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JESSY_RN2B · 09-30-2006, 06:01 PM

"I have 2 young kids that are great with fergie. The real issue is that i just dont have alot of money because we just had to use our entire savings to pay for a move due to a job transfer."

"i just filed bankruptcy so no i dont have alot of money and the reason i want to do this is to help pay for my family and the move we are going to have to make in a few weeks which is gonna cost us over $3000."

Again, not to get on your case............which story is it? In one place you appear to have moved, and the other you are moving.

What you wrote is there...........can't go back. Just lets move on and have this locked.

Good luck

Oscar's Mummy · 09-30-2006, 06:03 PM

I'm sorry for whatever financial troubles you are having... and unfortunatly I would have to agree that selling used puppy clothes probably isn't going to help your situation much. Most people on here who do have clothes they wouldn't mind parting with would much rather sell them on here themselves - afterall, we could all use a little extra cash.

If you are having financial troubles, I can't understand why you would even consider bringing another dog into your home - With two young children to provide for and a puppy, living paycheck to paycheck - it just doesn't seem like the ideal situation. And I'm not speaking of the initial purchase price - What about vet bills? Are you able to care for your dog... let alone TWO dogs.. should an emergency arise? Yes, two dogs are great company for each other - but maybe you should hold off for a bit until your situation is under control.

There are lots of ways to make money while working out of your home - you just have to be creative and resourceful. I think a doggy daycare is a great idea (if you're moving into a house). Are you creative or crafty? Can you sew, maybe start sewing your own dog clothes to sell? What about those online survey things (I hear some people do make money doing them)... I've always thought the best thing was to sit down and really think about what it is that you enjoy doing and then figure out how to make money doing it.

or.. maybe your husband will just have to put aside his feelings about babysitters or daycare so that you can work too - in tight situations sometimes you have to sacrifice.... right? Otherwise I'd be telling him to put in more hours and start bringing in some more money if he's so adamant about you staying home with the kids

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I wish you luck

Monday · 09-30-2006, 06:27 PM

Can't help but agree with the majority of people. You may not have been asking for charity, but you did follow up your first request with a response that you didn't get any responses .... Wasn't that enough for you to realize it was not an accepted 'idea' ... you put others in a position to set you straight? And many of them gave you good ideas ....

I was always taught that if you need a helping hand ----- look at the end of your arm .... Maybe you can try being a teacher's assistant? Work in a nursery school? How old are your kids? Maybe you can get them free tuition at a nursery school if you help out there?

I do not believe in "cursing the darkness, when you can put on a light."... Good Luck!

AllyKenyon · 09-30-2006, 07:01 PM

First i want to say thank you to oscar's mummy for being nice to me...and to reply to her; i was wanting another dog because my pup was very good when she was around other dogs, such as all of the dogs at the ladys house, and now that shes gone from there i thought that having another dog here might help some of her behavioral issues that she has gathered after her move away from her buddies. and a doggy dacare was already in my mind but my kids are young and i know that having my puppy (who isnt very trained yet) and my 3 and 1 year old girls, and a bunch of other doggys to take care of. i still might do it but my husband thinks its a stupid idea. yes i can sew but not that good..i have never made anything but purses out of bandanas from wal mart haha. and again its hard to do that with my kids. i would love for him to put aside his feelings about daycare and i have been trying actually for 3 years lol...and no luck..he is very hard headed about it and wants to wait till they both can talk so that they can tell us if something is going wrong. and with the new possition (a millwright apprentice at a mill) he will not be able to work extra hours anymore. thank you again oscar's mummy for being nice. And to monday? (poster after oscars mummy) i would love to do that kind of thing but there is nothing like that around here. and to work in a school or anything you have to have some kind of college which i dont. dont even have any work experience to get a good job. im 22 years old and havent worked since i was 18...after that i have been home with the kids. and to jessy...we are in the process of moving...we just have to get the money for it...or the rest of it i should say...im sorry i asked and im sorry it came across to you wrong...forget i asked and just nevermind. i didnt mean to offend anyone

ytsirk27 · 09-30-2006, 07:16 PM

I dont think you really offended anybody. As in the sewing part...I didnt sew very well either...But I am getting really good at it now and I make dog clothes and all sorts of things and sell them. I do that and run a daycare all at one time. It can be done if you put your mind to it. I have a 8 yr old in school but my 3 yr old is at home. I undertand your bestfriend is finacially strapped too but If I ws as bad as you proclaim dont you think it would be smarter to see the clothes and make some extra money than just give them to your friend. I have nothing against you I was just saying to please not come on a thread and get snippy from the get go youll lose alot of support that way. I wish you luck in all you decide to d0!

Tiggerwit · 09-30-2006, 07:16 PM

I'm sorry you are having a hard time....Are you in a house or apartment?

If you are in a house, you could do doggie daycare and sell 2nd hand dog stuff all at the same time. This would help you financially and give Fergie a playmate without you having to have the burden of cost for vet bills and extra food, etc.

This may come out wrong because I know it's hard to interpret tone and stuff when reading what someone writes, but not intentionally trying to be rude, it seems like your husband is a hard nut that doesn't really have a grasp on the reality of the situation. From what you said he seems to knock everything you do which is a total put down. You need to do what you need to do to provide for your kids if things are as bad as you say. Whether that means it's babysitting kids, dogs, a morning paper route (which you could take the kids), or whatever. That or I suggest he get out there and get a another job or 2 and step up.

I'm sorry if that was mean, I just kept hating reading about how he seems towards you.

Please PM me if you need to talk.

AllyKenyon · 09-30-2006, 07:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tiggerwit

I'm sorry you are having a hard time....Are you in a house or apartment?

If you are in a house, you could do doggie daycare and sell 2nd hand dog stuff all at the same time. This would help you financially and give Fergie a playmate without you having to have the burden of cost for vet bills and extra food, etc.

This is one thing i said i wanted to do earlier and everyone jumped my case for it...I am in an apartment right now but the place we are moving to is a house. my husband thinks a doggy caycare is a really dumb idea but as i mentioned earlier i thought that the doggy daycare and selling
2nd hand stuff also would be fun and thats why i asked for some help but thats when people decided i was trying to scam them...i just wanted some help starting up or something but like i said earlier...im not interested in this stuff anymore...thanks

Tiggerwit · 09-30-2006, 07:31 PM

Well if you change your mind, let me know, I've got some things.

Are you just moving to another area in Oregon or out of state? I missed that part.

Julz · 09-30-2006, 07:34 PM

With 2 small children and a puppy with behavioral issues, I think another pup would be way too much to handle both emotionally and financially while you are trying to think of a way to make money at home. Instead of a day care type thing, what do you think of watching just one child for someone? I think even 2 more children would be too many to watch. They can get into so much so very quickly. Maybe even just a part-time job in the evenings while your husband is home with the children? Something like Sheetz or Wal-Mart. I wouldn't rush into breeding right away. It can be quite expensive. I have a litter of 4 that are 4 days old and have about $725 in vet fees so far (emergency c-section). Research the Yorkie and the breeding and whelping experience, then by the time you get back on your feet you will be knowlegable in this area. It is a never ending learning lesson. In regard to your initial post, I'm sorry, but I don't think it is a good idea. I would try selling stuff on Ebay as others have mentioned. I've done it way more than once. Once you get the hang of it you'll actually look forward to it. I do have to say that the way the thread started is the reason for the posts that followed. You said you didn't mean it that way, but a person can only get a feel for the little black words on the white background. Good luck, and I hope things turn around for you soon. I know it can get exasperating, but you have to remember the things that matter the most are right there with you all along. Everything else will work out.

AllyKenyon · 09-30-2006, 07:48 PM

i dont have anything to sell on ebay thats why i asked for some help in the first place...cuz i got nothing really...and as far as the stuff i give to my friend..i give it to her because its hard for me to part with my kid's stuff so to give it to her, i still get to see it on her maddison...

Julz · 09-30-2006, 07:58 PM

I truly do hope things are looking up for you soon

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ytsirk27 · 09-30-2006, 08:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julz

I truly do hope things are looking up for you soon

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me to!

LitlbitRanch · 09-30-2006, 08:22 PM

I just wanted to say that I have read the posts and wanted to say that it is one thing to ask for help and another for a handout. Yes - it is a fine line and yes maybe you should have chosen your words differently.
We are what I like to call a close family here. Many of us are stay at home moms trying our best to help ends meet. As for my story, hubby lost job in layoff. I have a 1yr old, 2yr old and a baby due in Dec. (Yes - all planned).

I am unable to work out of the house due to the rising costs of dayare in our area so what did I do?? I borrowed my moms old sewing machine and found a free pattern to start with and altered and sew sew sew. Now I help bring in $ to cover some bills. Yes, we still get some help from close friends etc rents 2 months past due - car is a month - no cable etc just the basics) but something is better than doing nothing.
We love our dogs and our familys and we do what we can to make ends meet.
It seems that with your low posts that you just joined our community and that you haven't taken the time to get to know us. Most everyone here (IMO) have caring hearts and help others in their times of need. Examp : A rescue dog needs a couple sweaters for winter... But to ask for handouts to resell and then ask again, thinking we are rude, Well...
best of luck to you in whatever venture you choose. I do suggest that picking something to make might be best in your situation. I know it's a struggle with the kids but think of my situation, I work pritty much from 9:30PM-1:00AM to get orders done and spend the days changing, playing and trying to market on local sites like Craigs List or EBay.
Find something you might like to do and start slow. There are Tons of things to try out there. You may be so set on one and once you start may decide you hate it - take your time.
Blessings and best of luck.

red98vett · 10-01-2006, 03:59 AM

Sweetie - I was hoping that you'd see why some of us wondered - your first 2 post were pretty 'out' there - as someone said - dont knock people when you're asking for their help

then - reading where you said you spent all your money on a move - yet another sentence you said you needed to make money to move just reinforced that feeling. I think we were pretty nice about this and did try to give you some ideas. No one wants anyone hurting financially but sometimes we have to just do what we can to help ourselves....Your husband needs to do what the rest of the country does.... and let you work if that's what you want to do.

there's lots of us that are living month to month - I am now since my husband can't work anymore...it sucks but we have to keep going

ytsirk27 · 10-01-2006, 05:24 AM

Thats right. I have no cable right now and the ONLY reson I have the internet is because i have a webpage and its hard to sell my stuff without a computer. We are doing th ebasics and it sucks but that needs to be done. We only have 1 car and thats fine. That works for us. Your husband might just have to get over this daycare issue or he needs to do more hours. Id give him that choice!

09-30-2006, 06:01 PM	#16
JESSY_RN2B Owned by 3 furballs Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 6,581	"I have 2 young kids that are great with fergie. The real issue is that i just dont have alot of money because we just had to use our entire savings to pay for a move due to a job transfer." "i just filed bankruptcy so no i dont have alot of money and the reason i want to do this is to help pay for my family and the move we are going to have to make in a few weeks which is gonna cost us over $3000." Again, not to get on your case............which story is it? In one place you appear to have moved, and the other you are moving. What you wrote is there...........can't go back. Just lets move on and have this locked. Good luck __________________ Bobbi Yorkietalk http://www.dogster.com/dogs/395435 And now........little Aja too! http://www.picturetrail.com/sfx/album/view/23776545

09-30-2006, 06:03 PM	#17
Oscar's Mummy Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2006 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 1,275	I'm sorry for whatever financial troubles you are having... and unfortunatly I would have to agree that selling used puppy clothes probably isn't going to help your situation much. Most people on here who do have clothes they wouldn't mind parting with would much rather sell them on here themselves - afterall, we could all use a little extra cash. If you are having financial troubles, I can't understand why you would even consider bringing another dog into your home - With two young children to provide for and a puppy, living paycheck to paycheck - it just doesn't seem like the ideal situation. And I'm not speaking of the initial purchase price - What about vet bills? Are you able to care for your dog... let alone TWO dogs.. should an emergency arise? Yes, two dogs are great company for each other - but maybe you should hold off for a bit until your situation is under control. There are lots of ways to make money while working out of your home - you just have to be creative and resourceful. I think a doggy daycare is a great idea (if you're moving into a house). Are you creative or crafty? Can you sew, maybe start sewing your own dog clothes to sell? What about those online survey things (I hear some people do make money doing them)... I've always thought the best thing was to sit down and really think about what it is that you enjoy doing and then figure out how to make money doing it. or.. maybe your husband will just have to put aside his feelings about babysitters or daycare so that you can work too - in tight situations sometimes you have to sacrifice.... right? Otherwise I'd be telling him to put in more hours and start bringing in some more money if he's so adamant about you staying home with the kids . I wish you luck __________________ Janice, Oscar and Baby Ruth "The more people I meet, the more I love my dog."

09-30-2006, 06:27 PM	#18
Monday AND Friday also! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Long Island Posts: 3,371	Can't help but agree with the majority of people. You may not have been asking for charity, but you did follow up your first request with a response that you didn't get any responses .... Wasn't that enough for you to realize it was not an accepted 'idea' ... you put others in a position to set you straight? And many of them gave you good ideas .... I was always taught that if you need a helping hand ----- look at the end of your arm .... Maybe you can try being a teacher's assistant? Work in a nursery school? How old are your kids? Maybe you can get them free tuition at a nursery school if you help out there? I do not believe in "cursing the darkness, when you can put on a light."... Good Luck! __________________ Like dogs, we should sniff butts, not kiss them. Dogs have more friends because they wag their tails, not their tongues. http://music.clevver.com/video/25815...ersion-300.php

09-30-2006, 07:16 PM	#21
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	I'm sorry you are having a hard time....Are you in a house or apartment? If you are in a house, you could do doggie daycare and sell 2nd hand dog stuff all at the same time. This would help you financially and give Fergie a playmate without you having to have the burden of cost for vet bills and extra food, etc. This may come out wrong because I know it's hard to interpret tone and stuff when reading what someone writes, but not intentionally trying to be rude, it seems like your husband is a hard nut that doesn't really have a grasp on the reality of the situation. From what you said he seems to knock everything you do which is a total put down. You need to do what you need to do to provide for your kids if things are as bad as you say. Whether that means it's babysitting kids, dogs, a morning paper route (which you could take the kids), or whatever. That or I suggest he get out there and get a another job or 2 and step up. I'm sorry if that was mean, I just kept hating reading about how he seems towards you. Please PM me if you need to talk. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy Last edited by Tiggerwit; 09-30-2006 at 07:20 PM.

09-30-2006, 07:31 PM	#23
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	Well if you change your mind, let me know, I've got some things. Are you just moving to another area in Oregon or out of state? I missed that part. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy

09-30-2006, 07:01 PM	#19
AllyKenyon Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Oregon Posts: 168	First i want to say thank you to oscar's mummy for being nice to me...and to reply to her; i was wanting another dog because my pup was very good when she was around other dogs, such as all of the dogs at the ladys house, and now that shes gone from there i thought that having another dog here might help some of her behavioral issues that she has gathered after her move away from her buddies. and a doggy dacare was already in my mind but my kids are young and i know that having my puppy (who isnt very trained yet) and my 3 and 1 year old girls, and a bunch of other doggys to take care of. i still might do it but my husband thinks its a stupid idea. yes i can sew but not that good..i have never made anything but purses out of bandanas from wal mart haha. and again its hard to do that with my kids. i would love for him to put aside his feelings about daycare and i have been trying actually for 3 years lol...and no luck..he is very hard headed about it and wants to wait till they both can talk so that they can tell us if something is going wrong. and with the new possition (a millwright apprentice at a mill) he will not be able to work extra hours anymore. thank you again oscar's mummy for being nice. And to monday? (poster after oscars mummy) i would love to do that kind of thing but there is nothing like that around here. and to work in a school or anything you have to have some kind of college which i dont. dont even have any work experience to get a good job. im 22 years old and havent worked since i was 18...after that i have been home with the kids. and to jessy...we are in the process of moving...we just have to get the money for it...or the rest of it i should say...im sorry i asked and im sorry it came across to you wrong...forget i asked and just nevermind. i didnt mean to offend anyone

09-30-2006, 07:16 PM	#20
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	I dont think you really offended anybody. As in the sewing part...I didnt sew very well either...But I am getting really good at it now and I make dog clothes and all sorts of things and sell them. I do that and run a daycare all at one time. It can be done if you put your mind to it. I have a 8 yr old in school but my 3 yr old is at home. I undertand your bestfriend is finacially strapped too but If I ws as bad as you proclaim dont you think it would be smarter to see the clothes and make some extra money than just give them to your friend. I have nothing against you I was just saying to please not come on a thread and get snippy from the get go youll lose alot of support that way. I wish you luck in all you decide to d0!

09-30-2006, 07:34 PM	#24
Julz Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 4,347	With 2 small children and a puppy with behavioral issues, I think another pup would be way too much to handle both emotionally and financially while you are trying to think of a way to make money at home. Instead of a day care type thing, what do you think of watching just one child for someone? I think even 2 more children would be too many to watch. They can get into so much so very quickly. Maybe even just a part-time job in the evenings while your husband is home with the children? Something like Sheetz or Wal-Mart. I wouldn't rush into breeding right away. It can be quite expensive. I have a litter of 4 that are 4 days old and have about $725 in vet fees so far (emergency c-section). Research the Yorkie and the breeding and whelping experience, then by the time you get back on your feet you will be knowlegable in this area. It is a never ending learning lesson. In regard to your initial post, I'm sorry, but I don't think it is a good idea. I would try selling stuff on Ebay as others have mentioned. I've done it way more than once. Once you get the hang of it you'll actually look forward to it. I do have to say that the way the thread started is the reason for the posts that followed. You said you didn't mean it that way, but a person can only get a feel for the little black words on the white background. Good luck, and I hope things turn around for you soon. I know it can get exasperating, but you have to remember the things that matter the most are right there with you all along. Everything else will work out. Last edited by Julz; 09-30-2006 at 07:37 PM.

09-30-2006, 07:48 PM	#25
AllyKenyon Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Oregon Posts: 168	i dont have anything to sell on ebay thats why i asked for some help in the first place...cuz i got nothing really...and as far as the stuff i give to my friend..i give it to her because its hard for me to part with my kid's stuff so to give it to her, i still get to see it on her maddison...

09-30-2006, 07:58 PM	#26
Julz Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 4,347	I truly do hope things are looking up for you soon .

09-30-2006, 08:22 PM	#28
LitlbitRanch Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Phoenix, Arizona Posts: 1,004 Blog Entries: 7	I just wanted to say that I have read the posts and wanted to say that it is one thing to ask for help and another for a handout. Yes - it is a fine line and yes maybe you should have chosen your words differently. We are what I like to call a close family here. Many of us are stay at home moms trying our best to help ends meet. As for my story, hubby lost job in layoff. I have a 1yr old, 2yr old and a baby due in Dec. (Yes - all planned). I am unable to work out of the house due to the rising costs of dayare in our area so what did I do?? I borrowed my moms old sewing machine and found a free pattern to start with and altered and sew sew sew. Now I help bring in $ to cover some bills. Yes, we still get some help from close friends etc rents 2 months past due - car is a month - no cable etc just the basics) but something is better than doing nothing. We love our dogs and our familys and we do what we can to make ends meet. It seems that with your low posts that you just joined our community and that you haven't taken the time to get to know us. Most everyone here (IMO) have caring hearts and help others in their times of need. Examp : A rescue dog needs a couple sweaters for winter... But to ask for handouts to resell and then ask again, thinking we are rude, Well... best of luck to you in whatever venture you choose. I do suggest that picking something to make might be best in your situation. I know it's a struggle with the kids but think of my situation, I work pritty much from 9:30PM-1:00AM to get orders done and spend the days changing, playing and trying to market on local sites like Craigs List or EBay. Find something you might like to do and start slow. There are Tons of things to try out there. You may be so set on one and once you start may decide you hate it - take your time. Blessings and best of luck. __________________ KimberlyAnn - Mommy to 3 non-Furbabies & :, 1 Designer of the original PuppyWraps & LitlbitWraps

10-01-2006, 03:59 AM	#29
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	Sweetie - I was hoping that you'd see why some of us wondered - your first 2 post were pretty 'out' there - as someone said - dont knock people when you're asking for their help then - reading where you said you spent all your money on a move - yet another sentence you said you needed to make money to move just reinforced that feeling. I think we were pretty nice about this and did try to give you some ideas. No one wants anyone hurting financially but sometimes we have to just do what we can to help ourselves....Your husband needs to do what the rest of the country does.... and let you work if that's what you want to do. there's lots of us that are living month to month - I am now since my husband can't work anymore...it sucks but we have to keep going __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

10-01-2006, 05:24 AM	#30
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	Thats right. I have no cable right now and the ONLY reson I have the internet is because i have a webpage and its hard to sell my stuff without a computer. We are doing th ebasics and it sucks but that needs to be done. We only have 1 car and thats fine. That works for us. Your husband might just have to get over this daycare issue or he needs to do more hours. Id give him that choice!