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voodoochyl · 03-29-2009, 11:39 AM

How many times have you heard of parents inheriting their kid's pets? It happens all the time. If you are the caregiver, you start to love the animal and grow attached. You have been providing food, shelter, and putting out the bucks to go to the vet. I think you have every right to keep the dog with you. I wouldn't let it affect your relationship with your daughter, but you have a firm foundation from which to hold your ground.

yorkiesmiles · 03-29-2009, 12:27 PM

Mary, Hi!! It's just good to see you post!

You are Bella's mom. I really thought you had gotten this all resolved last year, as I thought your daughter had never followed thru with care and payment when she was still at home. I hope everything has gone well addressing this with your daughter today.

Hey, and come back & post - even just for fun! Have you helped bust anymore Indiana puppy mills? Lots of puppy mill discussion going on here at YT lately

MollysMum54 · 03-29-2009, 12:29 PM

If all else fails, tell your daughter the pup has bad diarrhoea....hopefully that will put her off wanting to take it!

roxies_mom · 03-29-2009, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by MollysMum54

If all else fails, tell your daughter the pup has bad diarrhoea....hopefully that will put her off wanting to take it!

Good idea! that oughta change her mind!

maxs_momma · 03-29-2009, 12:52 PM

Ok here is the update...Told her the what Bella acted like the last time and that and had poops for days when she took her and her response was she will be fine. Told her she is terrified of your boyfriend her response was she will get used to him. Then I get told he (her boyfriend) said you are just trying to keep Bella and that is not gonna happen. Then said she was just going to keep her so I ask where she planned on her staying while she was at school all week and she said with her boyfriend. Got to remember this is the boyfriend that little Bella is terrified of I seen it with my own eyes she flew away everytime he came near and would shake like crazy. Ok so I said she won't eat with you (she told me that herself the last time she took her) her response was if she gets hungry enough she will eat. Well last and onlt time she took her before she took her on a Friday and brought her back on a Sunday the poor dog acted like she was starving to death I ask her about it and she said oh she wouldn't eat her food so I gave her some pancakes.

Ok well she is mad now and said she is coming to get her and she is gonna keep her at her boyfirends and that she is very angry so she is gonna fight me on this instead of doing what is best for little Bella. I have her vet bill where I took her to get her spayed and I am going tomorrow to the vet to get the rest they are all under my name. She has already been chipped and that was also paid for by me and under my name. The only thing I don't have is reciepts for the dogfood and treats etc. This is such a total mess.

mscat · 03-29-2009, 12:57 PM

Sigh. I am so sorry. I thought your daughter would have realised that this was best for her dog.

I wish there was something that could be said to change her mine, and she could see that this is not a good idea, and not in the best interest of her dog

You have taken such good care of the dog. This is her home, with you. you have done everything for her. I with she could see that .

maxs_momma · 03-29-2009, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by yorkiesmiles

Mary, Hi!! It's just good to see you post!

You are Bella's mom. I really thought you had gotten this all resolved last year, as I thought your daughter had never followed thru with care and payment when she was still at home. I hope everything has gone well addressing this with your daughter today.

Hey, and come back & post - even just for fun! Have you helped bust anymore Indiana puppy mills? Lots of puppy mill discussion going on here at YT lately

Hey there feels good to be back

I did think that I had it resolved but since she has been with her new live in boyfriend he has been pushing her to come and get Bella. It is always HE wants to see Bella HE wants to come get Bella it is always like that now it is turning into a big fight because she is listening to him and fighting with me about it

To be honest I am waiting for the cops to show up at my door any second now

maxs_momma · 03-29-2009, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by MollysMum54

If all else fails, tell your daughter the pup has bad diarrhoea....hopefully that will put her off wanting to take it!

Wouldn't matter to her at all

She thinks of her as a posession not a dog or baby

TrevorForever · 03-29-2009, 03:04 PM

Please don't let her go with them......it's not fair to Bella

maxs_momma · 03-29-2009, 03:12 PM

I am still fighting with her she keeps saying one night won't kill her yeah right like she would bring her back if I let her go. She also keeps telling me that she is hers and she will have her that I will not keep her. Even though I keep telling her that I am not trying to steal her that I am only worried for Bella's health she won't listen she doesn't seem to care

I am just so stressed right now I can't stand it.

TrevorForever · 03-29-2009, 04:41 PM

This is my concern, the BF may try to get even with you by hurting the baby....some people are evil that way

Chance · 03-29-2009, 04:52 PM

I would just tell her you love the dog now that you have been taking care of it while she was gone. You let it sleep with, and you wouldn't be able to sleep without it, let it stay with grandma.

bcrass2 · 03-29-2009, 04:52 PM

What a mess...You poor thing!!! I think you're doing the right thing for now... Get the bills together. Tell her the cost of feeding her...caring for her!! I think the visit should be put off until things calm down. You don't really think she would call the cops???

I wish my son would take his dog for a visit...I'd have a nobody's home sign on the door!

Chance · 03-29-2009, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Chance

I would just tell her you love the dog now that you have been taking care of it while she was gone. You let it sleep with, and you wouldn't be able to sleep without it, let it stay with grandma.

You might suggest they get a different dog, one that would be theirs together. Maybe the BF will jump on that and leave Bella alone.

maxs_momma · 03-29-2009, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by TrevorForever

This is my concern, the BF may try to get even with you by hurting the baby....some people are evil that way

That is also one of my biggest fears that or he will try to sell so that he can get teh english bulldog he has always wanted

03-29-2009, 12:27 PM	#17
yorkiesmiles Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 9,493	Mary, Hi!! It's just good to see you post! You are Bella's mom. I really thought you had gotten this all resolved last year, as I thought your daughter had never followed thru with care and payment when she was still at home. I hope everything has gone well addressing this with your daughter today. Hey, and come back & post - even just for fun! Have you helped bust anymore Indiana puppy mills? Lots of puppy mill discussion going on here at YT lately __________________ yorkiesmiles Loved by Bubba & Roxy *Holy, holy, is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come*

03-29-2009, 12:52 PM	#20
maxs_momma Living life with yorkies! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,722	Ok here is the update...Told her the what Bella acted like the last time and that and had poops for days when she took her and her response was she will be fine. Told her she is terrified of your boyfriend her response was she will get used to him. Then I get told he (her boyfriend) said you are just trying to keep Bella and that is not gonna happen. Then said she was just going to keep her so I ask where she planned on her staying while she was at school all week and she said with her boyfriend. Got to remember this is the boyfriend that little Bella is terrified of I seen it with my own eyes she flew away everytime he came near and would shake like crazy. Ok so I said she won't eat with you (she told me that herself the last time she took her) her response was if she gets hungry enough she will eat. Well last and onlt time she took her before she took her on a Friday and brought her back on a Sunday the poor dog acted like she was starving to death I ask her about it and she said oh she wouldn't eat her food so I gave her some pancakes. Ok well she is mad now and said she is coming to get her and she is gonna keep her at her boyfirends and that she is very angry so she is gonna fight me on this instead of doing what is best for little Bella. I have her vet bill where I took her to get her spayed and I am going tomorrow to the vet to get the rest they are all under my name. She has already been chipped and that was also paid for by me and under my name. The only thing I don't have is reciepts for the dogfood and treats etc. This is such a total mess. __________________ Skeeta&Bella Max & Sam member's of the little gentlemens club R.I.P my little Chiquita Words can be like weapons so please be kind when you post

03-29-2009, 12:57 PM	#21
mscat YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Hanford, CA Posts: 4,895	Sigh. I am so sorry. I thought your daughter would have realised that this was best for her dog. I wish there was something that could be said to change her mine, and she could see that this is not a good idea, and not in the best interest of her dog You have taken such good care of the dog. This is her home, with you. you have done everything for her. I with she could see that . __________________ "No matter how little money & how few possessions, you own, having a dog makes you rich."

03-29-2009, 03:12 PM	#25
maxs_momma Living life with yorkies! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,722	I am still fighting with her she keeps saying one night won't kill her yeah right like she would bring her back if I let her go. She also keeps telling me that she is hers and she will have her that I will not keep her. Even though I keep telling her that I am not trying to steal her that I am only worried for Bella's health she won't listen she doesn't seem to care I am just so stressed right now I can't stand it. __________________ Skeeta&Bella Max & Sam member's of the little gentlemens club R.I.P my little Chiquita Words can be like weapons so please be kind when you post

03-29-2009, 04:41 PM	#26
TrevorForever BANNED FOR NOT SENDING A GE GIFT! Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Omaha, NE Posts: 1,417 Blog Entries: 4	Poor baby This is my concern, the BF may try to get even with you by hurting the baby....some people are evil that way

03-29-2009, 11:39 AM	#16
voodoochyl Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Southern Oregon Posts: 70	How many times have you heard of parents inheriting their kid's pets? It happens all the time. If you are the caregiver, you start to love the animal and grow attached. You have been providing food, shelter, and putting out the bucks to go to the vet. I think you have every right to keep the dog with you. I wouldn't let it affect your relationship with your daughter, but you have a firm foundation from which to hold your ground.

03-29-2009, 12:29 PM	#18
MollysMum54 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: England,UK Posts: 1,176	If all else fails, tell your daughter the pup has bad diarrhoea....hopefully that will put her off wanting to take it!

03-29-2009, 03:04 PM	#24
TrevorForever BANNED FOR NOT SENDING A GE GIFT! Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Omaha, NE Posts: 1,417 Blog Entries: 4	Please don't let her go with them......it's not fair to Bella

03-29-2009, 04:52 PM	#27
Chance Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Clarkrange Posts: 130	I would just tell her you love the dog now that you have been taking care of it while she was gone. You let it sleep with, and you wouldn't be able to sleep without it, let it stay with grandma.

03-29-2009, 04:52 PM	#28
bcrass2 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Snowflake, AZ, USA Posts: 672	What a mess...You poor thing!!! I think you're doing the right thing for now... Get the bills together. Tell her the cost of feeding her...caring for her!! I think the visit should be put off until things calm down. You don't really think she would call the cops??? I wish my son would take his dog for a visit...I'd have a nobody's home sign on the door! __________________ Chloe and Little Man's Mommy We Miss you Milo!