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HeatherHamptons · 06-26-2005, 06:19 AM

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Originally Posted by eensor

I have an unenlightened friend who uses the term "Jewed somone down." She wouldn't intentionally hurt a fly, but she doesn't get that its offensive!

That's because it IS offensive...VERY offensive!

Stitches29 · 06-26-2005, 06:31 AM

I can relate to so many of these posts. I was born 57 years ago, PLUMP. Grew up all my life, PLUMP. I have two sisters and a brother that are THIN. I always wondered if I was adopted. I was always teased growing up, by friends as well as family (including my parents). Now I'm on a downhill run as far as my age. My past experiences with weight drove a permanent wedge between myself and my parents, siblings, and some of my friends. I didn't need it then, and I sure don't need it now. I am a very active person, but I am still PLUMP.
Maybe that's why I love my dogs so much. They could care less, if I'm PLUMP.

HeatherHamptons · 06-26-2005, 06:34 AM

See the difference? You chose the word plump, NOT fat. "Fat" is an offensive word.

That's all I was saying to eensor yesterday when she got all defensive. Her saying the woman is "fat" is just as bad as laughing at the photo IMO.

eensor · 06-26-2005, 06:53 AM

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Originally Posted by HeatherHamptons

See the difference? You chose the word plump, NOT fat. "Fat" is an offensive word.

That's all I was saying to eensor yesterday when she got all defensive. Her saying the woman is "fat" is just as bad as laughing at the photo IMO.

I didn't get defensive, I just wanted you to understand that many heavy people use the word "fat." Kinda like some homosexuals use the word "queer." Heavy people don't think "fat" is a derogatory term. I'm not fighting here, just wanted you to know where I was coming from. Let's be friends, okay?

HeatherHamptons · 06-26-2005, 06:55 AM

NO NO! I dont wanna fight either. I F'n HATE drama more then you know lol. Maybe its just me. I hate the word "fat" I remember growing up with this complex because my great grandmother used to tell me how fat I was.........and I believed her. It wasn't until A couple years ago that I realized she was insane. I was 13 and only 60 pounds, but yet I believed her.

Chelliegirl · 06-26-2005, 06:57 AM

I can understand so many of the things posted..I grew up with both of my parents being hispanic..just not to the world..you see my mother looks like a dark complexion black woman..and my dad looks white. I look like NEITHER ..LOL I , am tan and basically now I love myself ..but school was horrible.."what are you mixed with was common.". for me to hear..but I didnt realize I was MIXED with anything..I just had two parents that were different shades..but both very strong in our culture.
I have a son who is dark complexion and get this..my ex- husband is white... so we have heard it all..most people ASSUME we (his parents) are babysitting OUR son.. so we have heard it all.. !

chellie

Laura · 06-26-2005, 06:58 AM

Actually, I am from a heavy family. I work hard to keep off the weight, still go up and down. My boys lean towards heavy also. (actually we use the word heavy and do consider 'fat' undesirable.) My son called his brother fat, I told him - I dont call my sister fat - it is rude. He says - Aunt Gail isn't fat! (she is about 300#) I found that a positive.

eensor · 06-26-2005, 06:58 AM

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Originally Posted by HeatherHamptons

NO NO! I dont wanna fight either. I F'n HATE drama more then you know lol. Maybe its just me. I hate the word "fat" I remember growing up with this complex because my great grandmother used to tell me how fat I was.........and I believed her. It wasn't until A couple years ago that I realized she was insane. I was 13 and only 60 pounds, but yet I believed her.

I think that is one reason I have a weight problem today. My mother monitored every bite I ever put in my mouth! She even told me that God had punished her by giving her fat children!

txshopper73 · 06-26-2005, 07:00 AM

What I find very amusing is when my kids are with my mother. Here, you have a full blooded, hot tempered Korean lady with these 2 very white kids with blond hair and blue eyes! Who would have known!!!!

txshopper73 · 06-26-2005, 07:05 AM

In fact, just scanned these pictures so that you could see!

Laura · 06-26-2005, 07:06 AM

When my son was little, he had this gorgeous, very blonde, head of curls. Me with my almost black, straight hair. People would always ask if I bleached his hair - I found it sorta amusing.

Maybe we all have our sensitive points. One of my friends daughter in 3rd grade was crying because another girl called her 'fat'. She wasn't heavy AT ALL, but the girl who called her fat was HUGE. We couldn't convince her of the comparison. That is a very mean age.

Laura · 06-26-2005, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by txshopper73

In fact, just scanned these pictures so that you could see!

Is that you, too? What a beautiful family - all of you. Lovely kids.

eensor · 06-26-2005, 07:09 AM

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Originally Posted by txshopper73

In fact, just scanned these pictures so that you could see!

You, your mother and your children are beautiful!!!!!

simonandhallie · 06-26-2005, 07:18 AM

Reading this thread I can't help but think about my students! I was teaching a class last semester and the topic for that week was Diversity! I NEVER in a million years expected to get resistance on that topic but I did! My students who are about 22-24 made the most hateful, hurtful, derogatory comments I have ever heard in my life! I was so appalled I left that class crying my eyes out! I was trying to explain that diversity simply meant difference and in todays global workforce diversity is an asset b/c you get different cultures with different ideas, opinions and it all equals a better outcome! I'm sad that our society has not yet come up to speed with respect and equality.

simonandhallie · 06-26-2005, 07:18 AM

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Originally Posted by txshopper73

In fact, just scanned these pictures so that you could see!

What a beautiful family! Stunning!!!!

06-26-2005, 06:31 AM	#17
Stitches29 My Little Magwad Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 1,739	I can relate to so many of these posts. I was born 57 years ago, PLUMP. Grew up all my life, PLUMP. I have two sisters and a brother that are THIN. I always wondered if I was adopted. I was always teased growing up, by friends as well as family (including my parents). Now I'm on a downhill run as far as my age. My past experiences with weight drove a permanent wedge between myself and my parents, siblings, and some of my friends. I didn't need it then, and I sure don't need it now. I am a very active person, but I am still PLUMP. Maybe that's why I love my dogs so much. They could care less, if I'm PLUMP. __________________ "My Furkids" Maggie, Molly and Meme...

06-26-2005, 06:34 AM	#18
HeatherHamptons Got Yorkie? Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 923	See the difference? You chose the word plump, NOT fat. "Fat" is an offensive word. That's all I was saying to eensor yesterday when she got all defensive. Her saying the woman is "fat" is just as bad as laughing at the photo IMO. __________________ R.I.P sweet Prince.. You are dearly missed. My heart breaks thinking of you, but i know you're in a peaceful place. We love you sooooo much sweet boy

06-26-2005, 06:55 AM	#20
HeatherHamptons Got Yorkie? Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 923	NO NO! I dont wanna fight either. I F'n HATE drama more then you know lol. Maybe its just me. I hate the word "fat" I remember growing up with this complex because my great grandmother used to tell me how fat I was.........and I believed her. It wasn't until A couple years ago that I realized she was insane. I was 13 and only 60 pounds, but yet I believed her. __________________ R.I.P sweet Prince.. You are dearly missed. My heart breaks thinking of you, but i know you're in a peaceful place. We love you sooooo much sweet boy

06-26-2005, 06:57 AM	#21
Chelliegirl Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 107	I can understand so many of the things posted..I grew up with both of my parents being hispanic..just not to the world..you see my mother looks like a dark complexion black woman..and my dad looks white. I look like NEITHER ..LOL I , am tan and basically now I love myself ..but school was horrible.."what are you mixed with was common.". for me to hear..but I didnt realize I was MIXED with anything..I just had two parents that were different shades..but both very strong in our culture. I have a son who is dark complexion and get this..my ex- husband is white... so we have heard it all..most people ASSUME we (his parents) are babysitting OUR son.. so we have heard it all.. ! chellie __________________ ~~THANKFUL ~~ For so many things ....but mostly for my precious Layla Simone

06-26-2005, 06:58 AM	#22
Laura Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Wylie TX Posts: 1,577	Actually, I am from a heavy family. I work hard to keep off the weight, still go up and down. My boys lean towards heavy also. (actually we use the word heavy and do consider 'fat' undesirable.) My son called his brother fat, I told him - I dont call my sister fat - it is rude. He says - Aunt Gail isn't fat! (she is about 300#) I found that a positive. __________________ Laura--loving mom of Robyn, Dexter, Sandy, Mattie, Sammy, Jake & Mollie http://www.yorkietalk.com/gallery/sh...00&ppuser=1851

06-26-2005, 07:00 AM	#24
txshopper73 Donating YT 14K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 14,226 Blog Entries: 1	What I find very amusing is when my kids are with my mother. Here, you have a full blooded, hot tempered Korean lady with these 2 very white kids with blond hair and blue eyes! Who would have known!!!! __________________ As always...JMO (Just My Opinion) Kimberley

06-26-2005, 07:06 AM	#26
Laura Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Wylie TX Posts: 1,577	When my son was little, he had this gorgeous, very blonde, head of curls. Me with my almost black, straight hair. People would always ask if I bleached his hair - I found it sorta amusing. Maybe we all have our sensitive points. One of my friends daughter in 3rd grade was crying because another girl called her 'fat'. She wasn't heavy AT ALL, but the girl who called her fat was HUGE. We couldn't convince her of the comparison. That is a very mean age. __________________ Laura--loving mom of Robyn, Dexter, Sandy, Mattie, Sammy, Jake & Mollie http://www.yorkietalk.com/gallery/sh...00&ppuser=1851

06-26-2005, 07:18 AM	#29
simonandhallie *I Love My Monkeys!* Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Falling Waters, WV Posts: 11,166	Reading this thread I can't help but think about my students! I was teaching a class last semester and the topic for that week was Diversity! I NEVER in a million years expected to get resistance on that topic but I did! My students who are about 22-24 made the most hateful, hurtful, derogatory comments I have ever heard in my life! I was so appalled I left that class crying my eyes out! I was trying to explain that diversity simply meant difference and in todays global workforce diversity is an asset b/c you get different cultures with different ideas, opinions and it all equals a better outcome! I'm sad that our society has not yet come up to speed with respect and equality.