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Foxsha75 · 04-06-2011, 05:52 AM

Hello everyone.

I have two boys (pickles and Snickers) who are almost 5 months old. I love them to death and they mean everything to me. But my girlfriend insists on having them sleep in the bed with us at night. Its pretty frustrating because they are in the middle and they take up a lot of space. Sleeping has since dwindled, the relationship has suffered, and I sleep in a separate room so I can rest.They also have accidents as well which can be frustrating in its own right. They are crate trained and they can use their puppy pads, and the bed is very low to the ground (Asian bed) I dont know what is a good option. She will be leaving for deployment next week so I will have to take care of them for an entire year. They each have their own pens and enough room to sleep, play etc. that she only use them when we are out or for when they are eating. I insist on using them as their sleeping area so I can have a good nights rest. Any help would be great.

Sincerely,

Shanesta, Maria (Pickles and Snickers)

Perrella · 04-06-2011, 04:06 PM

Just wanted to say hello back. Sorry, I don't have any advice for your situation, but maybe others will see this and have some.

My girlie Zhoie, sleeps with us and we wouldn't have it any other way. She sleeps between us too, I'm ok with that too.

If we get another one, she will be right in the bed with us and we will then be the happy foursome,

.

dawn27 · 04-07-2011, 06:35 AM

Sorry about the troubles that you are having to deal with. But the way it sounds to me is that she needs all of the puppy love and affection she can get before deployment. That being said, Where does that leave you? The answer: sleeping in a separate room by yourself, while she and the two Yorkies are enjoying some much needed quality time! Which sounds pretty crappy to me....

I would suggest talking to her, let her know how you feel while keeping in mind not to hurt her feelings or say anything negative about her relationship with her two boys. Most people are very attracted to their animals and consider them part of the family. Like children in some ways! "Never mess with a mamma bear and her cubs" Explain to her that you need your quality time Too. And that by the dogs being in the bed it is taking away from your relationship. Try to suggest NO DOGS in the bed a few days a week, be sure to specify which days so that there will be no backing out of it. That way the two of you can work on your relationship and get the much needed quality time that all relationships need. or To just catch up on some much needed sleep next to you sweetheart.

Just remember you will have an entire year to get the dogs cage trained in whatever manner you think will work best for you and the dogs. There are a lot of really good cage training tips here on YT , start reading now!

Good Luck !

Yorkiedaze · 04-07-2011, 01:01 PM

Maybe you could talk to her about how important it would be to acclimate her boys to sleeping without her before she deploy's. They could see her during the day, but sleep without her at night, then when she leaves it won't be so upsetting for them.

dawn27 · 04-07-2011, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by dawn27

Sorry about the troubles that you are having to deal with. But the way it sounds to me is that she needs all of the puppy love and affection she can get before deployment. That being said, Where does that leave you? The answer: sleeping in a separate room by yourself, while she and the two Yorkies are enjoying some much needed quality time! Which sounds pretty crappy to me....

I would suggest talking to her, let her know how you feel while keeping in mind not to hurt her feelings or say anything negative about her relationship with her two boys. Most people are very attatched to their animals and consider them part of the family. Like children in some ways! "Never mess with a mamma bear and her cubs" Explain to her that you need your quality time Too. And that by the dogs being in the bed it is taking away from your relationship. Try to suggest NO DOGS in the bed a few days a week, be sure to specify which days so that there will be no backing out of it. That way the two of you can work on your relationship and get the much needed quality time that all relationships need. or To just catch up on some much needed sleep next to you sweetheart.

Just remember you will have an entire year to get the dogs cage trained in whatever manner you think will work best for you and the dogs. There are a lot of really good cage training tips here on YT , start reading now!

Good Luck !

Opps ... correction spell check !

Gatord · 04-07-2011, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by dawn27

Sorry about the troubles that you are having to deal with. But the way it sounds to me is that she needs all of the puppy love and affection she can get before deployment. That being said, Where does that leave you? The answer: sleeping in a separate room by yourself, while she and the two Yorkies are enjoying some much needed quality time! Which sounds pretty crappy to me....

I would suggest talking to her, let her know how you feel while keeping in mind not to hurt her feelings or say anything negative about her relationship with her two boys. Most people are very attracted to their animals and consider them part of the family. Like children in some ways! "Never mess with a mamma bear and her cubs" Explain to her that you need your quality time Too. And that by the dogs being in the bed it is taking away from your relationship. Try to suggest NO DOGS in the bed a few days a week, be sure to specify which days so that there will be no backing out of it. That way the two of you can work on your relationship and get the much needed quality time that all relationships need. or To just catch up on some much needed sleep next to you sweetheart.

Just remember you will have an entire year to get the dogs cage trained in whatever manner you think will work best for you and the dogs. There are a lot of really good cage training tips here on YT , start reading now!

Good Luck !

I like the part in red, and it is very well put. I like it.

On the other hand....... My two sleep with me and I would not have it no other way. If I move they will move to get near me. Sometimes sleeping for me is rough. But I would not have it no other way. I have sometimes even gotten up and went to spare bed, but they follow me.

Caution the way you approach that subject.

tjwarder · 04-07-2011, 06:05 PM

If she deploys next week (or even in a week or two), then I think you should just do without your good night's sleep in a separate room and tolerate the dogs. She is comfortable (and comforted) by having them close by, and right now you should be there as well. Since you love them too, and will be caring for them for the next year, you have plenty of time to get pet-free sleep and retrain them over time. Keep in mind that even though they are dogs and not children, they love and depend on your girlfriend's presence and so be very thoughtful and caring about the changes you make when she leaves. It will be an adjustment period for them, and understanding this will make your relationship and retraining easier on all of you. For now, just love her and let her have all the love and comfort (furry and human) that she desires. For a week or two, it's not worth disrupting the good just so you can have a few nights of better sleep. You can sleep when she's gone. Of course, I'm assuming there will be some nice human-only time/interactions pre-sleep time as well.

kjcmsw · 04-07-2011, 07:44 PM

Mine all sleep in crates - that's what they're use to and they like it...they want to go to bed in the crates. In fact if we haven't put them to bed by 8:30 they go stand by their crates wanting to be put in.
We wouldn't sleep well with them in the bed and they don't sleep as good being rolled over on, kicked, and everything that goes with being a human at rest. Having their own quiet place is best for them, best for their caregivers too.
Dogs, like children, need discipline. Adults need private time. Sometimes caring is saying "no".

katjoc61 · 04-11-2011, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Foxsha75

Hello everyone.

I have two boys (pickles and Snickers) who are almost 5 months old. I love them to death and they mean everything to me. But my girlfriend insists on having them sleep in the bed with us at night. Its pretty frustrating because they are in the middle and they take up a lot of space. Sleeping has since dwindled, the relationship has suffered, and I sleep in a separate room so I can rest.They also have accidents as well which can be frustrating in its own right. They are crate trained and they can use their puppy pads, and the bed is very low to the ground (Asian bed) I dont know what is a good option. She will be leaving for deployment next week so I will have to take care of them for an entire year. They each have their own pens and enough room to sleep, play etc. that she only use them when we are out or for when they are eating. I insist on using them as their sleeping area so I can have a good nights rest. Any help would be great.

Sincerely,

Shanesta, Maria (Pickles and Snickers)

hello! Our little Rascal sleeps with us too. He is 10 months. old. Didnt think i would ever let a dog sleep in my bed, but he is my baby and yorkies NEVER stink like a dog. Rascal doesnt ever smell BUT it is hard once they are use to it. We have tryed shutting the door on him but he just sits at it and barks and whins and i cant stand it. Sooo what do you do??

yoshimax · 04-13-2011, 10:46 AM

Hello,
We have 3 dogs- 2 yorkies and 1 maltese. The 2 yorkies snuggle between me and my hubby and we love it. They are small anyway. And we are looking into adopting a girl from a friend who can no longer care for her. Well, she will probably be on our bed too.

They are our babies, and I miss them terribly when I am on the road and cannot sleep with them.

yorkietalkjilly · 04-13-2011, 11:27 AM

Oh, my Tibbe hogs my bed, my pillow and I wouldn't have it any other way! If they keep pooping in the bed, put them in a carrier and plop that next to you - they will get used to it soon. With a good schedule though, they still should not be pooping or peeing in the bed. Might read the potty training articles on YT.

If the deployment you mentioned is military, would you thank you girlfriend for her service to our country for us?

ArmaniMan · 04-13-2011, 11:32 AM

Once she leaves next week, you can get them used to sleeping in their pens. They will probably cry for a few nights, but as long as you ignore them they will quiet down. Then when she comes home and sees how content they are maybe she will continue to have them sleep there.

I would however, recommend you let them sleep together in the same pen. They won't be as lonely if they have each other to cuddle up to.

AlicetheYorkie · 04-14-2011, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by ArmaniMan

Once she leaves next week, you can get them used to sleeping in their pens. They will probably cry for a few nights, but as long as you ignore them they will quiet down. Then when she comes home and sees how content they are maybe she will continue to have them sleep there.

I would however, recommend you let them sleep together in the same pen. They won't be as lonely if they have each other to cuddle up to.

I'd let it go for now so your gf can have as much comfort as needed before she leaves, but then you should be able to get them very happy in their crate at night while she's gone. Maybe even buy them a new bed for in it before she comes home so she sees that you do care about their comfort. Then you can discuss it further (gently

) when she returns.

My Beagle slept in bed with me since she was a puppy (when I was 19 and single) and when I moved in with my husband (6 years later), he didn't want her there. I fought him on it for a while, but then I agreed to try a few nights with her on the couch and it was much more comfortable and she was perfectly fine. My Yorkie sleeps in a kennel in our bedroom. She cried the first few nights but only for a few minutes and now by the time I go to bed, she's so tired she gladly walks right into that kennel to "go to bed" herself

ziggy925 · 04-17-2011, 09:04 PM

I started with Ruger in my bed, then moved him to his own bed, then let him sleep in my bed again. When I'm with my girlfriend he does like to squeeze in between us not because he's trying to break us up, but he just likes the security of it.

I can get him out of the bed into his own bed, so it's not impossible to train the dog to sleep in his own bed, yet allow him into your bed when you want. You must teach the dog that the bed is yours, not his. That's important. Keep moving him (them) off the bed until you allow him (them)on. Now I can snap my fingers and say "off" and he gets off the bed. If I keep doing this he will stay off.

The other big thing that people don't seem to understand is to stop allowing the dog to pick a spot on the bed that you have to sleep around. If you move the dog out of the way he will move around you. You should't be moving around him.

Sounds like you will have plenty of time to work on this, and I really believe you can have it both ways. If the dogs are happy off the bed I doubt she will be upset with you, and I think she can call them in without upsetting the work you did to get them out.

Evie the evil · 04-18-2011, 05:25 AM

When my b/f and I first got our yorkie he clearly stated that the dog would be sleeping in her crate and would not be allowed in our bed. I was definately on the same page. Well, She howled, and cried and howled and cried, all night every night. I would not have believed it possible if I had not heard it myself. She would pace and shake her crate back and forth and then bite at the latch until she figured out a way to open the door. She just refused the crate all together. We moved onto the pen... finally got her to stay in the crate ( she would still bounce and cry quite a bit.)

After all that training....... My b/f had to go away for 8 months... and I got so lonely in the bed.. yeah, you guessed it... I brought her to bed with me. I guess the long winded point I was making is just this.... I would not bother picking a fight with your g/f over this issue.... because I would not be surprised if with in a month of your g/f leaving.. you don't have those lil' pups in your bed because you miss your g/f. Just my thought on it : )

btw.. thank you to your g/f for her service ( assuming its military )

04-06-2011, 05:52 AM	#1
Foxsha75 Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 16	4 month old puppies sleeping in bed and its frustrating!! Hello everyone. I have two boys (pickles and Snickers) who are almost 5 months old. I love them to death and they mean everything to me. But my girlfriend insists on having them sleep in the bed with us at night. Its pretty frustrating because they are in the middle and they take up a lot of space. Sleeping has since dwindled, the relationship has suffered, and I sleep in a separate room so I can rest.They also have accidents as well which can be frustrating in its own right. They are crate trained and they can use their puppy pads, and the bed is very low to the ground (Asian bed) I dont know what is a good option. She will be leaving for deployment next week so I will have to take care of them for an entire year. They each have their own pens and enough room to sleep, play etc. that she only use them when we are out or for when they are eating. I insist on using them as their sleeping area so I can have a good nights rest. Any help would be great. Sincerely, Shanesta, Maria (Pickles and Snickers)

04-06-2011, 04:06 PM	#2
Perrella Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: VA Posts: 8,040	Just wanted to say hello back. Sorry, I don't have any advice for your situation, but maybe others will see this and have some. My girlie Zhoie, sleeps with us and we wouldn't have it any other way. She sleeps between us too, I'm ok with that too. If we get another one, she will be right in the bed with us and we will then be the happy foursome, . __________________ Tena & Zhoie Sweet Little Miracle

04-07-2011, 06:35 AM	#3
dawn27 2+2=4 X the Love ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Bean Town Ohio Posts: 9,456 Blog Entries: 1	Sorry about the troubles that you are having to deal with. But the way it sounds to me is that she needs all of the puppy love and affection she can get before deployment. That being said, Where does that leave you? The answer: sleeping in a separate room by yourself, while she and the two Yorkies are enjoying some much needed quality time! Which sounds pretty crappy to me.... I would suggest talking to her, let her know how you feel while keeping in mind not to hurt her feelings or say anything negative about her relationship with her two boys. Most people are very attracted to their animals and consider them part of the family. Like children in some ways! "Never mess with a mamma bear and her cubs" Explain to her that you need your quality time Too. And that by the dogs being in the bed it is taking away from your relationship. Try to suggest NO DOGS in the bed a few days a week, be sure to specify which days so that there will be no backing out of it. That way the two of you can work on your relationship and get the much needed quality time that all relationships need. or To just catch up on some much needed sleep next to you sweetheart. Just remember you will have an entire year to get the dogs cage trained in whatever manner you think will work best for you and the dogs. There are a lot of really good cage training tips here on YT , start reading now! Good Luck ! __________________ Mommy to: Quincy, & Ruby Bella / Miah & Brandi Gone but Never Forgotten Visit: Bella Dawns for all of your Custom Pet Wear needs.

04-07-2011, 01:01 PM	#4
Yorkiedaze My hairy-legged girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: lompoc, ca. Posts: 12,228	Maybe you could talk to her about how important it would be to acclimate her boys to sleeping without her before she deploy's. They could see her during the day, but sleep without her at night, then when she leaves it won't be so upsetting for them. __________________ AZRAEL RAZAEL JILLI ANN

04-07-2011, 07:44 PM	#8
kjcmsw YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Washington Posts: 837	Mine all sleep in crates - that's what they're use to and they like it...they want to go to bed in the crates. In fact if we haven't put them to bed by 8:30 they go stand by their crates wanting to be put in. We wouldn't sleep well with them in the bed and they don't sleep as good being rolled over on, kicked, and everything that goes with being a human at rest. Having their own quiet place is best for them, best for their caregivers too. Dogs, like children, need discipline. Adults need private time. Sometimes caring is saying "no". __________________ Kendra

04-07-2011, 06:05 PM	#7
tjwarder Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Sherman, Texas, USA Posts: 39	If she deploys next week (or even in a week or two), then I think you should just do without your good night's sleep in a separate room and tolerate the dogs. She is comfortable (and comforted) by having them close by, and right now you should be there as well. Since you love them too, and will be caring for them for the next year, you have plenty of time to get pet-free sleep and retrain them over time. Keep in mind that even though they are dogs and not children, they love and depend on your girlfriend's presence and so be very thoughtful and caring about the changes you make when she leaves. It will be an adjustment period for them, and understanding this will make your relationship and retraining easier on all of you. For now, just love her and let her have all the love and comfort (furry and human) that she desires. For a week or two, it's not worth disrupting the good just so you can have a few nights of better sleep. You can sleep when she's gone. Of course, I'm assuming there will be some nice human-only time/interactions pre-sleep time as well.

04-13-2011, 10:46 AM	#10
yoshimax Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Northern, Ca Posts: 83	Hello, We have 3 dogs- 2 yorkies and 1 maltese. The 2 yorkies snuggle between me and my hubby and we love it. They are small anyway. And we are looking into adopting a girl from a friend who can no longer care for her. Well, she will probably be on our bed too. They are our babies, and I miss them terribly when I am on the road and cannot sleep with them.

04-13-2011, 11:27 AM	#11
yorkietalkjilly ♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas Posts: 22,140	Oh, my Tibbe hogs my bed, my pillow and I wouldn't have it any other way! If they keep pooping in the bed, put them in a carrier and plop that next to you - they will get used to it soon. With a good schedule though, they still should not be pooping or peeing in the bed. Might read the potty training articles on YT. If the deployment you mentioned is military, would you thank you girlfriend for her service to our country for us? __________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis

04-13-2011, 11:32 AM	#12
ArmaniMan I ♥ Armani & Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 3,895	Once she leaves next week, you can get them used to sleeping in their pens. They will probably cry for a few nights, but as long as you ignore them they will quiet down. Then when she comes home and sees how content they are maybe she will continue to have them sleep there. I would however, recommend you let them sleep together in the same pen. They won't be as lonely if they have each other to cuddle up to. __________________ Armani & Chloe

04-17-2011, 09:04 PM	#14
ziggy925 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aspen, CO, US Posts: 544	I started with Ruger in my bed, then moved him to his own bed, then let him sleep in my bed again. When I'm with my girlfriend he does like to squeeze in between us not because he's trying to break us up, but he just likes the security of it. I can get him out of the bed into his own bed, so it's not impossible to train the dog to sleep in his own bed, yet allow him into your bed when you want. You must teach the dog that the bed is yours, not his. That's important. Keep moving him (them) off the bed until you allow him (them)on. Now I can snap my fingers and say "off" and he gets off the bed. If I keep doing this he will stay off. The other big thing that people don't seem to understand is to stop allowing the dog to pick a spot on the bed that you have to sleep around. If you move the dog out of the way he will move around you. You should't be moving around him. Sounds like you will have plenty of time to work on this, and I really believe you can have it both ways. If the dogs are happy off the bed I doubt she will be upset with you, and I think she can call them in without upsetting the work you did to get them out.

04-18-2011, 05:25 AM	#15
Evie the evil Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Arundel, Maine, USA Posts: 40	When my b/f and I first got our yorkie he clearly stated that the dog would be sleeping in her crate and would not be allowed in our bed. I was definately on the same page. Well, She howled, and cried and howled and cried, all night every night. I would not have believed it possible if I had not heard it myself. She would pace and shake her crate back and forth and then bite at the latch until she figured out a way to open the door. She just refused the crate all together. We moved onto the pen... finally got her to stay in the crate ( she would still bounce and cry quite a bit.) After all that training....... My b/f had to go away for 8 months... and I got so lonely in the bed.. yeah, you guessed it... I brought her to bed with me. I guess the long winded point I was making is just this.... I would not bother picking a fight with your g/f over this issue.... because I would not be surprised if with in a month of your g/f leaving.. you don't have those lil' pups in your bed because you miss your g/f. Just my thought on it : ) btw.. thank you to your g/f for her service ( assuming its military )