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jenna22 · 02-14-2008, 07:12 AM

im so torn.my hubby just talked to me and told me how cute Leo looked this morning when he left.Last night when i got home from work,he looked at me with those cute puppy eyes and was so happy that i was home.
he loves to snuggle on the couch with us and falls asleep on my lap all the time.dont get me wrong,he is a very loving cute puppy.i just dont have a lot of experience,but my husband does.he had dogs before.
I just want Leo to be happy.
So tonight i have to make the decision.This is so hard.im so emotional today,im a mess at work.Everyone is telling me to keep him and it will get better.
It means a lot to me that my hubby is so open about his feelings.I will keep you all updated

amandawash · 02-14-2008, 07:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Nikki+2

Aww, you are so sweet! I know when I brought Sugar home my hubby wasn't too thrilled with him. Sugar didn't want anyone near me and that included my husband. It was hard for my husband to even get in bed at night and if he got up in the middle of the night it would start all over. I was so worried but he knew how long I had loved Sugar and how happy I was that he was finally my baby and so he stuck it out and we worked through it. I am very grateful for that and it makes me love my hubby even more that he was willing to go through that to make me happy.

I was in the same boat, Nikki! I worked and worked at my hubby until he grudgingly said I could get a yorkie. He put my wants ahead of his own, as he REALLY didn't want one. I have had Ranger since Sept. and they are just now starting to bond. Your first post about what would you do if she had bonded and hubby hadn't and wanted to take him back really put things into perspective- I would have just died.

to you!

Pinkluver · 02-14-2008, 07:19 AM

I so understand what you are going through, it took me a long time to really open up to our first yorkie. I just didn't get the warm fuzzies from her. She was the same with me. but after a few months, I couldn't have loved her more. She lights up my world :-) I didn't even want a yorkie, my hubby did, and now I want 50 (okay not actually 50) of them. I would seriously try to take some time with the puppy, but don't push yourself. However if your hubby loves the dog, and has bonded with it I would let him keep it. If you don't 'warm' up to it, he still loves the dog.

kezza · 02-14-2008, 07:46 AM

I have never had this happen to me...but i'm trying to understand how you are feeling...I know how hard it can be though with a new puppy..Pixie is still taking up ALL of my spare time and she's 8 months old! luckily she has quickly settled into our routine..she sleeps in her crate at night with no fuss and is used to the 4 hours a day that she is left while i am working. Pixie is incredibly demanding...I am not even allowed to sit looking at the computer screen for too long and she will be screeching, squeaking & yapping for my attention..she is unbelievable!

and i have to admit there have been occasions when i have thought...'please! someone take her away'!!! lol.. as mothers do sometimes with their babies...everyone needs a break. Pixie is literally my LIFE...and i am not joking...she is totally dependant on me which is a huge responsibility not to be taken lightly....you are not a bad person..maybe give it another couple of weeks and get that routine in order...things will get easier and i'm sure your new baby will soon be giving you lots of love and joy. Goodluck in whatever you decide.

Woogie Man · 02-14-2008, 08:04 AM

I got my first Yorkie as a birthday present from my wife. She brought him home and I was like, what's this?? I already had a dog (a wolf hybrid) and certainly didn't want some little yapper. Well, Yorkies have a way of making you love them and now I wouldn't part with my 'dog-boy' for the world. He (Archie) was the beginning of an addiction and now we have 12 Yorkies and we have become home breeders. They all live in the house with us and, while it gets a little crazy at times, I can't remember ever being happier!! Since your husband has already bonded with your little guy, I would hope that you would give it a little time. I'm sure there will be a moment soon when you look at him and know he's 'your' baby too!!

jenna22 · 02-14-2008, 06:00 PM

So after reading all the responses and talking to my hubby i made a choice to keep Leo.I was so emotional today and cried most of the day at work.I just couldn't live with myself taking him back.
I dont mind cleaning up the few little pee stains after him,we will potty train him,he will be fine.
I put the crate in his pen so hopefully he will get used to the crate.When he is in the crate he starts to whine for 10minutes and then he is fine.He doesn't go potty in the crate at all which im so happy about.I came home today and when i saw how happy he was to see me it just broke my heart.
I took him outside and he went potty.I was so proud of him.
thank you all for the messages and advice.I really appreciate it.
Also my breeded told me there is another couple who live close to us,they have a 2yr old yorkie that they got from her and they got in contact with me to meet up so leo can have a play buddy.
thank you all so much again

maxs_momma · 02-14-2008, 06:05 PM

I am so glad to hear that you are keeping your little man and it sounds like you are starting to bond with him already

And so happy to hear he is gonna have a playmate that he can go see

Hugs
Mary

nadinesky · 02-14-2008, 06:08 PM

Awesome choice to keep him, as I said the disconnect will disconnect soon!!
Trust me, I know with my little Schmoo!

Patti · 02-14-2008, 06:11 PM

That's great. I have had many Yorkies and some I bonded with immediately others took awhile and one or two I thought whathave i done! But in the end i loved them all.

daisy mae06 · 02-14-2008, 06:15 PM

Oh this is great News

. I am sure you will be as Yorkie Crazy as the rest of us in no time.

Quote:

Originally Posted by jenna22

So after reading all the responses and talking to my hubby i made a choice to keep Leo.I was so emotional today and cried most of the day at work.I just couldn't live with myself taking him back.
I dont mind cleaning up the few little pee stains after him,we will potty train him,he will be fine.
I put the crate in his pen so hopefully he will get used to the crate.When he is in the crate he starts to whine for 10minutes and then he is fine.He doesn't go potty in the crate at all which im so happy about.I came home today and when i saw how happy he was to see me it just broke my heart.
I took him outside and he went potty.I was so proud of him.
thank you all for the messages and advice.I really appreciate it.
Also my breeded told me there is another couple who live close to us,they have a 2yr old yorkie that they got from her and they got in contact with me to meet up so leo can have a play buddy.
thank you all so much again

mechchic3 · 02-14-2008, 06:28 PM

Aww that's so great. The first night Rambo came home we put him in an adjoining bathroom to our bedroom with a baby gate so he could see us. He cried the whole night long, and the night after that, and again after that. I was beginning to doubt my decision to get another yorkie. I just didn't remember it being so hard. After the first week of crying and whining one night it just stopped. It's like he knew OK it's bedtime this is my place they're not going to take me out anyway so I'll just go to sleep. It does get easier with time and the rewards and love these little sweeties give back will make it all worth it. Good Luck.

spoiledgirls · 02-14-2008, 06:31 PM

That is so great! I am glad you decided to keep him!

hha · 02-14-2008, 06:56 PM

My suggestion would be, if you have his crate in a pen, leave the door open on it..if you're going to be gone 7 hours, that's too long for him to be expected to hold his bladder..glad you're keeping him..

mypreciouspups · 02-14-2008, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Nikki+2

I don't know if it's fair to your husband. I can't help but look at it in reverse. If 5 days after I got Sugar (who I bonded with instantly), my hubby said he hadn't bonded with Sugar and wanted to return him I would have flipped. Now if my husband really couldn't stand having Sugar around I would have taken him back but I would have really resented my husband for making me. If your husband has bonded with Leo wouldn't returning him hurt him? Does that make any sense?

this makes perfect sense.. but I am now wondering if this puppy has bonded with hubby more as he can feel wanted and loved with hubby.. if hubby is doing the taking him outside, and loving him and paying attention to him.. he will naturally go to him.. If my hubby told me he did not bond.. it would be to bad so sad.. I want him and if I am willing to help with him, he is staying..
But that is me.. I am sensing a little tenseness in you.. you first puppy that is small... you could be scared to death of hurting him, doing something wrong with him.. my hubby thought my last new girl was ugly.. and now he has fallen for her and of course love is in the eye of the beholder.. now he is saying she is getting so pretty... LOL

I think being told you only have a couple days to get your money back your in panic mode.. but gee it takes a baby be new longer then that short time to feel he is at home now.. and is as much loved.. post a picture.. we will all tell you what we think...

If you really hate him, then maybe he is better off going back.. but I bet should you keep him, and once your relaxed, and he gets into your heart.. you will be worse then your hubby.. I have been around these little guys a long time..

I could go on.. but I must leave room for others..

Pup-e-Love · 02-14-2008, 07:00 PM

Yeah for Leo! This is great news!

02-14-2008, 07:19 AM	#48
Pinkluver Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: texas Posts: 381	I so understand what you are going through, it took me a long time to really open up to our first yorkie. I just didn't get the warm fuzzies from her. She was the same with me. but after a few months, I couldn't have loved her more. She lights up my world :-) I didn't even want a yorkie, my hubby did, and now I want 50 (okay not actually 50) of them. I would seriously try to take some time with the puppy, but don't push yourself. However if your hubby loves the dog, and has bonded with it I would let him keep it. If you don't 'warm' up to it, he still loves the dog. __________________ Momma to Ava

02-14-2008, 07:46 AM	#49
kezza Lovin my Pixie Pooh Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Oxfordshire, United Kingdom. Posts: 3,510	I have never had this happen to me...but i'm trying to understand how you are feeling...I know how hard it can be though with a new puppy..Pixie is still taking up ALL of my spare time and she's 8 months old! luckily she has quickly settled into our routine..she sleeps in her crate at night with no fuss and is used to the 4 hours a day that she is left while i am working. Pixie is incredibly demanding...I am not even allowed to sit looking at the computer screen for too long and she will be screeching, squeaking & yapping for my attention..she is unbelievable! and i have to admit there have been occasions when i have thought...'please! someone take her away'!!! lol.. as mothers do sometimes with their babies...everyone needs a break. Pixie is literally my LIFE...and i am not joking...she is totally dependant on me which is a huge responsibility not to be taken lightly....you are not a bad person..maybe give it another couple of weeks and get that routine in order...things will get easier and i'm sure your new baby will soon be giving you lots of love and joy. Goodluck in whatever you decide. __________________ This Little Girl Has Stolen My Heart! Every Dog Should Have a Tail To Tell.. "I'm a Yorkiestalker"!

02-14-2008, 06:05 PM	#52
maxs_momma Living life with yorkies! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,722	I am so glad to hear that you are keeping your little man and it sounds like you are starting to bond with him already And so happy to hear he is gonna have a playmate that he can go see Hugs Mary __________________ Skeeta&Bella Max & Sam member's of the little gentlemens club R.I.P my little Chiquita Words can be like weapons so please be kind when you post

02-14-2008, 06:11 PM	#54
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	That's great. I have had many Yorkies and some I bonded with immediately others took awhile and one or two I thought whathave i done! But in the end i loved them all. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

02-14-2008, 06:28 PM	#56
mechchic3 Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Tampa Posts: 531	Aww that's so great. The first night Rambo came home we put him in an adjoining bathroom to our bedroom with a baby gate so he could see us. He cried the whole night long, and the night after that, and again after that. I was beginning to doubt my decision to get another yorkie. I just didn't remember it being so hard. After the first week of crying and whining one night it just stopped. It's like he knew OK it's bedtime this is my place they're not going to take me out anyway so I'll just go to sleep. It does get easier with time and the rewards and love these little sweeties give back will make it all worth it. Good Luck. __________________ Sophie& Rambo Rambo proud member of "The Little Gentlemen's Club"

02-14-2008, 07:12 AM	#46
jenna22 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: washington,dc Posts: 129	im so torn.my hubby just talked to me and told me how cute Leo looked this morning when he left.Last night when i got home from work,he looked at me with those cute puppy eyes and was so happy that i was home. he loves to snuggle on the couch with us and falls asleep on my lap all the time.dont get me wrong,he is a very loving cute puppy.i just dont have a lot of experience,but my husband does.he had dogs before. I just want Leo to be happy. So tonight i have to make the decision.This is so hard.im so emotional today,im a mess at work.Everyone is telling me to keep him and it will get better. It means a lot to me that my hubby is so open about his feelings.I will keep you all updated

02-14-2008, 08:04 AM	#50
Woogie Man Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Mississippi Posts: 2,564	I got my first Yorkie as a birthday present from my wife. She brought him home and I was like, what's this?? I already had a dog (a wolf hybrid) and certainly didn't want some little yapper. Well, Yorkies have a way of making you love them and now I wouldn't part with my 'dog-boy' for the world. He (Archie) was the beginning of an addiction and now we have 12 Yorkies and we have become home breeders. They all live in the house with us and, while it gets a little crazy at times, I can't remember ever being happier!! Since your husband has already bonded with your little guy, I would hope that you would give it a little time. I'm sure there will be a moment soon when you look at him and know he's 'your' baby too!!

02-14-2008, 06:00 PM	#51
jenna22 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: washington,dc Posts: 129	So after reading all the responses and talking to my hubby i made a choice to keep Leo.I was so emotional today and cried most of the day at work.I just couldn't live with myself taking him back. I dont mind cleaning up the few little pee stains after him,we will potty train him,he will be fine. I put the crate in his pen so hopefully he will get used to the crate.When he is in the crate he starts to whine for 10minutes and then he is fine.He doesn't go potty in the crate at all which im so happy about.I came home today and when i saw how happy he was to see me it just broke my heart. I took him outside and he went potty.I was so proud of him. thank you all for the messages and advice.I really appreciate it. Also my breeded told me there is another couple who live close to us,they have a 2yr old yorkie that they got from her and they got in contact with me to meet up so leo can have a play buddy. thank you all so much again

02-14-2008, 06:08 PM	#53
nadinesky Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 68	Awesome choice to keep him, as I said the disconnect will disconnect soon!! Trust me, I know with my little Schmoo!

02-14-2008, 06:31 PM	#57
spoiledgirls Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Kansas Posts: 724	That is so great! I am glad you decided to keep him! Last edited by spoiledgirls; 02-14-2008 at 06:33 PM.

02-14-2008, 06:56 PM	#58
hha No Longer a Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Seneca, SC Posts: 2,837	My suggestion would be, if you have his crate in a pen, leave the door open on it..if you're going to be gone 7 hours, that's too long for him to be expected to hold his bladder..glad you're keeping him..

02-14-2008, 07:00 PM	#60
Pup-e-Love YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 896	Yeah for Leo! This is great news!