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PrincessDiana · 02-13-2008, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by mazie

I know just how you feel I have had my yorkiepoo for 5 months today and sometimes she just drives me crazy. We have our good days, but mostly they are bad. I just didn't realize she would have so much energy and she doesn't do anything I want her to. With all that said I still couldn't imagine letting her go. I can't even get her to come to me and when we get out in the yard she tryies to run off. I know this isn't encouraging, but I'm looking for help, too. She doesn't sit on my lap and cuddle or anything. I was hoping the poodle would come out in her but I don't think so. Anybody have any advise?

Puppies are going to be puppies. They are extremely high energy and aren't always interested in you. They're still learning about the world so they want to explore everything as much as possible. Franklin stays on my lap maybe one night a week. Usually he's running around, causing a ruckus. But not to worry, that day will one day pass and she'll be your perfect dream lap dog. Until then, try to make the experiences positive! When she does come to you, go crazy with praise and maybe even treat her. Make her WANT to come to you. If everytime you're around each other you're frustrated, she'll sense that and won't want to be near you.

Good luck.. just stick it out. It'll get better.

PrestigeousYT · 02-13-2008, 09:38 PM

Dogs are very intelligent and sensitive.
If you come across as not happy with them or frustrated or whatever
they will avoid becoming your buddy because you are sending them bad vibes. They pick up on exactly what you are thinking.
Puppies are very happy and delightful and thats what they like and thats why people like them. I would much rather have a bouncy and happy puppy and not a sick puppy that never felt like doing anything.
Prehaps you are more a cat person?

Deana
Prestigeous Yorkies

klassygirl · 02-14-2008, 12:09 AM

Sometimes lately I wish I could take my teenagers back. But no one will take them.

jenna22 · 02-14-2008, 04:57 AM

this is breaking my heart.My hubby is taking him back tomorrow.Im so dissapointet in myself.thank you all for the kind posts

Brookef18 · 02-14-2008, 04:58 AM

Don't forget that all too soon these little babies grow up! Chewy was a way different dog at a year old then he was as a puppy. They slow down, rest more, play less. There are stages in puppy hood just as there are in Childhood or even adult hood for that matter. It does get easyer. And then you miss the puppy.

Only you know what is right for you. And you will do what works betst for you and your husband. No judgement, here just reminding you that they do grow up! God bless you what ever you decide.

daisy mae06 · 02-14-2008, 05:06 AM

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Originally Posted by oopsmyhalofello

Like one of the other PP's said, I can't help but think of this from your husbands POV. He is already attached to the puppy and is it really fair to him to bring him back? It's not like the puppy isn't going to get love and attention if your husband is close to him. And I'd be willing to bet with time you will adore him as well.

Great post I was think the same thing.. Try thinking of it in your hubbies shoes....
to me it almost seems as if your may be jealous of the bond your hubby has made with the pup.

daisy mae06 · 02-14-2008, 05:09 AM

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Originally Posted by jenna22

this is breaking my heart.My hubby is taking him back tomorrow.Im so dissapointet in myself.thank you all for the kind posts

I feel so Sorry and Sad for your Hubby...

jenna22 · 02-14-2008, 05:16 AM

im not jealous.I just dont feel the connection with the pup.im doing whats best for him.

Gazou · 02-14-2008, 05:22 AM

I have to say that you have a very good husband . Hope he will not do the same if you feel the connection with a puppy and he tell you NO puppy here .

Nikki+2 · 02-14-2008, 05:27 AM

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Originally Posted by jenna22

this is breaking my heart.My hubby is taking him back tomorrow.Im so dissapointet in myself.thank you all for the kind posts

Well give your hubby a big hug. He's an awesome man to put your feelings so far above his own.

ryorkies · 02-14-2008, 05:37 AM

I'm so sorry for the conflict you are in right now and it is not unusual to be feeling a bit overwhelmed with a new addition, as it is like bringing home a new baby that needs constant attention.
I had one family adopt a puppy from us and they came every week to visit with him until the day they could bring him home. Only a week went by when we received a call from this family that they had to return the puppy because it was just too much for them and they felt it was the right thing to do. The husband had to return the puppy and I have to say that he was in tears and told us that the children & mother were heartbroken as well. Of course this puppy was adopted out to another family on our waiting list just a week later.
Well, I still hear from the original family and they talk about this puppy constantly and how much they miss him and that they wish they would have given it a little more time. This was 4 years ago....
Please give it just a little time before making such a big decision.

Hugs ... Janie

Jody Renfroe · 02-14-2008, 06:15 AM

How sad

Ichabob · 02-14-2008, 06:36 AM

I have been in your shoes and still are, my husband fell in love with a Jack Russell we were keeping for a service man last year, when this young man was not able to take his dog back, my husband decided we should keep her, Gracie is 3yrs old and as I call her " Crazy Gracie", I have never been fond of the J.R. breed so I started out dislikeing this dog from the start, to make a long story short we still have Gracie only because my husband loves her to death and she has bonded to him, she still crazy, hard headed as they come, but because my husband loves this dog so and I know how deep that love can go for a dog, I cannot and will not tell him she has to go even though I don't have that bond with her,
Oh yes I am the one who takes care of her, bath once a week, feeding, meds, ect.
Think about your husband feelings in all of this, and if the shoe was on the other foot. (if it were you that had bonded and not your husband) and you were told he had to go back.

Nikki+2 · 02-14-2008, 07:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Ichabob

I have been in your shoes and still are, my husband fell in love with a Jack Russell we were keeping for a service man last year, when this young man was not able to take his dog back, my husband decided we should keep her, Gracie is 3yrs old and as I call her " Crazy Gracie", I have never been fond of the J.R. breed so I started out dislikeing this dog from the start, to make a long story short we still have Gracie only because my husband loves her to death and she has bonded to him, she still crazy, hard headed as they come, but because my husband loves this dog so and I know how deep that love can go for a dog, I cannot and will not tell him she has to go even though I don't have that bond with her,
Oh yes I am the one who takes care of her, bath once a week, feeding, meds, ect.
Think about your husband feelings in all of this, and if the shoe was on the other foot. (if it were you that had bonded and not your husband) and you were told he had to go back.

Aww, you are so sweet! I know when I brought Sugar home my hubby wasn't too thrilled with him. Sugar didn't want anyone near me and that included my husband. It was hard for my husband to even get in bed at night and if he got up in the middle of the night it would start all over. I was so worried but he knew how long I had loved Sugar and how happy I was that he was finally my baby and so he stuck it out and we worked through it. I am very grateful for that and it makes me love my hubby even more that he was willing to go through that to make me happy.

ARCHIE · 02-14-2008, 07:04 AM

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Originally Posted by PrincessDiana

Puppies are going to be puppies. They are extremely high energy and aren't always interested in you. They're still learning about the world so they want to explore everything as much as possible. Franklin stays on my lap maybe one night a week. Usually he's running around, causing a ruckus. But not to worry, that day will one day pass and she'll be your perfect dream lap dog. Until then, try to make the experiences positive! When she does come to you, go crazy with praise and maybe even treat her. Make her WANT to come to you. If everytime you're around each other you're frustrated, she'll sense that and won't want to be near you.

Good luck.. just stick it out. It'll get better.

Great advise and so true!
I wished Buddy's first year away, really. I always feel guilty about it too
but I know where your coming from. In the end it was worth all the
stress. After that first year it was just amazing how he developed into
the nice young man he is today. I have no idea what I would do without
him. It will get better I promise.

02-14-2008, 12:09 AM	#33
klassygirl Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: somewhere Posts: 38	My skins Sometimes lately I wish I could take my teenagers back. But no one will take them.

02-14-2008, 04:58 AM	#35
Brookef18 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Cape Cod Ma Posts: 1,855	Don't forget that all too soon these little babies grow up! Chewy was a way different dog at a year old then he was as a puppy. They slow down, rest more, play less. There are stages in puppy hood just as there are in Childhood or even adult hood for that matter. It does get easyer. And then you miss the puppy. Only you know what is right for you. And you will do what works betst for you and your husband. No judgement, here just reminding you that they do grow up! God bless you what ever you decide. __________________ Brooke (Chewy's and Sadie's Mom) visit us on dogster dogster.com/dogs/700047

02-13-2008, 09:38 PM	#32
PrestigeousYT YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Somewhere Out there............ Posts: 1,742	Dogs are very intelligent and sensitive. If you come across as not happy with them or frustrated or whatever they will avoid becoming your buddy because you are sending them bad vibes. They pick up on exactly what you are thinking. Puppies are very happy and delightful and thats what they like and thats why people like them. I would much rather have a bouncy and happy puppy and not a sick puppy that never felt like doing anything. Prehaps you are more a cat person? Deana Prestigeous Yorkies

02-14-2008, 04:57 AM	#34
jenna22 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: washington,dc Posts: 129	this is breaking my heart.My hubby is taking him back tomorrow.Im so dissapointet in myself.thank you all for the kind posts

02-14-2008, 05:16 AM	#38
jenna22 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: washington,dc Posts: 129	im not jealous.I just dont feel the connection with the pup.im doing whats best for him.

02-14-2008, 05:22 AM	#39
Gazou YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 2,180	I have to say that you have a very good husband . Hope he will not do the same if you feel the connection with a puppy and he tell you NO puppy here .

02-14-2008, 05:37 AM	#41
ryorkies No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Yorkieville Posts: 2,860	I'm so sorry for the conflict you are in right now and it is not unusual to be feeling a bit overwhelmed with a new addition, as it is like bringing home a new baby that needs constant attention. I had one family adopt a puppy from us and they came every week to visit with him until the day they could bring him home. Only a week went by when we received a call from this family that they had to return the puppy because it was just too much for them and they felt it was the right thing to do. The husband had to return the puppy and I have to say that he was in tears and told us that the children & mother were heartbroken as well. Of course this puppy was adopted out to another family on our waiting list just a week later. Well, I still hear from the original family and they talk about this puppy constantly and how much they miss him and that they wish they would have given it a little more time. This was 4 years ago.... Please give it just a little time before making such a big decision. Hugs ... Janie

02-14-2008, 06:15 AM	#42
Jody Renfroe No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 1,375	How sad

02-14-2008, 06:36 AM	#43
Ichabob YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Lucedale ms Posts: 707	I have been in your shoes and still are, my husband fell in love with a Jack Russell we were keeping for a service man last year, when this young man was not able to take his dog back, my husband decided we should keep her, Gracie is 3yrs old and as I call her " Crazy Gracie", I have never been fond of the J.R. breed so I started out dislikeing this dog from the start, to make a long story short we still have Gracie only because my husband loves her to death and she has bonded to him, she still crazy, hard headed as they come, but because my husband loves this dog so and I know how deep that love can go for a dog, I cannot and will not tell him she has to go even though I don't have that bond with her, Oh yes I am the one who takes care of her, bath once a week, feeding, meds, ect. Think about your husband feelings in all of this, and if the shoe was on the other foot. (if it were you that had bonded and not your husband) and you were told he had to go back.