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SevenGirl · 10-06-2007, 06:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Superstarkba

I don't know, I want to, but honestly I don't want to be there with him.. a vacation should be a fun happy time, not a time to remember how s**tty he treated me.

You are right about that! A vacation should be a very special time. Have you talked to him tonight? What is his story?

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:32 PM

yeah, I have.. that he didn't asnwer 1. bc I missed his call (when i was eating lunch with my grandparents for my bday) 2. bc I ignored him for 2 days.

For My Coby · 10-06-2007, 06:33 PM

I'm so sorry for your troubles! I have 21 and 18 year old daughters. You'll just have to tuck all this advice away to consider, because advice is hard to follow when you're in the middle of the problem. While many high school romances survive, you are very young.

I've told my girls that dating is like shopping. You don't really know your wish list until you've tried some things on. For example (although maybe oversimplified), you might think you want someone that sends you flowers. But if you had someone that sent you flowers but didn't listen when you talked about your day, you'd discover that flowers aren't really all that important and change your wish list.

Also, everyone matures at a different rate. And you might just be maturing a little faster than your bf. He may catch up, but it might be a couple years down the road. So tread lightly and beware of commitment until then.

And about the car thing - I'm married to a performance car guy. While I do often "lose" him to the garage - I ALWAYS know where he is. Some wives would trade a "beer-with-the-buddies" guy for a "car guy" in a minute.

Hugs.

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:36 PM

Awe, thanks. I don't think he thingks about me as much as I think he does.. maybe I take this relationship serious more than he does.

SevenGirl · 10-06-2007, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by For My Coby

I'm so sorry for your troubles! I have 21 and 18 year old daughters. You'll just have to tuck all this advice away to consider, because advice is hard to follow when you're in the middle of the problem. While many high school romances survive, you are very young.

I've told my girls that dating is like shopping. You don't really know your wish list until you've tried some things on. For example (although maybe oversimplified), you might think you want someone that sends you flowers. But if you had someone that sent you flowers but didn't listen when you talked about your day, you'd discover that flowers aren't really all that important and change your wish list.

Also, everyone matures at a different rate. And you might just be maturing a little faster than your bf. He may catch up, but it might be a couple years down the road. So tread lightly and beware of commitment until then.

And about the car thing - I'm married to a performance car guy. While I do often "lose" him to the garage - I ALWAYS know where he is. Some wives would trade a "beer-with-the-buddies" guy for a "car guy" in a minute.

Hugs.

Good advice from For My Coby. When I read your posts I forget you are almost 18----I think you are my age!

(35!!!

)

I am happy that my husband isn't a "beer with the buddies" guy. He is more a "taking the girls on the golf cart for a few holes." Luckily, they are our daughters, so I am happy. Take it slow, Kelsey and listen to your heart. Maybe you are just maturing faster than Josh. I still think it might be easier if you were closer. Hmmmmmmmm

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:43 PM

yeah, it would. He doesn't care to fix anything.. I think its go on wayy too long. He thinks I am dumb for wanting to talk to him while he was working on his brothers truck.

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:44 PM

Can anyone do avatars? I want him out of mine!!!!

SANDYSAND · 10-06-2007, 06:44 PM

A good friend once told me, "If the devil can't make you bad, he'll make you busy." Romans 9:32 says this of being too busy: "They were so absorbed with their 'God projects' that they didn't notice God right in front of them, like a huge rock in the middle of the road" (The Message). These people had pure motives but the wrong method. They were so busy with the work of God that they didn't have time for God.

If I were you, I'd cut back on calling him as much. Many of us try to live life at about 125 percent, and we leave little room for unexpected interruptions. In your case, what happens if you and him are no longer a couple, Can you handle i? Make new friends, lots of friends...You are too young to be dealing with someone who treats you that way and not like a princess you deserve to be treated like.

You have to learn how to say no to some things. Sometimes people overcommit because they get a lot of affirmation for everything they do. Sometimes being busy also helps people with a poor self-image; if he is busy, you don't have to think about the pain in your life for not having him returning your calls, I am sure he is going by his business and not thinking about your feelings at the moment...Do not make it easy on him to have that power on you!!!
I'm not telling you to eliminate any of your goals. I'm simply challenging you to slow down & take it one day at the time, If he is the one trust me nothing would ever change that...But enjoy your life and don't stress over this you are too pretty and too young.

Good Luck and I hope you guys can work things out

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by SANDYSAND

A good friend once told me, "If the devil can't make you bad, he'll make you busy." Romans 9:32 says this of being too busy: "They were so absorbed with their 'God projects' that they didn't notice God right in front of them, like a huge rock in the middle of the road" (The Message). These people had pure motives but the wrong method. They were so busy with the work of God that they didn't have time for God.

If I were you, I'd cut back on calling him as much. Many of us try to live life at about 125 percent, and we leave little room for unexpected interruptions. In your case, what happens if you and him are no longer a couple, Can you handle i? Make new friends, lots of friends...You are too young to be dealing with someone who treats you that way and not like a princess you deserve to be treated like.

You have to learn how to say no to some things. Sometimes people overcommit because they get a lot of affirmation for everything they do. Sometimes being busy also helps people with a poor self-image; if he is busy, you don't have to think about the pain in your life for not having him returning your calls, I am sure he is going by his business and not thinking about your feelings at the moment...Do not make it easy on him to have that power on you!!!
I'm not telling you to eliminate any of your goals. I'm simply challenging you to slow down & take it one day at the time, If he is the one trust me nothing would ever change that...But enjoy your life and don't stress over this you are too pretty and too young.

Good Luck and I hope you guys can work things out

Thanks!!! I guess I should. I should look at it in a happy way if he doens't call me back, or answer my calls. Blow if off, then when i am ready to talk answer when he calls.

I def. need more friends. That would help, plus its good since I am still young.

SevenGirl · 10-06-2007, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Superstarkba

Can anyone do avatars? I want him out of mine!!!!

Better get in touch with Peanut (Kim)!!! She is really sweet and did mine and I'm sure will remove Josh if you are sure!

Superstarkba · 10-06-2007, 06:53 PM

Ok, good.lol. I think I am sure.. I wish he would call me adn try to work things out, but guess not! So its saturday night, and my furbabies are asleep and I am happy/sad.. and I think i am about to do some shopping online..lol.

mizzwanned · 10-06-2007, 09:36 PM

I'm sorry Kelsey, I just read this. I am also young and have been with my bf for almost 2 yrs. The best advice i can give is that when he calls do not always pick up. Guys like to feel like you are a challenge, even if you are going aout they still like to do work to get to you, so don't ALWAYS pick up his phone calls but do pick up sometimes. Even when you want to really bad it's just good not to. I do that to my bf, sometimes even if im not busy i will tell him i am and say i will call you back or call me back i can't talk

I know it's evil but really it works. Guys don't always want you to be available cause then they will take advantage of that. Also tell him you are going out with friends, doing something, going to the movies and you will have him on his toes

And def. do go out more, take the dogs out for long walks, meet more ppl, including guys, you deserve it and you will spend less time worrying about him and when he will call. Long Distance relationships are tough but they can work if you really want it to.

Superstarkba · 10-07-2007, 04:09 AM

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Originally Posted by mizzwanned

I'm sorry Kelsey, I just read this. I am also young and have been with my bf for almost 2 yrs. The best advice i can give is that when he calls do not always pick up. Guys like to feel like you are a challenge, even if you are going aout they still like to do work to get to you, so don't ALWAYS pick up his phone calls but do pick up sometimes. Even when you want to really bad it's just good not to. I do that to my bf, sometimes even if im not busy i will tell him i am and say i will call you back or call me back i can't talk

I know it's evil but really it works. Guys don't always want you to be available cause then they will take advantage of that. Also tell him you are going out with friends, doing something, going to the movies and you will have him on his toes

And def. do go out more, take the dogs out for long walks, meet more ppl, including guys, you deserve it and you will spend less time worrying about him and when he will call. Long Distance relationships are tough but they can work if you really want it to.

I have tried not answering him, then he just stops calling after about 2 calls, then I have to call him a few hours later. I am going to go out with my friends bc I know he will def wonder. He wonders when I go out to eat with them..lol

mizzwanned · 10-07-2007, 04:36 AM

Yes definetly go out with friends

And have fun girl!

pepe mint · 10-07-2007, 04:36 AM

wow...i just caught up on this thread. it got busy fast

i'm so sorry you are dealing with this. guys are jerks! bottom line LOL

i'm not one to give advice...I settled. I found a guy that would call me ALL THE TIME, buy me flowers ALL THE TIME, want to be with me ALL THE TIME, and since I was sick of guys that never did those things and showed no care for me, I married the first one that came along and did those things. I knew he would always be faithful to me, and that he would do anything in the world for me...so when he asked me to marry him, 6 months into the relationship, I married him. and I think you have heard plenty of my "venting" about him.

all i'm saying is....don't settle. but also, don't expect perfection from anyone. The most important thing is LOVE. you have to really really love the person, or it is almost impossible to make a relationship last. you have to feel good when you are around them. and it has to go both ways. I used to have that...but let it go when I got impatient and thought we would never get married. Now I cant' get it back, and I rushed off and got married out of spite and desperation.

Just don't do what I did...If you have that love, don't let it go. but if you don't...then keep looking until you find it. don't marry just because you think it's the right thing to do...do it because you have that deep true love.

and trust me....there is PLENTY of time to find it, if Josh is not that person.

Breaking up is soooooooo hard to do. it hurts, really bad. but you get past it. you grow stronger because of it. and once you have been apart for a little while, you realize all the things you did and didn't like about the relationship and you set out to make sure the next one is that much better. so if you guys don't make it...it's not the end of the world, it is a life lesson that is priceless and you will be better for it.

ok...my advice stinks...i get emotional about this stuff since I'm in the middle of a HUGE mistake and hate to see anyone else go through it. I can't tell you if he is right or wrong for you...but maybe I can give some insight as to what to look for?? i don't know...good luck hun. I hope things work out soon. you deserve to be happy

10-06-2007, 06:33 PM	#48
For My Coby Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois Posts: 4,139	I'm so sorry for your troubles! I have 21 and 18 year old daughters. You'll just have to tuck all this advice away to consider, because advice is hard to follow when you're in the middle of the problem. While many high school romances survive, you are very young. I've told my girls that dating is like shopping. You don't really know your wish list until you've tried some things on. For example (although maybe oversimplified), you might think you want someone that sends you flowers. But if you had someone that sent you flowers but didn't listen when you talked about your day, you'd discover that flowers aren't really all that important and change your wish list. Also, everyone matures at a different rate. And you might just be maturing a little faster than your bf. He may catch up, but it might be a couple years down the road. So tread lightly and beware of commitment until then. And about the car thing - I'm married to a performance car guy. While I do often "lose" him to the garage - I ALWAYS know where he is. Some wives would trade a "beer-with-the-buddies" guy for a "car guy" in a minute. Hugs. __________________ Diane, and my boys ..... Coby and Reggie !! Striving to be a YTPP - a YT Positive Poster! In Memory of My Beautiful Mother 7/22/28-8/27/08

10-06-2007, 06:44 PM	#53
SANDYSAND Mommy Loves Koda & Kacy! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Home of the NY Yankees Posts: 6,500	A good friend once told me, "If the devil can't make you bad, he'll make you busy." Romans 9:32 says this of being too busy: "They were so absorbed with their 'God projects' that they didn't notice God right in front of them, like a huge rock in the middle of the road" (The Message). These people had pure motives but the wrong method. They were so busy with the work of God that they didn't have time for God. If I were you, I'd cut back on calling him as much. Many of us try to live life at about 125 percent, and we leave little room for unexpected interruptions. In your case, what happens if you and him are no longer a couple, Can you handle i? Make new friends, lots of friends...You are too young to be dealing with someone who treats you that way and not like a princess you deserve to be treated like. You have to learn how to say no to some things. Sometimes people overcommit because they get a lot of affirmation for everything they do. Sometimes being busy also helps people with a poor self-image; if he is busy, you don't have to think about the pain in your life for not having him returning your calls, I am sure he is going by his business and not thinking about your feelings at the moment...Do not make it easy on him to have that power on you!!! I'm not telling you to eliminate any of your goals. I'm simply challenging you to slow down & take it one day at the time, If he is the one trust me nothing would ever change that...But enjoy your life and don't stress over this you are too pretty and too young. Good Luck and I hope you guys can work things out __________________ http://www.onetruemedia.com/shared?p=3a2e8eedc3dc6290fbd72e&skin_id=1603&utm_s ource=otm&utm_medium=text_url Mommy Loves:Koda & Kacy. Smile Life is a GIFT First Lady of the SRC~ Koda Benji

10-06-2007, 09:36 PM	#57
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	I'm sorry Kelsey, I just read this. I am also young and have been with my bf for almost 2 yrs. The best advice i can give is that when he calls do not always pick up. Guys like to feel like you are a challenge, even if you are going aout they still like to do work to get to you, so don't ALWAYS pick up his phone calls but do pick up sometimes. Even when you want to really bad it's just good not to. I do that to my bf, sometimes even if im not busy i will tell him i am and say i will call you back or call me back i can't talk I know it's evil but really it works. Guys don't always want you to be available cause then they will take advantage of that. Also tell him you are going out with friends, doing something, going to the movies and you will have him on his toes And def. do go out more, take the dogs out for long walks, meet more ppl, including guys, you deserve it and you will spend less time worrying about him and when he will call. Long Distance relationships are tough but they can work if you really want it to. __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

10-07-2007, 04:36 AM	#59
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	Yes definetly go out with friends And have fun girl! __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

10-07-2007, 04:36 AM	#60
pepe mint YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Franklin, TN Posts: 11,145	wow...i just caught up on this thread. it got busy fast i'm so sorry you are dealing with this. guys are jerks! bottom line LOL i'm not one to give advice...I settled. I found a guy that would call me ALL THE TIME, buy me flowers ALL THE TIME, want to be with me ALL THE TIME, and since I was sick of guys that never did those things and showed no care for me, I married the first one that came along and did those things. I knew he would always be faithful to me, and that he would do anything in the world for me...so when he asked me to marry him, 6 months into the relationship, I married him. and I think you have heard plenty of my "venting" about him. all i'm saying is....don't settle. but also, don't expect perfection from anyone. The most important thing is LOVE. you have to really really love the person, or it is almost impossible to make a relationship last. you have to feel good when you are around them. and it has to go both ways. I used to have that...but let it go when I got impatient and thought we would never get married. Now I cant' get it back, and I rushed off and got married out of spite and desperation. Just don't do what I did...If you have that love, don't let it go. but if you don't...then keep looking until you find it. don't marry just because you think it's the right thing to do...do it because you have that deep true love. and trust me....there is PLENTY of time to find it, if Josh is not that person. Breaking up is soooooooo hard to do. it hurts, really bad. but you get past it. you grow stronger because of it. and once you have been apart for a little while, you realize all the things you did and didn't like about the relationship and you set out to make sure the next one is that much better. so if you guys don't make it...it's not the end of the world, it is a life lesson that is priceless and you will be better for it. ok...my advice stinks...i get emotional about this stuff since I'm in the middle of a HUGE mistake and hate to see anyone else go through it. I can't tell you if he is right or wrong for you...but maybe I can give some insight as to what to look for?? i don't know...good luck hun. I hope things work out soon. you deserve to be happy __________________ Anyone who does not know what soap tastes like has never washed a dog

10-06-2007, 06:32 PM	#47
Superstarkba Aubrey's Mom Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 9,369	yeah, I have.. that he didn't asnwer 1. bc I missed his call (when i was eating lunch with my grandparents for my bday) 2. bc I ignored him for 2 days.

10-06-2007, 06:36 PM	#49
Superstarkba Aubrey's Mom Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 9,369	Awe, thanks. I don't think he thingks about me as much as I think he does.. maybe I take this relationship serious more than he does.

10-06-2007, 06:43 PM	#51
Superstarkba Aubrey's Mom Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 9,369	yeah, it would. He doesn't care to fix anything.. I think its go on wayy too long. He thinks I am dumb for wanting to talk to him while he was working on his brothers truck.

10-06-2007, 06:53 PM	#56
Superstarkba Aubrey's Mom Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 9,369	Ok, good.lol. I think I am sure.. I wish he would call me adn try to work things out, but guess not! So its saturday night, and my furbabies are asleep and I am happy/sad.. and I think i am about to do some shopping online..lol.