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03-29-2009, 07:25 AM | #1 |
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| Need Advice Ok I know I haven't been here in forever but I am now working and with that and spending time with my babies I just haven't had the time I am here now because I really need some advice. Here goes. Ok some of you know that my daughter took off for college last year (August) and left her dog with me to care for (the dog was a gift from her ex-boyfriend). Ok I was fine with that since she was supposed to pay for the food and vet bills and whatever for her. Also she was supposed to come home every weekend and see her and even take her with her if she was going to stay somewhere else for the weekend. Well so far she has not paid a dime for her she has came to see her 5 times 6 tops in the very begininning and took her one time back in October of last year and that one time she did take her she said the dog would not eat. So she decided to feed her pancakes and things to get the dog to eat . The dog came back acting strange and had the poops for days . My daughter came over twice after that for about a half a hour and the dog would start shaking and acting very strange while she was here. Anyway the thing is we have been paying for everything she sleeps with us we take her to the vet we do everything. And even though we have been doing that for seven months my daughter just tells me today that she wants to come and get the dog tonight and he boyfriend who the dog is scared to death of and doesn't like will bring her back tomorrow after I get off work. All because she is leaving to go back to college in the morning. Of course I don't want to put the dog through all of this but do I have any right to tell my daughter no she cannot take her? Thanks All! Mary
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03-29-2009, 07:30 AM | #2 |
BANNED FOR NOT SENDING A GE GIFT! | Don't let the pup go I say, if she wants to visit, come to your house and visit, since you love the pup, have been caring for the pup, and know the pup, it's your pup. Boyfriends come and go, but a furbabies love is forever. |
03-29-2009, 07:42 AM | #3 | |
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I forgot to add that the dog has lived with us since she was eight weeks old. I am the one who gave her pedialite and meds every two hours and the one that made sure she ate so that her sugar would not drop. My daughter was never around her then either even though she lived here. Also I am the one who paid to have her spayed and cared for her after the surgery.
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03-29-2009, 07:46 AM | #4 |
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| If it was me I would do what is best for the dog. If the dog shakes when they are there that should be telling you something. If they take the dog he will probably have the same behavior and will probably be brought back to you to care for. I personally wouldn't upset the dog to make everyone else happy. I would tell your daughter she can come visit the dog but the dog stays here. Just my two cents worth. |
03-29-2009, 07:52 AM | #5 | |
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03-29-2009, 07:52 AM | #6 |
YT Addict | I wouldn't let her take the dog at all. You know you have done everything for that dog. I would tell her that the last time that she took her, they she didn't act right for days. Tell her that you don't want her to take her because you have to deal with the aftermath. If she wants to visit then she needs to come to your house. Tell her you are doing what is best for the dog! |
03-29-2009, 07:53 AM | #7 |
YT 1000 Club Member | Your the pack leader of both of them. This dog has bonded with you and your home and shouldn't be ripped out of it. Daughter might be a little mad at first but she'll get over it. College kids don't need pets. I have a very similar issue at my house. My daughters x-bf/xfiance had bought my daughter a puppy one year for Christmas. We had told him no it was a bad idea but he did it anyway saying it would stay at his place. MMM-Hmmm, when they broke up guess where the dog ended up? And because DD was so in love with the dog and had done EVERYTHING for the dog how could we say no to her. Now she's graduated college and working 2 jobs trying to save money to move out and guess who's always watching the dog? I don't hestitate to tell her when and what with the dog. She knows I have every right. |
03-29-2009, 07:54 AM | #8 |
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| It is hard for one person to "own" a dog and another to have full responsibility for the upkeep of him/her. I'm not sure if I am answering the questing you are asking, but I would require my daughter to make a choice, either give me the dog, lock, stock and barrel, OR take the dog and be responsible with him/her. I have children and I've been there done that with them (not about animals but about other things). It's all about being responsible and accountable -- and OUCH that is a very painful adult issue. |
03-29-2009, 07:55 AM | #9 | |
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03-29-2009, 08:02 AM | #10 | |
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03-29-2009, 08:04 AM | #11 |
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| I want to thank you all you have helped me make a really hard decision one that I think I had already made deep down but I needed the boost/courage to tell her I guess. Hugs, Mary
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03-29-2009, 08:26 AM | #12 |
YT 1000 Club Member | I know it's hard to be firm with what are supposed to be adult responsible children. But the truth be known that sometimes they just aren't that responsible when in college and only think about what they want. Not all of them are like that but most are from my experience. At the same time when they are in college they shouldn't have to be worried about anything but good grades and taking care of themselves and having fun imbetween. There's plenty of time when she's on her own and making enough to provide for a puppy when she's done with school. |
03-29-2009, 11:24 AM | #13 |
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| Our dear children....My son did the same thing. Begged me to let him bring a lab puppy home!! I was opposed...my dh said ok, but only if he paid for food, vet bills and got her spayed! My son did not keep up his end of the deal. We have been the primary caregivers. His dog has destroyed everything in my back yard. Literally chewed the cover off my hot tub. I just wanted to scream! I have paid for all her shots and vet bills. She got pregnant and had 9 pups. I paid for all their shots and food, found homes for all of them. I have her scheduled to be spayed. My son is in college also. We would ask him to find her a home, but she is apart of our family now. I just wish he would spend more time with her, I'm disabled and can barely keep up with my little ones! Bless your heart for taking care of your daughter's baby. You set the rules! After all...you are being mommy to both of them!!! Good luck and God bless!
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03-29-2009, 11:33 AM | #14 |
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| I hope it all works out for you! The dog needs to stay right where he/she is !
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03-29-2009, 11:37 AM | #15 |
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| Sorry to hear about your situation. I would definitely tell your daughter that in the best interest of the dog, that she should leave him with you and that she could come and visit. If the dog was shaky and acting strange the first time, then the 2nd time may possibly be even worst. In addition, putting the dog under stress like that will certainly effect his health. I'm in somewhat of similar situation with my parents who's now caring for my cat Suki due to my DH allergies. However, I've always picked-up and paid for the food, litter, treats, etc. for Suki. I check on him occassionally and take him to his vet visits...etc. Now that my parents are caring for Suki, I think of him more of a family pet and not "MY" pet. I hope everything works out for you and your daughter.
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