Having second thoughts, whats the right thing to do? - Page 2 - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Amber_lv · 01-21-2007, 12:35 AM

yes i agree with everyone else send the money back. But please protect yourself make a copy of what ever they sent you is it cash or check or what? also yes send it by certified mail that requires a signature (make sure you asks the post office for the signature one) if the freak out on you just tell them the puppy became ill and you can't sell her and just never answer their phone calls again. Or simply just tell them you guys aren't even responsible enough to set a date to pick her up let alone be able to care for her. People just make me mad!!

Good for you though you sound like a great breeder!

Amber_lv · 01-21-2007, 12:41 AM

sorry triple post i got a little button happy lol

Shelby&Seymour · 01-21-2007, 04:06 AM

Does this mean that the puppy is available?........ Need pics please!

prettypuppypink · 01-21-2007, 05:17 AM

I would totally refund their deposit and be grateful that they will never have your female. If they don't have money for payment, how will they give her vet care? They LIED to you as well while you waited all day. You know my experience with a lying breeder, works both ways and a lying buyer is just as bad. Females are so desirable and you have cute pups and care where they are placed, don't feel badly for those deadbeats.
Jessica

SweetUp&Down · 01-21-2007, 05:20 AM

If you have a bad feeling then dont do it.
As soon as my deposit was paid for my dog
I was so excited and went crazy buying him stuff

Im not getting him till the day before Valentines day
and he's already got tons of stuff (i started buying stuff
the end of December)

I've already researched vets and everything else.
Purchased food for him etc..

YorkieMom55 · 01-21-2007, 05:47 AM

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Originally Posted by luvdorkyyorkies

Well thanks for the advice! I think I will sleep better now ladies and thats what Im going to do..zzzzzzzzzzz.......sleep

Now I hopefully I wont have nightmares.

I think the nightmare would be that the pup did go to them and end up in a rescue or sick from neglect. It's our responsibility to place them in forever homes. It's best to follow your gut when it doesn't feel right.
I had to turn someone down for a puppy several months ago. I almost made myself sick over it. When I finally told her "no" she said "oh that's fine, I didn't want to drive that far anyways".
Maybe she needed to start out with a houseplant........

Sugar's Mom · 01-21-2007, 05:54 AM

Since you changed your mind, just send the deposit back. also for future reference, what my hubby does when someonee makes a deal on his beagles to send a deposit. he tells them when it will be ready. If they don't show up by the end of that day (unless he has made prior agreeement with them) The deposit is forfeited. Of course we understand that people work thru the week and drive long trips to get here so if they want to wait until the weekend, once it has been discussed, that is fine.

camly · 01-21-2007, 05:58 AM

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Originally Posted by acowbyzcowgrl

I'm sorry this happened. When sending back the deposit, be sure to send it certified mail. I'd hate for them to try to say they never got it..and try to get you into trouble. Good luck in finding her a fabulous home.

Kristie

send it certified mail and get a delivery confirmation and keep the receipt, do what you can too keep these pple, who seem very flaky, indecisive, and shady, from causing you any potential trouble. gluck i think you are doing the right think ... i know if it were me buying a puppy i wouldn't be able to wait and be calling all the time taht you'd want to get rid of me! hahaha

chachi · 01-21-2007, 06:02 AM

You are doing the right thing. If I was a breeder I would never give a puppy to people like that

luvdorkyyorkies · 01-21-2007, 06:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Amber_lv

sorry triple post i got a little button happy lol

guess you were trying to make a point.

Certified mail is a good idea. Ill just be honest about it to them. That I have to feel comfortable with where my puppies go, and I dont so I will be sending the deposit back. I would rather call and let them know the deposit is coming instead of a surprize. I think that would upset them more.
I guess they could freak out on me but hey I can get a little freaky myself!

BUt seriously if they do, I just wont respond to it.
If I was going to get nasty I would have when I waited for hours for them to call or show up and come to find out they were at home, and never let me know. I think someone would flip out on me if they were coming to pick up a puppy and I just didnt bother to show, or I wasnt home for the appt.
Its for the best, I think its one of those situations, where somemone likes the thought of a puppy, like a kid, but forgets to feed them or doesnt truly realize the expense, the supplies, the vet bills. They were told all that stuff but after putting a deposit never inquired about her again. I did all the calling, and they still didnt have th supplies the day they were supposed to pick her up so they dont need my puppy.

luvdorkyyorkies · 01-21-2007, 06:17 AM

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Originally Posted by YorkieMom55

I think the nightmare would be that the pup did go to them and end up in a rescue or sick from neglect. It's our responsibility to place them in forever homes. It's best to follow your gut when it doesn't feel right.
I had to turn someone down for a puppy several months ago. I almost made myself sick over it. When I finally told her "no" she said "oh that's fine, I didn't want to drive that far anyways".
Maybe she needed to start out with a houseplant........

Now that is funny!

luvdorkyyorkies · 01-21-2007, 06:29 AM

You know I dont expect people to go all foo foo over puppies, meaning buying clothes, designer carriers....some people just arent like that. Its cool if they are, but its the other stuff that really counts. Like buying the essentials needed to care for the dog to prepare, at least checking once to see how the pup is. If you dont do that is certainly is a reflection to me of what kind of life a puppy will have. Lucky to eat, lucky to get a pat on the head.

WundrWmn · 01-21-2007, 06:33 AM

If it dosen't feel right......don't do it.......good words to live by
Give it all back to them, and never have a second thought about it....you'll be doing the right thing for YOU....and your BabyGirl

JeanieK · 01-21-2007, 06:43 AM

Sionce you were the one that changed your mind, it would not be ethical to keep part of the deposit.

To be honest, I believe they would have a case if they refused to accept the returned deposit and insisted on the puppy. So you will be lucky if they take back the deposit and walk away happy.

They might be realizing that this was not a good idea but are afraid to tell you they changed their minds for fear you will keep the deposit.

luvdorkyyorkies · 01-21-2007, 07:14 AM

They shouldnt be afraid at all. I tell people your deposit is fully refundable. In rare instances I would keep a portion of the deposit, such as keeping a puppy for an extended period of time because they will not prepare for a pick up date. SO maybe they are afraid I would keep it, since they have put off getting the puppy, avoided phone calls and then failed to show up the day of pick up. Heck if someone came to pick up their puppy and they werent happy I would give their deposit back. But if people start out with a problem to commit, and then come up with excuses not to come the day of pick up, then say Ill call sometime next week, arent prepared for the dog at all, I feel are stringing me along, not to count what kind of owners they will probably be.
Im going to send all their deposit back. I wont be keeping one penny. I am under no obligation to sell to people I dont feel good about, and where would they have a case at all? I reserve the right to return a deposit for my own reasons. I have valid concerns and am not selling to them. SO they can sue me.

01-21-2007, 12:35 AM	#16
Amber_lv Peeka Boo I See You! Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Salt Lake Posts: 7,161 Blog Entries: 3	yes i agree with everyone else send the money back. But please protect yourself make a copy of what ever they sent you is it cash or check or what? also yes send it by certified mail that requires a signature (make sure you asks the post office for the signature one) if the freak out on you just tell them the puppy became ill and you can't sell her and just never answer their phone calls again. Or simply just tell them you guys aren't even responsible enough to set a date to pick her up let alone be able to care for her. People just make me mad!! Good for you though you sound like a great breeder! __________________ Peeka-Boo-Daisy-Designs <---Click Here Peeka's MyspaceDaisy's Myspace Peeka's Dogster

01-21-2007, 12:41 AM	#17
Amber_lv Peeka Boo I See You! Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Salt Lake Posts: 7,161 Blog Entries: 3	sorry triple post i got a little button happy lol __________________ Peeka-Boo-Daisy-Designs <---Click Here Peeka's MyspaceDaisy's Myspace Peeka's Dogster

01-21-2007, 04:06 AM	#18
Shelby&Seymour "& Seeger, too" Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Central Kentucky Posts: 5,169	Good morning! Does this mean that the puppy is available?........ Need pics please! __________________ Happy Fall Y'all! 🎃

01-21-2007, 05:20 AM	#20
SweetUp&Down Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 41	If you have a bad feeling then dont do it. As soon as my deposit was paid for my dog I was so excited and went crazy buying him stuff Im not getting him till the day before Valentines day and he's already got tons of stuff (i started buying stuff the end of December) I've already researched vets and everything else. Purchased food for him etc.. __________________ Waiting Patiently For My Shorkie

01-21-2007, 06:02 AM	#24
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	You are doing the right thing. If I was a breeder I would never give a puppy to people like that __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

01-21-2007, 05:17 AM	#19
prettypuppypink Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: NJ Posts: 739	I would totally refund their deposit and be grateful that they will never have your female. If they don't have money for payment, how will they give her vet care? They LIED to you as well while you waited all day. You know my experience with a lying breeder, works both ways and a lying buyer is just as bad. Females are so desirable and you have cute pups and care where they are placed, don't feel badly for those deadbeats. Jessica

01-21-2007, 05:54 AM	#22
Sugar's Mom BANNED! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Kentucky Posts: 9,248	Since you changed your mind, just send the deposit back. also for future reference, what my hubby does when someonee makes a deal on his beagles to send a deposit. he tells them when it will be ready. If they don't show up by the end of that day (unless he has made prior agreeement with them) The deposit is forfeited. Of course we understand that people work thru the week and drive long trips to get here so if they want to wait until the weekend, once it has been discussed, that is fine.

01-21-2007, 06:29 AM	#27
luvdorkyyorkies BANNED! Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,681	You know I dont expect people to go all foo foo over puppies, meaning buying clothes, designer carriers....some people just arent like that. Its cool if they are, but its the other stuff that really counts. Like buying the essentials needed to care for the dog to prepare, at least checking once to see how the pup is. If you dont do that is certainly is a reflection to me of what kind of life a puppy will have. Lucky to eat, lucky to get a pat on the head.

01-21-2007, 06:33 AM	#28
WundrWmn Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Parker, Az in the Winter Posts: 168	Deposit Smosit.... If it dosen't feel right......don't do it.......good words to live by Give it all back to them, and never have a second thought about it....you'll be doing the right thing for YOU....and your BabyGirl

01-21-2007, 06:43 AM	#29
JeanieK Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa Posts: 12,552	Sionce you were the one that changed your mind, it would not be ethical to keep part of the deposit. To be honest, I believe they would have a case if they refused to accept the returned deposit and insisted on the puppy. So you will be lucky if they take back the deposit and walk away happy. They might be realizing that this was not a good idea but are afraid to tell you they changed their minds for fear you will keep the deposit.

01-21-2007, 07:14 AM	#30
luvdorkyyorkies BANNED! Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,681	They shouldnt be afraid at all. I tell people your deposit is fully refundable. In rare instances I would keep a portion of the deposit, such as keeping a puppy for an extended period of time because they will not prepare for a pick up date. SO maybe they are afraid I would keep it, since they have put off getting the puppy, avoided phone calls and then failed to show up the day of pick up. Heck if someone came to pick up their puppy and they werent happy I would give their deposit back. But if people start out with a problem to commit, and then come up with excuses not to come the day of pick up, then say Ill call sometime next week, arent prepared for the dog at all, I feel are stringing me along, not to count what kind of owners they will probably be. Im going to send all their deposit back. I wont be keeping one penny. I am under no obligation to sell to people I dont feel good about, and where would they have a case at all? I reserve the right to return a deposit for my own reasons. I have valid concerns and am not selling to them. SO they can sue me.