Yorkie obsession....feelings hurt

[DvlshAngel985]

Just thought this was interesting. I saw a PBS special on dogs recently, I watched it on Netflix. In the special, they said that the same hormones that bond a human mom to their newborn baby are released when a person is petting their dog. The dog has the same reaction to being petted. It really is you don't know what it's like until you have one of your very own, whether it be a skinkid or a furbaby. I don't know what it's like to be a skinmom, but I know that being a furmom is wonderful and indescribable in its own way.

[Lisa and Pic]

Originally Posted by Perrella

You know, I'm not sure but I know his wife is, so I'm sure he is at least some of the time. But his answer would be....it's about people, not dogs.

Oh well, I'm letting it go....I'm happy, Zhoie is happy and hubby kisses her all the time.....LOL.

Thank you everyone for listening and let me know...letting me know it normal to be a crazy dog lady and we LOVE it!!

I was going to suggest you join the rest of us at the Crazy Dog Ladies Group, but I went to your page and see you already belong.

[Beamers Mom]

Originally Posted by Perrella

You know, I'm not sure but I know his wife is, so I'm sure he is at least some of the time. But his answer would be....it's about people, not dogs.

Oh well, I'm letting it go....I'm happy, Zhoie is happy and hubby kisses her all the time.....LOL.

Thank you everyone for listening and let me know...letting me know it normal to be a crazy dog lady and we LOVE it!!

LOL - normal and crazy in the same sentence really sounds like an oxymoron.

Hmm does your son think your hubby is crazy too?

[Lisa and Pic]

Originally Posted by Beamers Mom

LOL - normal and crazy in the same sentence really sounds like an oxymoron.

Yep, sounds like an oxymoron to me too. (I just love that word.)

[Perrella]

Originally Posted by Beamers Mom

LOL - normal and crazy in the same sentence really sounds like an oxymoron.

Hmm does your son think your hubby is crazy too?

Hehehe, yes it is.

Actually, DH is a little more reserved with kisses in front of anyone, LOL Must be a man thing. Believe me though, he is right there with Zhoie if I'm busy cooking or whatever. He's not fooling me one bit.

[lisaly]

I'm sure your son said those things because he loves you, and since he doesn't understand, he's worried about you. I'm sure he meant no harm, but I wouldn't have been pleased either. Most people don't get how much our pups mean to us, but honestly, they don't really have to understand. If Zhoie is making you happy and you are content with spending the time you do with her. that's all that really matters. You should not have to justify your feelings or actions. To me, there is no risk involved in completely surrendering our hearts to our little ones. Even when it's time to say goodbye, we are so much better off having shared our lives with them and given our hearts to them. It must be wonderful having all of the cards that you received. I can imagine the joy you felt when you opened each one of them. Spending time on a forum with people who share a common interest, who truly understand how you feel about your little girl, is completely harmless unless it prevents you from functioning and fulfilling other responsibilities. That does not seem to be the case at all. I know there are people in my life who were worried about how much our lives revolved around caring for Ashley. It was genuine concern for my husband and me, and not just judgment. Honestly, I wouldn't care if it were judgment because I didn't expect many people to understand. What mattered was that we were doing things the way we wanted to do things and we did what we felt was right for her and us. We would be the first to admit that we were obsessed, but it harmed no one. We just felt so much happier having our little girls to love, even though we made many adjustments in our lives. Follow your heart. Loving freely and giving of oneself is never a bad thing. Your little one has taught you what unconditional love truly means, and that's what she deserves from you. To attach anything negative to loving completely like that is very wrong. You will have these overflowing, wonderful feelings for Zhoie your entire lifetime. I think only goodness can come from that. I am very glad to have "met" people just like you on YorkieTalk, and I'm glad that you and Zhoie are here.

[Perrella]

Originally Posted by lisaly

I'm sure your son said those things because he loves you, and since he doesn't understand, he's worried about you. I'm sure he meant no harm, but I wouldn't have been pleased either. Most people don't get how much our pups mean to us, but honestly, they don't really have to understand. If Zhoie is making you happy and you are content with spending the time you do with her. that's all that really matters. You should not have to justify your feelings or actions. To me, there is no risk involved in completely surrendering our hearts to our little ones. Even when it's time to say goodbye, we are so much better off having shared our lives with them and given our hearts to them. It must be wonderful having all of the cards that you received. I can imagine the joy you felt when you opened each one of them. Spending time on a forum with people who share a common interest, who truly understand how you feel about your little girl, is completely harmless unless it prevents you from functioning and fulfilling other responsibilities. That does not seem to be the case at all. I know there are people in my life who were worried about how much our lives revolved around caring for Ashley. It was genuine concern for my husband and me, and not just judgment. Honestly, I wouldn't care if it were judgment because I didn't expect many people to understand. What mattered was that we were doing things the way we wanted to do things and we did what we felt was right for her and us. We would be the first to admit that we were obsessed, but it harmed no one. We just felt so much happier having our little girls to love, even though we made many adjustments in our lives. Follow your heart. Loving freely and giving of oneself is never a bad thing. Your little one has taught you what unconditional love truly means, and that's what she deserves from you. To attach anything negative to loving completely like that is very wrong. You will have these overflowing, wonderful feelings for Zhoie your entire lifetime. I think only goodness can come from that. I am very glad to have "met" people just like you on YorkieTalk, and I'm glad that you and Zhoie are here.

Thank you so much, your words are wonderful and mean so much to me! Could not have been said any better. Exactly how I feel.

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by Ringo1

I think my teen-age son likes it that I have another obsession! That kind of balances my previous, laser like, slightly obsessive, FOCUS on HIM!

Especially now that he wants to do his own thing and is no longer content simply hanging out at home with me.

When my 19 year old teases me about being over-the-top with my pups, I am SO going to remind him that I could easily redirect my focus on him as I did in his younger-years. Thank you so much! I can see his speechless face now. Seriously, my son lovingly teases me about it, but he loves his Jack Russell and the yorkies too. He gets just as big a kick out of them getting new toys and other "needful things" as I do -- well maybe not "as big" but close. He is a lot like his dad was, such a great sense of humor. I am glad he understands about the pups. They fill my life with a lot of love & laughter. Can't imagine my life without them.

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by DvlshAngel985

Just thought this was interesting. I saw a PBS special on dogs recently, I watched it on Netflix. In the special, they said that the same hormones that bond a human mom to their newborn baby are released when a person is petting their dog. The dog has the same reaction to being petted. It really is you don't know what it's like until you have one of your very own, whether it be a skinkid or a furbaby. I don't know what it's like to be a skinmom, but I know that being a furmom is wonderful and indescribable in its own way.

Awww...that is nice to know. I am both a human kid mom & a puppy mom -- there are MANY ways they are so similar. I think I made a mistake thinking they were not so alike a few years ago. But, the longer I have them, the more I see the similarities. When you have more than one dog, you start seeing their interactions as so close to human children, it is amazing too! My mom & dad had six kids, now they have six dogs. They see all of us kids in those dogs. They haven't said directly, but I know which one reminds them of me. I am very thankful they have their pups -- I think they are such nurturing people, they cannot imagine a life without little ones to care for.

[ladyjane]

They ARE the same and if you do not believe it.....pick up the phone and try to have a conversation without being interrupted.

Neither one will allow it.

[BabyGirl Rosie]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

They ARE the same and if you do not believe it.....pick up the phone and try to have a conversation without being interrupted.

Neither one will allow it.

Love it!!! That is great!

[yorkieusa]

Or start to sit down and they want something.

[concretegurl]

I like the comparison another member had in another thread it hit home here pretty hard...
"I thought when my children out grew the toddler phase I would be able to go to the bathroom by myself..then I got my Yorkie!"

[Lizzie07]

I feel bad that your son said anything to you. What he doesn't understand, IMO, is how easy it is to be "obsessed" about something that can make you laugh as often as a yorkie and bring so much joy to your life. A day doesn't go by that my dogs (my IGs are rather comical too) don't make me laugh. People get obsessed about many things they enjoy and I don't understand. Like golf, a football team, motorcycles, or any number of other things, and those aren't even warm, living things.

Add to that the fact that there is a WONDERFUL social network of other yorkie lovers you've met here on YT who share your obession. Just don't tell your son you're leaving everything to the dog, not him.

[diannenet]

Originally Posted by Perrella

His thoughts are and always have been, a dog should be treated like a dog, no more no less.

My husband used to think the same thing until Speedy and Toby came along. He was used to having big dogs and just recently admitted he has become a small dog lover. These two are spoiled rotten! Hubby is even going to make them an oak dog bed and has been looking on line for ideas. I never thought I would see this day come! LOL