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Misti1 · 01-31-2010, 02:31 PM

[QUOTE=YorkieMom6;2980674]Let me just add, because I have been there too

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We women can be such nurturing and care giving individuals that sometimes we allow others to take advantage of us and not treat us well. I have been engulfed by another before and let the negativity and bad stuff be swept under the rug. Yes, we all have issues and 'maybe' this one is having some himself however, if we do not demand respect we will never receive it.

Please take this in the context it is intended... I am a VERY strong woman and even I, in my past, was taken in and not treated right. It can happen so quickly when we have so much compassion.

Just a consideration is all. I really do wish you the best of luck!![/QUOTI appreciate what you hae said here.

Misti1 · 01-31-2010, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by debelm2

I am new here but would just like to add a thought about this topic. I have been married for 33 years to a man who is definitely not an "animal lover". He never quite understood how I could become so attached to the many pets we have had over the years...until Missy came along! Now everyone is so shocked in how much he has bonded with our little girl. My children are amazed. So maybe there is hope! There is a chance he just said a stupid thing and will realize how wrong he is. Maybe you can talk to him about it and give him a chance to explain. Some people aren't automatically "animal lovers" they just learn from others and from loving furry friends.

.....yeah, and after all, I'm not talking about moving in or getting married or anything. THEY live at MY HOUSE, why would that cause anyone a problem. Don't wanna be around them? We can go to HIS house for a while.

HarleyHOO · 02-01-2010, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Disney

Your soulmate will love you for who you are. Whether he's an animal lover or not, he'll love the yorkies because they're a part of you.

I agree!

And as for him ~ after talking such ignorant crap, I wouldn't trust him around my babies anyway.

Cares4Dogs · 02-01-2010, 10:56 AM

Tell him your furbabies decided he doesnt fit in into our family.

jrsygal37 · 02-01-2010, 10:59 AM

Well, you should have told him that a "real" man wouldn't have any issues with two small dogs. My hubby is a tough NYC Police Officer and we have six and guess where they all sit at night.... Right on his lap.

Elaine

YorkieMom6 · 02-01-2010, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by jrsygal37

Well, you should have told him that a "real" man wouldn't have any issues with two small dogs. My hubby is a tough NYC Police Officer and we have six and guess where they all sit at night.... Right on his lap.

Elaine

LOVE LOVE LOVE

spiritwings1202 · 02-01-2010, 11:04 AM

That is so messed up, how could he feel that way about your dogs knowing how much you love them. He is not worth it, there is somebody who will love you and your dogs! That man will be a keeper

jeanm1963 · 02-01-2010, 11:07 AM

I think he is saying that to you , so you are insecure and feel like no matter what your stuck with him. Your not , why would you want to be with anyone who would even say such a mean thing. I happen to know a really nice guy , handsome great job and he has 3 yorkies of his own.. he found a very nice girlfriend. So there are 100's of men out there that like dogs...!!!

salazark · 02-01-2010, 11:11 AM

I've read all the posts and I kind of feel like some of the others. He may not have really meant what he said the way it sounded. I would try to open up the communications and see (over time) what the "real" attitude is. From everything else you've said about him, he sounds like a pretty nice guy. On the other hand - I would use the babies as a way to find out about anyone you were looking at getting serious with. To me the biggest way to tell about someone is how they treat their mother and animals - especially animals that are loved by someone he's supposed to love. I wouldn't necessarily give him up right now but pay attention. Actions speak louder than words.

Vwitscher · 02-01-2010, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Misti1

Whew Guys, I just got home from work and read this thread... seems like the overwhelming idea is I should leave him alone. I want to thank all of you for the love...

Here is what he is missing out on.

Wheww, GIRL! You got it goin' on! You're right he'll be missin' it but you go on. The right one's out there.

Lorrainelola · 02-01-2010, 12:24 PM

Hun, you look gorgeous from your picture. You are a strong woman , think back to why you broke up 3 years ago? You say it was his decision to break up. He knows what you feel for him but you have to have the upper hand. If he wants you he has to prove it.

Of course his remark would have hurt you especially if you felt things were going well. I would let him sweat, as hard as it may be not to want to contact him, make him come running to you.

I was married for 16 years to a bully and finaly had the courage to leave him. I wasn't looking for anybody and was enjoying my single life and then this gorgeous policeman came into my life and we are now married.

He is the one who is missing out. You never know what or who is around the corner. I hope it works out for you which ever path you take.
Hugs
Lorraine x x

friscomom · 02-01-2010, 01:05 PM

Well now, a man once made that same remark about my having 3 kids [sigh]. I think he was just trying to manipulate me in to cooking him meals for a very, very long time [...'nother sigh...]. Was there any truth to it? I'll never know. [big, big sigh].

-To thine own self be true

Misti1 · 02-01-2010, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Cares4Dogs

Tell him your furbabies decided he doesnt fit in into our family.

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Misti1 · 02-01-2010, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by jrsygal37

Well, you should have told him that a "real" man wouldn't have any issues with two small dogs. My hubby is a tough NYC Police Officer and we have six and guess where they all sit at night.... Right on his lap.

Elaine

We want a picture of that please

Misti1 · 02-01-2010, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by salazark

I've read all the posts and I kind of feel like some of the others. He may not have really meant what he said the way it sounded. I would try to open up the communications and see (over time) what the "real" attitude is. From everything else you've said about him, he sounds like a pretty nice guy. On the other hand - I would use the babies as a way to find out about anyone you were looking at getting serious with. To me the biggest way to tell about someone is how they treat their mother and animals - especially animals that are loved by someone he's supposed to love. I wouldn't necessarily give him up right now but pay attention. Actions speak louder than words.

He treats his mother extremely well, sisters too, and his grandson also.

01-31-2010, 02:31 PM	#61
Misti1 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Memphis, TN Posts: 3,051	[QUOTE=YorkieMom6;2980674]Let me just add, because I have been there too .... We women can be such nurturing and care giving individuals that sometimes we allow others to take advantage of us and not treat us well. I have been engulfed by another before and let the negativity and bad stuff be swept under the rug. Yes, we all have issues and 'maybe' this one is having some himself however, if we do not demand respect we will never receive it. Please take this in the context it is intended... I am a VERY strong woman and even I, in my past, was taken in and not treated right. It can happen so quickly when we have so much compassion. Just a consideration is all. I really do wish you the best of luck!![/QUOTI appreciate what you hae said here. __________________ Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club

02-01-2010, 11:04 AM	#67
spiritwings1202 Pixie and Daisy Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: CT USA Posts: 2,680	That is so messed up, how could he feel that way about your dogs knowing how much you love them. He is not worth it, there is somebody who will love you and your dogs! That man will be a keeper __________________ Proud Mom of Daisy and Pixie

02-01-2010, 11:07 AM	#68
jeanm1963 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Weymouth, Ma Posts: 2,584	I think he is saying that to you , so you are insecure and feel like no matter what your stuck with him. Your not , why would you want to be with anyone who would even say such a mean thing. I happen to know a really nice guy , handsome great job and he has 3 yorkies of his own.. he found a very nice girlfriend. So there are 100's of men out there that like dogs...!!! __________________ I Support http://www.yorkiesinc.com/

02-01-2010, 12:24 PM	#71
Lorrainelola YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Hampshire England Posts: 279	Hun, you look gorgeous from your picture. You are a strong woman , think back to why you broke up 3 years ago? You say it was his decision to break up. He knows what you feel for him but you have to have the upper hand. If he wants you he has to prove it. Of course his remark would have hurt you especially if you felt things were going well. I would let him sweat, as hard as it may be not to want to contact him, make him come running to you. I was married for 16 years to a bully and finaly had the courage to leave him. I wasn't looking for anybody and was enjoying my single life and then this gorgeous policeman came into my life and we are now married. He is the one who is missing out. You never know what or who is around the corner. I hope it works out for you which ever path you take. Hugs Lorraine x x __________________ Your yorkie never judges, he loves you unconditionally. Lorraine and little Alfie

02-01-2010, 10:56 AM	#64
Cares4Dogs Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: USA Posts: 975	Tell him your furbabies decided he doesnt fit in into our family.

02-01-2010, 10:59 AM	#65
jrsygal37 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Jersey Shore Posts: 3,370	Well, you should have told him that a "real" man wouldn't have any issues with two small dogs. My hubby is a tough NYC Police Officer and we have six and guess where they all sit at night.... Right on his lap. Elaine

02-01-2010, 11:11 AM	#69
salazark Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Alabama Posts: 941	I've read all the posts and I kind of feel like some of the others. He may not have really meant what he said the way it sounded. I would try to open up the communications and see (over time) what the "real" attitude is. From everything else you've said about him, he sounds like a pretty nice guy. On the other hand - I would use the babies as a way to find out about anyone you were looking at getting serious with. To me the biggest way to tell about someone is how they treat their mother and animals - especially animals that are loved by someone he's supposed to love. I wouldn't necessarily give him up right now but pay attention. Actions speak louder than words.

02-01-2010, 01:05 PM	#72
friscomom CURRENTLY SUSPENDED! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Atlanta, GA, US Posts: 207	Well now, a man once made that same remark about my having 3 kids [sigh]. I think he was just trying to manipulate me in to cooking him meals for a very, very long time [...'nother sigh...]. Was there any truth to it? I'll never know. [big, big sigh]. -To thine own self be true