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cindymevers · 01-10-2010, 04:36 PM

When I first got Lexie I found myself at times wishing I did not have her. House breaking was a PAIN in the rear! My husband kept telling me that if I invested the time and energy in her for a few months I would be head over heels in love with her. He was right. I have had her 9 months now and she is a delight. She is housebroken, obeys for the most part (thanks Petsmart), and best of all we get each other. Having a dog is like all good relationships, it takes work. She is my buddy and I can't image life without her. If you find that you still feel that way after a few months or you resent the dog then it's time to rehome the dog. Not everybody is cut out for Yorkies and that's okay. Your goal is to either provide a good home or find one for your Yorkie.

Perrella · 01-10-2010, 05:13 PM

I'm sorry you are having these feelings, it's hard to go through. Why don't you tell us about your new puppy. How old is he, how much does he weigh? Is he way to cute...oh better yet, post a picture of the little guy!

What is no what you expected, the little guy himself for is it all the work and responsibility that comes along too? Do you have any help or it is all on you?

BellaBlue82 · 01-10-2010, 05:20 PM

I haven't brought my baby home yet (just a few more weeks, though!) but I know what you're talking about in a way. It's a little different, but I was kind of like that with my first son (granted I was just 20 when I had him), but I was so scared and didn't know what to do with him. I wasn't sure if I was really ready to be a mother (although I was married and planned the pregnancy), but it all worked out. I'm not sure if it was just post partum depression or what, but I felt the same way. I had hyped myself up so much during my pregnancy and then when I brought him home, I was so overwhelmed. He's 7 now and the love of my life, my big little man! Like I said I know it's different, obviously, but with your puppy if it's meant to be then you will be at peace about it... and if not then either give him back, or if you can't do that, please make sure that you take the time to find a really great home for him.

DvlshAngel985 · 01-10-2010, 06:19 PM

I had been begging my parents for a pup since I was 4. Granted, we always lived in apts that never allowed dogs, I grew up always wanting one. I always had an image in my head of what owning a dog would be and all the fun stuff that I was missing out on.
I even kinda resented my boyfriend. He had one dog that his dad then bred and had 2 puppies. I then lived in a pet friendly condo but never offered to let me have a puppy, silly I know but that's just how much I wanted a dog. Fast forward 2 years later and I found Kaji (Bear) here on YT, a month shy of my 24th birthday. Those nights before he come home I couldn't sleep. During the day I would go on shopping trips and dream of all the cute things I would get my boy. The day he came home I went straight into mommy mode, even celebrating his first birthday, which happened to be that day. Not until the 3rd week did it hit me... I have a dog. That thing I had desired for so long was sitting in front of me, looking at me with those big brown eyes. I freaked! I usually freak when something in my life changes. This is a bit embarrassing, but growing up I would freak about all the "what if's" and not sleep 3 days before starting a new school year. Can anyone imagine a 6 year old doing that? That's just how I am, how I'm wired. So I was a bit surprise about the delay but still, there it was.
What if I can't take care of him? What if he doesn't like me after a while? What if we don't bond? What if I get tired of having him once the new-ness wears off? What if I don't want to change my life to make room for him? What if... what if.. what if.......
I was so busy taking care of updating his vaccinations, having him neutered and deciding on the right food for him that the what if's hadn't settled in my mind yet.
After a few days of freaking, having a few nervous breakdowns, and running out of the house leaving a visiting boyfriend care for Kaji while I went out for some air without telling him I finally settle down. It's really been a day by day thing but we have a routine.

Sorry for the long post. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I understand. I understand what it feels like, to want something for so long then feel like it's a giant mistake. Really the only advice I can give you is give it a chance. If after a few days, when everything settles down you feel like you can't provide him the best life then take him back. Or, if in a few days those feelings you had end up being just nerves then that's ok too. That's how I felt and now I seriously cannot see my life without Kaji in it. I'll deal with the what if's when they come, with or without the grace that others have.

SpicyyLovee · 01-11-2010, 01:51 AM

Thank you for understanding eveybody! After a couple sleepless nights, I figured out that I can do this and will. So I decided to keep him. I'm really glad I kept him, since I am already in love with him

He is 13 weeks old now, and weighs 1kg. (about 2 pounds) He's a sweetheart and a tiny little thing. I hope everything goes well with his new family :]

P.S. Sorry for not replying earlier! I have been watching him very closely so I haven't had time to get on. Apologies!

violet voon · 01-11-2010, 02:03 AM

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Originally Posted by SpicyyLovee

Thank you for understanding eveybody! After a couple sleepless nights, I figured out that I can do this and will. So I decided to keep him. I'm really glad I kept him, since I am already in love with him

He is 13 weeks old now, and weighs 1kg. (about 2 pounds) He's a sweetheart and a tiny little thing. I hope everything goes well with his new family :]

P.S. Sorry for not replying earlier! I have been watching him very closely so I haven't had time to get on. Apologies!

I'm so happy you keep him!!!

It's hard to get rid of them once you fall for them, and there's no reasons to get rid of them! LOL

SpicyyLovee · 01-11-2010, 02:14 AM

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Originally Posted by violet voon

I'm so happy you keep him!!!

It's hard to get rid of them once you fall for them, and there's no reasons to get rid of them! LOL

Hehe me too! I know what you mean. I've had him for a very short time, and now I wouldn't thin of giving him up

Lorrainelola · 01-11-2010, 02:16 AM

I'm so pleased for you that you decided to keep him. You will reap the rewards for the love you give him. Its just a case of taking it a day at a time. I've had Alfie 6 weeks now and he's 16weeks old. For the first 5 weeks I had him he would whine if I left the room. He would sleep all night in his crate in our bedroom though. Anyway I was beginning to think that he could never be left and then a couple of days ago I popped him in his crate while I was doing some housework and couldn't really keep any eye on him and lo and behold he didn't make a sound and settled down for a sleep. I tried it again yesterday and he had a nap again.

Basically what I am trying to say is that it does all eventually fall into place. Routines are good and your puppy will soon begin to trust you and feel comfortable.
Everyone on here is a great help and I'm sure we've all had our moments when things seem to go wrong. I added you as a friend, hope you accept.
Best wishes, enjoy your puppy.

SpicyyLovee · 01-11-2010, 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Lorrainelola

I'm so pleased for you that you decided to keep him. You will reap the rewards for the love you give him. Its just a case of taking it a day at a time. I've had Alfie 6 weeks now and he's 16weeks old. For the first 5 weeks I had him he would whine if I left the room. He would sleep all night in his crate in our bedroom though. Anyway I was beginning to think that he could never be left and then a couple of days ago I popped him in his crate while I was doing some housework and couldn't really keep any eye on him and lo and behold he didn't make a sound and settled down for a sleep. I tried it again yesterday and he had a nap again.

Basically what I am trying to say is that it does all eventually fall into place. Routines are good and your puppy will soon begin to trust you and feel comfortable.
Everyone on here is a great help and I'm sure we've all had our moments when things seem to go wrong. I added you as a friend, hope you accept.
Best wishes, enjoy your puppy.

Oh yes, the whining and crying...MuShu practically SCREAMS during the night. He's getting much better.

Thank you, and of course i'll accept!

Lorrainelola · 01-11-2010, 02:26 AM

Where does he sleep at night?

For the first few nights Alfie slept in his crate in the loung with the 2 german shepherds. He cried and we would take it in turns to go down to him and settle him but not let him out of the crate. After 3 nights i think it was and from what I had read on here I decided to put his crate in our bedroom at night. He has not made a sound since. He goes out for his last pee and poopie about 11.30pm and then upstairs into his crate and we don't don't hear a sound from him until one of the german shepherds wakes up.

SpicyyLovee · 01-11-2010, 02:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Lorrainelola

Where does he sleep at night?

For the first few nights Alfie slept in his crate in the loung with the 2 german shepherds. He cried and we would take it in turns to go down to him and settle him but not let him out of the crate. After 3 nights i think it was and from what I had read on here I decided to put his crate in our bedroom at night. He has not made a sound since. He goes out for his last pee and poopie about 11.30pm and then upstairs into his crate and we don't don't hear a sound from him until one of the german shepherds wakes up.

He sleeps in a small ex-pen in the office. We live in an apartment so our neighbors can hear the crying. We only go into the room when he is literally screaming at night. My mom is the one that usually goes, since she doesn't wake up early. She doesn't play or pet him, just sleep in the room for the rest of the night. He only sleeps for about 2-3 hours, then screams, but he has a pee pad in the ex-pen so he doesn't need to go outside to go...

manolos mom · 01-11-2010, 05:11 AM

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Originally Posted by SpicyyLovee

Oh yes, the whining and crying...MuShu practically SCREAMS during the night. He's getting much better.

Thank you, and of course i'll accept!

I am so glad you are keeping him. We all get overwhelmed and scared at times but glad you worked thru it. MuShu is only crying for his momma. He misses her. He will start to bond with you very very soon. Keep us updated and Welcome to YT...

roxies_mom · 01-11-2010, 05:33 AM

I think this first reaction must be perfectly normal since so many relate to it. I felt that way when I got Roxie too. I had had had to have her and then when I got her I was so scared and overwhelmed by her size and she came to me as she was developing a respiratory infection. That illness is terrifying when they are that small. I had days where I thought, "why did I do this?". At the same time my love and bond for her had already started. It gets easier and the bond you develop is indescribable. Glad you decided to keep him. Welcome to YT!!

remus · 01-11-2010, 05:57 AM

Its a puppy, much better than a kid. You dont have to change diapers, watch it cry, feed it constantly . Just give him love and enjoy having a pup.
How can you not like a Yorkie pup.??

SpicyyLovee · 01-11-2010, 06:04 AM

I'm really glad that I joined YT. Everybody here is so understanding because they know exacly what you go through and don't criticize. Even though I haven't posted much,still appreciate all the advice people have recieved from generous YT members.

Just wanted to thank everybody for being so kind and helpful!

01-10-2010, 05:13 PM	#32
Perrella Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: VA Posts: 8,040	I'm sorry you are having these feelings, it's hard to go through. Why don't you tell us about your new puppy. How old is he, how much does he weigh? Is he way to cute...oh better yet, post a picture of the little guy! What is no what you expected, the little guy himself for is it all the work and responsibility that comes along too? Do you have any help or it is all on you? __________________ Tena & Zhoie Sweet Little Miracle

01-10-2010, 05:20 PM	#33
BellaBlue82 Twilight lovin' Yakker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Las Vegas, NV Posts: 1,642	I haven't brought my baby home yet (just a few more weeks, though!) but I know what you're talking about in a way. It's a little different, but I was kind of like that with my first son (granted I was just 20 when I had him), but I was so scared and didn't know what to do with him. I wasn't sure if I was really ready to be a mother (although I was married and planned the pregnancy), but it all worked out. I'm not sure if it was just post partum depression or what, but I felt the same way. I had hyped myself up so much during my pregnancy and then when I brought him home, I was so overwhelmed. He's 7 now and the love of my life, my big little man! Like I said I know it's different, obviously, but with your puppy if it's meant to be then you will be at peace about it... and if not then either give him back, or if you can't do that, please make sure that you take the time to find a really great home for him. __________________ *BellaBlue ~ Mommy to Sasha!*

01-10-2010, 06:19 PM	#34
DvlshAngel985 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Los Angeles, California, USA Posts: 12,693	I had been begging my parents for a pup since I was 4. Granted, we always lived in apts that never allowed dogs, I grew up always wanting one. I always had an image in my head of what owning a dog would be and all the fun stuff that I was missing out on. I even kinda resented my boyfriend. He had one dog that his dad then bred and had 2 puppies. I then lived in a pet friendly condo but never offered to let me have a puppy, silly I know but that's just how much I wanted a dog. Fast forward 2 years later and I found Kaji (Bear) here on YT, a month shy of my 24th birthday. Those nights before he come home I couldn't sleep. During the day I would go on shopping trips and dream of all the cute things I would get my boy. The day he came home I went straight into mommy mode, even celebrating his first birthday, which happened to be that day. Not until the 3rd week did it hit me... I have a dog. That thing I had desired for so long was sitting in front of me, looking at me with those big brown eyes. I freaked! I usually freak when something in my life changes. This is a bit embarrassing, but growing up I would freak about all the "what if's" and not sleep 3 days before starting a new school year. Can anyone imagine a 6 year old doing that? That's just how I am, how I'm wired. So I was a bit surprise about the delay but still, there it was. What if I can't take care of him? What if he doesn't like me after a while? What if we don't bond? What if I get tired of having him once the new-ness wears off? What if I don't want to change my life to make room for him? What if... what if.. what if....... I was so busy taking care of updating his vaccinations, having him neutered and deciding on the right food for him that the what if's hadn't settled in my mind yet. After a few days of freaking, having a few nervous breakdowns, and running out of the house leaving a visiting boyfriend care for Kaji while I went out for some air without telling him I finally settle down. It's really been a day by day thing but we have a routine. Sorry for the long post. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I understand. I understand what it feels like, to want something for so long then feel like it's a giant mistake. Really the only advice I can give you is give it a chance. If after a few days, when everything settles down you feel like you can't provide him the best life then take him back. Or, if in a few days those feelings you had end up being just nerves then that's ok too. That's how I felt and now I seriously cannot see my life without Kaji in it. I'll deal with the what if's when they come, with or without the grace that others have. __________________ Littlest JakJak We miss you Kaji

01-11-2010, 01:51 AM	#35
SpicyyLovee Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: South Korea Posts: 109	Thank you for understanding eveybody! After a couple sleepless nights, I figured out that I can do this and will. So I decided to keep him. I'm really glad I kept him, since I am already in love with him He is 13 weeks old now, and weighs 1kg. (about 2 pounds) He's a sweetheart and a tiny little thing. I hope everything goes well with his new family :] P.S. Sorry for not replying earlier! I have been watching him very closely so I haven't had time to get on. Apologies! __________________ My furbaby MuShu! Last edited by SpicyyLovee; 01-11-2010 at 01:54 AM.

01-11-2010, 02:16 AM	#38
Lorrainelola YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Hampshire England Posts: 279	I'm so pleased for you that you decided to keep him. You will reap the rewards for the love you give him. Its just a case of taking it a day at a time. I've had Alfie 6 weeks now and he's 16weeks old. For the first 5 weeks I had him he would whine if I left the room. He would sleep all night in his crate in our bedroom though. Anyway I was beginning to think that he could never be left and then a couple of days ago I popped him in his crate while I was doing some housework and couldn't really keep any eye on him and lo and behold he didn't make a sound and settled down for a sleep. I tried it again yesterday and he had a nap again. Basically what I am trying to say is that it does all eventually fall into place. Routines are good and your puppy will soon begin to trust you and feel comfortable. Everyone on here is a great help and I'm sure we've all had our moments when things seem to go wrong. I added you as a friend, hope you accept. Best wishes, enjoy your puppy. __________________ Your yorkie never judges, he loves you unconditionally. Lorraine and little Alfie

01-10-2010, 04:36 PM	#31
cindymevers Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Tifton, GA - USA Posts: 56	When I first got Lexie I found myself at times wishing I did not have her. House breaking was a PAIN in the rear! My husband kept telling me that if I invested the time and energy in her for a few months I would be head over heels in love with her. He was right. I have had her 9 months now and she is a delight. She is housebroken, obeys for the most part (thanks Petsmart), and best of all we get each other. Having a dog is like all good relationships, it takes work. She is my buddy and I can't image life without her. If you find that you still feel that way after a few months or you resent the dog then it's time to rehome the dog. Not everybody is cut out for Yorkies and that's okay. Your goal is to either provide a good home or find one for your Yorkie.

01-11-2010, 02:26 AM	#40
Lorrainelola YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Hampshire England Posts: 279	Where does he sleep at night? For the first few nights Alfie slept in his crate in the loung with the 2 german shepherds. He cried and we would take it in turns to go down to him and settle him but not let him out of the crate. After 3 nights i think it was and from what I had read on here I decided to put his crate in our bedroom at night. He has not made a sound since. He goes out for his last pee and poopie about 11.30pm and then upstairs into his crate and we don't don't hear a sound from him until one of the german shepherds wakes up. __________________ Your yorkie never judges, he loves you unconditionally. Lorraine and little Alfie

01-11-2010, 05:33 AM	#43
roxies_mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: central illinois Posts: 1,396 Blog Entries: 1	I think this first reaction must be perfectly normal since so many relate to it. I felt that way when I got Roxie too. I had had had to have her and then when I got her I was so scared and overwhelmed by her size and she came to me as she was developing a respiratory infection. That illness is terrifying when they are that small. I had days where I thought, "why did I do this?". At the same time my love and bond for her had already started. It gets easier and the bond you develop is indescribable. Glad you decided to keep him. Welcome to YT!! __________________ "My sunshine doesn't come from the skies, it comes from the love in my dogs eyes"

01-11-2010, 05:57 AM	#44
remus Donating YT Addict Join Date: May 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 586	Its a puppy, much better than a kid. You dont have to change diapers, watch it cry, feed it constantly . Just give him love and enjoy having a pup. How can you not like a Yorkie pup.?? __________________ Rocky http://i247.photobucket.com/albums/g...lisi79/8-1.jpg

01-11-2010, 06:04 AM	#45
SpicyyLovee Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: South Korea Posts: 109	I'm really glad that I joined YT. Everybody here is so understanding because they know exacly what you go through and don't criticize. Even though I haven't posted much,still appreciate all the advice people have recieved from generous YT members. Just wanted to thank everybody for being so kind and helpful! __________________ My furbaby MuShu!