I can't take him anymore.

[itsrox]

Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

sorry , but my dog comes before my boyfriend.. sorry again.. plenty of
fish in the sea..... first come first serve.... he just needs alittle more
lovin thats all..... the dog is obviously hurting

Didn't say he wasn't hurting. That's obvious.
Dog before boyfriend.........hmmm. I guess it's all about what's important to you.

[Lexi Rae]

i the little fella feels bad, i meant hurting that way... he loves his mamma
and wants her...he needs her attention.... and since mr boyfriend came
along he feels lonely.... hey lexi feels the same way, i have to run
myself ragged to give both lovins, but lexi get the attention first.

[FirstYorkie]

Originally Posted by amyd

wow.........

he used to be crate trained and you started letting him in the bed, now you want to go back to the crate.

he used to have two dogs to play with, now he has none.

he's used to live with x-bf, then with parents, now somewhere else.

give the poor fella a break! I say he needs some stability and some reassurance from new bf that he is loved. you can't let someone new come in and change everything. It's not fair to you or the dog. everything that he was used to is GONE.

Great post! Give the poor dog a break.

[kaymo]

how old is Thor? I think we have to remember that dogs are pack animals and when we adopt them we become their pack so that's why Thor wants to be with you every minute you're home including sleeping in your bedroom/bed! If you had another dog or pet it probably wouldn't be an issue for Thor sleeping with you because he wouldn't be alone. I'm not saying to get another dog I'm just pointing out why he's so unhappy, he's lonely.

BTW, has your boyfriend ever had a dog before? Maybe he doesn't understand the bond we feel with our dogs. We bring our pets into our homes and become their sole source of shelter, food, love and affection and in return they love us unconditionally.

[yorkieusa]

Originally Posted by Thorsmomma

He would scratch a hole through the door! And of course bark like crazy...and whine. I though he was going to kill himself last night the way he was barking, whining, and panting from getting himself all worked up.!!!

To answer some other question, he slept in my room with me on the floor, or in the bed, which ever he chose. He's always been flexible I guess you could say. When I lived with my X he slept in the bed. Then I moved home with my 'rents and he slept in his crate, then in my room, or sometimes in my parents bed.

Why can't he sleep in our room anymore. My BF is a firefigher has a crazy schedule, needs sleep when he's home, and sleeps very lightly. Thor gets up and whines in the night. OR will just start prancing around. Our bedroom is very small and we can't fit a crate in there.

He's got water, a blanket, a shirt that smells like me, a bone...a nice bed...He just has to be at my feet all the time. Also my BF is tired of Thor being so attached to me (he is a little too attached) and get jealous of the attention that I have to give to Thor constantly so he'll just act normal.

Everyone says this will take time but how long? I can't do this much longer and I don't want to give up on him.

thanks for listening and all the responses!

Hannah,

If he is jealous of a little yorkie, then I do believe he has some problems that he needs to deal with and not you and Thor. I really do believe Thor's heart is sad right now and I am sure he is feeling very insecure. If it were me, I'd tell the boyfriend to grow up and stop being jealous of a little dog. If he's jealous now of a little dog, I'd be more than wary of what he'd be jealous of later or problems down the road. JMO

[red98vett]

Awwwwww....Thor needs some of his old life back. I'd whine and cry too if I was kicked out of my bed.

He's gone thru so many changes & probably feels confused. I know I could never let my girls get that worked up over anything but I guess you needed to try. I'd tell the boyfriend (who is a grown man) to suck it up and let the little 'UNDER 10 lb' dog sleep in the bed where he's used to sleeping.

[crystalsmom]

Originally Posted by itsrox

You know, I think that this is not necessary. I think that was a mean response to put up. Firstly, the reality of the situation is that her dog is going through changes that she may or may not be able to deal with. I love my Cali very much, however, she is not my child, she is a dog FIRST and I don't expect her to act as anything different. If I had to chose between my family and my dog, well, my family definitely come first, husband included. I think too many people look at dogs as their children (even I say Cali is my baby), but how can you compare the two? I bought my dog from a breeder, I carried my children inside of me. I can talk to my children and know that they understand what I'm saying. I train my dog to do as I say. Sure, Cali is loyal and all, but I don't think that if my husband never likes my dog, well that means he's gonna stop liking me next. That, to me, is crazy. Life is what it is, we are all consumed with our own. Our quality of life is important, and to me, when you take care of yourself, you can take care of others even better. So she should do whatever is going to make her and her boyfriend happy, and hopefully things work out for the best for all who are involved, doggy included.

Thorsmomma, I hope the best for you.

Excellent post. I remember someone saying those of us can choose to spoil our dogs all we want but when it starts to interfere with our human realationships that's when it should stop. That being said I think the dog needs a schedule and stick to it. Once you take a dog in your bed they are 'alpha' and that is what Thor is at the moment. Let your b/f know you are working on it and he ( b/f) comes first and it will just take alittle time. Good Luck.

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

sorry , but my dog comes before my boyfriend.. sorry again.. plenty of
fish in the sea..... first come first serve.... he just needs alittle more
lovin thats all..... the dog is obviously hurting

I'm with you, Gina.

[FirstYorkie]

Ya know, I don't remember Thorsmomma asking for advice about her relationship with her boyfriend. She asked for advice about Thor. My advice is this: give the pup some time. He's going through alot of changes right now.

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by kaymo

how old is Thor? I think we have to remember that dogs are pack animals and when we adopt them we become their pack so that's why Thor wants to be with you every minute you're home including sleeping in your bedroom/bed! If you had another dog or pet it probably wouldn't be an issue for Thor sleeping with you because he wouldn't be alone. I'm not saying to get another dog I'm just pointing out why he's so unhappy, he's lonely.

BTW, has your boyfriend ever had a dog before? Maybe he doesn't understand the bond we feel with our dogs. We bring our pets into our homes and become their sole source of shelter, food, love and affection and in return they love us unconditionally.

I agree 100% with this. Dogs are indeed pack animals. I just got added a lab to my family and he is completely cool in his crate as long as hubby, me, Hootie and/or Hobbs are in the same room with him. The second he is left all alone in a room by himself, he goes nuts. He wants to be with the pack. At night, my lab sleeps in a crate and Hootie and Hobbs sleep in bed with us, but Lamar is completely fine with this as long as he is in the room with us and can see us and smell us. Otherwise, he is NOT a happy camper. I am sure Thor is feeling these same things. He has been with a pack for so long (his 2 other friends and in bed with you) and now he is isolated. He's just sad.

[Thorsmomma]

I wouldn't consider myself someone who gets easily offened, but I am veryhurt by some of the responses to this thread. I feel like people are making judgements about me, my bf and my dog, with out understanding the issue. I don't think anyone has any clue the behaviour that we are experiencing with Thor. It is unreal. Yes Thor is my dog, and I love him dearly. I do everything I know how for him to make him happy. I bend over backwards for this little guy and have spent every last penny to make sure he's happy and to get advice on how to help us help him. We've been consistant with our training, and we also haven't slept for four nights. This is NOT an easy fix. I love my bf, and I am not letting him rule the way that I train/behave around Thor. It is so very upsetting for me and as I usually come here for good advice, and meaningful support, I feel bashed, put down and judged. I'm very hurt by some of the responses.

Over the course of my two years of being on YT, I've never felt this way...I feel horrible.

[IrishYorkie]

Well, I don't think it's a mean response. If it rubs someone the wrong way, it does not meant it's not closer to the truth. What happened to our responsibility? When you get a creature shouldn't you be able to take care of it or at the first site of problem, when the dog starts acting up when we make changes in it's life.
And if personal life is far more important and the people cannot handle having the dog, why they get the dog on the first place? Just because it looks cute in the pictures? There are so many animals are in the shelters now because of similar reasons, some of the which kill animals by the away.

[Gingergirlsmom]

Originally Posted by Thorsmomma

I wouldn't consider myself someone who gets easily offened, but I am veryhurt by some of the responses to this thread. I feel like people are making judgements about me, my bf and my dog, with out understanding the issue. I don't think anyone has any clue the behaviour that we are experiencing with Thor. It is unreal. Yes Thor is my dog, and I love him dearly. I do everything I know how for him to make him happy. I bend over backwards for this little guy and have spent every last penny to make sure he's happy and to get advice on how to help us help him. We've been consistant with our training, and we also haven't slept for four nights. This is NOT an easy fix. I love my bf, and I am not letting him rule the way that I train/behave around Thor. It is so very upsetting for me and as I usually come here for good advice, and meaningful support, I feel bashed, put down and judged. I'm very hurt by some of the responses.

Over the course of my two years of being on YT, I've never felt this way...I feel horrible.

Thorsmomma,

I couldn't agree with you more. I too was getting upset (for you) as I was reading through this thread. You came here for help and to vent, and while many offered that some, imo, have gotten inapproriately negative.
Please ignore the comments about your boyfriend etc., and focus on those who are trying to offer reasonable, helpful, support and advice.

[Lexi Rae]

sorry courtney if i affended you, didnt mean to... im woman enough to
say it..... dont know if it was me or not, but just letting you know its all good. i just feel so bad for you and your situation with your baby...
i will say a little prayer for you and hope it all works out.. good luck

[red98vett]

Girl...I posted here on page 3 and really think if he hates it that much then maybe go back to the old way that he spent his nights - even if it means a little up and down time for you both - I didn't want you feeling bashed - that's why I out that goofy smiley dude in my post. BUT - he really has had alot of change in his life and maybe for now - why not let him sleep in the bed ?? I know my girls sleep awesome with me - they were frisky when puppies - but they do grow out of that & maybe he's just going thru a phase - I bet he'd settle down if he was closer to you & it's way better than him hyperventilating and crying all night....