A Really bad day

[LuvMySissy]

I am so sorry you are going through this rough patch. Let's hope it is just getting to you because of the pain you are physically in. It sounds like you are very busy and doing the best you can - which is all anyone can ask for. Next time the hubby speaks up, let him know if it (whatever he's complaining about) isn't good enough, he can feel free to do it himself from now on!!!!! Hugs to you!!

[Patti]

Don't ever let anyone tell you your not doing a wonderful job, with all you have going on. Hope your days get better soon.

[CO_yorkie_momma]

Your husband and I wouldnt get along very well I am afraid. Sorry but he sounds like a total jerk. If I heard you right you said you work all day also. I hate it when men think just because they work they dont have to do anything else to help out. Can I ask what he does that is he so busy that he cant help out? Sounds like you are supermom to me. You have enough to deal with already without having to put up with his chauvenistic attitude.

[newmommy]

thanks everyone. Im off to see the specialist, wish me luck. Im so scared, but tired of dealing with the pain. So anyways, here i go...............

[Judy in Waco]

Originally Posted by newmommy

thanks everyone. Im off to see the specialist, wish me luck. Im so scared, but tired of dealing with the pain. So anyways, here i go...............

Good luck. Hugs! Keep us updated please.

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by newmommy

ever had a day that you just wanna throw in the towel??? Just wanna go to bed and not wake up????

I had one of those days today. I am never a good enough wife to my husband, I will never make as much money him and he makes sure to let me know that constantly.
I have been in so much pain lately with my female problems, and yet I get up at 5am get the kids ready, lunches packed, take them to the babysitter, go to work, get off work, pick them up deal with whatever problems the babysitter may have dealt with. (today my son decided to cut her window screen with a knife) HELLO WHY WAS THERE A KNIFE IN THE ROOM THAT HE WAS SUPPOSED TO BE NAPPING???????

then i come home, fix dinner, do dishes, laundry, bills, clean house, feed animals, bathe kids, get everyone ready for tommorow.

but the house is never clean enough, the clothes never caught up enough, the house is messy, and HE WORKED ALL DAY.

ONCE I WORK AS MANY HOURS AS HIM OR MAKE AS MUCH MONEY AS HIM THEN I WILL HAVE ROOM TO TALK. FOR NOW I SHOULD SHUT THE **** UP AND CLEAN THE HOUSE.

Tomorrow I go to the specialist to start planning my hysteryctomy, I am in so much pain I can hardly stand up. Yet im ignorant.
thanks for letting me vent!!!

Ok hon first off you dont' work a 9-5 job as many hours as he does but you in acutality do work way more hours in a day that he does...so tell him to shut up. If we women were paid for all that we do we would all be multimillionares.

Don't let him or anyone get you down. Your a career woman that does it all. Yeah your job might not bring in as much cash as his does but they other million jobs you do is thankless and unpaid.

Hope that your feeling a bit better. Sorry for the health issues.

[Yorkiekids]

If he's that unhappy maybe you suggest he leaves, or does the work himself. After all he probably would do such a better job. Doesn't he know that mothers put twice as much time into their work day as a man. I'd like to punch him in the nose. Sorry.

[Ozzie'sperson]

I've had throw in the towel days, but they're a lot different than yours. I'm afraid I'd have to bash your husband upside the head with something really large and really hard. Perhaps multiple times. Could this be why I'm still single?

HELLO -- you are about to have SURGERY. Can he not see that you are ill?!

I wish that men's umm -- anatomy -- could just ONCE be affected the way ours is on a regular basis. A period would have them in bed for a year! I can't imagine what childbirth would do ...

I try not to man-bash, but guys like your husband make it soooooo hard. Your bigger challenge is try to make your son(s) a completely different kind of man, one worthy of being someone wonderful's husband.

Hang in there. You've got lots of folks rooting for you.

[Ozzie'sperson]

Ohhhh ... I FORGOT:

Since he makes so much more money than you, let him fork some out for a maid and to send some of the laundry for drop-off service. That ought to limit the complaints -- or the bragging about how much he's worth.

[bdbmamaw]

My situation was a little different from yours. I made MORE money than he did and it really bothered him! But he sure didn't want me to quit...LOL! And I never did anything good enough!

What you are going through is call 'verbal abuse'. It's the same thing as 'physical abuse'! When my "EX" started doing it to my girls, and wouldn't consider counseling, I left. Hardest, but best thing I ever did!

I am now married (15 yrs) to 'Mr. Wonderful'. He treats me like a lady and tells me he loves me on a constant basis. I couldn't live without him! My girls consider him 'dad' as the 'sperm donor' (that's what they call my ex) has nothing to do with them.

I'm not suggesting that you leave, but I am suggesting that you seek counseling. Hopefully he will respond to your suggestion in a positive way. If not, please don't let your kids go through what you are going through.

Am I out of line fellow YTr's????

[MissPinkBarbie]

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I wish your husband knew that being a mommy IS a FULL-TIME job! (I read somewhere that if "full time mothers" was an actual job, it'll cost well over $100,000/year for them). That's what we're worth!

I hope you cheer up and realize that you're important and sufficent! Don't let him put you in bad spirits! I'm sure it's fustrating..everyone goes through that. but you have you're kids and your furbaby!

Thank god my hubby understands that and constantly goes over his head to help me with everyday stuff (diapers, cooking, cleaning, screaming baby, pooping yorkie)...AND he is the main breadwinner with a FULL TIME job. I make sure to say "thank you" all the time. So to all you cynics out there, nice guys DO exist..still!

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by bdbmamaw

My situation was a little different from yours. I made MORE money than he did and it really bothered him! But he sure didn't want me to quit...LOL! And I never did anything good enough!

What you are going through is call 'verbal abuse'. It's the same thing as 'physical abuse'! When my "EX" started doing it to my girls, and wouldn't consider counseling, I left. Hardest, but best thing I ever did!

I am now married (15 yrs) to 'Mr. Wonderful'. He treats me like a lady and tells me he loves me on a constant basis. I couldn't live without him! My girls consider him 'dad' as the 'sperm donor' (that's what they call my ex) has nothing to do with them.

I'm not suggesting that you leave, but I am suggesting that you seek counseling. Hopefully he will respond to your suggestion in a positive way. If not, please don't let your kids go through what you are going through.

Am I out of line fellow YTr's????

Nah your not out of line. He is walking a fine line of being opinionated and abusive.

Just last Saturday Hubby went on about how the house was not clean enough (he had some friends coming over)...boy did I cuss his ass out good. I had to clean three floors of a house and do a million loads of laundy. So if he was unsatisfied with how something was done he sure was welcome to fix it to his liking. He shut up really fast when the damn demon bi$Ch in me came out. I work a 35 hour week and the last two weeks each week I worked 80 since work was swamped with two big deals, I spend almost two hours a day in total on my commute to and from work, I maintain and manage a house, our finances, our children and our pets. So when he does all that on four hours of sleep then he can talk sh!t to me. Otherwise he can put a sock in it. Men always feel that their one job is so much. Let them try being us with all we do and the hormonal upheavals we get. Then they wonder when they are in the mood and we say we are tired why that happens...dumba$$es.

[newmommy]

Originally Posted by Bizzymammabee

Nah your not out of line. He is walking a fine line of being opinionated and abusive.

Just last Saturday Hubby went on about how the house was not clean enough (he had some friends coming over)...boy did I cuss his ass out good. I had to clean three floors of a house and do a million loads of laundy. So if he was unsatisfied with how something was done he sure was welcome to fix it to his liking. He shut up really fast when the damn demon bi$Ch in me came out. I work a 35 hour week and the last two weeks each week I worked 80 since work was swamped with two big deals, I spend almost two hours a day in total on my commute to and from work, I maintain and manage a house, our finances, our children and our pets. So when he does all that on four hours of sleep then he can talk sh!t to me. Otherwise he can put a sock in it. Men always feel that their one job is so much. Let them try being us with all we do and the hormonal upheavals we get. Then they wonder when they are in the mood and we say we are tired why that happens...dumba$$es.

AMEN!!!

[chattiesmom]

I just want to send you a big hug and well wishes at the specialist.

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by newmommy

AMEN!!!

You know what when he starts running his mouth do the charlie brown (pretend everything that he is saying sounds like wah wah awah waha wah). Shoot they do it to us. I am a strong believe in total equality. If you want to be the king of the castle then you better be able to provide the queen with chambermaids and servants to do what has to be done. Unless you can do that then welcome to my world and your just another peon in the fifedom.