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Nikki+2 · 02-13-2008, 01:45 PM

I don't know if it's fair to your husband. I can't help but look at it in reverse. If 5 days after I got Sugar (who I bonded with instantly), my hubby said he hadn't bonded with Sugar and wanted to return him I would have flipped. Now if my husband really couldn't stand having Sugar around I would have taken him back but I would have really resented my husband for making me. If your husband has bonded with Leo wouldn't returning him hurt him? Does that make any sense?

PrestigeousYT · 02-13-2008, 01:50 PM

Sounds like you have a wonderful husband who sticks with his committments.
I would give it time.

Deana
Prestigeous Yorkies

chachi · 02-13-2008, 01:58 PM

I would just give it some more time since your Husband.is attached to the pup. It sounds like he would be hurt if you took the pup back. Our first yorkie bonded more with my Husband than me. I began holding and cuddling him and now he is close with both of us. I would just give it more time

maxs_momma · 02-13-2008, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by chachi

I would just give it some more time since your Husband.is attached to the pup. It sounds like he would be hurt if you took the pup back. Our first yorkie bonded more with my Husband than me. I began holding and cuddling him and now he is close with both of us. I would just give it more time

I agree more time may make a world of difference

Olivier · 02-13-2008, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by jenna22

the problem is my hubby doesnt want to take him back.Its like my opinion doesnt even matter.
I will sit down with him again and talk tonite

I wish he keeps the puppy .

nadinesky · 02-13-2008, 04:38 PM

I can understand how you feel, I felt the same way when we got Schmoo, she was shy and timid and I didn't feel the connection with her either...at one point I cried and said that I wanted to take her back...and now I love her to death and everything has changed, her and her personality, and her shyness is GONE...she is wonderful, although she makes messes cause it is too cold for her outside, but I know when summer and spring gets here she will be wonderful, as on holidays this past week in Florida she was nothing but an angel with no accidents, except the one where I was to lazy to take her out, sometimes it is not them that needs the training its us.
Good luck give it time
Nadine

Brookef18 · 02-13-2008, 04:42 PM

I hate to admit this but when I first brought Chewy home, I was wondering if I had done the right thing. He was so cute, and I had had dogs before. But my kids were grown, and we hadn't had a dog for 2 years and for once my life was pretty much mine again. Chewy took a lot of my time. Potty training was tough at first, and I felt like I had a baby all over again. It took a few days to get used to careing for him, and I was NOT TAKING HIM BACK!!!! I knew I had him for life... After a few days (2-3 days) I couldn't imagine life with out him. You need to bond with your baby and you won't if you don't take care of him. I would dare to say he will melt your heart and bring you much joy for many years to come... Your husband has bonded with this baby because he is careing for him... I can say I know how you feel and I think you would get over it, but you know better then me.

mizzwanned · 02-13-2008, 04:48 PM

Hi, Im sorry about it. It does not make you a bad person. You just haven't bonded with him and that's not your fault. Maybe since your hubby has bonded and doesn't want to let him go he will be the one taking care of him. Is that possible?

deb22 · 02-13-2008, 05:47 PM

Hi. I've had my puppy for about 3 weeks. She whined when she was put in her crate for 2-3 days. And I got no sleep the first week. And I have puppy pads all over. Three days a week she is in her crate for 7 hours. (sometimes I take her to work) I also agree with someone who said tire them out. It really works. When I put Penny in her crate after playing she is napping in no time. She was 8 weeks when I got her. She is awesome and I fell in love. They are alot of work, too. But you have to establish a routine. It worked for me. I was a little upset when she adjusted to her crate. I liked her in my bed. I still let her sleep with me for awhile every night. lol.

Baby Madeleine · 02-13-2008, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Nikki+2

I don't know if it's fair to your husband. I can't help but look at it in reverse. If 5 days after I got Sugar (who I bonded with instantly), my hubby said he hadn't bonded with Sugar and wanted to return him I would have flipped. Now if my husband really couldn't stand having Sugar around I would have taken him back but I would have really resented my husband for making me. If your husband has bonded with Leo wouldn't returning him hurt him? Does that make any sense?

I agree with this

Maybe if you just give it a little more time you will bond with him. Good luck with whatever you decide, I know this can't be easy for you

oopsmyhalofello · 02-13-2008, 07:21 PM

Like one of the other PP's said, I can't help but think of this from your husbands POV. He is already attached to the puppy and is it really fair to him to bring him back? It's not like the puppy isn't going to get love and attention if your husband is close to him. And I'd be willing to bet with time you will adore him as well.

For My Coby · 02-13-2008, 07:34 PM

What an awful dilemma for you! I feel horrible that you feel that you're put in a place where you have to make a choice like this. There are so many points of view from which to look at it. Hugs to you while trying to sort it out with your husband.

mazie · 02-13-2008, 07:43 PM

I know just how you feel I have had my yorkiepoo for 5 months today and sometimes she just drives me crazy. We have our good days, but mostly they are bad. I just didn't realize she would have so much energy and she doesn't do anything I want her to. With all that said I still couldn't imagine letting her go. I can't even get her to come to me and when we get out in the yard she tryies to run off. I know this isn't encouraging, but I'm looking for help, too. She doesn't sit on my lap and cuddle or anything. I was hoping the poodle would come out in her but I don't think so. Anybody have any advise?

Pup-e-Love · 02-13-2008, 07:49 PM

How old is your puppy?

amandawash · 02-13-2008, 07:49 PM

I know your not supposed to do the "my dog, your dog" thing, but maybe you should let hubby keep the pup, and start doing some research to find the dog of your dreams??

Two isn't much harder than one!!!

02-13-2008, 01:45 PM	#16
Nikki+2 I heart Sugar Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 7,373	I don't know if it's fair to your husband. I can't help but look at it in reverse. If 5 days after I got Sugar (who I bonded with instantly), my hubby said he hadn't bonded with Sugar and wanted to return him I would have flipped. Now if my husband really couldn't stand having Sugar around I would have taken him back but I would have really resented my husband for making me. If your husband has bonded with Leo wouldn't returning him hurt him? Does that make any sense? __________________ "If you have men who will exclude any of God’s creatures from the shelter of compassion and pity, you will have men who will deal likewise with their fellow men." — St. Francis of Assisi, 1181-1226

02-13-2008, 01:58 PM	#18
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	I would just give it some more time since your Husband.is attached to the pup. It sounds like he would be hurt if you took the pup back. Our first yorkie bonded more with my Husband than me. I began holding and cuddling him and now he is close with both of us. I would just give it more time __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

02-13-2008, 04:42 PM	#22
Brookef18 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Cape Cod Ma Posts: 1,855	Been there. I hate to admit this but when I first brought Chewy home, I was wondering if I had done the right thing. He was so cute, and I had had dogs before. But my kids were grown, and we hadn't had a dog for 2 years and for once my life was pretty much mine again. Chewy took a lot of my time. Potty training was tough at first, and I felt like I had a baby all over again. It took a few days to get used to careing for him, and I was NOT TAKING HIM BACK!!!! I knew I had him for life... After a few days (2-3 days) I couldn't imagine life with out him. You need to bond with your baby and you won't if you don't take care of him. I would dare to say he will melt your heart and bring you much joy for many years to come... Your husband has bonded with this baby because he is careing for him... I can say I know how you feel and I think you would get over it, but you know better then me. __________________ Brooke (Chewy's and Sadie's Mom) visit us on dogster dogster.com/dogs/700047

02-13-2008, 04:48 PM	#23
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	Hi, Im sorry about it. It does not make you a bad person. You just haven't bonded with him and that's not your fault. Maybe since your hubby has bonded and doesn't want to let him go he will be the one taking care of him. Is that possible? __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

02-13-2008, 05:47 PM	#24
deb22 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: us Posts: 1,500	Hi. I've had my puppy for about 3 weeks. She whined when she was put in her crate for 2-3 days. And I got no sleep the first week. And I have puppy pads all over. Three days a week she is in her crate for 7 hours. (sometimes I take her to work) I also agree with someone who said tire them out. It really works. When I put Penny in her crate after playing she is napping in no time. She was 8 weeks when I got her. She is awesome and I fell in love. They are alot of work, too. But you have to establish a routine. It worked for me. I was a little upset when she adjusted to her crate. I liked her in my bed. I still let her sleep with me for awhile every night. lol. __________________ Deb and Penny (aka Miss Picky Pants) Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club

02-13-2008, 01:50 PM	#17
PrestigeousYT YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Somewhere Out there............ Posts: 1,742	Sounds like you have a wonderful husband who sticks with his committments. I would give it time. Deana Prestigeous Yorkies

02-13-2008, 04:38 PM	#21
nadinesky Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 68	I can understand how you feel, I felt the same way when we got Schmoo, she was shy and timid and I didn't feel the connection with her either...at one point I cried and said that I wanted to take her back...and now I love her to death and everything has changed, her and her personality, and her shyness is GONE...she is wonderful, although she makes messes cause it is too cold for her outside, but I know when summer and spring gets here she will be wonderful, as on holidays this past week in Florida she was nothing but an angel with no accidents, except the one where I was to lazy to take her out, sometimes it is not them that needs the training its us. Good luck give it time Nadine

02-13-2008, 07:21 PM	#26
oopsmyhalofello Just Pawz Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Liverpool, NY Posts: 1,827	Like one of the other PP's said, I can't help but think of this from your husbands POV. He is already attached to the puppy and is it really fair to him to bring him back? It's not like the puppy isn't going to get love and attention if your husband is close to him. And I'd be willing to bet with time you will adore him as well. __________________

02-13-2008, 07:34 PM	#27
For My Coby Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois Posts: 4,139	What an awful dilemma for you! I feel horrible that you feel that you're put in a place where you have to make a choice like this. There are so many points of view from which to look at it. Hugs to you while trying to sort it out with your husband. __________________ Diane, and my boys ..... Coby and Reggie !! Striving to be a YTPP - a YT Positive Poster! In Memory of My Beautiful Mother 7/22/28-8/27/08

02-13-2008, 07:43 PM	#28
mazie Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 12	help I know just how you feel I have had my yorkiepoo for 5 months today and sometimes she just drives me crazy. We have our good days, but mostly they are bad. I just didn't realize she would have so much energy and she doesn't do anything I want her to. With all that said I still couldn't imagine letting her go. I can't even get her to come to me and when we get out in the yard she tryies to run off. I know this isn't encouraging, but I'm looking for help, too. She doesn't sit on my lap and cuddle or anything. I was hoping the poodle would come out in her but I don't think so. Anybody have any advise?

02-13-2008, 07:49 PM	#29
Pup-e-Love YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 896	How old is your puppy?

02-13-2008, 07:49 PM	#30
amandawash Lovin' my R & R Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Middleton, Idaho Posts: 2,152	I know your not supposed to do the "my dog, your dog" thing, but maybe you should let hubby keep the pup, and start doing some research to find the dog of your dreams?? Two isn't much harder than one!!! __________________ Amanda 's Ranger & Ryder