knows what happened that warranted the event and comments from her son. She shouldn't worry or feel bad either way...I would hope that an actual resolution would be the best outcome here...

4. Anyone can pm me at any time I'm fine with it-I don't want to be the topic that gets a thread off topic...

5. Really hope the OP keeps everyone updated and it all works out for better to communication and conflict resolution!

1. I thought it was a strange post.
2. It is common for people to say the things her son said.
3. I have no reason to pm you.
4. I was not taking anything off topic...honestly thought that you were.
5. Have a nice day.

YorkieRose · 12-28-2010, 05:43 AM

Forget what people think...I have been obccessed for nearly 40 yrs...and that is why I perfer to associate with other "Yorkie" nuts...my family accepts my "condition"...and if they didn't that would be their problem.

Having a passion for something is what makes for a well rounded and mentally healthy person...and an interesting person to know...spare me from the so called sane of society.

roseslevi · 12-28-2010, 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Perrella

Ok, this has bothered me since Christmas Eve. My son, his wife & children came from VA for the day. Close to when they were getting ready to leave, my son pulls me aside and says, mom, come to the garage I need to talk with you privately.

Ok well, we get out there and he said, mom, we have talked and this is a very serious problem you have with this obsession you have with Zhoie. You are/it's not normal.

I know I looked dumbfounded, it really took me back and I probably didn't handle it right. I looked at him and said "son, if you have a serious problem with this....it's your serious problem, not mine. Later, when they were gone and I started thinking about it, I was nearly brought to tears. What is so wrong with me loving my dog unconditionally? It certainly does not make me a nut case, like I felt he was referring too. Geez.

Thought please

Many of my friends hace facials and manicures and spa treatments etc. etc. So my little obsession is my yorkies. I get more excited over a petco gift card than a Macy's one. Also I have two yorkies so I am twice as nutty!

ladyjane · 12-28-2010, 06:11 AM

I need to clarify something.....I did not find the last remark of that one post as confusing. It started out with the question about her being an animal hoarder and continued to confound me as I went further.

OK...enough of alll of that! Definitely I am taking it even further off topic.

I love my pups and my son understands but also makes similar remarks to me. I believe that younger people don't understand that often when an empty nester takes in a pup, yorkie or other breed, that pup becomes the "child". Nothing in my way of thinking that makes it abnormal. It is just not understood because they have not been there yet.

Susan78 · 12-28-2010, 06:15 AM

There is nothing the matter with you I know you are normal. I think your son does not understand your love for your yorkie. Just because they have fur and four legs it doesn't mean we can't treat them like a human. Our baby and our past baby are treated like we want to be treated. Kinder gives us love,never talks back, and never tells us we have a problem. Keep loving your baby and ignore what is said. Your son does have his life and children and you have your yorkie. Maybe oneday they will get a dog and really see the light. God bless you for loving your yorkie everyday.

John Stelting · 12-28-2010, 06:44 AM

And yes, she's in my will,,,,,,,,,, and no your not........

That would of shut his pie hole.

12-27-2010, 10:51 PM	#46
taxlady Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2010 Location: Southern,CA, Posts: 247	Spoiled It's so true, and I tell everyone I spoil my husband, spoil my son, spoil my dog. It's who I am. Love or leave it! I might as well not breathe as not spoil and love those I love and our babies give back so very much and ask so very little. I know I have become the crazy dog lady, so be it, I don't care and DH is just about as bad . __________________ Sprockets Guardian and personal slave.

12-27-2010, 11:08 PM	#47
YorkieChick1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Bay Area, California Posts: 2,249	If you are nuts then I need to be committed!! I have 6 Yorkies and 2 Chihuahuas!! And of course they sleep with me!! And of course they have a stroller!! And of course they have more clothes than most kids!! Isn't that normal??? __________________ Nanci 's her furbabies!! Brooke,Binky,Bunny,Buster & BooBoo And My Chichis: Baby & Bitsy There's nothing that brightens my day more than a puppy kiss!

12-28-2010, 06:11 AM	#58
ladyjane Resident Yorkie Nut Donating YT 20K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 27,490	I need to clarify something.....I did not find the last remark of that one post as confusing. It started out with the question about her being an animal hoarder and continued to confound me as I went further. OK...enough of alll of that! Definitely I am taking it even further off topic. I love my pups and my son understands but also makes similar remarks to me. I believe that younger people don't understand that often when an empty nester takes in a pup, yorkie or other breed, that pup becomes the "child". Nothing in my way of thinking that makes it abnormal. It is just not understood because they have not been there yet. __________________ CLOUD NINE BEDS--YORKIE HAVEN RESCUE MY ETSY SHOP

12-28-2010, 06:44 AM	#60
John Stelting YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: colorado springs, co, usa Posts: 380	I would of said And yes, she's in my will,,,,,,,,,, and no your not........ That would of shut his pie hole.

12-27-2010, 11:41 PM	#48
concretegurl Between♥Suspensions Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Vaissades Posts: 7,979	I know everyone wants to make you feel better unconditionally, and I so don't mean to negate that or cause you worry...just a moments pause in reflection that might cause resolution to the entire situation I want to jump to your defense but let's be honest, fair and open minded and do a little double check first 1. Are you an animal hoarder-sorry I had to mention that! 2. Do you push people away because of your dog? 3. Do you miss out on events because of your dog? 4. Are you constantly referring to and negating anything or anyone because of your dog? 5. Is your dog out of control in anyway? Behavioral, territorial, bites, potties in house barks incessantly? If no, to all that, huh I'm missing the major issue... Can you email, text or write him in some way, as writing and receiving an answer in writing (be sure to say why in writing that) it is best to get clear and unemotionally interrupted responses on things like this so you can get him to detail (ask him maybe to number the issues and or the incidents 1, 2, so forth) what issues he sees as obsessive and then furthermore why that's an issue for him? Please share with us-if that's okay-maybe we can all learn something here... On another note a friend said the same thing about me to her sister -in -law whom is one of my best friends...needless to say the reason ended up being because I had pulled her aside and talked to her about her child's uncontrollable behavior toward my dogs and how it was unacceptable either she correct her child or I would-my dogs were not toys to be played rough with or mistreated. needless to say a week later the child hurt Grandma's little dog and suddenly the issue was addressed..it wasn't me or my dogs that were a problem it was her lack of parenting and teaching her child. I hope this wasn't the situation for you... My grandma had four cats, the hair was covering the house, she put up cat posts all on windows, cat posts, beds toys in every room, refused to keep them out of the den so there was one cat free room for the family members with allergies to them to come over, had food placed all over in strange places because that's where they wanted to eat at (really on top the china cabinet in the family room?) they scratched the walls and window ceils right after my cousin put new vinyl windows in and update the ceils for her...I could go on for days but I'll close with two of the four cats were unsocial and aggressive ( I mean they ambushed and attached people) I'm an animal lover many other family members were too...this situation changed some of us toward these cats...it was a constant issue and she refused to do anything about it-her cats came first after her husband died she could finally get a cat and that was that we had to tolerate it or not come over...it was harsh and strained for a long time.

12-28-2010, 05:43 AM	#56
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	Forget what people think...I have been obccessed for nearly 40 yrs...and that is why I perfer to associate with other "Yorkie" nuts...my family accepts my "condition"...and if they didn't that would be their problem. Having a passion for something is what makes for a well rounded and mentally healthy person...and an interesting person to know...spare me from the so called sane of society.

12-28-2010, 06:15 AM	#59
Susan78 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Hibbing Minnesota Posts: 1,107	There is nothing the matter with you I know you are normal. I think your son does not understand your love for your yorkie. Just because they have fur and four legs it doesn't mean we can't treat them like a human. Our baby and our past baby are treated like we want to be treated. Kinder gives us love,never talks back, and never tells us we have a problem. Keep loving your baby and ignore what is said. Your son does have his life and children and you have your yorkie. Maybe oneday they will get a dog and really see the light. God bless you for loving your yorkie everyday.