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mizzwanned · 08-30-2007, 09:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LunasMomma

The best thing I ever did with my kids, when they were little, was this. I walked into their rooms (this happened with more than one kid

!) with a huge black garbage bag, This was after several times of being told to clean up their toys. They were told this was their final chance, and after 15 minutes, *I* was going to clean up their room and donate the toys I picked up to children in need.

Worked like a charm

My daughter was easy, she picked up the toys. My son, on the other hand, didn't believe I was serious and said "SO! Go ahead and get rid of my toys, I'll just get new ones from Santa and grandma" So I put them all in a garbage bag, put him and the bag into the car, and dropped the stuff off at Goodwill. It wasn't all his toys, dont' worry

He screamed and cried for a while, but you bet your sweet booty that next time I asked him to pick up the toys, he DID

Nip those tantrums in the bud right now. If you don't you'll be dealing with it forever and ever

That works. My mom used to do it to us and pretend she was going to throw our toys away.

yorkiegirl83 · 08-30-2007, 10:24 AM

Honestly, I could be a terror child for my mom when I was little, and she would frequently take away my blankie.

It made me really insecure and scared, but my mom was the kind that kept taking it away to "teach me a lesson", not caring if it was a security blankie. I KNOW you are NOT like that, don't get me wrong

I was just stating my experience with my blankie! I still have a piece of it in my dresser

.

I don't have children, so I can't say much.. but wanted to wish you luck and you sound like a very good mom so I'm sure everything will be ok

AmyChristine · 08-30-2007, 10:47 AM

I Completely ignore fits. This is hard but when Emma does negative things for attention I quietly walk away and sit where she cannot see me but I can still watch her. If she throws a fit in an area that is for everyone like the kitchen or living room I gently remove her from that room and place her in her bedroom then turn and walk out and say nothing. I have noticed that we haven't had a tantrum in about six months then she will test me again and see how I respond. this is hard but if she gets no attention for yelling she tries a new method for getting my attention. When she communicates her frustration in a positive way I respond back. This works great for us and maybe will help. Just stick with whatever you decide to do. Mommy, is the most tyrying job in the world and there is no right or wrong way. Good luck.

I also threaten to throw away toys that are not cleaned up. And have "thrown something away" before becaused she refused to take care of it, (we just gave it to someone who would appreciate it)

Bruce's_Mom · 08-30-2007, 11:00 AM

I was awful at times when I was a kid...Apparently nothing really worked.

I even was spanked once, and just to ensure it would not happen again I laughed at my dad when he spanked me then promptly went around telling people my father beat me with a board filled with nails just so he would not do it again...Not exactly the model child to try and discipline.

The one thing that always worked however, accoding to my mom, was to take away my Cabbage Patch Kid Nelli. She was my version of the security blanket, and I would do literally anything to get her back...

I think a lot of people do this, and I am not a parent so I do not know if it is good or bad, but it is obvious you are a loving and caring mom so I would not beat yourself up over it.

MIZBROWN · 08-30-2007, 11:49 AM

Sorry hun, but if you give in now... you'll be giving in for the rest of HER life. I have a 5 yr old that just started kindergarten... Stand strong w/ her and dont give in! Leave her in her room and let her scream all she wants... Take another item away... No cartoons or acitivities... Spank her on the hand - whatever it takes... If you dont, you might be on the NANNY show (ABC)begging for someone to help you....

linz06 · 08-30-2007, 12:04 PM

I was always wanting to be "just like a grown-up!" when I was little. When I threw a fit, my mom would bring out a bag of diapers and tell me that only little babies cried over little things, and if I didn't stop crying I would have to wear a diaper like a baby because I definitely wasn't a big girl anymore! I thought she was the meanest mom EVER.... but it always worked because I didn't want my mom to think i was a baby haha

Catrina · 08-30-2007, 12:05 PM

Sounds like you did the right thing.. glad everything is okay now~! Don't ever give in, because once you do.. it will continue and make everything actually worse in the long run

I had to watch my little sis growing up (we are 11 years apart) and man she had THE WORSE TANTRUMS.. she was the 3rd child and so my parents were more lenient with her and let her get away things whereas I never was able to.. so I had to babysit her pretty much everyday and she would do the whole BIG tantrum thing. She threw up too but I learned that if I give in just because she threw up she might make that a habit or something so I never gave in and she stopped, learned to listen, and be obedient (most of the time

). so even though she still gets her way with my parents she doesnt get her way with me or my older sis!

08-30-2007, 10:47 AM	#33
AmyChristine YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Washington Posts: 1,184	I Completely ignore fits. This is hard but when Emma does negative things for attention I quietly walk away and sit where she cannot see me but I can still watch her. If she throws a fit in an area that is for everyone like the kitchen or living room I gently remove her from that room and place her in her bedroom then turn and walk out and say nothing. I have noticed that we haven't had a tantrum in about six months then she will test me again and see how I respond. this is hard but if she gets no attention for yelling she tries a new method for getting my attention. When she communicates her frustration in a positive way I respond back. This works great for us and maybe will help. Just stick with whatever you decide to do. Mommy, is the most tyrying job in the world and there is no right or wrong way. Good luck. I also threaten to throw away toys that are not cleaned up. And have "thrown something away" before becaused she refused to take care of it, (we just gave it to someone who would appreciate it) __________________ My belongs to Copper and Maddie Mae RIP Sweet Rocky Mommy misses you

08-30-2007, 11:00 AM	#34
Bruce's_Mom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 779	I was awful at times when I was a kid...Apparently nothing really worked. I even was spanked once, and just to ensure it would not happen again I laughed at my dad when he spanked me then promptly went around telling people my father beat me with a board filled with nails just so he would not do it again...Not exactly the model child to try and discipline. The one thing that always worked however, accoding to my mom, was to take away my Cabbage Patch Kid Nelli. She was my version of the security blanket, and I would do literally anything to get her back... I think a lot of people do this, and I am not a parent so I do not know if it is good or bad, but it is obvious you are a loving and caring mom so I would not beat yourself up over it. __________________ Bruce's Dogster Page http://www.dogster.com/?177273

08-30-2007, 11:49 AM	#35
MIZBROWN Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: California Posts: 2,293	Sorry hun, but if you give in now... you'll be giving in for the rest of HER life. I have a 5 yr old that just started kindergarten... Stand strong w/ her and dont give in! Leave her in her room and let her scream all she wants... Take another item away... No cartoons or acitivities... Spank her on the hand - whatever it takes... If you dont, you might be on the NANNY show (ABC)begging for someone to help you.... __________________ Mommy to Meka "MeMe" Brown aka Meka the Diva Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club & CA Yorkies www.dogster.com/dogs/567943

08-30-2007, 12:04 PM	#36
linz06 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,154	I was always wanting to be "just like a grown-up!" when I was little. When I threw a fit, my mom would bring out a bag of diapers and tell me that only little babies cried over little things, and if I didn't stop crying I would have to wear a diaper like a baby because I definitely wasn't a big girl anymore! I thought she was the meanest mom EVER.... but it always worked because I didn't want my mom to think i was a baby haha __________________ Lindsey and Layla, Lucy, and Kash

08-30-2007, 10:24 AM	#32
yorkiegirl83 Love My Furbabies! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: somewhere Posts: 4,427	Honestly, I could be a terror child for my mom when I was little, and she would frequently take away my blankie. It made me really insecure and scared, but my mom was the kind that kept taking it away to "teach me a lesson", not caring if it was a security blankie. I KNOW you are NOT like that, don't get me wrong I was just stating my experience with my blankie! I still have a piece of it in my dresser . I don't have children, so I can't say much.. but wanted to wish you luck and you sound like a very good mom so I'm sure everything will be ok

08-30-2007, 12:05 PM	#37
Catrina I love my lil wolf! ;) Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Washington Posts: 2,434	Sounds like you did the right thing.. glad everything is okay now~! Don't ever give in, because once you do.. it will continue and make everything actually worse in the long run I had to watch my little sis growing up (we are 11 years apart) and man she had THE WORSE TANTRUMS.. she was the 3rd child and so my parents were more lenient with her and let her get away things whereas I never was able to.. so I had to babysit her pretty much everyday and she would do the whole BIG tantrum thing. She threw up too but I learned that if I give in just because she threw up she might make that a habit or something so I never gave in and she stopped, learned to listen, and be obedient (most of the time ). so even though she still gets her way with my parents she doesnt get her way with me or my older sis!