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01-22-2009, 01:42 PM | #1 |
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| rescue workers, can you please tell me if i was treated fairly? Sorry this is long, but i need to give you enough info. so you can help me with my question. i recently found a cat that i really wanted to adopt from a rescue (i been looking for a specific breed for years, and never found one near where i lived). i had wanted just one kitten, but since they had the requirement of adopting 2 kittens at the same time. i was willing to adopt two. i went through the application, had two references write to them, and also had my vet's recommendation. (these references were required by the rescue) (the vet also told them to call him if they wanted any more info. and said that he would be very happy to talk to them) the application went through, and the interviewer called me for an interview. during the interview, i told her that my fiance was allergic, at which point the interviewer told me that we don't need to go further, because she knows the rescue, and they won't approve my application. i asked her if she didn't mind, i would still like to at least go through with the interview. she was ok with that, so we went on. and when she asked where would the cats sleep, i told her that they couldn't sleep on our bed because fiance will not be able to breath if they did. at this point, the interviewer again informed me that the rescue will not like that. we finished the interview, i didn't have any expectations, because she told me many times that i wouldn't get approved. but i was very happy and surprised when they emailed me to tell me that my application was approved. i went to the foster parents house to visit the kittens. i fell in love with 2 kittens, and the foster mom told me that i would have a week to consider it. 2 days later, she told me that someone else is interested in adopting the kitties i wanted to adopt. so i had to make a decision right then, so i told her: yes, i would like to adopt both kitties. she emailed back to tell me that after consideration, she doesn't want me to adopt both kittens, i would have to choose one, and adopt a different kitty along with the kitten i choose. it was really hard for me, because i guess i kind of bonded with both kitties. and then later that day, she emailed me to tell me that one of the kittens i wanted was adopted. she also said that i needed to commit to the other kitten right the way if i wanted to adopt. so i said, ok, i would like to adopt the two kitties. one i bonded with, along with the other kitty that i didn't really know... she emailed me back the next day and told me that i wasn't crazy enough about BOTH kitties, so she doesn't want to place them with me. i was heartbroken, because i researched and researched and bought them food, toys, litter box, and was really ready to welcome them to my house that day. i spent the day crying. i guess i really got my hopes up. my fiance was really angry with the way they handled everything. he said "let's just look for a breeder" ... i really wanted to adopt, but can you please tell me if i was treated fairly? i felt that the foster parent really abused her power, and i have no idea what happened. i would have been ok, if she told me in the beginning that she thinks i am not going to be a good mommy or something like that. but i don't understand why she kept stringing me along, getting my hopes up, and then, tell me that i wasn't crazy enough about both kitties. ( how can i be crazy about a kitty that i didn't get to spend time with? i told her that i needed to make sure the cats were really gentle because my yorkie is only 3lbs and VERY friendly, and need to make sure kitties wont' hurt her.) did i do something wrong? what could i have done differently? i am heartbroken, i really thought i was going to welcome the kitties home.
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01-22-2009, 01:51 PM | #2 |
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| IMO, it would have been fair to deny your application due to fiance's allergies but I would be very upset about the rest of what you went through. Some rescues do try their best to find the best home possible and that's great but too many of them do these kinds of things, string people along, deny applications for no good reason at all, etc. I would like to rescue a couple Yorkies someday but hearing all of these stories about how hard it is to rescue and everything new owner has to go through, I think going to a breeder would be a lot less headache and heartache. I'm sorry you didn't get your kitties.
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01-22-2009, 02:06 PM | #3 |
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| Please don't think that this happens all the time.......I can't speak for all rescuers, but as for myself...........we gets many apps for each animal that we get...in fostering the animal the requirements are to find out about them, socialize them and than find the best fit for that particular animal..........It does sound very unfair what happened to you. Unless the animals are owner surrender and have been together for a long time we know that it is hard for someone to take two at a time..........so kittens and two does not make sense..........but I do not know that rescuer. Please, please don't let this stop you from adopting. Each rescue group has their own guidelines just as breeders do....there are good and bad in each group.......Be patient, you will find the right group and the right animal. Hope this helps a little. hugs
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01-22-2009, 02:07 PM | #4 | |
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it really hurt me that they made me believe i could welcome the kitties home, and then suddenly tell me NO after telling me to make a decision right away!
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01-22-2009, 02:11 PM | #5 |
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| Sorry to hear about that I don't really know much about rescues, but what they did to you was pretty mean. Did they expect you to throw a fit and demand BOTH of the kittens? You were just being reasonable and co-operative. As for your fiance's allergies, I'm curious as to why you still want to adopt kittens? I'm allergic to cats as well, and I could never consider owning one, as I would always have red eyes and be sneezing constantly
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01-22-2009, 02:13 PM | #6 |
I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member | I know you are so sad about this, and I really feel bad for you. I hope you don't hate me when I tell you this, but I wish every breeder was a tough as the rescues. It's better that they are too tough than too lenient. I think what happened is that they were following procedure when they intially refused you, but you are very likable, and they wanted to bend the rules for you. It also sounds like they wanted you to take a cat that they've had a hard time placing. I know you're hurting and I don't think what they did was fair either. I just hope you don't give up on the idea of a rescue. Big hugs to you!
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01-22-2009, 02:15 PM | #7 | |
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01-22-2009, 02:15 PM | #8 |
Thor's Human Donating Member | yorkiepuppie, was that some kind of test of your dedication to those particular kittens? I'm confused. Anyway, that does sound heartbreaking. I had to bad-mouth rescues, but I do think some go overboard and end up missing good matches, like yourself, and discouraging others. I wonder sometimes if it's a San Francisco thing -- there is SO much money here for supporting animals and so many animal rights activists that people get really extreme. It stops being about finding the animals a GOOD home, and becomes about finding the animals a PERFECT home. My coworker went through the ringer adopting a catahoula leopard hound, and he has the most ideal family imaginable. He did get his dog eventually, though. Is it possible the foster mom just decided she wanted the kitties for herself? I hope this isn't too inflammatory to say, but I hate when rescue people rail on and on about all the unwanted animals in shelters, and then make it impossible for people to actually get shelter animals. |
01-22-2009, 02:17 PM | #9 |
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| definitly underhanded stuff going on. sounds like she had a friend wanting one that you wanted, and she was trying to find a way to get rid of more so she was forcing you to pick one someone else didn't want, not cool. sorry for your loss I would report it to the rescue
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01-22-2009, 02:19 PM | #10 | |
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i still wanted to adopt because i love animals, and my fiance loves animals as well. he had rescued a stray cat before, and that was our first kitty. and he also grew up with cats. he likes cats as well... but you are right in that i am mean to bring a cat home when i know he is allergic. i need to be more considerate!
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01-22-2009, 02:20 PM | #11 |
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| Please don't get discouraged with rescues and rescuers, there are so many homeless animals out there that need us..........and don't let one or even two bad apples spoil it for any of you...........we do care about the animals and we do want them in your homes. Be patient with us, we want to help you too.
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01-22-2009, 02:22 PM | #12 |
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| i don't think your mean. Allergies can be managed with inexpensive medicines. If he grew up with them its obviously not a life threatening case, and he seems very supportive of it
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01-22-2009, 02:24 PM | #13 |
I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member | Lol, you must not be allergic! But I don't think yorkiepuppie has a mean bone in her body.
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01-22-2009, 02:26 PM | #14 | |
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01-22-2009, 02:27 PM | #15 | |
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no actually I am not, but my husband is. He's had severe allergy's all his life, including cats, and he's the one that just told our daughter she could adopt the kitten she found, while I was the one saying no. Allergy's can be managed. They don't have to mean that one has to miss out on the joy of a pet
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