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Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Patti

My dtrs high school BF of 3 1/2 years left her 2 years ago and it took her awhile to get over him and she hasn't really had any steady BF but she enjoys time with her friends and one day the right guy will come along for her and you!!!

I know its going to be hard, they are part of your life for so long its like they practially take part of your life away, so when they are go, part of you is missing.

tammy8833 · 10-06-2007, 06:07 PM

my sister is complaining of the exact same thing. she is 20 and her man is 21 or 23 i think. he works for his dad and is branching out, owns his own large home he built in the country and sarah moved in just under a year ago. sarah is the city type, likes to hang out, party and stuff...she does work 10 hours a day 6 days a week most of the time and drives a long distance to and from work and to visit us. but brian (the bf) relaxes and unwinds by playing with his trucks and helping his buddies with their trucks and cars. sarah gets jealous and starts fights and agrue about it. i did to when i was dating my husband, men wants breaks, mental breaks from us i think sometimes they need male bonding time, sometimes they even talk about relationship problems together. and when you (not saying you are hunny) (im young too) call them and and in their opinion nag them it only makes it worse. Guys just like hanging out and do guy things, they usually arent like us and what to be around all the time. also
if you act like your cool with them hanging out and you get something else to do, it makes you more desirable. shoot after you've been married a while you want them to go hang out with friends sometimes, that way you can enjoy each other even more when they are home. everyone needs there space from time to time and it doesnt mean he wants to leave you, or not be with you he is just being a man.

oh i didnt finish about sarah and brian - he says he loves her so much (to my husband) and he really does put up with a lot of crap from her (i think she carries a lot of baggage from a past bf) but that he like playing with his truck, its something he enjoys and relaxes doing it, and he likes when she hangs out there and he likes when she isnt there, it doesnt mean he doesnt want to be with her or doesnt love her anymore

good luck!!

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:10 PM

I understnad about him working on his truck, but 5-15 mins to talk, or tonight, call and check in.. he shouldn't get mad. Today he work 10 hours on that truck, I talked to him NONE during that time.

SevenGirl · 10-06-2007, 06:11 PM

Kelsey, I think you are the sweetest, cutest thing! You deserve the best! I met my husband when I was 14 and we got married after I graduated from college when I was 22. I know I was pretty young, but he treated me like a princess from the day we met and have now been married for 13 years and have 2 daughters. He is the most respectful man every day. Your boyfriend might just be a little nervous about the commitment, but never, ever settle. You are too young and too beautiful--you need to have someone who cherishes you for who you are (I'm not saying he doesn't....I just want to be sure he does!) It can be a rough road out there, but it is a lot easier when you have the right person to travel it with. Maybe Josh (I think that's his name) is the right one, but if you have questions, take it slow and make absolutely sure before you go any further. You deserve it!!!

tammy8833 · 10-06-2007, 06:12 PM

i also think men are more complicating then women..we just want a hug, they dont know what they want

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:15 PM

I think soo too, most of them are jerks.. maybe its a teenage thing and they will grow out of it. Why can't I go to a website, fill out a form.. then they send me the guy.. heres my list

Taller than me, NICE, very romantic, will send flowers, call, give me suprises, take me out on dates, great personality, goes to Church, doesn't drink/smoke.. well a little drinking not a lot. Thats a good start.. someone please find me a website or create one..lol.

sabsab00 · 10-06-2007, 06:16 PM

LOL - yes then send me the link!

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by SevenGirl

Kelsey, I think you are the sweetest, cutest thing! You deserve the best! I met my husband when I was 14 and we got married after I graduated from college when I was 22. I know I was pretty young, but he treated me like a princess from the day we met and have now been married for 13 years and have 2 daughters. He is the most respectful man every day. Your boyfriend might just be a little nervous about the commitment, but never, ever settle. You are too young and too beautiful--you need to have someone who cherishes you for who you are (I'm not saying he doesn't....I just want to be sure he does!) It can be a rough road out there, but it is a lot easier when you have the right person to travel it with. Maybe Josh (I think that's his name) is the right one, but if you have questions, take it slow and make absolutely sure before you go any further. You deserve it!!!

He can be sweet, but he can be a total jerk. And lately hes been a jerk. maybe bc we are doing long distance and I can only see him about once a month.

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by sabsab00

LOL - yes then send me the link!

lol. I def. wish there was something out there like that, it would bee soo easy.

SevenGirl · 10-06-2007, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Superstarkba

He can be sweet, but he can be a total jerk. And lately hes been a jerk. maybe bc we are doing long distance and I can only see him about once a month.

Hmmmmmm, the long distance can be difficult. Any chance of being Josh being in Atlanta for good any time soon (or you moving there?) I think you are right--that can make a big difference!

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by SevenGirl

Hmmmmmm, the long distance can be difficult. Any chance of being Josh being in Atlanta for good any time soon (or you moving there?) I think you are right--that can make a big difference!

Its goig to be a few years b-4 I move there, if I do. But hes suppose to be coming down this Thursday.

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:25 PM

I just called him and asked him if he loved me, he said he did. How could he?? He won't answer when i call, doesn't care to talk to me AFTER he gets inside from working on that truck, knows that I am crying and doesn't give a CRAP about my feelings.. if thats love, then love sucks!

SevenGirl · 10-06-2007, 06:27 PM

I'm sure spending time together will make a difference. Are you still going to the mountains? We are going to Pigeon Forge for a big family reunion Thursday!!! Should be interesting. Bella's first time staying with a petsitter and her yorkie-poo.

Try to be patient with him but never settle for anything less than your dream. You deserve the best. If it is Josh---great!!! Otherwise, he is out there waiting for you!

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:28 PM

I don't know, I want to, but honestly I don't want to be there with him.. a vacation should be a fun happy time, not a time to remember how s**tty he treated me.

kelleykrack · 10-06-2007, 06:31 PM

Sounds like it may be time to sit him down and lay it all down on the table. Tell him what you want and what you need from him. Tell him your concerns and allow him time to talk also. If it winds up that you and him decide not to stay together, then its for the best.
I met my husband when I was 19 and we have been together for almost 5 years now and have our 4th wedding ann. in november. The biggest thing for us that makes it work is that he is 32 and im 24. He was settled when we met and knew what he wanted and how to make sure I knew how he felt. To this day our friends pick on us cause we still act like newlyweds...even after 2 kids!! lol.. basically what im trying to say is, you will find the right one. dont settle for anything less than what you know you deserve. even though you have a lot of time and emotions invested in this relationship, it doesnt sound too healthy for you.

10-06-2007, 06:07 PM	#32
tammy8833 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: VA Posts: 2,775	my sister is complaining of the exact same thing. she is 20 and her man is 21 or 23 i think. he works for his dad and is branching out, owns his own large home he built in the country and sarah moved in just under a year ago. sarah is the city type, likes to hang out, party and stuff...she does work 10 hours a day 6 days a week most of the time and drives a long distance to and from work and to visit us. but brian (the bf) relaxes and unwinds by playing with his trucks and helping his buddies with their trucks and cars. sarah gets jealous and starts fights and agrue about it. i did to when i was dating my husband, men wants breaks, mental breaks from us i think sometimes they need male bonding time, sometimes they even talk about relationship problems together. and when you (not saying you are hunny) (im young too) call them and and in their opinion nag them it only makes it worse. Guys just like hanging out and do guy things, they usually arent like us and what to be around all the time. also if you act like your cool with them hanging out and you get something else to do, it makes you more desirable. shoot after you've been married a while you want them to go hang out with friends sometimes, that way you can enjoy each other even more when they are home. everyone needs there space from time to time and it doesnt mean he wants to leave you, or not be with you he is just being a man. oh i didnt finish about sarah and brian - he says he loves her so much (to my husband) and he really does put up with a lot of crap from her (i think she carries a lot of baggage from a past bf) but that he like playing with his truck, its something he enjoys and relaxes doing it, and he likes when she hangs out there and he likes when she isnt there, it doesnt mean he doesnt want to be with her or doesnt love her anymore good luck!! __________________ Tammy YT Gallery Lil Girl Princess & Theodore *Gidget R.I.P**

10-06-2007, 06:11 PM	#34
SevenGirl Bella-My Georgia Girl Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Duluth, Georgia Posts: 2,419	Kelsey, I think you are the sweetest, cutest thing! You deserve the best! I met my husband when I was 14 and we got married after I graduated from college when I was 22. I know I was pretty young, but he treated me like a princess from the day we met and have now been married for 13 years and have 2 daughters. He is the most respectful man every day. Your boyfriend might just be a little nervous about the commitment, but never, ever settle. You are too young and too beautiful--you need to have someone who cherishes you for who you are (I'm not saying he doesn't....I just want to be sure he does!) It can be a rough road out there, but it is a lot easier when you have the right person to travel it with. Maybe Josh (I think that's his name) is the right one, but if you have questions, take it slow and make absolutely sure before you go any further. You deserve it!!! __________________ Elizabeth and Bella Official Members of the CRAZY Club and the PINK Club! Bella 's dressing up!

10-06-2007, 06:12 PM	#35
tammy8833 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: VA Posts: 2,775	i also think men are more complicating then women..we just want a hug, they dont know what they want __________________ Tammy YT Gallery Lil Girl Princess & Theodore *Gidget R.I.P**

10-06-2007, 06:27 PM	#43
SevenGirl Bella-My Georgia Girl Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Duluth, Georgia Posts: 2,419	I'm sure spending time together will make a difference. Are you still going to the mountains? We are going to Pigeon Forge for a big family reunion Thursday!!! Should be interesting. Bella's first time staying with a petsitter and her yorkie-poo. Try to be patient with him but never settle for anything less than your dream. You deserve the best. If it is Josh---great!!! Otherwise, he is out there waiting for you! __________________ Elizabeth and Bella Official Members of the CRAZY Club and the PINK Club! Bella 's dressing up!

10-06-2007, 06:31 PM	#45
kelleykrack YT Addict Join Date: May 2007 Location: salisbury Posts: 291	Sounds like it may be time to sit him down and lay it all down on the table. Tell him what you want and what you need from him. Tell him your concerns and allow him time to talk also. If it winds up that you and him decide not to stay together, then its for the best. I met my husband when I was 19 and we have been together for almost 5 years now and have our 4th wedding ann. in november. The biggest thing for us that makes it work is that he is 32 and im 24. He was settled when we met and knew what he wanted and how to make sure I knew how he felt. To this day our friends pick on us cause we still act like newlyweds...even after 2 kids!! lol.. basically what im trying to say is, you will find the right one. dont settle for anything less than what you know you deserve. even though you have a lot of time and emotions invested in this relationship, it doesnt sound too healthy for you. __________________ MOJO AND SEPTEMBER and my chihuahua babies TANGO and Daisy

10-06-2007, 06:10 PM	#33
Superstarkba Aubrey's Mom Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 9,369	I understnad about him working on his truck, but 5-15 mins to talk, or tonight, call and check in.. he shouldn't get mad. Today he work 10 hours on that truck, I talked to him NONE during that time.

10-06-2007, 06:15 PM	#36
Superstarkba Aubrey's Mom Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 9,369	I think soo too, most of them are jerks.. maybe its a teenage thing and they will grow out of it. Why can't I go to a website, fill out a form.. then they send me the guy.. heres my list Taller than me, NICE, very romantic, will send flowers, call, give me suprises, take me out on dates, great personality, goes to Church, doesn't drink/smoke.. well a little drinking not a lot. Thats a good start.. someone please find me a website or create one..lol.

10-06-2007, 06:16 PM	#37
sabsab00 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: queens Posts: 1,256	LOL - yes then send me the link!

10-06-2007, 06:25 PM	#42
Superstarkba Aubrey's Mom Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 9,369	I just called him and asked him if he loved me, he said he did. How could he?? He won't answer when i call, doesn't care to talk to me AFTER he gets inside from working on that truck, knows that I am crying and doesn't give a CRAP about my feelings.. if thats love, then love sucks!

10-06-2007, 06:28 PM	#44
Superstarkba Aubrey's Mom Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 9,369	I don't know, I want to, but honestly I don't want to be there with him.. a vacation should be a fun happy time, not a time to remember how s**tty he treated me.