A Really bad day
 

ever had a day that you just wanna throw in the towel??? Just wanna go to bed and not wake up????

I had one of those days today. I am never a good enough wife to my husband, I will never make as much money him and he makes sure to let me know that constantly.
I have been in so much pain lately with my female problems, and yet I get up at 5am get the kids ready, lunches packed, take them to the babysitter, go to work, get off work, pick them up deal with whatever problems the babysitter may have dealt with. (today my son decided to cut her window screen with a knife) HELLO WHY WAS THERE A KNIFE IN THE ROOM THAT HE WAS SUPPOSED TO BE NAPPING???????

then i come home, fix dinner, do dishes, laundry, bills, clean house, feed animals, bathe kids, get everyone ready for tommorow.

but the house is never clean enough, the clothes never caught up enough, the house is messy, and HE WORKED ALL DAY.

ONCE I WORK AS MANY HOURS AS HIM OR MAKE AS MUCH MONEY AS HIM THEN I WILL HAVE ROOM TO TALK. FOR NOW I SHOULD SHUT THE **** UP AND CLEAN THE HOUSE.

Tomorrow I go to the specialist to start planning my hysteryctomy, I am in so much pain I can hardly stand up. Yet im ignorant.
thanks for letting me vent!!!:mad:

I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. I wish I could help you in some way. Hang in there and try to find some time to take care of yourself. I'll be praying for you - for the situation you're in and about your hysterectomy. I hope you have someone you can depend on to help you while your recovering from your surgery. Take care and let us know what the doctor says tomorrow.

I am so sorry to hear this. Men can be so stubborn. My husband is great as far as helping me. He helps put my son to bed, changes diapers often when he is home, he even loads my dishwasher at night. But out of all the things I do during the day I never get a simple thank you. We were raised in two totally different homes. I was always told to be thankful for what you have not everybody is blessed with that, always always say thank you and please. His family just assumes they deserve everything someone gives them and they are not well mannered. Gets annoying! I even thank my husband when he takes me on dates because I enjoyed it. There were times where we had no money and couldn't go anywhere. He takes for granted the little things in life and sometimes that's whats really important. They don't realize if you stopped doing all the things you do then nothing would get done and they sure would want mommy/wife back.

Oh sweety I'm so sorry you are going through this. No woman should go through that. Although some of us do not put in as many hours as our other half does that doesn't mean we don't work harder. The thoughest job out there is being a parent. You are working 24/7 and your husband doesn't realize it. Let him come home early and do all the things you do and he'll see that working and being a parent at the same time is not easy. Of course he's got the easiest job...he doesn't look after the kids like you do. He doesn't have to walk in the house and go straight to the kitchen, he doesn't have to anwer 101 questions from the kids while trying to cook, clean & do laundry. Honey please don't let no one put you down. Please know that we have the hardest job out there. There are times where I'm overwhelmed because I work and then have to come home and cook while my fiancee can come home and lay down. Yes he does that but he's in charge of the cleaning so it balances out and he doesn't tell me he makes more than I do. Also what helps too is that my boys are older and they can stay home so the running around after work is done for me.

I'm feeling the same way you are today because I just lost my Lilly but I know I have to be strong at the same time. Please know that if you need to talk you can PM me. I'm here. You shouldn't be going through this. The Lord will be with you when you get your procedure done. I pray for a speedy recovery,

I think most men are a pain in the @$$... I think it's going to be very hard for me to ever find one I want to marry. It just makes me sad and angry to hear of men treating their wives like this. I'm really sorry you are going through this

screw that! Forget whatever he says! Tell him when his ass does all the crap you do and NOT get paid for it...then his ass has room to talk!

LOL!

Sorry you are going through this. Can I smack him upside the head for you? Please?? :big_hug:

:eyeballpc What was she thinking??? :thumbdown

Yep! I have had days like that. Don't really want to start a man bashing thread......but...:thumbdown :thumbdown :thumbdown :mad: Put him in his place girl!

my husband is the EXACT same way to a T! it doesnt matter if i work or stay home. he isnt to fussy about the house but if its brought up or someone unexpectantlly shows up im in for it.

keep you head up maybe he will say something sweet and make you feel better...mine does that SOMETIMES!!:D

we're always here to listen

I am so sorry girl go do somthing for you .. i have Female issues too... PSO and Men do not understand that when the issues arise for us it tends to make us feel less than ...broken and worth less than those who can still reproduce... and as my bestfriends tell me girl im more suportive than a bra...you need your gf !!! and if your lacking in that department email me! just remember your yorkie adores you ;)

A lot of men make me more than mad. Let him clean his own house. I hate abuse (including emotional) and wouldn't stand for it. You are only one person. You are a human being, not a human doing. Oh, and if he insists that you cook dinner, hand him a bag of McDonalds.

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I understand exactly what you mean. I was with one of those types myself. Sending you HUGE HUGS! Please feel free to PM me if you ever want/need to talk!

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with a stubborn hubby as well as being in so much pain. I was lucky to have had a totally opposite dad and dh. But I've known many like yours'. If you have to have surgery, does he realize how long you will totally out of commission? Maybe he'll learn to appreciate you and all you do a little more. I sure hope so. Sending prayers and a huge hug. Hang in there, hopefully, he'll grow up.