Come again???

[txshopper73]

Originally Posted by victoriasueno

A lot of people don't understand dog lovers. I mean, true dog lovers. I've treated both of my dogs like their a member of the family, I ask if they're hungry and what they're thinking. I spend money on them like I would a child, because to me, my dogs are my children. When I go away on trips I visit a pet store and buy them a gift to give when I come back. They have carriers and multiple leashes and collars, just like a human baby would have multiple blankets and clothes.


Some people just see dogs as animals, and it's unfortunate, that they think less of other living beings...but I always tell myself that my dogs are lucky to have a good home, then I go buy them another toy!

You are right...only a TRUE dog lover would understand how we can pamper our babies without giving it a second thought!

[txshopper73]

Originally Posted by Jokerman

I totally agree. London is without a doubt one of the most gorgeous dogs on YT. I'm in LOVE with your dog.

Your FIL sounds so much like my FIL. Mine constantly made rude comments about my horses, my dogs, and then eventually started in on ME. DH told him to shut his trap, and apologized to me, saying if his dad didn't like me he wouldn't pick at me like he did. I finally couldn't take FIL's rude comments any longer and quit going anywhere around him. He finally died, and guess what? I have never missed the rude ole SOB one iota! I don't know how such a hateful man could father such a sweet man as my DH. I do realize he was just trying to get a rise out of me, but that didn't mean I had to accept it.

Thank you and I feel for ya...at least he's gone (may he rest in peace) and you don't have to deal with him anymore.

[megansmomma]

Unfortunately, there probably is not a quick and snappy comeback for a man like your FIL. I have been there and done that with my inlaws when I was first married (21 years today!!!) I come home in tears after their spiteful comments many times. Finally, I told DH I was no longer going to subject myself or my children to their behavior. At the next family gathering everyone wanted to know why I was not there and he told them I would no longer be coming because of the way they all behaved.

It's funny because I have always had a very good relationship with my nieces and nephews. I'm actually helping our oldest niece move into her apartment tomorrow. When she asked for help not one of them offered. She emailed me back to thank me and said she didn't expect anything less from her "favorite aunt". Sometimes actions speak louder than words!

You have one of the cutest babies on YT!

[AprilLove]

AprilLove was called a Rat not too long ago by a stranger in a pet store. I just picked her up and kissed her smack on the lips so they could see how much I loved my "rat" lol. Some people just don't get it, it's their loss if they never experience that connection to their animals (sometimes I look in my babies eyes, and I swear I see a person, not a dog!!!) does that make me crazy???

[avasmama75]

What is it with people?? I mean some have no filter whats so ever, fine be honest but dont be mean. My boss who funny enough uses to be my almost fil ( thank god im not in that fam anymore) is always talking abouthow my dogs are not real dogs because they arent schipperkies. He always is telling ava that she is soo ugly and not a real dog, i knowits his mean naturwe but it irrtates me to no end. When i got bowie he asked when he would meet him and i told him" oh. i figured you have enough "real dogs" that you can look at everyday, no use in hurting your eyes on mine" He wasnt too happy but got my point.

[avasmama75]

Oh no, sorry about that tiny font

[Deegan's mom]

Originally Posted by piptickle

I never rise to rude comments either. I've never felt that someone was being truly nasty, how could they? We know the truth and they're just jealous

Of course I get the old rat comment alot and I just smile and say "what can I say? I'm a rat lover!" I've never had a comeback from that

That is exactly it! They are just jealous and wish that someone paid just as much attention and spoiled them as much as our little ones are - and I tell people too! Like my dad for example... he doesn't say mean or rude comments about my dog, but he does say stuff like "why do you do that, he's just a dog?!?" And my reply is to don't be a hater, or don't be jealous... cause that's basically what it boils down too. Just shrug it off, make a a little joke like that one member said (about taking after his side! lol) and then tell him he can stop being jealous of the furbabies and pat him on the head and tell him you love him too! Haha! Just don't give him the satisfaction of getting all riled up.

[LaPeque]

When it comes to rude comments directed to your dog, or in general about anything, simply asking the speaker "Why would you say that?" or "Why do you say that?" generally shuts people down pretty fast.

Along those same lines, a really effective come back for innapropriate questions is, "Why do you ask?"

However, your father-in-law sounds like a verbally abusive a$$ who has his son totally bullied. If your husband is passive or unwilling to put a stop to his father's atrocious behavior, some counseling might be in order to determine why. When the "fat ass" comment was made, your DH should have made it painfully clear that if FIL ever talked to you like that again, it would be the last time FIL ever saw either of you. It really is DH's responsibility to confront FIL. This situation could escalate and cause really hard feelings in your marriage.

[yorkieisme]

Originally Posted by txshopper73

I was reading another thread...and decided to start this one.

If and when someone rudely says something ugly or negative about your dog, what do you come back with?

My jerk of a father-in-law makes rude comments about my dogs everytime he comes over. He pets them, talks to them and then will tell me..."These are the ugliest dogs I've ever seen". I know that he only says it to get under my skin and I've learned to not let my anger show...since that is what he is striving for.

He owns 3 bird dogs...that are kept outside 24/7 and only let out of their 1/2 acre pen when he takes them hunting. One is being treated for heartworms as I speak. They are given ZERO attention and their only human contact is when they are fed in the evenings.

Anyway, so what do YOU say when someone is being ugly?

If they are working dogs as in what they are bird dogs....then hunters do not give a lot of attention. Its sad, but its true. They have some weird ideas that will make them a pet and not hunt.
Maybe he wants you to talk to him and he thinks this is the way to get you to.

What I would say to him would be have you looked in the mirror lately? Or you could just tell your husband that it hurts your feelings and ask him to pull his dad to the side and talk with him. I would go with talking with your husband and see if that would work.

[cheryl19]

I bet your father inlaw LIKES your baby and doesn't want to say it. Yorkies not being a guys dog and all. Just let it pass, we all know how we feel about our babies. PS I had a father inlaw just like him

[Maria85]

Luckily for me, we have no family on our same continent. My parents, however, cannot fathom the possibility of having any kind of pet in the city. Mind you, they have 5 Weimaraners at their farm but they only see them when they're in countryside mood (most weekends).
When I told my dad I was getting a yorkie puppy, and he was going to live with us in the flat he was horrified and made some negative arguments...although he was never attacking the puppy or being insulting. All I could say was "well dad, its a good thing he is going to be my puppy and not yours."
I love my puppy to bits, but I can totally accept the fact that there are some who think tiny babies are awkward and unappealing... or those who just hate dogs. I wouldn't waste any time or effort trying to get back and show how offended I am... surely, your puppy doesn't get it/ doesn't care, so why bother?
If your FIL thinks they're ugly just say "great, everything is entitled to their opinion." If he starts pushing you/ partner to get rid of them or hitting them then that is a completely different issue.

[ladyj]

Originally Posted by Jeri Cunningham

I would say with a smile "Yeah they take after your side of the family when it comes to looks!" See how he likes the "JOKE"

Good comeback! Ignoring this kind of person usually doesn't work very well. They just come on stronger. I dealt with a nasty FIL and ignoring him didn't work. I gave my husband to understand in no uncertain terms that I would not put up with his father's comments and made it stick. I would have torn into my FIL in a flash if he hadn't backed off. I had no intention of spending any of my time dealing with him. He wasn't worth my time. He left me alone, which was very good. I didn't have red hair for nothing! It was sad that this overbearing man raised my ex-husband without ever letting his son learn to think for himself. It kept my ex-husband from ever growing up and learning to handle responsiblity. He wouldn't do anything without asking his father's advice, and when I wouldn't tolerate that, he left all the decisions up to me. He was a very poor husband and father and we divorced. He was married to his seventh wife when he died earlier this year. Very sad.

[tinav]

Originally Posted by Sookie

I would say, "Have you looked in the mirror recently?" With a smile, of course.

Perfect


tina

[TeresaM]

Originally Posted by LaPeque

When it comes to rude comments directed to your dog, or in general about anything, simply asking the speaker "Why would you say that?" or "Why do you say that?" generally shuts people down pretty fast.

Along those same lines, a really effective come back for innapropriate questions is, "Why do you ask?"

These are great replies!! I'm going to have to remember them. I'm not sure what part of the country you are from originally, but if your FIL is a native Texan, or from anywhere in the south, a syrupy sweet "Well bless your heart" will put him right in place. Everyone here knows what this really means. I think I'll start following it up with one of the above mentioned phrases.