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lgoodall · 04-01-2009, 10:31 AM

How well do you get along with her Dad? Will he back you or his daughter.? Does he realize how irresponsible she is? Can you have a friend keep the dog for a little while when she comes to get it.?Do whatever you have to do to keep the poor little thing. You're saving it from abuse. I wouldn't trust the bf further than I could throw him. I have daughters also. One isn't speaking to be at the present. She'll need something soon, and she'll be calling. Tucker's Mom

maxs_momma · 04-01-2009, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by lgoodall

How well do you get along with her Dad? Will he back you or his daughter.? Does he realize how irresponsible she is? Can you have a friend keep the dog for a little while when she comes to get it.?Do whatever you have to do to keep the poor little thing. You're saving it from abuse. I wouldn't trust the bf further than I could throw him. I have daughters also. One isn't speaking to be at the present. She'll need something soon, and she'll be calling. Tucker's Mom

The dad i was refering to is he stepdad but she calls him dad and yes he is on the same page with me about this

roxies_mom · 04-01-2009, 12:42 PM

If everythings in your name there is no problem at all. She can claim it's hers all she wants. But if she takes it without you knowing about it, all you have to do is have th police make her surrender it. You show the paper work with your name on everything and that's all you have to have. It would hurt to have to take it that far but it's for the well-fare of the dog. Someone has to take control of the situation and look out for the dog. I'm glad to hear all the papers are in your name that just makes it all that much easier for you.

maxs_momma · 04-05-2009, 11:41 AM

Ok now there is a whole new twist

First let me update...hubby told her no and said end of story but it did no good she told him she's my dog end of story so the fight continues.

Ok so now she is saying that I have ran up a credit card in her name

She says that I got a credit card in her name when she was a minor and that I ran it up and didn't pay it and that she is now going to file fraud charges against me! I do know that she lied and did get a couple in her name before she was 18 and I demanded that they be destroyed and for her to never ever do anything like that again. But now she is saying that I got a five thousand dollar WAMU card in her name and ran it up and didn't pay so now it is over 6 grand. Yes I do have a WAMU card well I did have in my name and I did put her as a authorized user so that she could go buy school clothes but it was only a 1500 card not no 5000! And it is was under my name not hers and I paid the payments on it.

Ok a little more to the story after she destroyed the cards I am assuming that she filed that she had lost them and had new ones sent because she still has them. She ran teh one card up so high and didn't pay it that it had a balance of 1700 on it and like a idiot when they called me about it I offered to help her out by making payments on it. But now I am being accused of something totally off the wall! I don't know what to do I am so sick to my stomach over this right now

. She just told my husband today (after he told her no she couldn't take the dog) that she has spoken to the authorities and can have me arrested in the blink of an eye for fraud. This is so crazy I never dreamed in million years that telling her she cannot have the dog would cause her to come up with something like this

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yorkiesmiles · 04-05-2009, 11:57 AM

Mary, you have an entirely different issue there. I hope you have kept copies of every credit card statement. If not start contacting any present & former credit card companies & requesting statements or go get them online.

Get her name off of anything you have your name on. For some reason this little lady is out with an vengeance - warranted or not. Sounds like the boyfriend may be behind this - but sadly it seems your dd is good at cooking stuff up. (I pray in time she comes around)

Who filed the FAFSA for this young lady to continue college next year? Was it you or is she filing as an independent college student? I would have trouble filing anything with her right now - but like others have said her staying in college is so important.

maxs_momma · 04-05-2009, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by yorkiesmiles

Mary, you have an entirely different issue there. I hope you have kept copies of every credit card statement. If not start contacting any present & former credit card companies & requesting statements or go get them online.

Get her name off of anything you have your name on. For some reason this little lady is out with an vengeance - warranted or not. Sounds like the boyfriend may be behind this - but sadly it seems your dd is good at cooking stuff up. (I pray in time she comes around)

Who filed the FAFSA for this young lady to continue college next year? Was it you or is she filing as an independent college student? I would have trouble filing anything with her right now - but like others have said her staying in college is so important.

She filed the fafsa herself using all mine and hubby's info. We didn't have anything to do with it. Honestly we didn't even know she had filed it until we got a letter in the mail telling us about it. I called the credit card company and they said being that I closed the account a year ago that they have nothing on file

This is all a huge mess and it is killing me how did she end up so evil I still blame it on the B/F because I don't think she could cook this kind of thing up on her own.

MollysMum54 · 04-05-2009, 12:16 PM

Do you think that money could be behind all this then? I wonder if DD was planning to take Bella back, let her become unhappy, and then offer her back to you ....at a price? She (or probably the boyfriend) may see this as a way of making money out of you, because they know you are attached to Bella. My heart goes out to you, having your daughter behave in this way. Hope you can make her see sense, although it sounds unlikely. Prayers and thoughts are with you.

yorkiesmiles · 04-05-2009, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by maxs_momma

She filed the fafsa herself using all mine and hubby's info. We didn't have anything to do with it. Honestly we didn't even know she had filed it until we got a letter in the mail telling us about it. I called the credit card company and they said being that I closed the account a year ago that they have nothing on file

This is all a huge mess and it is killing me how did she end up so evil I still blame it on the B/F because I don't think she could cook this kind of thing up on her own.

I don't understand how she filed the FAFSA? Did you give her access to your tax return

-- this requires accurate information. And most universities also want a copy of the parents tax returns. This also tells me that she must have a copy or know the ss # for both you & your hubby - that in itself is scary!

I hope you kept your credit card statements - I treat this just like any other financial record & hang on to mine for at least 7 years

Chance · 04-05-2009, 12:30 PM

I reallly think your daughter is just making threats about the law. As far as the credit cards go, cancel the ones with her name on them, or if that isn't possible cause of the amounts can't be paid off now, at least take her name off them. If you are paying for her to go to college, stop! She is 18, she thinks she is an adult, let her prove it. In Indiana as with most states, pets are property. You have the rights, considering all the paper work is in your name you pay the vet bills. The dog has been with you all the time except for a few nights, is that right? If so didn't you just let "your dog" go stay all night a couple of times with her "non-four legged big sister", understand what I mean? I has always been your puppy, she just trys to claim it.

Chance · 04-05-2009, 12:40 PM

If she did the FAFSA without you or your husband. Did she commit fraud herself? If so I would tell her that. You probably need to change the locks on your doors, if she has the key. She or her bf, may even try to still your furbaby, and if not I just wouldn't not trust her or him for that matter.

lgoodall · 04-05-2009, 03:33 PM

This daughter is a real piece of work. Under no circumstances should she have this dog. Hold fast.
She's trying to wear you down. If you give up now, she'll know how to get to you, and your problems with her will never cease. Hopefully, she will mature as she gets older; or maybe when the boyfriend dumps her.

maxs_momma · 04-05-2009, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by yorkiesmiles

I don't understand how she filed the FAFSA? Did you give her access to your tax return

-- this requires accurate information. And most universities also want a copy of the parents tax returns. This also tells me that she must have a copy or know the ss # for both you & your hubby - that in itself is scary!

I hope you kept your credit card statements - I treat this just like any other financial record & hang on to mine for at least 7 years

I am pretty sure she knows both our ss#'s from the previous year that she filed. I am not sure how she did it this time because I didn't give her any info or copies of anything. That makes me very curious now to how she got it hmmmm she hasn't even been in our house since last year. Well not that we know of anyway.

maxs_momma · 04-05-2009, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by MollysMum54

Do you think that money could be behind all this then? I wonder if DD was planning to take Bella back, let her become unhappy, and then offer her back to you ....at a price? She (or probably the boyfriend) may see this as a way of making money out of you, because they know you are attached to Bella. My heart goes out to you, having your daughter behave in this way. Hope you can make her see sense, although it sounds unlikely. Prayers and thoughts are with you.

I totally believe that because money is her best friend always has been and probably always will be

maxs_momma · 04-05-2009, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Chance

I reallly think your daughter is just making threats about the law. As far as the credit cards go, cancel the ones with her name on them, or if that isn't possible cause of the amounts can't be paid off now, at least take her name off them. If you are paying for her to go to college, stop! She is 18, she thinks she is an adult, let her prove it. In Indiana as with most states, pets are property. You have the rights, considering all the paper work is in your name you pay the vet bills. The dog has been with you all the time except for a few nights, is that right? If so didn't you just let "your dog" go stay all night a couple of times with her "non-four legged big sister", understand what I mean? I has always been your puppy, she just trys to claim it.

Yes since Dec. 07 she has only had the dog with her for a few nights and 99% of those nights was while she was still living here and went to spend the night with grandparents.

I got exactly what you mean and that is the story I am giong to stick to

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maxs_momma · 04-05-2009, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Chance

If she did the FAFSA without you or your husband. Did she commit fraud herself? If so I would tell her that. You probably need to change the locks on your doors, if she has the key. She or her bf, may even try to still your furbaby, and if not I just wouldn't not trust her or him for that matter.

Hmmm not sure but it may be fraud being that i didn't give her permission. And as of last week the locks are changed. She is having a major fit to because we won't give her a key. I told her you don't live here there is no reason for you to have one but of course she is how she is and doesn't understand that at all.

04-05-2009, 11:41 AM	#79
maxs_momma Living life with yorkies! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,722	Ok now there is a whole new twist First let me update...hubby told her no and said end of story but it did no good she told him she's my dog end of story so the fight continues. Ok so now she is saying that I have ran up a credit card in her name She says that I got a credit card in her name when she was a minor and that I ran it up and didn't pay it and that she is now going to file fraud charges against me! I do know that she lied and did get a couple in her name before she was 18 and I demanded that they be destroyed and for her to never ever do anything like that again. But now she is saying that I got a five thousand dollar WAMU card in her name and ran it up and didn't pay so now it is over 6 grand. Yes I do have a WAMU card well I did have in my name and I did put her as a authorized user so that she could go buy school clothes but it was only a 1500 card not no 5000! And it is was under my name not hers and I paid the payments on it. Ok a little more to the story after she destroyed the cards I am assuming that she filed that she had lost them and had new ones sent because she still has them. She ran teh one card up so high and didn't pay it that it had a balance of 1700 on it and like a idiot when they called me about it I offered to help her out by making payments on it. But now I am being accused of something totally off the wall! I don't know what to do I am so sick to my stomach over this right now . She just told my husband today (after he told her no she couldn't take the dog) that she has spoken to the authorities and can have me arrested in the blink of an eye for fraud. This is so crazy I never dreamed in million years that telling her she cannot have the dog would cause her to come up with something like this . __________________ Skeeta&Bella Max & Sam member's of the little gentlemens club R.I.P my little Chiquita Words can be like weapons so please be kind when you post

04-05-2009, 11:57 AM	#80
yorkiesmiles Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 9,493	Mary, you have an entirely different issue there. I hope you have kept copies of every credit card statement. If not start contacting any present & former credit card companies & requesting statements or go get them online. Get her name off of anything you have your name on. For some reason this little lady is out with an vengeance - warranted or not. Sounds like the boyfriend may be behind this - but sadly it seems your dd is good at cooking stuff up. (I pray in time she comes around) Who filed the FAFSA for this young lady to continue college next year? Was it you or is she filing as an independent college student? I would have trouble filing anything with her right now - but like others have said her staying in college is so important. __________________ yorkiesmiles Loved by Bubba & Roxy *Holy, holy, is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come*

04-01-2009, 10:31 AM	#76
lgoodall YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Tuscaloosa, Alabama Posts: 260	How well do you get along with her Dad? Will he back you or his daughter.? Does he realize how irresponsible she is? Can you have a friend keep the dog for a little while when she comes to get it.?Do whatever you have to do to keep the poor little thing. You're saving it from abuse. I wouldn't trust the bf further than I could throw him. I have daughters also. One isn't speaking to be at the present. She'll need something soon, and she'll be calling. Tucker's Mom

04-01-2009, 12:42 PM	#78
roxies_mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: central illinois Posts: 1,396 Blog Entries: 1	If everythings in your name there is no problem at all. She can claim it's hers all she wants. But if she takes it without you knowing about it, all you have to do is have th police make her surrender it. You show the paper work with your name on everything and that's all you have to have. It would hurt to have to take it that far but it's for the well-fare of the dog. Someone has to take control of the situation and look out for the dog. I'm glad to hear all the papers are in your name that just makes it all that much easier for you.

04-05-2009, 12:16 PM	#82
MollysMum54 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: England,UK Posts: 1,176	Do you think that money could be behind all this then? I wonder if DD was planning to take Bella back, let her become unhappy, and then offer her back to you ....at a price? She (or probably the boyfriend) may see this as a way of making money out of you, because they know you are attached to Bella. My heart goes out to you, having your daughter behave in this way. Hope you can make her see sense, although it sounds unlikely. Prayers and thoughts are with you.

04-05-2009, 12:30 PM	#84
Chance Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Clarkrange Posts: 130	I reallly think your daughter is just making threats about the law. As far as the credit cards go, cancel the ones with her name on them, or if that isn't possible cause of the amounts can't be paid off now, at least take her name off them. If you are paying for her to go to college, stop! She is 18, she thinks she is an adult, let her prove it. In Indiana as with most states, pets are property. You have the rights, considering all the paper work is in your name you pay the vet bills. The dog has been with you all the time except for a few nights, is that right? If so didn't you just let "your dog" go stay all night a couple of times with her "non-four legged big sister", understand what I mean? I has always been your puppy, she just trys to claim it.

04-05-2009, 12:40 PM	#85
Chance Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Clarkrange Posts: 130	If she did the FAFSA without you or your husband. Did she commit fraud herself? If so I would tell her that. You probably need to change the locks on your doors, if she has the key. She or her bf, may even try to still your furbaby, and if not I just wouldn't not trust her or him for that matter.

04-05-2009, 03:33 PM	#86
lgoodall YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Tuscaloosa, Alabama Posts: 260	This daughter is a real piece of work. Under no circumstances should she have this dog. Hold fast. She's trying to wear you down. If you give up now, she'll know how to get to you, and your problems with her will never cease. Hopefully, she will mature as she gets older; or maybe when the boyfriend dumps her.