rescue workers, can you please tell me if i was treated fairly?

[SRD]

thats really not fair. if they turned you down for your fiance's allergy, thats understandable, but for that, honestly the reason she turned you down for is really not a reason at all.

there are good and bad resues out there. we've had a very positive experience years ago when my mom adopted Simba for me, the rescue workers worked with us in every way we needed, and Simba is the sweetest boy ever!

but there are also bad ones I've heard and experienced. they turn you down for reasons they believe that are valid. for example, my mom's neighbor wanted to adopted a small breed dog, they are a really good candidate IMO, recently retired, financially stable, loving personalities, etc, but they got turned down for not having a fenced in yard, and I know lots of people got turned down for that reason. but honestly I don't think its a big deal. I have a fenced in yard, but my girls have used it no more than three times during the close to fours years that I've had them, because they don't want to go in the grass by themselves, I ended up going in the grass with them, so I figure I would rather just walk them on leash instead, and I've been doing it for four years and have nothing to complain about.
I would really hope rescue groups would work with candidates' specific living situation/have candidates working with them as well, rather than setting standard rules. that way there will be less good matches missed, and more homeless animals placed.

[yorkiepuppie]

miao
mscat
Nancy
amandawash

are you guys my fiance's rights advocates? how much is he paying you guys?

i am just kidding. i am glad to hear you guys bring up these points. it is true. it is important for one's health to be able to breath in one's own home...

i guess i never tried to personalize his pain before since he was supportive of me getting a cat. (not two though! )

i guess i would not be too thrilled about kitties either if i had to choose between air or cute fluff balls...cute fluff balls quickly becomes not-so-cute when i am deprived of oxygen...

[QuickSilver]

It is up to you, but I would recommend that you tell the rescue about what happened. Not to get the foster woman "in trouble" per se, but maybe someone needs to work with her to improve her screening / interpersonal skills. You might not have been the only person who has had this experience.

You could always write a letter if you don't want to work with them in person.

[amandawash]

Originally Posted by yorkiepuppie

miao
mscat
Nancy
amandawash

are you guys my fiance's rights advocates? how much is he paying you guys?

i am just kidding. i am glad to hear you guys bring up these points. it is true. it is important for one's health to be able to breath in one's own home...

i guess i never tried to personalize his pain before since he was supportive of me getting a cat. (not two though! )

i guess i would not be too thrilled about kitties either if i had to choose between air or cute fluff balls...cute fluff balls quickly becomes not-so-cute when i am deprived of oxygen...

Aww, I didn't want to make you feel bad! I really love cute little fluff balls but I know after a week of staying with my family who has kitties I want to get out of there so badly and not because I don't love them!!! It is just super frustrating to everyone involved to listed to me sniffle all day and then for my poor hubby how has to listen to more snoring in his ear at night!!

GET ANOTHER YORKIE

[yorkiepuppie]

Originally Posted by QuickSilver

It is up to you, but I would recommend that you tell the rescue about what happened. Not to get the foster woman "in trouble" per se, but maybe someone needs to work with her to improve her screening / interpersonal skills. You might not have been the only person who has had this experience.

You could always write a letter if you don't want to work with them in person.

yes, that would be the right thing to do, but at the moment, i just feel like i want nothing to do with that rescue!

another thing i am worried about is that they are a pretty big organization(they are in more than just CA, they are in many states i believe), i am worried that they would ignore me, and then it would make me angry...

[Moses]

Originally Posted by Ellie May

IMO, it would have been fair to deny your application due to fiance's allergies but I would be very upset about the rest of what you went through.

Some rescues do try their best to find the best home possible and that's great but too many of them do these kinds of things, string people along, deny applications for no good reason at all, etc. I would like to rescue a couple Yorkies someday but hearing all of these stories about how hard it is to rescue and everything new owner has to go through, I think going to a breeder would be a lot less headache and heartache.

I'm sorry you didn't get your kitties.

You know I agree with you to. Most will not adopt because of the allergies but you were treated unfairly. I have tried to rescue before to and they make it so difficult..Hope you find the kitties you are looking for,

[yorkiepuppie]

Originally Posted by amandawash

It is just super frustrating to everyone involved to listed to me sniffle all day and then for my poor hubby how has to listen to more snoring in his ear at night!!

GET ANOTHER YORKIE

lol!

sure, twist my arms into getting another yorkie!

i like having different species of animals in my house though! i think it's just so cute! lol

[mypreciouspups]

Yorkiepuppie I rescued a yorkie from a breeder and loved her the minute I saw her.. it as my sassie...while there she had a darling boy my husband and I fell in love with.. we were willing to write a cheque for him but we were told he was not going anywhere and she could not give him up!!!!! She groomed sassie before we left so the next time she needed grooming I called her and she said to come down..
First thing I noticed was that precious doll was not there.. so I asked about him.. she said oh a couple came by to look at a yorkie baby and had to have him so I sold him.. I dam near died right on the spot.. I was good enough to take a rescue that had been mistreated but not good enough to write a cheque for a little male yorkie we fell in love with.. she was adamant to us that he was not leaving her...

So this makes me remember the hurt I felt... and I am sorry you were treated this way... totally wrong for people to behave like this.. does it make them feel superior I wonder...

May I ask what kind of kitten this was you cannot find????

[yorkiepuppie]

Originally Posted by SRD

thats really not fair. if they turned you down for your fiance's allergy, thats understandable, but for that, honestly the reason she turned you down for is really not a reason at all.

Originally Posted by Moses

You know I agree with you to. Most will not adopt because of the allergies but you were treated unfairly. I have tried to rescue before to and they make it so difficult..Hope you find the kitties you are looking for,

that is how i felt. i would have been ok if they had turn me down due to the allergy issue, because that one i can understand. but what happened is something i didn't expect...

[Moses]

Originally Posted by yorkiepuppie

that is how i felt. i would have been ok if they had turn me down due to the allergy issue, because that one i can understand. but what happened is something i didn't expect...

You know you are probably better off that they wouldn't adopt to you. Something is fishy about the way it was handled anyways.

[yorkiepuppie]

Originally Posted by mypreciouspups

Yorkiepuppie I rescued a yorkie from a breeder and loved her the minute I saw her.. it as my sassie...while there she had a darling boy my husband and I fell in love with.. we were willing to write a cheque for him but we were told he was not going anywhere and she could not give him up!!!!! She groomed sassie before we left so the next time she needed grooming I called her and she said to come down..
First thing I noticed was that precious doll was not there.. so I asked about him.. she said oh a couple came by to look at a yorkie baby and had to have him so I sold him.. I dam near died right on the spot.. I was good enough to take a rescue that had been mistreated but not good enough to write a cheque for a little male yorkie we fell in love with.. she was adamant to us that he was not leaving her...

So this makes me remember the hurt I felt... and I am sorry you were treated this way... totally wrong for people to behave like this.. does it make them feel superior I wonder...

May I ask what kind of kitten this was you cannot find????

yes, i don't understand why they would do this. and that is why i wish they could give a better answer for not placing the animal with us. like what the breeder told you. it doesn't make any sense. and it would have been nice if she could tell you an answer that actually makes sense!

i was very hurt, i didn't expect to be so hurt. i was completely caught off guard when she sent me the email to let me know that she doesn't think i was crazy enough about the cats! what!?

the breed that i am....was... looking for is ragdoll.

[mypreciouspups]

Originally Posted by yorkiepuppie

yes, i don't understand why they would do this. and that is why i wish they could give a better answer for not placing the animal with us. like what the breeder told you. it doesn't make any sense. and it would have been nice if she could tell you an answer that actually makes sense!

i was very hurt, i didn't expect to be so hurt. i was completely caught off guard when she sent me the email to let me know that she doesn't think i was crazy enough about the cats! what!?

the breed that i am....was... looking for is ragdoll.

I would not give up.. research and see who had ragdoll kittens for sale.. there is got to be a breeder out there.. maybe it was not meant to be.. hard to think of ... but I bet you find what you want and end up very happy... here is hoping you do... anne

[yorkiepuppie]

Originally Posted by mypreciouspups

I would not give up.. research and see who had ragdoll kittens for sale.. there is got to be a breeder out there.. maybe it was not meant to be.. hard to think of ... but I bet you find what you want and end up very happy... here is hoping you do... anne

thank you. well, there are definitely breeders that breed ragdolls. i have found a couple in my area. not many, but i have found them.

i just believe in adopting animals from shelters, so i had been looking for a long time. but it's hard to find ragdolls in shelters, i am not sure why.

[yorkiepuppie]

Originally Posted by Miao

People like that certainly are letting their "power" get to their heads. It is experiences like yours that discourage others from rescuing. I've always wanted to adopt and/or foster the older and not as likely to find a home dogs and cats in the future when my husband's retired and we're better prepared for that kind of commitment. So far I've been leaning more towards adopting from the S.P.C.A. and similar societies as opposed to some more invasive rescues when the time comes. I really value my own privacy and I have a hard time trusting strangers going through my home and getting enough personal information practically for burglary or identity theft even. And I really hate being judged by strangers and hate feeling like my "child" is never truly my own whether it be the skin or fur kind. I admire those who are able to rescue and who don't mind the home inspections and filling out those interview forms as I understand a certain need to do so, however, because of my personality, I wouldn't be able to go through the same.

yea...rescues are a little different i think. they expect a lot more from everyone, and they certainly can make you feel very "judged" i am guessing that they are trying to do their best, but maybe they are just overwhelmed? they can certainly improve some of the procedures to make it a more pleasant experience for everyone that's part of the process.

Originally Posted by Miao

yorkiepuppie, maybe it just wasn't meant to be for you. But if you're set on rescuing, try a different group? I don't think all fosters will be like the one you had the misfortune to be toyed around by. Since your fiance is that allergic, have you considered getting Milu a doggy companion instead? Maybe an older but still playful one to skip the puppy training stage? Even though my dog loves chasing the cat, I think she'd be happier with a doggy companion as they'd be more "equals" than she is with my cat now. It depends on the dog and cat, I suppose, since my shih-tzu was happy with just human companions, but she was thrilled with kittens (and played the part of a submissive girl belly-up when they made barely audible hisses at her). She was my cat's most favourite sibling ever as she never "chased" or "chewed" on her but they'd curl up together and the shih-tzu allowed her to groom her. We had always hoped our shih-tzu would be around when we were finally ready to bring a yorkie puppy home, but that wasn't meant to be.

i don't think everyone's going to be like that either. i would like to try to find a kitty from shelter/rescue to adopt. because i think it's nice to be able to provide for an animal who needs a home as oppose to purchasing one. but i think that i will not be able to get the breed that i really wanted if i go with adopting from the shelter/rescue.

Originally Posted by Miao

Don't get disheartened! But I do hope those kittens fostered by that parent will all eventually find a good home.

i hope the best for the kittens as well. they are very lovable, and i think they will find a good home. i just wish it was me!!!

[Wylie's Mom]

Originally Posted by Ellie May

IMO, it would have been fair to deny your application due to fiance's allergies but I would be very upset about the rest of what you went through.

I agree w/ this. I can understand denying the app for allergy reasons. But the rest of it? Wow. They were really jerking you around there and changing their minds and being totally flaky. I find that kind of suspicious actually...