[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by concretegurl

I know everyone wants to make you feel better unconditionally, and I so don't mean to negate that or cause you worry...just a moments pause in reflection that might cause resolution to the entire situation
I want to jump to your defense but let's be honest, fair and open minded and do a little double check first
1. Are you an animal hoarder-sorry I had to mention that!
2. Do you push people away because of your dog?
3. Do you miss out on events because of your dog?
4. Are you constantly referring to and negating anything or anyone because of your dog?
5. Is your dog out of control in anyway? Behavioral, territorial, bites, potties in house barks incessantly?

If no, to all that, huh I'm missing the major issue...
Can you email, text or write him in some way, as writing and receiving an answer in writing (be sure to say why in writing that) it is best to get clear and unemotionally interrupted responses on things like this so you can get him to detail (ask him maybe to number the issues and or the incidents 1, 2, so forth) what issues he sees as obsessive and then furthermore why that's an issue for him?

Please share with us-if that's okay-maybe we can all learn something here...

On another note a friend said the same thing about me to her sister -in -law whom is one of my best friends...needless to say the reason ended up being because I had pulled her aside and talked to her about her child's uncontrollable behavior toward my dogs and how it was unacceptable either she correct her child or I would-my dogs were not toys to be played rough with or mistreated. needless to say a week later the child hurt Grandma's little dog and suddenly the issue was addressed..it wasn't me or my dogs that were a problem it was her lack of parenting and teaching her child. I hope this wasn't the situation for you...

My grandma had four cats, the hair was covering the house, she put up cat posts all on windows, cat posts, beds toys in every room, refused to keep them out of the den so there was one cat free room for the family members with allergies to them to come over, had food placed all over in strange places because that's where they wanted to eat at (really on top the china cabinet in the family room?) they scratched the walls and window ceils right after my cousin put new vinyl windows in and update the ceils for her...I could go on for days but I'll close with two of the four cats were unsocial and aggressive ( I mean they ambushed and attached people) I'm an animal lover many other family members were too...this situation changed some of us toward these cats...it was a constant issue and she refused to do anything about it-her cats came first after her husband died she could finally get a cat and that was that we had to tolerate it or not come over...it was harsh and strained for a long time.

Huh?