I can understand how you feel, I felt the same way when we got Schmoo, she was shy and timid and I didn't feel the connection with her either...at one point I cried and said that I wanted to take her back...and now I love her to death and everything has changed, her and her personality, and her shyness is GONE...she is wonderful, although she makes messes cause it is too cold for her outside, but I know when summer and spring gets here she will be wonderful, as on holidays this past week in Florida she was nothing but an angel with no accidents, except the one where I was to lazy to take her out, sometimes it is not them that needs the training its us.
Good luck give it time
Nadine