I understand that you are frustrated. I have seen that my little ones do not really like change much. Mine are crate trained to sleep in a crate at night. It is the only time my 3 cats feel like they can relax and roam the house to play.

I love for mine to sit on my lap or lay next to me when we watch TV or a movie.
I hope that things get better for you soon.
BTW, I was glad to read that others have multiple babies.